What is the process for people from Jinan to return home after getting married?

1. Wedding return process

According to Chinese wedding customs and etiquette, the bride must bring many gifts home with the groom after three days of marriage, which is also called the three-day "return".

This is a kind of etiquette among the Chinese people. The bride's parents attach great importance to the etiquette of returning home in three days, which is a major event for the bride's family. Therefore, the newlyweds must be well prepared in terms of gifts when returning home in three days, so as to leave a good impression on the father-in-law.

Prepare the homecoming gift in advance. The gift must be something that the bride’s parents like. Buy a fashionable gift for the homecoming gift. When returning to your parents' home, you must arrive at your parents' home before 10 o'clock. The bride and groom must first greet the elderly. The groom should change his name to "parents" and should also show cordiality and enthusiasm to relatives, friends and neighbors.

When the whole family is dining, the bride should sit on one side with the groom and toast to thank everyone for their blessings on their wedding. Don't be in a hurry to go home after dinner. Chat with your parents for a while or do some entertainment activities with your family. At about 4 o'clock in the afternoon, go home to the sun before it goes down. You should also invite the elderly, brothers and sisters to your home.

2. What are the specialties of returning home in Jinan?

Returning home is also called "Guining", which means "returning to one's parents' home".

The taboos on returning home are mostly taboos on the bride, but they refer to the taboos on the bride’s return to her parents’ home. In the Henan area, in addition to the above-mentioned taboo of returning to one's parents' home on the fifteenth day of the first lunar month to look at the lanterns, it is also taboo to offer sacrifices to the stove and return to one's parents' home on the first day of the first lunar month.

Because girls do not offer sacrifices to the stove, they are not asked to return to their parents’ home on the day of offering sacrifices to the stove. The first day of the first lunar month is the beginning of the year. When a married daughter throws water, she becomes a member of her husband's family when she marries.

At the beginning of the new year, the whole family is reunited, so it is naturally inconvenient to go back to my parents’ home. The fifteenth day of the first lunar month is also the first full moon day of the year. It is feared that the daughter-in-law will not be reunited with her family when she returns to her parents' home.

Therefore, we usually go back to our parents’ home on the second day of the first lunar month and the sixteenth day of the first lunar month. In order to take care of the reunion and celebration of both parties to the marriage.

There is a saying in Luyi County that "If you invite your daughter on the sixteenth day of the first lunar month and give her to her on the second day of the second lunar month, you will never get sick in your life." In Zhejiang and other places, it was forbidden for the bride to return home during the Winter Solstice.

Otherwise, it is thought that the parents of the husband’s family will be killed. A common proverb goes: "You stay in your mother's house for the winter, and you go to your husband's house to live with your father-in-law."

This custom also exists in Jiangsu. However, the reason is different, that is, if the winter solstice passes in the natal family, the natal family will decline accordingly.

In northern Shaanxi, there is a custom of returning to the natal family on the sixth day of June. Legend has it that it is to bond the relationship between the in-laws. At that time, the natal family will invite the daughter and son-in-law to return home for a reunion. This custom also exists in Henan, but it is related to the season of wheat harvest and threshing.

There is a popular saying: "After harvesting the wheat, the fight is over, whose daughter does not look after her mother. If the daughter does not come to see her mother, her father-in-law will be killed, or her mother-in-law will be killed."

The taboo on the time of return is to make the bride follow the order of coming and going. She must not return when she should not return, otherwise something bad will happen; she must return when it is time to return, otherwise, something bad will happen. occur. Generally, on the third day after the wedding, the bride and groom have to go back to visit their parents, but they must return to the husband's house before sunset that night, because the newlyweds cannot leave the new house empty.

In Linxian County, Henan Province, brides have to walk along the same road they used to meet their brides when they return home after three days. This is called "no two roads for three days." When the Yi bride returns home, she is not allowed to talk to her groom on the road. The two of them are like strangers passing by.

This is related to the custom of not leaving the husband's family. When the Han people return home, the young couple always make love, talk and laugh.

There is a popular folk tune of "go back to your natal family". The gifts that newlyweds bring home are always in pairs, and odd numbers are avoided.

The mother’s family cannot accept all of it. When they return to the husband’s house, they have to take some of it back with them. Some brides, influenced by superstitious ideas, cannot return home until one hundred and twenty days (four months) later, while others cannot return home until three years later.

In some places in Zhejiang, there are women who have committed crimes against the so-called "broken natal family". Such women are not allowed to board sedans at home. When they get married, the groom's family will take the girl out. The girl wears rags and pretends to beg for food. Changing into a sedan chair in the temple is called "borrowing a marriage". The parents and relatives of the girl's family must stay away, and the husband's family will take care of everything.

One hundred and twenty days after the marriage, you can return to peace.

Otherwise, the natal family will surely be ruined or suffer misfortune. There are also the so-called "Li Ke" (couples separated) and "Hui Hui Lu" (suffering from heavenly fire), and they can only return home after four months or even three years.

Generally, one month after the wedding, the in-laws can travel freely among themselves. When returning home, the bride can stay in her natal home.

The number of days you stay is very particular. In some areas of Henan, it is customary to go and stay for a few days.

As the saying goes: "Eight to eight, two hairs", "Nine to nine, two hairs." That is to say, those who return home on the eighth day of the lunar month can live in their parents' home for eight days, and those who return home on the ninth day of the lunar month can live in their parents' homes for nine days.

In this way, the most time is to live in the opposite month. If it is lived in this way, it will be auspicious for both men and women, otherwise it will be bad.

However, there is also a saying that it is forbidden to live in eight days. The so-called: "If you live in seven but not in eight, you will live in eight poor natal families." This taboo is generally formed because it is difficult for a married daughter to live in her natal family for too long. ideological considerations.

There are emotional restrictions, moral constraints, economic pressure and production needs. Various factors have contributed to this customary agreement. If the groom and the bride return to their natal home together, then there are different taboos regarding their stay there.

Among the Han and Manchu people, there is a custom that newlyweds are prohibited from having sex when they return to their natal family. The Manchus allowed my uncle to live in Xikang, but no other guests were allowed to live in Xikang.

But the girl and her uncle cannot live together. It is said that newlyweds sleeping in the same room with their parents' family will cause the decline of their parents' family. This is also caused by the idea that sexual behavior is unclean and blasphemous.

Folks often believe that in matters between men and women, the woman always suffers. Due to this consideration, the girl's family always feels a little depressed psychologically.

Besides, if your natal family and your husband’s family are not of the same bloodline, how can you provide a place for your husband’s family to carry on the family line in your natal family’s home? If she really got pregnant in her mother's family, wouldn't she have brought the "people power" and "financial power" of her mother's family to her husband's family? My natal family will definitely decline because of this. Therefore, it is absolutely forbidden for young couples to have sex in their parents' home. This is the ideological concept under this custom.

However, even among the Han people, there are many places where it is not taboo for newlyweds to sleep in the same bed at their parents' home. Sometimes, these two completely different customs coexist in the same county. For example, in Lin County, Henan, these two customs coexist.

After the bride returns home, her identity has changed and she is a member of another family, so her parents-in-law often "guard against her." When the married daughter of the Oroqen tribe returns to her natal family, it is forbidden to clean the pot.

Otherwise, her family’s wealth will be wiped away by her. There are similar taboos in Xiuwu County, Henan.

It is taboo among the local people for girls to touch or take the spoons and fire pillars from their parents’ families when they go out. It is said that "If you touch the spoon, your father-in-law will die, and your mother-in-law will die." "If you hold a fire pillar, your father-in-law will die, but your son-in-law will die."

It is also taboo to take knives and scissors from your natal family, and it is taboo to catch your natal family’s dog, etc. He said: "I'm afraid I will cut off the relationship with my mother's family and cut off the road in the future."

In short, we must do everything possible to prevent the married girl from using or taking away the things from her mother's family. If she takes the things from her mother's family after she gets married, , and there have been quarrels and disputes because of this, which will inevitably affect the relationship between the man and the woman. However, taking strict precautions is not a good way after all. How can we make her consciously not take it? So he used the spells of "dead father-in-law" and "dead son-in-law" to scare her and warn her. When a bride returns home, she should avoid telling her parents-in-law’s family about all the unpleasant things she encountered at her husband’s house. She should also avoid going back to her husband’s house and telling her mother-in-law’s family’s affairs, regardless of their importance.

The result of such "learning to talk" often causes troubles, affects the relationship between the male and female families, and the bride will also get the reputation of a "garrulous woman". Therefore, there is a proverb in the folk saying: "If you are a daughter-in-law, you should hide it from both sides, but if you are not a daughter-in-law, you should tell both sides."

This is when the bride deals with both men and women.

3. Ask about the various etiquette and wedding steps when getting married in Jinan.

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The general ceremony at a wedding banquet is as follows: 1. The bridegroom and bride welcome guests at the door of the banquet hall; 2. Witnesses, introducers, guests, officiants and relatives are seated; 3. The wedding ceremony begins, "Wedding March" is played; 4. The male and female guests invite the groom to the table; 5. The emcee presides over the wedding ceremony; 6. The witness speaks and reads the marriage certificate; 7. The guest representative speaks and congratulates; 8. The groom and the bride exchange tokens ; 9. Open the champagne, cut the wedding cake, and drink a glass of wine; 10. The parents of both parties come on stage, and the parent representative speaks and congratulates; 11. The bridegroom and the bride bow three times to the parents of both parties, bow three times to the guests, and bow three times to each other; 12. Take a group photo; 13. Raise the glasses and the master of ceremonies announces the start of the banquet; 14. The groomsmen and groomsmen invite the bride and groom to leave the banquet;? How to write wedding invitations This is a card used by both men and women at the wedding banquet to invite their relatives and friends to the banquet. Generally, the bride and groom can sign together, or they can sign separately, or their parents can sign.

Example 1: Invitation signed by myself. We would like to hold a wedding banquet at *noon* on **month** in the **hall of **hotel. Please come to us ***Please order*** Example 2 ：Parents’ signature invitation is kindly ordered to hold a wedding banquet for the child *** (female ***) in the ** hall of ** hotel at ** noon on ** month **. Please come to *** Parents kindly order *** 1. When writing an invitation letter, please pay attention to ① The name of the invitee should be written in full, and nicknames or aliases should not be used. ②Between the two names, "ji" or "和" should be written, without spaces or commas.

③The specific date of the wedding (month, day, week) should be stated. ④Indicate the place where the wedding will be held.

2. General congratulations on weddings: Three stars are in the house/Talents and beautiful women/A match made in heaven/A coincidence of destiny/A good match sent from heaven/Five generations of prosperity/Phoenix flying in the sky/Heart to heart/Dragon soaring and phoenix flying/Yushu Qiongzhi/Le Fu Sing Follow / be united forever / be together for a hundred years / be a couple for a hundred years / have affectionate relatives / unite and love / move forward side by side / like drums and harps / flowers blooming and full moon / like-minded / connected and connected / happy and contented / Changyi five generations / married couple.

4. Ask about the various etiquette and wedding steps when getting married in Jinan.

General wedding preparation process 1. Wedding preparation 1.1. Decide on the wedding date, location, ceremony and wedding banquet method 1.2 . Determine the wedding budget 1.3. Draft the guest list 1.4. Gather good friends to discuss the wedding plan 1.5. Determine the best man and bridesmaid 1.6. Determine the wedding witnesses 2. Preparation before the wedding 2.1. Communicate with all project stakeholders of the wedding 2.1.1. About the wedding Communicate with parents about preparation plans and progress 2.1.2. Send wedding notes to relatives and friends 2.1.3. Call out-of-town relatives and friends 2.1.4. Confirm the attendance of relatives and friends 2.1.5. Determine the auxiliary personnel on the wedding day and clarify the division of labor (coordination between men and women, hotel coordination , firecracker setting off, hotel welcome, wedding sign-in, wedding candy distribution, wedding scene and hotel bridal chamber decoration, wedding car, photography, video) 2.1.6. Draw a sketch of the wedding banquet site, marking each table of relatives and friends. 2.1.7. Both men and women welcome guests and The bride and groom are familiar with the sketch of the wedding banquet site and the seating positions of relatives and friends. 2.1.8. Make wedding banquet place cards. 2.1.9. Make a wedding plan, determine the list of relevant personnel and contact information. 2.2. Purchase wedding items. 2.2.1. New home decoration supplies. 2.2.1.1. Home appliances and furniture 2.2.1.2. Bedding 2.2.2. Ordering wedding supplies 2.2.2.1. Wedding dresses for the bride and groom 2.2.2.2. Wedding rings 2.2.2.3. Bridal cosmetics 2.2.2.4. Wedding stickers, red envelopes, wedding dresses Words 2.2.2.5. Red ribbons, colorful ribbons, latte art, pop-up crackers (or flower petals), colorful balloons, candles, wide double-sided tape and transparent tape, festive supplies, a full set of happy words, cold fireworks (depending on the situation), sign-in Book 2.2.2.6. Cigarettes, wine, and beverages 2.2.2.7. Sugar, peanuts, melon seeds, and tea 2.2.2.8. Digital camera memory card or film 2.2.2.9. Flowers, fruits 2.3. Image preparation of the bride and groom 2.3.1. Bride begins Skin care 2.3.2. Groom’s haircut 2.4. Decorating the new house 2.5. Determining the wedding host (or wedding company) 2.5.1. Communicating with him about the plans and ideas for the wedding day 2.6. Wedding banquet reservation 2.6.1. Estimating the number of guests 2.6. 2. Estimate the number of banquets 2.6.3. Select the wedding banquet location 2.6.4. Confirm the banquet menu and price 2.6.5. Confirm the acoustics of the wedding banquet site 2.6.6. Coordinate the wedding banquet layout and other details with the hotel 2.6.7. Book banquets 2.7. Wedding makeup appointment 2.7.1. Select the makeup location 2.7.2. Communicate with the makeup artist 2.7.3. Confirm the look on the wedding day 2.7.4. Make an appointment for the specific time 2.8. Wedding vehicle reservation 2.8.1. Determine the number of wedding cars 2.8 .2. Make an appointment for the time and place of the wedding car 2.8.3. Determine the route and time required for the wedding car on the wedding day 2.8.4. Make an appointment for the wedding car 2.9. Make an appointment for wedding photography 2.9.1. Determine the number of photography and videography 2.9.2. Select the wedding Photography staff on the day 2.9.3. Arrange the division of labor 2.9.4. Prepare photography equipment 2.9.5. Make an appointment for photography 2.10. Others 2.10.1. Exchange new banknotes 2.10.2. Determine the child pressing the bed 2.10.3. Relatives and friends from afar prepare guest rooms 3. Prepare the day before the wedding 3.1. Communicate with all project stakeholders of the wedding 3.1.1. Communicate with parents on the completion of wedding preparations 3.1.2. Discuss the preparation status and division of labor with the preparation team on the wedding day Make final communication 3.1.3. Make final communication with the host about the ceremony progress on the wedding day based on preparations 3.1.4. Communicate again with the best man and bridesmaid 3.1.5. Final confirmation of relatives and friends who will help 3.1.6. Final confirmation of wedding banquet, vehicles, and photography Preparation of details such as portraits, makeup, etc. 3.2. Confirm the preparation of the speaker on the wedding day 3.2.1. The preparation of the chief witness to speak 3.2.2. The preparation of the parent representative’s speech 3.2.3. The preparation of the guest representative’s speech (as appropriate) 3.2.4. The bride when welcoming her bride

Question preparation 3.2.5. Problems that the bride and groom may encounter during the ceremony or wedding 3.3. Final confirmation of the preparation of all items on the wedding day 3.3.1. Finally try on all the dresses 3.3.2. Put all the clothes to be worn on the wedding day Separate bags 3.3.3. Prepare two bottles of fake wine 3.3.4. Prepare fast food for the bride and groom to be placed in the bridal chamber on the wedding day, as well as drinks, fruits, flowers, and disposable cups for the guests 3.3.5. Finally check all items and hand them over Keep it in a designated person and issue a list of items 3.3.5.1. The bride’s new shoes 3.3.5.2. Rings 3.3.5.3. Red envelopes 3.3.5.4. Jewelry to be worn 3.3.5.5. Bridal make-up box 3.3.5.6. Sugar, cigarettes, Wine, tea, drinks 3.3.5.7. Firework props 3.4. Special preparations for the bride and groom 3.4.1. The bride and groom are familiar with the wedding procedures repeatedly 3.4.2. Rehearse the action of holding the bride 3.4.3. Rehearse the steps of the wedding 3.4.4. Rehearse the action of handing over glasses of wine 3.4.5. Relax and encourage each other 3.4.6. Pay attention to sleep and go to bed early 4. Wedding day process 4.1. Makeup 4.2. Final confirmation of wedding car, photography and video arrival time 4.2.1. Car arrangement 4.3. Welcoming the bride 4.3.1 Arrive at the bride’s house 4.3.1.1 The groom prepares flowers and red envelopes 4.3.1.2 Informs the bride before going out 4.3.1.3 Informs the bride 10 minutes before arrival to prepare firecrackers 4.3.1.4 Before entering the door, the bride’s relatives and friends ask questions (optional) and stuff red envelopes 4.3.1.5 The bride asks questions and the groom promises 4.3.1.6 The groom offers tea to the bride’s parents and takes a group photo 4.3.1.7 Longan, lotus root, and red date (Shuipu egg) soup (depending on customs) 4.3.1.8 The bride bids farewell to her parents before going out, and the groom greets the bride Parental commitments, blessings from the girl's parents 4.3.1.9 Preparation of firecrackers 4.3.2. Arrive at the groom's house 4.3.2.1 Inform the bride 10 minutes before arrival. Preparation of firecrackers 4.3.2.2 The groom's parents prepare red envelopes for the meeting 4.3.2.3 The bride serves tea to the groom's parents and takes a group photo 4.3 .2.4 Longan, lotus root, red date (Shuipu egg) soup (depending on customs) 4.3.2.5 Farewell to parents before going out, blessings from the groom’s parents 4.3.2.6 Firecracker preparation 4.3.3. Location shooting 4.4. Hotel preparation 4.4.1. Bring sugar, cigarettes, wine, tea, drinks, festive candles, etc. to the hotel wedding room 4.4.2. Hotel wedding room decoration 4.4.3. Final inspection of banquet arrangements, speakers, check-in area and other details 4.5. Hotel welcome 4.5.1. The bride and groom go to the hotel to rest and touch up their makeup 4.5.2. The check-in desk staff is in place 4.5.3. The greeters are in place at the door 4.5.4. The bride and groom, best man, and bridesmaid are welcomed at the door 4.6. Wedding ceremony (depending on the arrangements of the wedding company) 4.6. 1. Host preparation, sound preparation, ring preparation, flower petals, and ribbon preparation 4.6.2. Music playing, newlyweds’ entrance, ribbons (petals) 4.6.3. Introduction by the host 4.6.4. Speech by the officiant 4.6.5. Parents of the couple Going on stage 4.6.6. The bride and groom exchange rings and bow three times 4.6.7. Representatives of both parents speak 4.6.8. The couple opens champagne, cuts the cake and drinks glasses of wine 4.7. Wedding banquet 4.8. Wedding ceremony 4.9. Inventory of all belongings before leaving the hotel 5. Wedding End of the project 5.1 The best man and bridesmaid lead the preparation team to find another place to conduct the ceremony related to the project summary: touching wedding eggs and children pressing the bed (depending on customs).

5. Detailed explanation of the wedding reception banquet process. Pay attention to what to bring and wear when you return home

(1) Early preparations

10:30, sound engineer Choose its tracks to create a live atmosphere. At 10:50, the manager arranges welcome matters. The parents of both parties wear corsages, the newlyweds wear flowers, and important guests wear VIP flowers. At 11:16, the homecoming banquet ceremony officially began. (The final start time will be determined based on the arrival of guests.)

(2) Opening

1.

9 bells ring (accompanied by live band)

Lighting requirements: After the first bell rings, the field lights will be turned off one after another, the computer lights will sway, and there will be some smoke and bubbles.

2. When the bell rings, the electroacoustic band starts playing music. Music style: The music suitable for the male host to come on stage is different from the music for both parents and newcomers to come on stage. The lights turn on one after another.

Host: Walk across the red carpet from the auditorium to the center of the stage. (Lighting requirements: A beam of chasing light freezes the frame; Band requirements: When the host introduces himself, gentle background music sounds.)

(3) The ceremony begins

1. Opening remarks

The host made a brief self-introduction and then continued: "Today is a good day. The xx building is decorated with lights and colorful decorations and is full of joy. Dear guests and friends, give up your Sunday entertainment and relaxation time and come together to participate in the xx Mansion: Love Son xx, For the homecoming banquet of my beloved daughter xx, first of all, please let me express my warmest welcome and (most) heartfelt thanks to you all on behalf of the x family and my parents! Now I announce: my beloved son-in-law xxx, The thank-you party for my beloved daughter xxx’s return has officially begun!” ! (Music starts)

2. Introducing the newcomers and new parents

First of all: I would like to solemnly introduce the distinguished guests attending our event today, xxxx. Okay, next A. Let us invite Mr. and Mrs. xx to walk on the red carpet with warm applause (music starts) B. Let us use warm applause to invite the in-laws of xx Mansion, the father-in-law and the mother-in-law of xx Mansion who came all the way from Taiyuan, Shanxi to the stage. (Music starts)

3. Speeches from the parents of the newlyweds

Next, let us give the warmest applause to the two protagonists today - the groom: xxx, the bride: xxx Liang appears. (music starts). On xx, xx, at xxx place, the two newlyweds xxx and xxx held a grand wedding ceremony. Today, the two newlyweds stood on the rostrum with their parents. In order to express their gratitude to all guests and friends for many years, Chen Mr. Kay’s whole family planned this party with love and care. First of all, I would like to invite Mr. Chen Kai, the father-in-law of Taishan, to give a speech. Please give a speech by Mr. Xi from xx (address).

4. The newlyweds make wishes

Please stand in front of the wishing tree and make your best wishes to your parents and all the elders and friends who have cared and supported you. . Ask the newlyweds to stand in front of the wishing ball and make the best wishes for themselves. (All lights are cut off, leaving only the wishing ball flashing, and only the newlyweds are following the light.) Ask the two newlyweds to press the "handprint mud" that symbolizes eternal love.

5. ***Lunch

Invite both parents to come on stage with the newlyweds and bow three times to all the guests. (One bow, another bow, three bows). The ceremony is over, thank you to all guests and friends. Invite everyone to lunch.

6. What to do at the wedding reception banquet? How to host a wedding reception banquet

What to do at the wedding reception banquet

First of all, let’s understand what a wedding reception is Door. Huimen: Generally called "Guining", it means going home to visit parents after marriage. It is a Han nationality marriage custom. That is, on the third, sixth, seventh, ninth, or tenth day after the marriage or on the full moon, the son-in-law will return to his natal home with the bride, carrying gifts, and pay homage to his wife's parents and relatives. This is the last ceremony of the marriage.

The theme of the homecoming banquet

The homecoming banquet is also called a thank you banquet, so it must reflect "thank you". But who to "thank" and how to "thank" also vary according to the changes of the times. Ancient people had more respect for heaven and earth, so the proportion of thanking God in the homecoming banquet was very important. Today's thank yous at the homecoming banquet are mainly directed at the bride's parents and guests. Although it is not difficult for daughters to see their parents after they get married, the gratitude and love for their parents will not be less than in ancient times.

Homecoming banquet time

In terms of time, Michelle Chen’s wedding will be on July 19th and the homecoming banquet will be on the 22nd. Ruby Lin’s wedding will be on July 31st and the homecoming banquet will be on August 2nd. The door banquet is very standard three days after the wedding.

However, is it wrong to hold the wedding 12 days after Shen Teng's wedding and it is not within the above-mentioned time?

In fact, the current time requirements for the homecoming banquet are not as strict as the ancient rituals. It is best if it can be done at the required time. If you don’t want to be in a hurry, it can be completed in a month or so. Of course, there are also cases where it takes more than a month to have a homecoming banquet due to work reasons or being too far apart. As long as the couple and their parents (especially the bride's parents) reach an agreement, it will be fine.

Which guests should be invited to the homecoming party?

Because the Guining Banquet is the first banquet for a married daughter to return to her natal family, of course the first choice must be to invite the bride’s elder relatives and friends. Of course, if there are some relatives and friends who are unable to attend your wedding due to time, distance, etc., you can also invite them to your homecoming banquet.

Homecoming banquet style

Because it is a Chinese wedding tradition, many couples will choose a Chinese-style homecoming banquet. Shen Teng’s homecoming banquet also included pandas from the bride’s hometown of Sichuan, which was creative and thoughtful. But if your wedding is Chinese style, it is best to choose a Western style wedding banquet. In this way, one Chinese and one Western can better reflect the beauty of differences.

In addition, during the wedding, in order to take care of the opinions of the elders on both sides, many brides will give up their wedding dreams to achieve a perfect wedding. Therefore, when returning to the home banquet, you can also choose the style that the bride likes. , to make up for her little regret.

What to wear for the homecoming banquet

Since a formal wedding has already been held, the attire for the homecoming banquet is not as casual as the wedding. Although Ruby Lin still prepared three sets of dresses for the homecoming party, if you are afraid of trouble, you can just prepare a simple set of dresses. What’s more, you can really put away those wedding dresses with long tails at the homecoming banquet, and simple dresses, cheongsams, etc. will suffice.

Homecoming Banquet Process

To be honest, many of the homecoming banquet processes seen on Du Niang are written about wedding processes, so many couples now have wedding and homecoming banquet processes. Men Yan was dumbfounded and couldn't tell the difference. In fact, we just need to remember which processes cannot be included in the homecoming banquet and which processes need to be highlighted.

The homecoming banquet does not require these procedures: exchanging tokens, handing over glasses of wine, paying homage, etc. Because these processes symbolize a lifetime commitment and have already been completed at the wedding, there is no need to repeat them here.

The homecoming banquet can have these processes: champagne ceremony, cake ceremony, kissing, mini games and other festive and lively contents can be reflected again in the homecoming ceremony. Of course, if you want to be more interesting, you can choose some more lively openings, such as singing a love song.

In addition, for newlyweds who have already received the wedding video, it is best to play your wedding video at the homecoming party. On the one hand, you can show off your affection, and more importantly, it can attract those who did not attend your wedding. Friends, experience this once-in-a-lifetime feast.

The ancients believed that the wedding was not officially completed until the homecoming banquet was over. From then on, the two people and even the two families were truly united. Some people say that everyone is so busy, so it’s better to skip the homecoming party. But sometimes life does need more rituals to teach us the beauty of being respected, loved, and cared for!

7. What are the procedures for getting married in Jinan City?

You need to prepare a box. In the box, put the back of the second bed, ten thousand and one, and the so-called three pieces of gold. The clothes you buy for your wife, sweaters, shoes and socks, cotton-padded jackets and watches, and your conditions. But when the man goes to the woman’s house, he must put cigarettes and candy in the box.

The woman buys for the man Wear a good suit, shoes, tie and socks

The man also needs to find a well-spoken woman over 40 years old to act as a matchmaker (cannot be divorced or widowed). She will also go there on the day and sit with the woman’s parents. Go to the table. Secondly, on the day of engagement, after the mother-in-law and father-in-law give money, the girl changes her name to her parents, and other relatives of the man, such as aunts and aunts, also need to give red envelopes. Girls also call aunt, but calling aunt is not for nothing, uncle also costs money.

This custom in Jinan is also very different in each district and town. Be sure to ask her questions. It is best to ask the woman to go home and ask her elders if there are any taboos and special considerations.