Mr. H and I (Meeting Love on Douban)

I was born in the south in 1995. I studied at a university in Chengdu. I have graduated for more than a year now and am currently living in Beijing with Mr. H. Mr. H, born in 1988, is a northerner. He has been in the north from his birth to his studies to his current job. He and I are currently living together happily. We raised a cat together and named it Ice Cream. The two of us had one cat and three meals, and we were happy

Our encounter

originated from Douban. In the early summer of 2017, I was about to go to college. Graduation and graduation defense are all over, and I stay at school every day waiting for graduation. Once people get bored, they want to have some fun. My fun at that time was to read various posts in my group. I liked the sweet "We are together" posts the most. Just looking at them made me feel like I wanted to fall in love. During college, I was busy with part-time jobs, chasing stars and traveling, and I didn’t even bother to find a boyfriend. At that time, there was a post in the group about making friends, chatting in the WeChat group, and if the chat lasted for a long time, everyone could travel together. I really like traveling, so I joined immediately when I saw this. The members of this group include college students and working people, about 20 people. Everyone chats about life and work together, and sometimes they also have voice chats, which is very interesting. Mr. H joined the group after me. It was close to 520, and the group was busy forming CPs. I also wanted to have a friend, so I took the initiative to contact Mr. H. As for why it was Mr. H, it was all fate. We both have the same idol - May Day. I am really very kind and happy to treat Wu Mi.

I took the initiative to say hello to Mr. H, added him as a friend, and asked him if he wanted to form a CP. My personality is that if I like it, I will take the initiative to do it and will not wait for the other person. I speak first, I am very good at expressing my emotions, maybe because I am still young and fearless. Mr. H rejected me at first. He was several years older than me and had been working for several years. He thought more comprehensively and rejected me decisively (I thought Mr. H was really conservative at the time and was just a group CP. Everyone Just chatting, nothing to lose). After a night of thinking, really just one night, Mr. H accepted it (after we got together, I asked him why he changed his mind in just one night, and his answer was to give himself a chance, so I... ...), and then we formed a CP. The amazing thing is that I thought we were just a group CP, but I didn’t expect that our private chats became so high that we became a long-distance couple online.

My plan after graduation was to travel across the country as a Youth Hostel volunteer. The first stop was Beijing, where Mr. H was working at the time. This small premise determines that we will develop into a real couple in the future. Now that I think about it, why I chose Mr. H at that time? In addition to being a five-year-old fan, maybe being in Beijing also had an influence. In my heart, I may have regarded Mr. H as my future boyfriend. When it comes to volunteering in youth hostels, I really have to thank my parents. After I graduated from high school, I started free-range mode. The university is very far from home. My hometown is in the south and is close to the sea. I chose Chengdu, which is in the middle and west, which is far away. After I went to college, I completely let myself go. I often traveled to other cities to do volunteer work during the winter and summer vacations. So I went to Beijing immediately after graduating from college. My parents were very accepting of the fact that I was far away from home. In my senior year, I also studied abroad for half a year ( Of course, my family background is just an ordinary one, but my parents are relatively supportive of me, and they feel a bit rich. They support me spiritually, and also provide appropriate help materially. This richness is more perfectly reflected after I am with Mr. H. )

After forming CP with Mr. H, I was not that into the zone at first, but Mr. H was more serious. At that time, there happened to be a small incident that made me feel that Mr. H was very good to me.

Our school holds the graduation ceremony in June. After returning to China, I stayed at the school waiting for graduation. In May, a Japanese friend of mine came to visit me. I acted as a tour guide to take her around Chengdu, and then she needed to find a hotel. Since I couldn't speak Chinese, I had to stay in a hotel with her. I had just returned to China and had little money and no part-time job. I was too embarrassed to ask my parents for money (asking for living expenses from my parents was something I basically didn't have in my junior year. At that time, my part-time income was pretty good) I had relatively little money on hand, enough to eat, drink and have fun. I booked a hotel for a few nights in advance, but I needed to make changes at the last minute. There was no way to refund the hotel money in time, and many of my friends were students. , I couldn’t borrow much, so I asked my friends who were already working in the group to borrow money. After the hotel refunded the money, I transferred it to them. A young lady transferred the money to me first, and the hotel problem was solved in time. That night, Mr. H actually privately chatted with the young lady about repaying the money I borrowed. I really didn't expect that, because I always felt that our relationship was not good enough for this kind of relationship, and I have never been able to accept the fact that the man keeps providing money in a relationship. After all, I am independent and I am also making money. I couldn't accept this kind of relying on each other all the time. I hope we can be equal to each other. Mr. H even asked me in the evening why I didn't talk to him about this kind of thing. He was my boyfriend (we used to chat on voice calls every day to talk about life, but I haven't adapted to life with a boyfriend so quickly).

I felt very romantic after listening to it. I have been alone for a long time. It is great to have someone to give me this kind of warmth. It turns out that falling in love is so happy. Of course, I am talking about feelings. In the eyes of outsiders, I am very free and live a very chic life, but in fact, it is largely because of a person that I can be like this. A strong person will be like this if he is used to it. Many times, I have to rely on myself. Mr. H made me become smaller. A woman gave me something to rely on, and he really touched me at that time. This incident was a catalyst that made our relationship better and softened me. In the days after, my Japanese friend said that my whole being was full of sweetness.

After I became a CP, I chatted with Mr. H every day. From being reserved at the beginning to being casual later, Mr. H tolerated my immaturity and my little temper, because he is many years older than me. , I used to always take care of the friends around me, but now I am the one being taken care of, which feels good. As I neared graduation and left school, the day to meet Mr. H came faster and faster. At that time, I said that I was going to live in Beijing. Mr. H was quite surprised and thought I was going to see him. But in fact, the starting point of my original plan was Beijing, and the person I happened to like was also in Beijing. But this point has never convinced others. Everyone thought that I was looking for Mr. H. After all, I still live in Beijing because of him.

A few days before the graduation ceremony, Mr. H formally discussed with me whether he wanted to attend my graduation ceremony. I was really flattered, a little expected and a little scared. In fact, I was still a little bit My ideal type is a tall and handsome guy like Nam Joo Hyuk. But in fact, Mr. H is not tall, but neither am I. We are a good match together. It’s easy to talk on paper. I can talk all the time on WeChat calls, but I still feel a little nervous when meeting people in person. I will take the initiative to say hello to strangers, but Mr. You see, I’m very nervous. In the end, I stopped Mr. H from coming to see me, since I would be heading north in a few days anyway.

Before I saw Mr. H, I vowed that I would say hello and hug him first, but when the day came, I became timid. God was probably going to test us that day. The flight was delayed for a long time. The flight was supposed to arrive at noon in the evening, but it was almost canceled due to heavy rain. I was taken to the hotel to rest. I kept telling Mr. H that I really wanted to hurry up. We met, but it turned out that it was much later. The plane took off at night and arrived in Beijing in the early morning. Mr. H waited for me at the airport all night. It was really hard on him. I was dressed nicely and put on makeup beforehand, but because of the delay, I was completely confused, and my overall mental state was not very good. I didn’t even have the hug I promised before, but just blankly, Mr. H took the initiative to hug me. He even brought me a coat to wear, took the initiative to hold my hand, and helped me carry my suitcase, and I followed him home blankly.

In the taxi, he even told his friends that he had picked me up. It was really sweet. We were in a long-distance relationship after not seeing each other for a long time. We were really a couple. I had this real feeling at that time.

The story of Mr. H and I is very long, so today I will write about our encounter first.

I hope you will find someone who will tolerate and love you.