Ma Dong’s words caused controversy: In the first half of the career, what we compete for is this underlying ability.

Article | Zhao Xiaoli

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Not long ago, Ma Dong made many netizens furious.

Here’s the thing.

During an interview, Ma Dong said something like this, to the effect that his company has recruited many interns and new employees. He said that one of his criteria for selecting people lies in one detail, and that is: This Do people have the feeling of "things come first"?

What exactly does it mean?

He explained: Since you come to work, things in life are another matter. Don’t bring too many emotions from life to work when you are working; resolve conflicts when faced with them. Conflicts, when faced with difficulties, solve difficulties without bringing emotions into it. Work matters come before personal emotions. This is "putting things first."

If you put your emotions first when encountering something, such a person is "people first", and then they still need to grow.

As soon as this statement came out, it caused controversy among many netizens, and some even opposed him in the comment area.

You know, in the business field, Ma Dong is considered a successful person. He started his own business after resigning from CCTV. His subsidiary Miwei Media has successively launched deep-seated TV series such as "Qi Pa Shuo" and "Qi Pa Conference". Programs that are loved by a wide audience are valued in the billions.

From my point of view, what Ma Dong said may not be so nice or even too direct, but he did tell the truth about the bottom-level abilities in the first half of the workplace, and the truth is not something everyone can Gladly accepted.

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Visitor Li Wen (pseudonym) has been very anxious recently.

Speaking of which, Li Wen’s career development has been full of ups and downs.

Ten years ago, Li Wen graduated from a three-tiered university majoring in marketing. Since the school was generally weak in professionalism, Li Wen’s job search path after graduation was also full of twists and turns. In the end, he found a job with a relative. With the introduction, she came to work as a clerk in a company with about 300 employees.

It took 6 years to do this.

In the past six years, Li Wen watched helplessly as one of her colleagues, Xiao Lin (pseudonym), was gradually promoted from the bottom to the management, but she herself did not receive any promotion or promotion.

She felt aggrieved and disappointed. She was about to get married, so she simply resigned from the job.

What she didn't expect was that this break would be a three-year "career break."

It turned out that Li Wen became pregnant not long after her marriage. When the child was born, her parents-in-law were not in good health and could not take care of the child. Her parents were busy taking care of her brother's children, so she raised the child until she was two years old. Half a year later, I was finally able to be sent to a kindergarten, and then I started to think about my own work issues.

However, when she came back to look for a job, she discovered that the outside world was changing so fast that she felt like she was in another world.

I majored in marketing. I worked as a clerk for 6 years after graduation. I rested at home for 3 years. I don’t know what I like, let alone what I am good at. I want to return to the workplace at the age of 32, but Just imagine how difficult it is!

Li Wen suffered frequent setbacks in the talent market and could not find a suitable job for several months.

Finally, under the arrangement of his family, Li Wen came to work as a human resources specialist in a company.

This job made Li Wen very anxious.

First, the complicated salary schedule gave Li Wen a headache, let alone checking it carefully;

Second, Li Wen would inevitably encounter some personnel disputes at work, which gave Li Wen a headache. Exhausted;

Third, colleagues in other departments seemed to be very unfriendly. For example, those in the finance department always had a sullen face and would find fault with the forms Li Wen made from time to time, which made Li Wen quite irritated.

Li Wen’s request for consultation is that she hopes to find a career direction that suits her.

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A rather heartbreaking and cruel fact is that, judging from my consulting cases, if a person does not have obvious success in the first five years of his career development, If there is an upward trajectory, the future development situation may not be very optimistic.

Because this situation often arises from the fact that the person concerned has not adapted to the rules of the workplace and lacks the professional qualities and habits of the lower level. As a result, there is no growth in any job, and there are few opportunities for promotion.

From the countless cases I have handled, I have concluded a rule, that is -

In the first five years of career development, it is far from the level of fighting for luck, fighting for opportunities or even fighting for success. When it comes to talent, especially in a competitive market environment like an enterprise, what matters is one's underlying abilities!

In my opinion, this underlying ability mainly includes three aspects -

1. Rational and objective cognition of professional roles;

2. Without Personal emotional ability;

3. Establish service awareness for internal customers.

In the workplace, the position you hold is more of a professional role, which has the following requirements for the incumbent:

1. Core competencies;

< p> Including the knowledge background (academic qualifications, majors, certificates, etc.), skills and related behavioral styles of the job holder.

For example, financial positions generally require candidates to graduate from accounting or financial management majors, have a college degree or above, possess knowledge with junior professional titles, be able to independently handle accounting, file tax returns, prepare reports and other skills, and be careful and cautious in doing things. Conscientious and responsible behavioral style.

2. Professional competency;

Specific technical abilities generated according to different work nature or department work requirements, such as financial analysis, tax planning, internal control and other abilities in financial positions ;

This part of the ability is closely related to past professional experience. It is often specifically required by a certain professional position and has poor transferability.

3. Management competency;

Define the abilities required by the supervisor according to the long-term goals and mission of the organization, such as decision-making ability, project management, team division of labor and collaboration ability, etc.

For people who are in the first half of the workplace (five years before graduation), the first task is to improve their core and professional competencies.

At this stage, establishing a sense of service to internal customers and a habit of doing things without emotions play an important role in ability to a large extent; a key point of being without emotions is that, Able to establish a sense of service to internal customers and consider others' perspectives when encountering problems.

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Take Li Wen as an example.

In fact, in the first six years of clerical work, Li Wen was more passive in accepting tasks, only paying attention to the affairs in front of him, never taking a few more steps, and being indifferent to many matters. If you lose your mind, the effect of doing things will naturally be greatly reduced.

Because of this, when Li Wen did not realize the root of the problem, the criticisms made by her colleagues and leaders in terms of work cooperation and results presentation were all considered by her as "aimed at her". Malicious criticism.

For example, in Li Wengang’s first month of work, he was called by his leader to attend a meeting. At the meeting, a colleague from the sales department pointed out that the company’s sales contract management was not standardized, and the person responsible for this Li Wen is the one doing the job.

Li Wen pretended to be calm on the surface, but her heart was already in a state of turmoil. She began to quickly search in her mind for possible "festivals" between this colleague and herself, feeling that this colleague must be targeting her.

From then on, when cooperating with the sales department, Li Wen always showed "negative" or even defensive emotions unconsciously. Even if the sales department made reasonable demands, Li Wen would delay.

This naturally caused dissatisfaction in the sales department.

Gradually, when it comes to work contacts, colleagues will not approach her if they can. On the contrary, Xiao Lin, a colleague who joined the company as a clerk at the same time as Li Wen, is active and diligent in doing things and rarely complains. Gradually, Xiao Lin had more and more things on his hands. Within a year, Xiao Lin was transferred to the purchasing department, while Li Wen stayed in the clerk's position for six years.

Although Li Wen is now a mother of a child, her mentality and ability are still the same as those many years ago when she returns to the workplace. When things happen, she always falls into her own perspective, just like a "victim mentality." : She feels that other colleagues in the company are plotting against her and targeting her. Not only is she unable to handle work affairs well, she is also extremely pessimistic and has many reasons for not doing well.

Li Wen’s biggest problem is exactly what Ma Dong said: “People are in the first place.”

There are many reasons for "people are in the first place". One of the important reasons is that it is too easy to be self-centered and unable to take into account others when things happen. Therefore, it is easy to get into trouble and fail to see the truth of the matter, so it is easy to Emotional, and at the same time unable to objectively analyze the current situation, let alone make rational decisions or even take action.

So, how to overcome this "people in advance" bad thinking and behavior habits?

One method, thinking from multiple perspectives.

To put it into the work scenario, it is to establish an internal customer mindset: that is, the departments you interact with and your colleagues are essentially your customers. You must learn to think about your work from a customer perspective and look at your work over time. , incredible progress can be made.

For example, part of the human resources work that Li Wen is currently engaged in is making salary tables, and the salary tables are connected to the Finance Department. For colleagues in the Finance Department, first of all, the salary tables must be accurate. , secondly, it must comply with certain format specifications, and finally, it is best to attach explanations for abnormal salary situations (such as employee resignation settlement, etc.), etc.

If Li Wen could examine his work from a financial perspective, he would naturally understand how to improve his work, instead of being resistant to financial staff.

To sum up, if a person has always been "in front of others" and cannot see the truth behind the criticism, you will naturally become angry and even lose control of your emotions. And when others find out that you can't even criticize normally When you accept it, you will naturally be too lazy to talk about you. Slowly, you will naturally be "marginalized".

This is the fundamental reason for Li Wen’s career difficulties in recent years.

At this point, I would like to share eight words with you -

Things come first, people come first because of things.

When people encounter setbacks, they always fantasize about whether it will be better if they change their job?

In most reality situations, if you do not do well in one job, the next job may not be better -

Unless you become a better version of yourself.

Above.

About the author: Zhao Xiaoli, senior career planner, national psychological counselor, and workplace writer. He is the author of the best-selling workplace book "Stop Blind Effort: Your Life Needs to be Redesigned" based on career counseling case analysis, which has become one of the few practical consulting and personal development books in the field of career planning. The 2018 new book on career planning and working methods, "From Minimalism to Extremeness: Become a Great Person in the Field of Expertise", was rated as one of the top ten books on business and management in 2018.