What is the mentality of women asking men for money?

Michelle, my boss's best friend, recently made a boyfriend who is older than small 8. This boy has just graduated and is a management major in a bank.

Two days ago, I had dinner with my boyfriend Michelle. During the dinner, she sent a WeChat to her little boyfriend, saying, "Please help me to go to the mall to buy Chanel's new lip glaze and buy back all the colors I often use. Thank you, baby! "

The male friend gave her a white look and said inexplicably, "Why did a rich woman like you kill someone to manage Peisheng ... Buying lipstick is different from buying cabbage for you. Can't you buy it yourself?" "I have to embarrass others," Michelle said, tilting her face playfully and raising her chin. He is willing to buy it for me. What do you care? "

The male friend was speechless and choked up, with a look of "I don't want to say anything, please explode in situ". Only I know, Michelle feels sorry for squeezing the subway to work every day, and just rented a boutique apartment next to the bank for him to move in. A rent is a year, and they have only been together for two months.

Since I met Michelle, she has never dated a boyfriend who is richer than herself, and only likes young, handsome and good-natured. Although each relationship won't last more than half a year, Michelle still gives everything to her little boyfriends. I once asked her, aren't you afraid that they will take a fancy to your money?

She said, "It doesn't matter, I can earn it. I spend money to make them happy, and they make me happy. It is most important for everyone to be happy together, and money is not a problem. Besides, there is too much happiness in this world that money can't buy. Do you want to buy it or not? So I think it is worth it. "

It turns out that the gap between Michelle and me is not ideology, but economic strength. Ideologically, I am also particularly willing to spend money on people I love. But this, many men can't understand.

Once, my boyfriend asked me, "What's your mentality when a woman asks a man for money?"

I pondered for a moment and said, "There are probably the following four motives."

1. I just want to test whether you are willing to give up on me.

2. I really have no money and want to find a gold owner.

I just want to spend a little money just to enjoy being spoiled by you.

4. Increase your sinking cost and make you reluctant to leave me.

The first is a very common female mentality. After all, money is the most convenient and accurate touchstone. For example, in the early days of falling in love, I will also find various reasons to test how many "quotas" I have in this man's heart.

For example, your financial management hasn't expired yet, and you need capital turnover, so you need to make a sum of money in a hurry and pay it back to him soon. If he transfers the money without saying anything, I will return it to him that afternoon, and I will give him extra points in my heart to express my gratitude.

If he finds various reasons to refuse me, I will only feel that "you love me only verbally, and I don't need to waste time on you."

The woman's thinking is: I can't do anything for you, only love. But you can't be stingy enough to fall in love with me with just one mouth. What I don't want is the purity of love, what you don't pay is the poverty of life.

As for the second one, I won't comment. I think women who want to eat and buy shirts should count on men. What they need is not to get rid of the bills, but to get rid of poverty. ......

The third is Michelle's mentality, which is also the mentality of all women: this perfume is from you and it tastes particularly charming. This bouquet of roses is from you. It's really fading. This lipstick is from you. Every time I wear it, it looks like you're kissing me ... "

We don't need a bottle of perfume and a lipstick. What we need is your attention and love, and you are willing to pay for everything I like. When we see this will, it is also the last time to waste your money.

As for the fourth, I personally don't have this mentality. As an economics student, I still know what sunk cost means. Even if you consciously understand that it should not affect the current decision-making, most people will say: male and female servants can't do it. ......

Therefore, the logic of many women is: if you want to keep a man, you must spend his money desperately until he is deeply grieved! In this way, he can't bear to leave you, even if he is tired of you, he is distressed by the money he spent! So basically buying a house together, it is difficult for men and women who start a company to separate. After all, the economy is inextricably involved, and it is difficult to make a clean break.

Probably because, in love, I often leave first. So for me, increasing the sinking cost of the other side is undoubtedly a troublesome thing that binds my hands and feet, so I usually avoid this problem and reduce his sinking cost. When breaking up, it will be crisp and neat, and it will not be delayed or owed.

We China people are reserved at heart, and we usually don't talk about money naked. But in my opinion, love that can openly discuss money is true love. I will ask my boyfriend for a gift. When he needs money, I will transfer it to him without saying anything.

It is a pair of men and women who truly trust each other and love each other if they can speak frankly about money and don't play routines and Tai Chi. I just want to spend your money. I'm not worried that you think I worship money. I know you and have confidence in you, just as you know me.

This kind of frankness and sincerity, this kind of self-confidence that is not afraid to expose one's shortcomings, is the basis of a long-term relationship.

There is such a French comedy, which I still remember vividly. It's called The Girl Who Worshippes Money in Paris, and it's about a vain social butterfly who spends all day in a five-star hotel and makes a living by hooking up with different men. Once she fell in love with a rich man at first sight, and she dumped her rich husband to stay with him.

Later, it was found that the man was very poor, just a waiter who helped the lady walk the dog, and the heroine left him decisively. Later, the man hooked up with a middle-aged lady and became a male escort. Later, they met again while accompanying their respective financial owners. He invited her to take a walk. She suggested that she was short of a skirt and a bag, so the hero spent almost all his savings to buy it for her. Finally, the heroine bought a first-class ticket for him to leave, and the hero took out a euro coin and said to her, "Stay with me for another ten seconds." So they looked at each other for ten seconds and then broke up. A few weeks later, the rich woman took the hero to buy clothes and ran into the heroine in the fitting room next door. The heroine also gave him a euro to accompany him for ten seconds, so they looked at each other for ten seconds and left with their clothes. At the end of the movie, the hero asked the heroine if she could stay with him.

The heroine didn't promise or refuse, just said, "I enjoy every minute with you." Why? Because in front of him, she can be the truest self. When she exposed her vanity, selfishness, snobbery and debauchery without any worries, he was still willing to spend the last euro for her and still carefully asked her if she would like to be with him. Even a vain woman doesn't want money, but you are willing to give it to her without reservation. So, I just want to spend your money, but that doesn't mean I love money more than you. The point is not a bunch of flowers or a bag. I can afford anything I want. Gifts and surprises are meaningless in themselves, because they are given by you, so they are given meaning. That means: the man I love loves me too, and he is willing to pick the stars for me.

The content is reproduced from the official account of WeChat: Director Liu.

Beautiful and talented emotional author, official account of WeChat: Zhong Niannian