How to shape the sunshine mentality

The first method: change your attitude?

When we can't change something, we change our attitude towards it. A person's injury because of what happened is not as important as his opinion about it. If we are hurt by other people's words, it is your thinking that hurts us. Sometimes the thing itself is not important, what matters is our attitude towards it. When attitudes change, things will change. There is an idiom called "A blessing in disguise is a blessing in disguise". This little story tells us a very simple truth: there are no absolute good things or bad things in the world, they are just things. In this way, people will become more free and easy and plain. ?

Mentality can change fate. In ancient times, two scholars, A and B, went to catch the exam and saw a coffin on the way. A said, "What bad luck! I met a coffin, and this exam is dead. " B said: "coffin, promotion and wealth, it seems that my luck has come, and I will definitely be admitted this time." When they answered the questions, their efforts were different, and as a result, B was admitted. When they got home, they all said to their wives, "That coffin is really clever." This case shows that mentality can affect people's ability, and ability can change people's destiny. Ensuring a good mood at the moment is the basis for ensuring a good mood all day. If you can keep a good mood every day, you will get a good quality of life and experience a wonderful life that others can't. ?

The second method: enjoy the process.

Life is a bracket, the left bracket is life, and the right bracket is death. All we have to do is fill in the brackets with a good life and a good mood. ?

Dali, an ancient city in China, is rich in products, pleasant in climate and slow in people's life. Once, an English gentleman saw the leisurely life of people here and asked an old lady, "Madam, why is the pace of people's life here always slow?" The old lady replied, "Sir, what do you think is the final result of people?" The gentleman thought for a moment and said, "It is death." The old lady said, "Since you are dead, what are you busy with?" Life is a process, not a result. We need to learn to enjoy life. ?

A person's life is like traveling, and memory is like photography. Attention determines choice, choice determines content, starting from the origin and then returning to the origin. There are two people, A and B, watching the scenery. At first, you looked at me, too Both of them are very happy. Later, A was a little clever and walked faster than B, and took a look at the scenery earlier than B. At first glance, how can you take a look before me and walk faster than A? So they walked faster and faster, and finally they ran away. Originally, I came to see the scenery, but now it has become a competition. I didn't see the scenery for a while, and finally both of them regretted it. The essence of life lies in the pursuit of happiness, not the result of games. Don't miss the beautiful scenery along the way in pursuit of results. There is nothing wrong with pursuing perfection, but it is not worth the loss to pursue for the purpose. ?

The third way: live in the present.

The real meaning of living in the present comes from Zen. Someone asked a Zen master, what is it to live in the present? The Zen master replied that eating is eating and sleeping is sleeping. This is called living in the present. We ask ourselves, what is the most important thing for ourselves? Who is the most important person? What time is the most important? Some people may say that the most important thing is to get promoted, get rich, buy a house and a car, the most important people are parents, lovers and children, and the most important time is the college entrance examination, graduation defense and wedding. I'm telling you, none of these things exist. The most important thing is what you do now. The most important person is the person you are with now. The most important time is now. This view is called living in the present.

A man was chased by a tiger. He ran so hard that he accidentally fell off the cliff. He was quick-sighted and caught a crutch, and his body hung in mid-air. He raised his head and the tiger stared at him from above; He looked down and the abyss was waiting for him; He looked in the middle and suddenly found a ripe strawberry next to the rattan. Now, the man has three choices: go up, go down and eat strawberries hanging in the air. How does he choose? He chose to eat strawberries. This is a Zen story. The mentality of eating strawberries is to live in the present. What you can catch now is that strawberry, so you should eat it. Only by grasping the present can we connect the past and the future. Instead of being depressed by regretting the past and worrying about the future, it is better to firmly grasp the present. ?

Therefore, do a good job now, do your best if you can, and put it down if you can't. This is not mediocrity, but tells us to calm down and not let past unhappiness and future worries take away your present happiness. Only in this way can we achieve the future. ?

The fourth method: if you can't compare up, you can compare down.

Most of us agree with the argument that a soldier who doesn't want to be a general is not a good soldier, and a sailor who doesn't want to be a captain is not a good sailor. We also think that "the upper class is insufficient and the lower class is more than the lower class" is a slightly derogatory description, but sometimes we still have to make a downward comparison. When things don't go well, we often complain about our bad luck, because our eyes only see where others are better than ourselves, and the gap between them is really unpleasant. However, maybe at some point, we were once the envy of others. ?

Once upon a time, there was a beggar who complained that he had no clothes and food and had to beg everywhere for a living on weekdays. But another beggar shrank by the side of the road and said, "At least your legs and feet are sound." Not only can the beggar not walk, but he is even blind. But he is very satisfied, because living has made him very satisfied.

There is also a widely circulated post on the Internet: a monkey is climbing a tree, looking up is full of monkey's ass, looking down is full of monkey's smiling face, and looking left and right is full of monkey's eyes and ears. The suggestion is, I wish you less monkey ass and more monkey smiling faces in your life. This story encourages people to climb up. The higher they climb, the more smiling faces they see. Therefore, when necessary, learn to compromise. If going up is more painful, then going down is more satisfying.

The fifth method: learn to be grateful.

When business owners recruit college students, the first thing to look at is whether they are filial to their parents. If you are not filial to your parents, you will not be loyal to the enterprise. Therefore, it is very important to learn to be grateful to your parents first. ?

There is a saying in the west that eating vegetables with love is better than eating beef with hatred. Westerners are used to thanking those who have helped themselves on Thanksgiving Day. Now we also advocate sending condolences to all those who have helped, supported and cared about you, thanking them for their concern. After this chain reaction is formed, interpersonal relationships will become more harmonious. Gratitude is a philosophy and wisdom of life. Learn to be grateful for what you have and what life has given you, so that you can have a positive outlook on life and a healthy attitude. ?

Law 6: Heaven and hell are all made by heart.

Measuring a person's happiness or not has nothing to do with wealth, status and power in essence. Happiness is determined by thoughts and mentality. The heart can create heaven or hell. ?

A Japanese samurai asked an old Zen master, "Master, what is heaven? What is hell? " The old Zen master gave him a contemptuous look and said, "You are a vulgar person, and you don't deserve to talk to me about Heaven at all." The samurai was angered, pulled out his knife and put it around the old Zen master's neck, shouting, "Bad old man, I will kill you!" " "The old Jackson said quietly," This is hell. The samurai knew that anger was hell, so he put the knife back in the shell. The old Zen master said calmly, "This is heaven. "Samurai understand that a good mood is heaven.

Hu Maoyuan, chairman of SAIC, once told a story of heaven and hell. He said that God took a man to hell and found that everyone in hell was bony. They drink porridge with a special spoon. The handle of the spoon is very long, but the head is very small, and the porridge is spilled on the ground. Finally, there was no porridge in the bucket, and everyone complained and hated each other. God took this man to heaven again, only to find that everyone here was chubby and smiling. They eat the same porridge with the same spoon, but they scoop it out and feed it to others. You feed me, I feed you. As a result, everyone ate porridge. This tells us that we should be kind to people around us and learn to be happy for small things, so that there will be more gratifying things.

After others help you, thank him and appreciate him, and more and better things will happen. If you treat others as demons, you will live in hell; If you treat others as angels, you will live in heaven. If you turn others into demons, you are creating hell; If you can turn others into angels, you are building heaven. How can we turn others into angels? Learn to be grateful, appreciative, giving and tolerant.

The seventh method: learn to bend if the pressure is too great.

There is such a case: a couple in Canada always quarrel and are on the verge of divorce. So they decided to travel and try to save their marriage. When they came to a north-south valley in Quebec, they were surprised to find that the east slope of the valley was covered with all kinds of trees, while the west slope was only cedar. Why is there such a big difference between east and west slopes? Why can only cedar survive on the west slope? Later, they found that the snow was heavy on the west slope and light on the east slope, while the branches of cedar were softer. If there was more snow, the branches would bend and fall behind, and the branches would recover. Other trees are stiff, and finally the branches will be crushed by snow and the trees will die. They understand that when people are under great pressure, they should also learn to give in. The husband quickly reviewed to his wife: "It's all my fault, I didn't do it right." As soon as the wife listened to her husband's review, she immediately said, "I didn't do enough." So the two made up. ?

No matter how sharp the knife is, it is useless to break it at the touch. We might as well learn from Tai Chi in China's traditional culture. Learn ancient coins, the outer ring is inside. ?

Change your attitude, enjoy the process, live in the present, compare downward, learn to be grateful, create happiness with your heart, bend properly … If you can do this, you can have a sunny mind and experience the happiness of your own every day.