After a serious illness, my temperament changed drastically. I fell in love with that handsome and practical man.

Editor/Taihang Xia? Author/Qingguo

One?

I must admit that when I married Qiao Anguo, I was just coveting his beauty. This is true!

His family has five brothers and sisters. One of them became blind and mute due to a cold and fever when he was a child. When I married him, my dad was so angry that he was hospitalized.

My family comes from an authentic scholarly family, my parents are both university professors, and my younger siblings are all married to either rich or noble people. Although I failed to get into college, after graduating from technical secondary school, I worked as an accountant in a state-owned enterprise. My husband, Qiao Anguo, was just an ordinary worker with no house or money, and a disabled brother who needed to be supported by the whole family.

However, when Qiao Anguo was still Xiao Qiao, he was 182cm tall with handsome facial features. His work clothes were always clean and straight, and the fake collar inside his work clothes was always dazzlingly white. I was a nymphomaniac. Pursue him wholeheartedly.

After we got married, his whole family and I lived together, and our lives were very chaotic. After my son Qiao Le was born, my parents couldn't bear it and asked me to move back to my parents' home.

Qiao Anguo is the eldest son in the family. He is a good cook and a professional in housekeeping. Since we moved back home, our brothers and sisters have obviously gone home more frequently, not for anything else but for the table of good meals that Qiao Anguo prepared.

Gradually, Qiao Anguo became the super nanny of our family. Everyone asked him to do various housework with peace of mind. The attitude was very obvious - since you can't make money, you should do the logistics work well. .

This includes me.

It is no exaggeration to say that since childhood, except for breastfeeding, which I have done personally, Qiao Anguo has taken care of almost everything else.

His hard work and hard work allowed us to live a harmonious and warm life, but there was only one thing that made me unhappy, and that was Qiao Anguo's concern for his poor family.

My mother is sick today, my brother will get married tomorrow, my sister will get married the day after tomorrow, something will happen to my disabled brother the day after tomorrow, etc. In short, the family is like a mess of threads, tangled together and chaotic. Keep cutting.

When I first moved away from my mother-in-law’s house, I would go back during the holidays. However, as the conversation kept getting worse, I rarely went back even once a year. If someone had a happy event, I would Basically not present, only money, no people.

As time went by, I turned a blind eye to the fact that Qiao Anguo secretly saved money to support his family.

Marrying Qiao Anguo may seem unsuitable to others, but I enjoy it. At least in this marriage, I can be willful because of my superiority.

Two?

What’s more, Qiao Anguo is such a practical husband.

As my parents grew older, they were sick and hospitalized more often. Every time my parents were sick, my younger brothers and sisters would only contribute money but not any help. I was clumsy, so Qiao Anguo took care of me without any regrets.

Mom and dad were gradually moved by Qiao Anguo, and their attitude towards him was no longer as condescending as before, but became more and more dependent on him.

My father died of illness in 2016. He stayed on the bed for 4 years, and Qiao Anguo took care of him throughout the whole process. He made the withdrawal in advance, and my three siblings and I were happy to be the shopkeepers. Before my father died, he left me a message: "Be nice to Xiao Qiao. Our family owes him."

After my father left, my mother's health deteriorated and she couldn't live without people for a moment. I was so tired. Back pain. My sister opened her own company, so she asked Qiao Anguo to take over the important task of taking care of her mother on the pretext of asking me to help in the company.

When my mother passed away in November 2017, she made a will and gave all her property and the house where she lived to Qiao Anguo.

Before she passed away, my mother said to the three of us sisters with tears in her eyes: "Your father and I are actually failures. None of the three of you can stand up to Xiao Qiao..." Then, holding Qiao Anguo's hand hand, eyes closed.

My younger brothers and sisters, including me, were very unhappy about this. As my sister said, for an incompetent person like Qiao Anguo, hard work is not his virtue, but his means of making a living. What's more, he relied on this trick to win real estate and nearly 300,000 yuan in savings from his parents, which was considered a counterattack in the life of a poor boy.

Of course, if my sister says this about Lao Qiao, I still have to protect him. Fortunately, after a few sarcastic words from the younger brother and sister, the matter ended.

After their parents left, they still often came to the door uninvited, like servants: "Brother-in-law, I want to eat mackerel dumplings", "Brother-in-law, I am greedy for the fried beans you made." Braised pork ribs."

I deposited the 300,000 yuan left by my parents directly in my name and planned to leave it to my son Qiao Le. I'm afraid that the money will go into the hands of Qiao Anguo, and he will go behind my back to help his younger brothers and sisters who are not well off.

After my parents passed away, Qiao Anguo had no burden and began to take care of his old mother and have frequent gatherings with his brothers and sisters. Once in a while, I would have a headache for many days.

They discussed from beginning to end how much money they can get in retirement, where the kidney beans are cheap, and how to dry radish and melon seeds this season... In just three sentences, they couldn't do without eating, drinking, and having sex, and they were still chatting lively.

Every time he went back, Qiao Anguo would bring back all kinds of food and said to me lightly: "My family asked me to bring it to you." I didn't say anything, but I was thinking in my heart: The money I have spent helping them over the years has been enough to buy these things.

Later, my father-in-law and mother-in-law also passed away. However, Qiao Anguo's family still gathers once or twice a week, which is nothing more than eating and drinking together.

Three?

Of course, there are always misfortunes and misfortunes. No matter what, I never expected that I, who lives an extremely delicate life, would be finally diagnosed with mid-stage lymphoma during a routine annual physical examination. .

I was sitting on the floor of the hospital and quickly called Qiao Anguo. Qiao Anguo helped me contact the doctor with ease, arranged hospitalization, and scheduled an operation date. In the past few years, he had only dealt with hospitals.

After everything was in order, I remembered to report the bad news to my younger siblings. As a result, my brother was on a business trip in the United States, and my sister and her family of three were traveling in Hainan. They all transferred money to my card in unison and said to me proudly: "Sister, you don't have to worry about money."

Yes, money is the greatest source of confidence for people when they are ill.

However, after the operation, no matter how confident I was, I was still panicking. Qiao Anguo was busy here and there, doing shit and pissing, and his son Xiaole occasionally came to help. However, even if he didn't say anything, I could tell - he looked confused. More often than not, he just sits next to me with his cell phone, seeing everything, and even asks me to remind him.

Seeing that his son was careless, Qiao Anguo simply stayed with him 24 hours a day. As a result, within three days, his high pressure reached 180.

Xiao Le said to his father: "How long has it been and you are still giving up your life and not your money? Please hire a caregiver. If you both fall down, how can I take care of you by myself?"

That tone is so much like me in the past. Caring is part of it, being troublesome is the truth.

This time, Qiao Anguo also got angry: "Your mother is such a face-saving person, how can she tolerate the nurse turning her over and catching her feces and urine? This is a matter of money!"

Looking at Qiao Anguo's purple-yellow complexion, my heart skipped a beat and I asked the head nurse to hire a nurse for me and ordered Qiao Anguo to be hospitalized to lower my blood pressure.

Qiao Anguo agreed and told me that he would go home to get some things. However, less than five minutes after he left home, his WeChat group exploded.

Although I am in the group, I can’t speak more than two sentences for a year. I just watch their brothers and sisters saying good morning and good night every day, posting various home-cooked dishes and taking selfies, and I don’t know where to laugh while talking. joke.

That day, they all @ me one after another, saying: "Sister-in-law, you didn't tell me when you were sick. You really don't care about my family." "Sister-in-law, what do you want to eat? I will bring it to you later." , "Sister-in-law, I just learned that you are sick. I will accompany you tonight"...

Before I could reply one by one, my sister-in-law had already rushed into the ward first. Her unit is not far from my hospital. to a place two hundred meters away.

As soon as she saw me in the house, my sister-in-law's eyes turned red: "Sister-in-law, you actually asked my brother to hide such a big thing from us. If my brother hadn't been sick too, he would have been too busy. Well, he didn’t talk about it, and we were just eating and drinking at home like normal people.”

I felt hot inside.

This fast-talking sister-in-law was like a gust of wind. She went out without saying a few words. When she came back, she had newly bought sheets and pillows in her hands and helped me put them on one by one: "Sister-in-law, I know you love to be clean." Then he took out all the lunch boxes and chopsticks from the cabinet and washed them again, complaining: "My brother is a man, but he can't do this job.

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My sister-in-law has not been idle since she entered the house. After a while, the three brothers-in-law and the second sister-in-law and their respective wives and husbands all came. They talked about what I should eat and what I should eat in the evening. Whoever stays to accompany me accuses me of treating them as outsiders...

Their family has this ability, and wherever they go, they quickly become a vegetable market, full of the fireworks of life

After several discussions, the second brother-in-law who worked as a bus dispatcher quickly made a duty schedule and posted it in the family WeChat group.

Except for the deaf-mute third brother, the other two brothers, My younger siblings, my younger sister, and my brother-in-law are all on the escort duty list, including who buys groceries, who cooks, and what time the shift is to be handed over. The second brother-in-law said in the group: "It's like before. Similarly, those who can take annual leave can take annual leave, and those who cannot take off can coordinate the day shift and night shift by themselves. "

After the second brother-in-law handed out the duty list, the brothers and sisters responded one after another: "OK", "As expected of a leader, he has organizational skills", "Second brother, I give you a thumbs up"...< /p>

In this way, Qiao Anguo’s brothers and sisters took action. They came to the hospital in an orderly manner every day to accompany them. The meals they brought were carefully matched every time. They knew that I loved cleanliness and changed my bed sheets and pillowcases every day. I was pessimistic. They either taught me to watch Tik Tok or read me short jokes from the Internet...

The patients in the same room said with envy: "There is such a united family now. ”

And my heart is both warm and ashamed.

This is the first time I have been so close to them since I got married, and it is also the first time I know that they They love each other so passionately. Qiao Anguo only had acute hypertension. However, after one day in the hospital, the doctor prescribed sleeping pills. After a full night's sleep, his blood pressure stabilized. However, every time his blood pressure came out, the younger brother who was accompanying him would appear. My sister immediately posted the message in the group, and everyone cheered.

As a person who is ill, his mind is delicate and sensitive. I immediately understood Qiao Anguo’s enthusiasm and devotion to that poor family, such love. Being loved is such a charming part between people.

In the end, it is only the few people around us who determine the joys and sorrows of our lives. A sensible person in family relationships.

When my sister-in-law mentioned that her brother was sick, her tears were like running water. She told me that when she was in school, her eldest brother always gave her money because he was afraid that her family would be poor. I went to see her, gave her all the money in my pocket, and then took a ride all the way back to Dalian from Zhengzhou.

When the third brother-in-law married his younger sister, he had no money to buy a house, and his parents firmly disagreed. I took my younger siblings with me to renovate the small yard of their parents' home, built a fence, dug a fish pond, planted flowers and grapes, and said to their parents: "Although our family has no money, we have people in our family." . When your younger siblings marry into our family, you are equivalent to having five more children. From now on, we will be here whenever you call us. ”

This sincerity finally moved the parents of the younger siblings. What Qiao Anguo said at the beginning was also fulfilled later. All five of them were present at the big and small events at the parents’ house of the younger siblings. Turning other people's parents into my own parents

And when they heard that I was sick, my siblings' parents came here almost every day, taking the bus three times just to take a look. I tried to dissuade them several times, but the aunt said: "When people are sick, they miss their parents most. They are gone, so we will come to see you every day for them." ”

Such people and things accompanied me while I was in the hospital, making me feel hope of living from the bottom of my heart every time I was in pain, discouraged, and desperate.

I even regretted, Over the years, I have been like an outsider, isolated from their world, aloof and disdainful. However, how many trivial moments of true love have I missed?

What about my own younger brothers and sisters? After my brother gave me the money, he didn't ask me about my post-operative condition, as if I didn't have cancer but a cold.

My sister who was traveling in Hainan ordered flowers for me online at 8 o'clock every morning. Sent to the ward on time. After returning from the trip, he came to the hospital to see me once. Seeing how strict Qiao Anguo's brothers and sisters were in scheduling, he said to me with great relief: "Sister, their family's time is not valuable." Then I should go to work, someone has to make money. Just say something if you need money.

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She always wore a thick mask and gloves on her hands. She always kept a half-meter distance from me. She was equipped as if she was visiting a SARS patient. Looking at My sister's elegant back made me feel cold.

On the sixth day after the operation, a lump the size of a fist suddenly bulged in my back. It hurt so much that I felt like I might not have much more to live. The attending doctor was on a business trip in Beijing. After hearing about my situation, the doctor rushed back to Dalian at six o'clock in the morning, and I was pushed into the operating room by Qiao Anguo's brother and sister at seven o'clock. Standing at the door of the operating room, the two sisters-in-law's eyes were as red as rabbits.

I suddenly envied their poor and loving family. They were loved and cared for by my brother, and they lived a sincere and enthusiastic life. , cry when you want, laugh when you want, and can quickly empathize with other people's sufferings.

When I was about to enter the operating room, Qiao Anguo held my hand and said to me: "Don't be afraid. , my brothers and sisters and I are staying outside with you. When you come out, I will make your favorite three-fresh wontons for you. ”

In the past, I would have ridiculed him for knowing how to eat, and I would have asked him if he had any medical knowledge. However, at this moment, I am so dependent on him, and I finally understand that he loves him like a child. Me, a delicious meal is the way he has always used to comfort his family throughout his life in his fifties - this is a big brother's habit and his unique trick.

After the disaster. For the rest of my life, the bulge on my back turned out to be due to a ruptured artery. If it had been half an hour later, I might have died. After I came out of the operating room, I just woke up and watched them hugging each other and crying. As a human being, I asked myself: What virtues and abilities do I have to deserve such heartfelt care from them?

After the crisis was over, my younger brothers and sisters took turns taking care of me. When they took over the shift, they were like doctors doing rounds. They explained everything carefully.

The selfishness and coldness that I had grown up with for many years was melted away by them.

After a month and a half, I was discharged from the hospital. , my second uncle scheduled my shift again, and posted the schedule of my subsequent chemotherapy and the list of their escorts in the group. Every day, my younger brothers and sisters would always @ me and ask me how I felt today and if there was anything I wanted to eat...< /p>

After I was discharged from the hospital, Qiao Anguo and I went to the market to buy a bunch of vegetables every weekend, and then called my younger brothers and sisters, including mine, to go home for dinner together.

Qiao Anguo. Anguo's younger brothers and sisters entered the house, changed their clothes, and then went into the kitchen. No one was idle, and they arranged a table of food as quickly as building blocks.

Looking at them frying and frying. I was chatting in the room and was half-drunk because of the tens of yuan salary increase. I no longer disliked it, but enjoyed it. Except for life and death, everything else is trivial. Life is not about fighting over these trivial matters and living a passionate life.

After I got seriously ill, my "personality changed drastically" and I began to care about food and vegetables, and began to "meddle" in the lives of my younger brothers and sisters, hoping to use Qiao Anguo's strong family affection to warm up the family. My smart and cold brothers and sisters, let them stay together for the rest of their lives.

Life can determine the joys and sorrows of your life, but the heroine in the article once disliked her husband. and his small-town relatives, but at the critical moment, it was these relatives who guarded her sincerely and gave her endless support and encouragement.

It is only when prosperity comes to an end that we can understand that there is more than material things. What's important is just love.