Experience after reading How to Think and Do.

? Lead: read a good book, if you meet a good friend, you will meet a good book, if you get a good friend!

The book How to Think and Do Things was given to me by my good friend Jing Shu. I feel very honored and happy to get such a reading opportunity and experience. This book is the work of American writer sean young. He is a new generation of authority in the field of behavioral science. He is also good at combining achievements in psychology, medicine, business and science and technology, and using emerging network technologies to help predict and change people's behaviors.

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Sean young used to work for NASA, developing behavior training programs for astronauts. 20 13, becoming the first academic professor to do life insurance economics to test the effectiveness of behavioral scientific model. In less than three months, he became the sales champion of his insurance company on the west coast of the United States. The author sean young also likes music very much. He once played in a concert for more than 20,000 people, and even almost became the bassist of Linkin Park.

This book is divided into preface (why do we always think we can't do it), and the core and main part of the book is the middle part: the scientific principles behind the seven weapons and the power to master them; The third part is to integrate seven kinds of weapons, self-upgrade, attack and give full play to the maximum effectiveness of weapons. The last part is the conclusion: nothing is impossible except expectation.

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I think many friends will want to know the power of these seven weapons as much as I do. Let me first introduce: ladder mode, second: social magnetism, third: priority, fourth: extremely easy, fifth: behavior first, sixth: fatal attraction, and seventh: repeated lettering.

Weapon 1 ladder model. The ladder model is a theory that integrates steps, goals and dreams. In this model, dreams are the main driving force.

Less than a week 1 week to a month 1 to three months? More than 3 months

Generally speaking, it is the key to set the goal that takes 1 week and plan the steps that can be completed in less than 2 days.

For example, in the research laboratory, teachers and staff will list weekend charts that are updated at any time, describing the goals to be completed next week. With this chart, we will have a meeting every weekend to discuss it. Discuss the steps needed to finish these things in time. This astrolabe can keep everyone excited during the meeting, because they can always accomplish their goals according to the plan and firmly walk on the road to long-term goals or dreams.

Weapon 2 social magnetism. Social magnetism is to make others become the power to change themselves. Summoning a specific person or group by sharing videos or sending messages is a way to build social attraction. If a community wants to have a lasting influence on its members, it needs enough people to provide strength for the community and create social magnetism. For small communities, such as those with less than five people, everyone needs to work hard to build social appeal. For a larger community, 15% participants need to join in the construction of social magnetism.

Weapon 3 comes first. First of all, find what is most important to you. You need to find a way to make things important enough for you to change for her.

Weapon 4 is extremely simple. People who face obstacles will soon give up doing something. On the other hand, if you learn how to remove obstacles, you can go on doing it easily. Changing the environment makes it easier to do something and makes people really do it. For example,

? Easy to act? Not easy?

? Teach yourself a new musical instrument and arrange time on the curriculum. I want to study every day by my own motivation.

? Exercise every day and set an alarm clock to remind yourself.

Weapon 5 moves first. When behavior changes, consciousness will also change. You don't have to control your thoughts, you just need to make some small changes in your behavior, and your consciousness will change accordingly. People need to do the same thing over and over again to change their self-image. Continuous behavior change is suitable for the actual entity change of behavior, not the ideological change.

Weapon 6 fatal temptation. Extreme temptation will make you stick to it irresistible. If people feel that doing something is rewarding, they will continue to do it. I call this persistence the attraction of behavior. Making boring things interesting and rewarding will help you stick to your goals, no matter what your goals are.

Weapon 7 is engraved repeatedly. Turn behavior into habit and set habit as default. If you repeatedly do something beneficial to yourself, such as eating healthier and adopting safer working methods. More contemporary, these activities will be engraved in your brain, making it easier for you to stick to it.

Sculpture is a powerful force that can help you stick to it. If you want to exercise every day, set an exercise time. Click the alarm clock and follow it. The more you persist, the more it will be engraved in your mind, and the easier it will be for you to continue to do it.

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After reading this book, I was deeply touched by many things, so I grasped the three aspects I wanted to communicate most, saying that a story in the weapon ladder model made me unforgettable all my life. Brad studied at UCLA. He has his own dreams, loves music and is very successful in his studies. How did he succeed? It turns out that a semester in the United States has 65,438+00 weeks. Although you don't usually have to consider the final grade, there are still many small obstacles to overcome after one semester. In the political subject, he must finish three analytical papers. For example, in politics, his ultimate goal is to get an A, but he doesn't pay attention to his grades. He focused on every step of his progress: first, he actively went to get the textbook; second, he read the book with 10 page before the band finished rehearsing; Finally, he browsed the class notes and prepared to write an outline of the paper. This is what he did. Even if there is a long and difficult exam waiting for him at the end of the course, he will still focus on those humble small steps. This method will make him among the best in the University of California and eventually enter the top law school.

? After listening to this story, you may think that this is a character in a book, which is a little far from my life. I still feel that I can't find my dream, and my personal dream is still very vague. So, come and listen to my story. I'm really in front of you at the moment. Once, five years ago, I couldn't find my goal, and I was dragged forward by life all day. An article activated me, so I began to set a goal, keep exercising and control my weight successfully. I used to weigh 168 kg. I want to lose weight successfully, but I feel far away and dare not expect it. Hit by a sentence: "A person can't even control his own weight. What else do you want to control? " Yes, that's how I made up my mind to run, so I set my alarm clock to the right time every day, get up as soon as the alarm clock rings, start running for about 0/5 minutes every day, and go home to make breakfast for my children after running. I didn't think about what I would do, but I thought I could live like this every day. As a result, I never caught a cold again after one year, and I managed to lose some weight, even though I was facing the prospect of leaving. I went to a remote mountainous area to teach. When I arrived in a strange place, I still insisted on running and exercising. The running time increased from 15 minutes to 30 minutes a day, which also inspired some runners. So I always insist, rain or shine, never stop. Looking back now, I have been running for almost five years, and my weight has been well controlled. Now my state is ideal. When we focus on every small goal at present and stick to it, we will really see hope, not whether there is hope, but when you try to stick to it.

In The Weapon of Social Magnetism, I saw an engineer named zaharia set up a community, and his idea was to help people like their products, just as "Hope" community improved people's health. He set up a party group in Berkeley, USA, where he lives, and invited friends to participate. Everyone who comes to the party will be recommended to another person who has used their product "Spark" and likes it. Word of mouth spread rapidly. Later, this product achieved lasting success, became the "engine" in the field of big data, and brought zaharia an olive branch for recruiting researchers and companies.

? Reading this reminds me that two years ago, my friends and I organized a book club. In the community, everyone takes their children to exchange studies, discuss the good books they have read, and exchange their own life feelings. Once a month, everyone gets together for tea and shares their ideas and wisdom. Children feel happy and grow up in this land. The process of sharing is the process of creative thinking. Everyone empowers each other, not only children, but also parents. Everyone has their own growth direction and goals. Later, when the children graduated every semester, they all made great progress on the basis of the past. Some children also won the national composition award. Some children took part in the speech contest and won the first prize at the provincial level. After the activity, some parents began to change. Some parents took their parents to Beijing, the capital of the motherland, and some parents chose to be in their forties. This is the reason of social magnetism, which makes our community and everyone grow in it.

The five tricks to enhance the attraction in Lethal Attraction Weapon 6 are: making doing the "right thing" interesting; Use more carrots and less sticks; Don't regard money as the best reward; Education alone is useless; Let the activity itself be a reward.

? What impressed me most was the ingenious way to use carrots instead of sticks. We must all understand that although fear can force people to do something temporarily, its influence cannot last. Attractive rewards are more effective than fear and punishment to motivate people to keep doing things.

In family education, I will always encourage and reward children to do more meaningful things, instead of punishing them for what they have done. During the epidemic, the children who started school this year had a long vacation. In order to make her spend a full and meaningful holiday, I exercise with my children, mobilize them to do housework, read books and draw pictures with us, share good books online, write down their feelings after reading and make a daily schedule. Three questions about daily growth (1. What am I looking forward to most today? 2. What have I made the greatest progress today? 3. What is the book I want to read most? That sentence in the book influenced me) ... Among them, in order to reward the child's progress, I asked her to recall the three most meaningful things of the day and record them for a week or so.

? On this festival, many parents call their children "beasts" or "monsters". Do you think so after reading our lives above?

? There are two sentences in the conclusion of this book that I especially like and share with you: "Don't make excuses and don't wait any longer;" The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago, and the second best time is now. "