There are four solutions to everything.

When we encounter a problem, a solution will flash into our mind for the first time. This kind of thinking will directly affect our behavior, and many times it seems that the problem has not been solved.

If others say you can't, who do you think said you can't? I will prove to you that the follow-up cooperation may be done with unfriendly enthusiasm. When you do something wrong, it will deepen and confirm what he said to you.

We need to break the original fixed thinking, constantly break through ourselves, put ourselves in other's shoes, and constantly adjust our behavior when encountering difficulties.

People with different characteristics in society will have different solutions to their problems.

For example, when enterprises solve the problem of recruiting talents, they generally use two types of evaluation tools:

One is the evaluation category, which evaluates whether you are good or not and cares more about your stability. Its theoretical basis is psychology, and its judgment is based on your past. The question he wants to solve is who you are, such as MBTI.

One is the evaluation category, which thinks that you have all kinds of characteristics, but the degree of use is different. Its theoretical basis is organizational behavior, and it faces your future. The problem it wants to solve is to help you become who, such as DISC, which is going to be talked about today.

For us personally, solving problems is more about cultivating the day after tomorrow. Disc theory can be divided into two dimensions: people-oriented, material-oriented, fast and slow. It can be divided into leading type, dedicated type, quick action type, clear goal and result-oriented type. Influential, caring, humorous and popular I characteristics; S characteristics of support, care, slow action and understanding, and C characteristics of caution, slow action, pursuit of Excellence and meticulous thinking.

According to the above picture, you may not be able to choose what type you are, or feel that all four characteristics will appear in different situations. In fact, the disc theory has three premises:

Number 1: Everyone has a disc, but the ratio is different.

Second, the four characteristics of a disk are not advantages or disadvantages, but characteristics.

Third: the disc can be adjusted and replaced. And these four qualities can also be trained and mastered, and can be taken out when needed.

There is no difference between Dierske's four behavior styles, only whether they are suitable or not. Knowing this, you will find that the way of describing people has changed: describing characteristics instead of strengths and weaknesses.

For example, solving other people's problems, others describe your colleague as "stingy", but what you see is his "concern for cost", and then you can see his "saving" advantage.

One of the biggest benefits of understanding DISC is that people really feel that "there are four schemes for everything" and you can choose, instead of blindly following and imitating other people's suggestions or just relying on your own inertia. It is often not the matter itself that determines the final result, but the response you choose.

For example, if you encounter a problem, you can't get the result in the way of S, and you will be uncomfortable in the way of D, so switch to I or C and get the result comfortably. You know, it is often not the thing itself that determines the final result, but the way you choose to deal with it.

Introduce three commonly used:

1. When you are in a bad mood and want to adjust yourself, you have four solutions.

People who use D traits more: choose challenging jobs or sports;

People who use more I features: choose to attend friends' parties or shopping;

People who use S features more: choose to go back to China to cook for their families;

People who use C features more: choose to read quietly or play Sudoku.

The more mature people are, the more they can understand their emotions, choose the way that suits them best, take care of themselves when they are alone, and get inner happiness.

When procrastinating, you have four solutions.

People who use the characteristics of d more: they must get the results to be comfortable and must act immediately;

People who use I have many characteristics: to stimulate their imagination and persuasion, and to stimulate their interest in doing things;

People who use S features more: analyze which link hinders the action, then solve it and open the program;

People who use more C characteristics: talk to friends, empower themselves, and then start doing it.

3. Use different features for different jobs.

Case: At work, the same leader often uses different methods for different subordinates. Some people say that his leader is patient with others, but he basically uses direct requirements. The original words are, "The leader is very kind to others and scolds me every time he sees me." It doesn't matter if you don't scold. Do whatever you want if it's not important.

Analysis: Probably because he sat casually, he didn't do it well. Because I didn't do well, he taught his leaders that the best way to do well was to scold me.

So when you need to complete a task in a specific time, you need to give full play to the characteristics of D, be result-oriented, pay attention to efficiency, focus on this matter and finish it as soon as possible;

When your job is to deal with people and communicate with them for a long time, you need to play the characteristics of I, communicate with people more, establish friendly interpersonal relationships and become a diplomat with friends all over the world.

When you need to stand in the other person's position and think more about others, and answer others' questions patiently, you need to give full play to your S characteristics;

When you are engaged in the pursuit of precision, but also to control the whole, pay attention to the overall situation, but also pay attention to details, you need to play your C characteristics.

When you master the tool tray skillfully, you will find that it can greatly improve our interpersonal sensitivity, which is a kind of ability. This ability is used consciously or unconsciously, whether it is trained or not. A skill that will be used for a lifetime is worth your time and energy to learn.

Use four characteristics in work and life to solve problems in a targeted way, so that you can pass them on to each other at any time. I know you. If I can convey that I know you when the two sides disagree in daily communication, then I will let you see more possibilities. If you can't accept that I know you, you will feel that I am just making a simple and rude criticism, which will make you rebellious.

The process of human maturity is actually the process of perfecting personality and behavior. After learning these four solutions, you should use them frequently, and then constantly check the effect and correct them in the process of use.

For example, in the interaction with people, CD-ROMs with four behavior styles are used:

D style is well used and can be used for self-defense. If it is not used well, it may become an infringement on others.

If I use style well, it can inspire the inside, but if I use it badly, it may only praise the outside;

The style of s is well used, which can take care of others' feelings, but it is useless and becomes an indulgence of the other party's behavior;

C trait can show its original appearance if it is used well, and it will become what I want if it is not used well.

Constant study and practice, conscious adjustment. I believe your interpersonal sensitivity can be improved quickly. Finally, we hope that everyone's happiness and success are based on their own abilities, not luck. Super personal, super happy!

Don't always hope to meet the only thrill. Mature people have the ability to turn the people they meet into the right people.

Today's diligence

You want to invite a friend to a movie, but the other person is not interested. How do you adjust your behavior?