Respect children's choice

In life, each of us is eager to get respect from others, even if it is a trivial little person at the bottom of society, so is the child. The following is my composition about respecting children's choices. I hope it helps you.

Respect the child's choice 1 Moore should get the understanding and respect of the school, not the school withdrawing the invitation letter he sent. If the school thinks that Moore is suspected of discriminating against his classmates and the school wants to safeguard the rights and interests of students, then Moore who dares to express his true feelings also needs the maintenance of the school.

First of all, Moore is a strong-minded child and a classmate. He can judge the distance between classmates. He is friendly with most of his classmates, which can be seen from the invitation letter. This in itself should be encouraged, unlike many children around us who only take orders from Nuo Nuo and their parents. They only follow the principle of parents' opinions and do what their parents say, and most things are arranged by their parents. Many children can't have their own ideas at all, and the choice of parents is the choice of children. Why else is the spectacular sight of crossing the wooden bridge still there? Even when they grow up, parents will go to job fairs instead of their children, become "otaku" or just live on their laurels. Compared with Moore, we really should reflect.

Secondly, Moore is a caring and emotional child with his own likes and dislikes. He is a child who truly expresses his feelings. I think of Lu Xun's love and hate in the memory of petty bourgeoisie. If you can hate, you can love. Unlike many children in real life who learn to be tactful and sophisticated too early, they are duplicitous, duplicitous and intrigued. They are much clearer than those who are indifferent in appearance and indifferent in heart. At least he won't use his father's power to bully others when there is a murder on campus, as Li did. If he hits someone, he will hurt the murderer and treat human life like dirt.

Therefore, the school should proceed from the child's psychology, not to characterize or convict a child's behavior, and not to go online, which looks like a class struggle. Moore is a natural person at best. He has no social experience, he has a pure heart. He doesn't need to know what is "humanity" and "safeguarding rights" in sociology, and give him a bolt from the blue. Children will also have their own value judgments. We can't treat them by the standards of social people, law and adult world. If so, it seems that encouraging others is too much. I remember fairy tale writer Zheng said that if adults in a country are talking about children, then children in this country can only talk about adults. Is it cruel to use cold and harsh legal provisions on children?

Yes, children will grow up. Our education certainly has the right and obligation to let them learn social rules and teach them respect, courtesy, humility, cooperation and unity. There is nothing wrong with all this, but we need to accommodate a child's reasonable choice.

Respecting a child's emotional choice, we may see Wei Zhi, who is honest and sincere, Bao Zheng, who upholds justice, and the United States, which was once determined to fight corruption and crime. Stand up when the motherland needs it and never back down. Respect a child's emotional choice, and we may see a warrior with a pen as a sword, a satirical writer, and a world-renowned angels in white who spreads love.

Respect for children's choice, we know Chen Fan's great career of "sweeping the world", we know that Jin Yongsan has fulfilled his long-cherished dream as a teenager, we know that Fu Cong has realized his piano dream, we have seen handsome teenagers driving racing cars and writing their own works, we have seen talented people playing the music of life with their own feet, and we have enjoyed the red whirlwind passing by on the ice rink. We will also see more shining stars illuminating the night sky of the whole civilization.

Respect children's choices, don't stifle children's smart minds, smart hearts and kind qualities, don't demand them by adult standards, let them grow up quickly and lose their happy childhood, and don't do bad things with kindness. If it is really for children, please respect their innocence and let them fly.

Respect children's choices. 2 Every time a child enters the park, there are always endless things to say and do. They get together in twos and threes and talk about the TV they watched at home, the clothes they bought newly, and the promises their parents made to them. ...

The roll call before each activity is my biggest headache. No matter how you shout for them to be quiet, there are still some children who can't stop for a while. In view of this situation of children, I adopted the game of letting children do clapping songs.

As usual, I always let the children play clapping songs before class. When I finished, I found that there were still several children who had not finished, so I said to them, "Shall we do it again?" The children shouted, "Good." Only Gao Xin said, "Not good." I immediately stared at him and shouted, "Did you do a good job?" Gao Xin immediately shrank his head back, his face flushed bright red, and he stopped talking. At the same time, I did it again with the children.

When I saw Gao Xin again, I felt guilty. The high salary only expressed my wishes, but I lost my temper with him. How to make children feel the respect of teachers? Come to think of it, am I really asking the children for advice? Because we are used to children's stereotyped answers: think, want and be good, and children are used to such answers.

This incident made me understand that respecting children is not reflected in a certain action or sentence, but that teachers should listen to children's voices patiently, study and handle daily teaching with an understanding, tolerance and appreciation attitude, respect children's choices, let children experience success in active participation and let children develop freely in a vast space.

Respect children's choice 3 Our parents realize that when deciding whether to let Tingting learn talents and what kind of talents to learn, we should respect Tingting's choice and let Tingting choose the talents she wants to learn, because inner interest is the driving force for learning.

When choosing talents, I first provide Tingting with perceptual knowledge and experience of all kinds of talents, and then see her wishes. For example, just show her some activities of talent classes and interest classes and introduce what they are doing. Then, after Tingting had the knowledge and experience of various talents, I chose a time to chat with Tingting alone to understand Tingting's willingness to learn talents.

When you speak, help Tingting recall the talent activities she saw first. For example, "What did Tingting see the teacher play with her children in the Children's Palace last Sunday?" "How is that instrument played?" ..... When Tingting recalled the talent activities she had watched bit by bit, she asked Tingting which was more fun and interesting. As a result, Tingting said that the talent learning she was interested in turned out to be cucurbit silk. When I was sure that Tingting really loved cucurbit silk performance, I let Tingting know that this talent needs to pay a price. For example, playing cucurbit silk requires daily practice. If she insists on studying and can't do it in the future, remind her that she told you before and gradually cultivate her sense of responsibility for her own decisions.

After choosing a decision, we should respect and protect Tingting's interest in talent, and make her like this talent more through the process of learning. Preschool children are immature, unable to concentrate for a long time, easily distracted, finger muscles are not fully developed and so on. However, talent learning has many requirements for physical skills and attention, so children may not meet the requirements in skills. In addition, preschool is a period of rapid development of children's inner interests, full of curiosity and love for many new things. If the seeds of these interests are well cared for, children can get a lot of fun from them in the future and even become the driving force of their future career and life. Therefore, don't haggle over the requirements of natural training skills and stifle children's precious inner interests. I also pay great attention to Tingting's emotional changes during her study. When Tingting studied talents, I always paid attention to Tingting's emotions, not just what she learned. I believe every parent will encounter: children are always in high spirits at first, and then slowly start to cool down. Therefore, when parents find that their children are unwilling to study, they should talk to their babies more and see what the problem is. For example, is it too long to practice? The course stayed at the level she had mastered, so that it became boring? What special events have hit the baby's confidence? In order to find out the reason, we must work out specific adjustment methods with teachers to avoid the complete loss of children's interest.

When studying with Tingting, let Tingting enjoy the learning process more. However, the most common problem in studying with Tingting is that we always like to point fingers. Too many suggestions, Tingting is at a loss, distracted and tired of learning. So in fact, after groping, we should be more patient, often shut up and keep quiet. Even if the child does something wrong, let her correct herself. She will be more active in learning and less guided and criticized. The child will feel that he is trusted by his parents and that he is capable.

Learning talent is often a process of continuous practice, and the test is the persistence of children. We need to pay close attention to Tingting's efforts in time, constantly feedback her efforts, and help her find a sense of accomplishment from every little effort and effort. When the children performed cucurbit flute in class, they got applause from teachers and classmates. The first thing they did when they got home was to say, "Mom, I have to learn a new song quickly and show it to the children." In these short sentences and the praise of classmates and teachers, Tingting felt that her efforts were successful and brought infinite joy to her family, teachers, classmates and herself.

Respect children's choices. 4 Parents expect their children to succeed. Is it right for their daughters to succeed? The theory is correct. But what everyone did was wrong.

Some parents always want their children to be admitted to your ideal university, so parents let their children sit and do their homework all day and never allow them to watch TV, play ball and other activities. All parents think they are right. In fact, this is the fundamental reason why children are tired of learning.

Parents think that children who don't go to school are worthless. Is that really the case? No, many people have never been to school, such as Edison.

Edison only attended primary school for three months. According to his observation, but didn't he become a scientist in the end?

Some parents always don't let their children play, and always say to their children, "You only know how to play, so you should put learning first." Are parents right in saying this? No, it's one-sided. Learning is the most important thing, but you can't always stay at home and read dead books every day. Professor Feng once said: Learning is good for playing. It is wrong to play without learning, and it is even more wrong to learn without playing. Because what children like to play is interest. As the saying goes, "Interest is the best teacher." Children are curious and will ask anything. You don't believe me? Is it okay? Let me give you a few examples:

Physicist Newton was curious when he saw apples ripe when he was a child. He thought, why does everything on the earth fall to the ground after losing its support, but not in other directions? Later, he finally discovered the law of gravity.

Edison was interested in everything when he was a child. I always want to try something I don't know and find it. Once, he saw a wild beehive near the fence of the garden. He felt very strange, so he poked it with a stick to find out. As a result, his face was swollen by a wild bee sting, but he still didn't want to see the structure of the hive clearly. Edison later became a world-famous great inventor.

Watt looked at the kettle and studied the steam. It has made great contributions to the economic development of Europe.

Others are:

Goodall, a great animal behaviorist, once said: The stuffy chicken coop is often intertwined with our childhood memories. When I was a child, I went into the henhouse and stayed there for five hours to see how hens lay eggs.

Li Siguang, a great geologist in our country, used to lean on some stones of unknown origin in his hometown when he was a child and asked himself curiously, why did these lonely boulders appear here? By what power did they come here? Later, Li Siguang traveled all over the mountains and rivers in China, and did a lot of investigation and research. Finally, he came to the conclusion that these strange stones are pumice of glaciers and the remains of Quaternary glaciers. Corrected the wrong theory of foreign scholars that there is no Quaternary glacier in China. ) After reading the above list, are parents clear? No matter how hard you force your child to do something he doesn't like, you still get nothing in the end. Forcing children is like a pigeon in a cage. Parents must respect their children's choices if they want to succeed. If your children like painting, you can't force them to learn guitar. All parents pour adult thoughts into their children. This practice not only fails to educate children, but will hurt them. As parents, we should first know what our children like and dislike, so as to educate them better.

Respect children's choices. Respect children and let them develop freely. However, in the practice of family education, there is a "degree" problem of respecting children: only by paying attention to the sense of proportion and grasping the scale, parents' intentional guidance and children's independent development can we achieve harmony and unity. To solve this problem, we should pay attention to the following relations:

I. Equal status and leading role Treating children equally is the first condition for respecting children.

Parents strive to create a kind of democracy and harmony. In daily life, children should be allowed to make choices according to their own wishes and encouraged to make some decisions by themselves. For example, ask your child, "Do you want to eat apples or bananas?" Negotiate with your child: "What do you want to do on Sunday?" Wait a minute. Secondly, we should learn to be children's friends, participate in children's activities, play with children and become children's happy partners. In addition, we should also pay attention to how our manners and manners feel about children, and always keep the same dialogue with children in the apparent field of vision. From simple action expression to the use of educational methods, equality with children should be reflected.

But emphasizing equality does not mean that the leading role of parents can be ignored. Children are young and have poor ability to distinguish right from wrong. They need the careful guidance of their parents all the time, further gain valuable experience and knowledge, and develop good behavior habits. But this leading role of parents is not reflected by coercive means. According to the characteristics of children, the use of games can often better reflect the combination of equality and dominance. For example, when I want my children to listen to stories, I often say, "Look at the doll, it's so lonely. He wants to hear a story. Will you accompany him? " I want my child to play with plasticine. I said, "The bear is hungry. Please make him some noodles!" " "Children refuse to wash their hands, so I read children's songs and play hand washing games with them. In a relaxed and pleasant game atmosphere, children unconsciously accepted their parents' requirements and developed good habits.

Second, free development and compliance with norms Every child has his own growth law.

Only by respecting this law and giving children sufficient space for free development can we stimulate their inner enthusiasm for development, give play to their initiative and better promote their healthy physical and mental development. In the family, children are free to explore, choose and create as long as they do not interfere with their health and safety and the interests of others. For example, we stipulate that Saturday night is the time for children to have free activities. As long as the children don't do anything wrong, we never interfere. In our family, children are encouraged to operate electrical equipment in addition to the main switch and socket. This not only increases the fun of children's exploration, but also enables children to learn the necessary knowledge of life, which can be described as killing two birds with one stone.

Of course, respecting children's free needs does not mean letting themselves go. As the saying goes, "Without rules, there would be no Fiona Fang." Only the education that combines freedom and norms is really conducive to the healthy development of children's body and mind. Therefore, when giving children freedom, there must be corresponding rules and regulations. For example, at home, let children know that all kinds of supplies and toys have a fixed position and should be put back after use; Daily diet and daily life should also have certain rules, go to bed on time and get up on time. Besides me, I should tell my children about public order and good customs, about civilization and norms, and consciously abide by them under the guidance and demonstration of parents. Family rules involve all aspects of family life, some of which need to be observed by family members, while others vary from person to person in family life. I have a friend who once had an argument about watching TV. Children don't go to bed until they watch TV with their parents every day. Later, their parents had no choice but not to watch TV every night. My children once asked me the same question. I said to him, "You are still young, it's time to grow up. You need more sleep than adults to grow up faster. " Hearing this, the son was convinced. It can be seen that when regulating children's behavior, it is necessary to explain the truth to children and let them voluntarily accept the norms.

Third, children's interests and parents' requirements. Interest is the intrinsic motivation for children to understand things.

Once a child is interested in something, he will tend to it, pay attention to it and actively explore it. Therefore, only by respecting children's interests and being good at inspiring and guiding can parents give full play to their children's potential and achieve better educational results. I remember when my child was five years old, he began to learn calligraphy according to our wishes. Under our supervision, he practices calligraphy for an hour every day. One day, the child actually begged and said, "mom, I really don't like writing with a brush." It's not interesting at all. You force me to write it every day, but I actually write it for you. You are not happy when others praise me. " These words shocked me and made me sad, so I asked him, "What do you like?" The child said, "I like the piano and want to learn." I think it over and over again, and I think we should still respect the wishes of the child and meet his requirements. Because of his interest, he is now learning the piano very consciously. After finishing his homework, he integrated his rich imagination into the process of understanding and playing music, enriching his mind, cultivating his sentiment and getting twice the result with half the effort. He regards his efforts as a kind of satisfaction and enjoyment.

Respecting children's interests doesn't mean that parents can't make demands on their children. Especially for preschool children, their interests are often situational, influenced by accidental factors, and their stability is poor, and their interests come and go quickly. To this end, parents should help their children form a stable interest while respecting their choices. In addition, due to the poor judgment of children, sometimes there will be some interests that are not conducive to the healthy development of children's body and mind. At this time, parents need to make timely requests and guide them in time. Therefore, parents should discover their children's negative interests in time and conduct strict education on the basis of reasoning, so that children can nip in the bud and embark on the road of healthy growth.

Respect for children is the first principle of family education, while love without flattery, strictness with dignity, relaxation without indulgence and freedom without indulgence are the successful ways of family education.

Respect for children's choices 6 Daughters grow up slowly, and capricious patterns begin to emerge one after another. Get up in the morning and prepare black socks for her, crying but refusing to wear them; Take another pair of yellow socks, she continues to make trouble, but still refuses to wear them; Even if she forced it on her feet, she tried to take it off By the end, she was tired of crying and angry enough. You let him choose. Finally, she still wore her original black socks. There was a time when my daughter was like this every day, and her father and I felt very helpless about it.

Fortunately, we stumbled upon our daughter's secret. At that time, in order to save trouble, we took two pairs of socks in advance (we will need them sooner or later anyway), but we didn't force her to wear them. Instead, we asked, "Wang Chenxian, do you wear black socks or yellow socks first?" "Huang", the daughter's simple answer, did not make the usual uncooperative move. The sun came out from the west, and her cooperation made us all feel puzzled. The deadlock that was originally planned to be reserved for 5 minutes ended a few seconds earlier. Since it went so smoothly, we asked another question: "Wang Chenxian, do you wear your left foot or your right foot first?" "Right foot", my daughter's answer is still so frank that we can't believe it. On that day, the "battle" was solved without a single soldier or a blood blade. Good behavior can be solidified into good habits if it is done often; When good habits are formed, good character can be shaped. But the premise is that we need to find out how this good behavior happens. "Choice-give children a chance to choose", which is why my daughter can consciously wear socks that morning, and this is also the experience that my father and I summed up from practice.

Children grow up day by day. Usually, we pay more attention to whether the child's height has increased, whether his weight has increased, whether his language expression ability and personal self-care ability have been enhanced, and we often ignore that his thinking and personality are gradually formed unconsciously. Nowadays, children have many opportunities to get in touch with the outside world, and they begin to have their own hazy views and attitudes about many things, and all kinds of self-awareness including "choice" are gradually sprouting. In fact, my daughter has no strong difference in likes and dislikes between black and yellow socks, but only hopes to be respected and recognized by adults through choice; Only subconsciously think that adults can agree with her choice, that is, respect her, will she have a unique sense of success and satisfaction for her children. Therefore, it is not so much that we conquered our daughter's choice of wearing socks as that she completed the immature process of self-realization.

In front of our daughter, as parents, we are all trying to create a democratic atmosphere. Respecting children's choices is the first step to cultivate children's democratic consciousness. We deeply know that a child who grows up with respect will become a democratic person when he grows up. He will not be extreme or arbitrary, and will be more considerate and tolerant.

Here, there is another interesting fact. Perhaps the child's brain is not really mature and his memory is lacking. Recency effect has always played an important role. We have done experiments, and when choosing three or four children about our daughter's age, the answer is that most of them will choose the latter. Therefore, when designing questions, parents may wish to play tricks, set hints in advance, put the answers that meet the expectations of adults behind, and then let the children choose. Of course, after providing a choice, regardless of the outcome of the child's choice, parents must face it calmly and accept it gladly, because this is the child's true will, because this is the parents' respect for the child's choice!