"I am young, but actually I don't want to do anything."

Since the "mourning culture" at the end of last year and the popularity of "Buddhist youth" on the Internet last year, China has been accused of following in the footsteps of Japanese "low-desire society".

Last year, according to a report released by the Japanese government, more than 500,000 young people in Japan chose a "seclusion" lifestyle. They live a life similar to seclusion and refuse to integrate into society.

With the growing and emergence of this new synonym-"hermit" group, many people began to worry. Will this be a sign of the characteristics of new youth groups in first-and second-tier cities in China?

Uncle Ying wants to talk to you about this interesting topic today.

I wonder if you have read last year's best-selling novel The Lonely Novelist? (If not, Uncle Ying would like to recommend Amway here. It's really a good book and worth studying! )

In the works of Japanese writer Ichiro Ishida, we can easily feel such a real Japan: modern and traditional, seemingly prosperous, but also quite lonely. ?

Restaurants and bars are always crowded, but a closer look reveals that most customers eat alone; From the Yamanote Line to the Central Line, tired white-collar workers can be seen at any time.

People seem to enjoy the carnival at the end, leaving only loneliness. It is this sense of loneliness that struggles to integrate into the society that fills the author's words all the time.

However, in the reality of Japan, there are a group of "missing people" who are different from these social people. They are desperately living in the crowd. In countless places where neon lights can't shine, they quietly quit the crowded social life, stay indoors all day and "adjust the balance of Japan" in an almost strange way.

They are called hermits.

? Shoku Uibori, 7 years in seclusion/Netease bystander

Shoku Uibori, 43, is one of the "missing persons". He shut himself in his room for seven years, except occasionally going out late at night to buy instant noodles and beer at a convenience store.

He used to be a businessman and owned his own company. After bankruptcy, he shut himself in the house all day reading. 10 square meter room, like a contemporary lonely laboratory, the smell of isolation. Here, all the weaknesses and imperfections are beyond reproach because of the lack of reference. ?

"Just like a hamster loves its cage, without it, the hamster will be at a loss."

Shoku Uibori's room/Netease bystander

But Shoku Uibori is not alone. There are about 65,438+0,000 hermits like him in Japan.

According to the definition of the Japanese Ministry of Health, Labor and Welfare, "hermit" has the same characteristics: refusing to participate in social life, especially in school or work; Without close social relations, he has been "missing" for more than 6 months.

The highest record is that the seclusion time is as long as 40 years.

? The bimonthly Sleeping Family reported the phenomenon of seclusion, which mentioned that 34% people lived in seclusion for more than 7 years.

According to the data released by the Cabinet Office of Japan, as of 20 17, the number of people living in seclusion between 15 and 39 reached 54 10000, of whom 80% were men, and most of them had master's degrees.

Researchers believe that the real number is far more than that.

Because this survey excluded people over 40 years old, and hermits have the characteristics of self-concealment, Kalo Hiroshi, a professor and neuropsychiatrist at Kyushu University, speculated that at least 6,543,800 Japanese people lived in seclusion, accounting for 654.38+0% of the total population.

? Dormant crowd: "Young people who have nothing to do in Beishangguang"

The Japanese definition of "hermit clan" reminds Uncle Ying of the definition of "hermit clan" in China in the True Story Plan some time ago:

Such a group of young people are highly educated, unemployed, and have neither blood nor struggle. They rent a house in a first-tier city, and they can't go home and stay any longer, doing nothing all day.

"After graduating from college, I lived in seclusion in Beijing without telling my family."

"After leaving the Fortune 500, I have been living in my girlfriend's house and playing games for half a year."

"I can't work continuously for more than eight months. You have to go to jail for half a year for a job. Dealing with money is too tiring, but going home with parents is even more tiring. "

"The university is like a pig farm. After paying the feed money for four years, I rushed to the society with the inspection certificate, and then continued to raise the next batch. I am the pig that didn't mix well, and I haven't figured it out yet. "

Among them, the netizen @ 京京京 also shared his experience of living in his girlfriend's house for one year:

"I went out with short sleeves and found that it was already winter."

After graduation, I attended a job fair. I am either in sales or my salary is too low. I don't want to go to any one.

I began to have the idea of full-time writing, and I wanted to hide my strength for a while and concentrate on reading and writing. I stayed at my girlfriend's house as soon as I graduated. She finished her internship and is doing a job I don't want to do, with less than 6 thousand yuan a month.

At first, I wanted to calm down and read and write. A month later, I became a reader, not a writer. After two months, I became a reader, not a writer. In the end, I don't want to hide the essence that I don't want to do anything at all. I find that staying at home is a matter that requires more self-control than taking part in work. When my girlfriend moved to this house, I didn't even help her move. ?

Every morning my girlfriend goes out to work and comes back at night to order takeout and play games together. Take her to dinner once in a while, and she will be very happy if the average person is 50.

Usually sleep alone, read books or watch cartoons. Everything you eat at noon every day is very fixed: coke, peanuts, fried pork rice, sugar and garlic. I have to eat such exciting food to feel the taste. ?

Author's picture | Almost a daily order

Once the garbage left by my girlfriend at the door was not thrown away in time, and the neighbor complained: Your boyfriend doesn't go to work and doesn't throw garbage. Self-esteem is still very difficult, so I began to send resumes to some companies while she was away.

The requirement is clear: do less and earn more. Resumes sent out often sink into the sea, and only scammers are willing to pay attention to me. How can a serious hr ask you on the website at two o'clock in the morning: "Are you there?" Soon, I gave up again.

I didn't go home for the Spring Festival that year, and I didn't know what to say to my parents. Sometimes my girlfriend wants to encourage me to cheer up, so I tell her, "I don't need someone to help me up now, I just want someone to lie in the mire with me."

On Christmas Eve, I want to go downstairs to pick her up for dinner. When I walked out of the corridor, I saw it was snowing outside, and I was still wearing short sleeves in summer.

A native of Beijing lived in his home for eight years. The only change is that you have gained a lot of weight and your house has risen by tens of thousands. Everyday is playing dota and watching drama. The only chance to go out is to go to Chaoyang and find a friend who plays games to play chess and then go home.

Even if he doesn't want to enter this field, his parents are still afraid of hurting him and don't want him to have too big ambitions. Anyway, there is everything in the family except the wife and the next generation.

There is also a boy paper who is living with his girlfriend. He has been at home for two and a half years. His biggest hobbies are watching Japanese dramas, comics, playing games and licking cats. His parents pay back the money on time every month, and he still lives in his own house. At the same time, there are hundreds of thousands in his account.

Author Figure | Watching animation at home

He said: "If there is enough money, how many people will continue to do their current jobs? Work is just a fig leaf for doing nothing. It is better to do what you like at home. Anyway, no one said anything if he didn't work. "

Many netizens said that they felt cured after reading it. I'm not the only one who wants to sleep in the mire.

? "One year and seven months after graduation, I was on and off for one year, rested for seven months, and now I am at home for two months. Known as a civil servant, he occasionally reads books carefully, but most of the time he plays mobile phones, watches TV and watches cartoons at home. "

? "I am relieved to see so many people like me."

? "A truly free society is a society that can make people feel at ease and not be a waste."

"It's really comfortable to stay at home like smoking marijuana."

"I stayed at home for eight months before, and people asked me every day, won't you feel bored and empty? Not at all! Cool! "

In fact, even Li Dan, the planner of Tucao Conference, which is deeply loved by young friends, wrote in his new book Laughter:

Written three years ago: "Do you know? When I was young, I wanted to do many things. I want to fall in love, take drugs and travel around the world, which is what people want to do when they are young.

Do you know what I hate most? That is, I am young now, but I don't want to do anything. I said those stupid things only because I felt I had to explain to my youth. I am waiting for my youth to pass away. "

When I first saw Laughter, I felt that this passage was quite in line with the current situation faced by some young people. Obviously, I was in the mood for love, but I didn't want to do anything. I can't go back to the era less than last year. I can only look forward to getting old quickly and enjoying myself.

"Escape is shameful, but useful."

"Escape, only escape, I am myself."

Neither the "hermit" in Japan nor the "squatting" in Beishangguang are unique phenomena in individual societies.

Some researchers say that all developed societies will face such a situation, especially in areas with serious economic recession and high unemployment rate, such as Japan.

Young people in Japan have experienced a protracted economic stagnation that young people in other developed countries have never experienced.

In Andy Furlong's view, the bursting of the bubble economy cut off the "conveyor belt" of "high marks, good universities and good jobs", and Japanese young people lost their "lifelong jobs" owned by their parents and turned to short-term employment such as short-term jobs and odd jobs.

This is similar to China's present society to some extent.

Of course, most hermits come from relatively wealthy middle-class families, and they usually have higher expectations. The material foundation accumulated in the bubble era not only gave them the imagination of free enjoyment, but also brought the possibility of collapse-

For them, studying and working as hard as their parents is a "waste of life".

Some people say that recluses and squatters choose to escape because their ability to cope with setbacks is too weak. ......

In the group of recluses and squatters, we find that some children are unwilling to go to school after school violence; There are also adults who have lost their jobs or failed to find jobs, and have no courage to go out after returning home.

In addition, parents' divorce, exam failure and emotional trauma may make them feel inferior and then fall into an endless cycle of "fear of losing before the war" ......

"Escape" has naturally become the simplest and most direct way to soothe this emotion, and it is also the passive way they choose to deal with setbacks.

The hermit believes that "the world will not be better because of our every move." Instead of facing a weak and hopeless future, it is better to find another way. "

After all, escape is shameful, but useful.

"I also know that this is not normal, but I don't want to change. It feels very safe here (room). "

When talking about the infinitely transparent blue, Ry? Murakami said: "Many people want to live their own lives, choose unorthodox jobs, or disobey social rules."

But in most cases, "living the life you like" will only make life more difficult, especially if there is no source of income. Therefore, many older hermits who have no parents to rely on will go to work for a period of time to accumulate living capital before retirement.

In Japanese or China society, a stable job and income are still the iron law of survival, even under great pressure.

Some netizens left a message saying: "My mother has a younger sister who goes to college, and she is the only one in the whole family to study. When my mother was feeding leeches in the rice field, she was tapping the computer in her office in Shenzhen.

My mother also wanted me to type on the computer, so she was very strict with me since I was a child. I didn't dare to go home until I got 80 points, because she would hit me with poker.

She always said: You are bitter now, but you will be relaxed later. But what's the difference between me and my mother now? The same is the exchange of money with the body, but the brain is still injured. "

"We have always been no way back."

The post-90s generation was once synonymous with brain-dead and rebellious on the Internet, and even labeled as "the beat generation". Now many people have become parents.

To tell the truth, the post-90 s youth are quite embarrassed, giving up carbonated drinks and serving thermos cups too early; Without the passion and ignorance of entering the workplace, it is not a successful career. I'm confused but afraid to leave easily, and I still can't see the harvest after my efforts.

Getting married, having children, buying a house and a car, everyone seems to be going through a procedure. In the process of urging, we should do everything quickly, work with our lives and work overtime desperately.

Sometimes, I really want to yell at the leader and leave, but I just think about it.

Left, I wonder if I will jump into a worse pit again; Left, I don't know if my family will support it; If you leave, will life be out of order? ...

Some people say, don't hang out in big cities. You are too tired. You will lose at least ten years.

In fact, many people can't go back, which stems from the arrogance in their bones. After studying hard for many years, I finally walked out of the countryside and came to the city. There is naturally no reason to go back.

I would rather suffer than eat dirt.

And when the responsibility on our shoulders becomes heavier and heavier, this burden will force us to do things we don't like and put up with people we don't like.

Before, we always thought that our present life was our own choice, which was caused by our ambitions and desires. Until the chicken soup disappeared, we were shocked on a tossing and turning night:

It turns out that life and work have chosen us, and we have always been no way back.

"The feeling of being needed is the driving force of our efforts."

References:

The witness, Meka Ilan, feels safe here.

[2] A mental illness called "hidden youth" is imprisoning 500,000 Japanese people in their own homes-and the threat of this mental illness is greater than ever, Alexandra Ma.

[3] These photos reveal the lonely life of Lawrence Bout-Roque, a Japanese social hermit.

[4] Japanese extreme hermits are gathering together to start a newspaper for those who are abandoned by society, Isabella steig.

[5] "Hidden Youth: Exploring the Syndrome and Its Ways of Assistance", Yang Kun.

[6] Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon: Young people who have nothing to do in Beishangguang, true story plan?

[7] "1100,000 Japanese Disappeared: Shameful but Useful to Escape", watched by Netease.

[8] "Analysis of Japanese Teenagers' Seclusion", Shi.

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