Examples of affinity motives

Affinity motivation refers to the intrinsic motivation that needs to be close to people. For example, needing the care and help of others, friendship, love, recognition and acceptance, support and cooperation are all affinity motives. Social behaviors driven by affinity motivation and manifested externally include attachment to relatives, making friends, family reunion, and joining social groups (including professional, academic, political and entertainment groups). Affinity motivation is purely social and is formed through learning. Its satisfaction can increase personal security, thus avoiding the anxiety caused by loneliness. The individual differences can be measured by projection method.

Psychologist schacter (S, Schachter, 1959) studied the relationship between affinity motivation and anxiety through experiments, and found that affinity motivation was enhanced when people were frightened. But when anxious, the affinity tendency is low. Shakot also found that people with strong affinity motivation are mostly the eldest daughter and only daughter in the family. The eldest son, eldest daughter and only child have high affinity motivation, which is probably related to the parenting style. Generally speaking, mothers always give more attention and care to their first child (including the only child), so as to cultivate children's more dependence on their mothers.