Why do you say that success belongs to confident people?

Self-confidence is like a catalyst for ability, which can mobilize all human potential and push the functions of all parts to the best state.

A student facing graduation asked the teacher this question-"Modern industrial and commercial society is a standard academic society, and a person's whole future is often decided by his poor university. Because preconceived ideas have penetrated into the minds of ordinary people. This is really a very helpless thing, which often makes people feel indignant. What do you think, teacher? "

The teacher replied, "if you really believe this, you are likely to become like that." If you think you are just a graduate of a third-rate university, you are likely to live a third-rate life all your life. On the contrary, if you think to yourself: Although I am only a third-rate college graduate, I don't want to be a third-rate person, let alone live a third-rate life all my life. If you really think so and make unremitting efforts towards this goal, you will certainly be able to live a first-class life. "

The student cocked his head, apparently dismissing the meaning of the teacher's words, so the teacher went on to say:

"Society is not as simple as imagined. It is not certain that the graduate of the first first-class university will have a bright future waiting for him. On the journey of life, there will never be an express train that can take you to your destination as soon as possible; Similarly, on the other hand, there will be no extra local trains. For a simple example, people who graduate from famous universities often lead a dull life all their lives. Some people can become successful operators even after graduating from primary school, and live a full and energetic life every day. These examples. Aren't they all facts that we have eyes to see? "

However, the students are not very convinced, he said:

"I often hear people advise me and encourage me. However, I think these are very exceptional. Like former Japanese Prime Minister tanaka kakuei, he did not graduate from university, but he became prime minister, even known as the prime minister of the common people. However, in your tone, don't you also imply that most prime ministers graduated from first-class universities? Most factory operators also graduated from top universities. Isn't it? "

The teacher nodded and said, "Yes, what you said is very reasonable. That's the problem." That's true. In our society, graduates from famous universities are really active and popular. Why? What is the difference? When entering a university, many people are often assigned to second-rate schools with only one point difference. However, this does not prove that their abilities will be very different. A successful entrepreneur once said: people who graduate from ordinary universities are easy to manage. The implication seems to be that graduates from famous universities are far apart from each other. Honestly, this is the key. Graduates from first-class universities have long been unwilling to learn thinking methods, and most of them have' naive ideas', that is,' they graduated from first-class universities, so they will have a bright future'. It is with this awareness that you can make yourself a truly positive and capable person. "

The student asked again, "What is the way of thinking?"

"Just believe that you will succeed. In other words, even uneducated people can get the same result as long as they learn this way of thinking. People who graduated from top universities are so active in society, which can prove that this idea is correct. " This "thinking method" is actually a kind of self-confidence. Self-confidence plays an inestimable role in a person's life development. Whether intellectually or physically, or in various abilities, self-confidence occupies a position supported by a cornerstone. If a person lacks self-confidence, he will lack the initiative and enthusiasm to explore things, and his ability will naturally be restricted. An education expert once did an experiment, treating students with poor grades as students in excellent classes and teaching an excellent class as a problem class. After a while, I found that the situation changed: in the summary test after the experiment, the average scores of the two classes far apart were almost the same. The reason is that teachers don't know the truth, and treat poor students with a kind attitude, which encourages students' self-confidence and greatly improves their learning enthusiasm. However, the original excellent class students are influenced by the teacher's skeptical attitude, and their confidence is frustrated, which leads to the change of learning attitude and affects their academic performance.

There is also a famous experiment in psychology: a girl is ugly, so she lacks self-confidence, doesn't like to dress herself up, is sloppy all day and doesn't make progress. In order to change her, psychologists ask everyone to say "you are beautiful", "you are very capable" and "you did a good job today" to the ugly girl every day. After a period of hard work, people are surprised to find that girls are really much more beautiful. In fact, her appearance has not changed, but her mental state has changed. Instead of being sloppy, she became fond of dressing up and actively and bravely expressed herself. How can such a big change happen? Its root lies in self-confidence. Because the girl has confidence in herself, everyone thinks she is much more beautiful than before.

Believe in yourself! Believe in your ability! If you don't have the minimum and moderate confidence in your own strength, you can't succeed at all, and you can't be happy. With proper self-confidence, you will succeed. Having inferiority complex and psychological defects will hinder the realization of hope, but self-confidence can make people realize themselves and succeed.

However, in reality, many people have "insufficient confidence" in themselves. A writer pointed out that two-thirds of the people in the world are malnourished, and the difference is only different in degree. Similarly, two-thirds of people in the world lack self-confidence, but to varying degrees. Malnutrition prevents people from developing normally; Lack of self-confidence will hinder people from developing their potential. It is precisely because this attitude towards life is very important that a person must first fully believe in himself if he wants to play his inherent potential and succeed.

Self-confidence is like a catalyst for ability, which can mobilize all human potential and push the functions of all parts to the best state. In many successful people, we can see the great role that extraordinary self-confidence plays. These successful people, driven by self-confidence, dare to put forward higher requirements for themselves, see hope in failure and finally succeed.

Looking at many successful people in history, you will find that many people started even worse than you, but they all succeeded. The reason is that they are confident and have a strong desire for success.

Lincoln thought: "If a person decides to achieve some kind of happiness, he will certainly get it." In other words: there is only one condition for success, and you are destined to have the hope of success. That is: you should work hard, always believe that you will succeed, and never stop working hard!

Samuel smiles found that many people always try their best in some subtle places, but have no lofty goals. Such short-sighted people are far less competitive in life than those who are talented and ambitious.

When we consider success, we will not take university education, family background and other conditions as the standard. We will take the greatness and smallness of our thoughts as the standard, and the size of our thoughts determines the size of our success. Now, let's see how to make our thoughts ambitious.

Have you ever asked yourself, "What is my greatest weakness?" Perhaps the greatest weakness of human beings is self-depreciation-looking down on themselves. There are many manifestations of self-devaluation. For example, someone saw a job advertisement in the newspaper, which is exactly what he missed so much. But ... he thought, "I'm not qualified to do this. Why bother yourself? " Or he wants to date a girl he likes, but he is afraid to call her because he thinks he is not good enough for her. Philosophers have given us a very important piece of advice since ancient times: know yourself! But most people just take this advice as understanding the negative self. They see too many mistakes, shortcomings and incompetence.

Knowing your own shortcomings is a good thing, because no one is perfect. However, if you only know your negative side, the situation will be very bad. This will make us feel that our lives are worthless.

Here are some ways to help measure your true value:

① Know your five advantages. Ask a few objective friends to help you find the advantages, and they will give you a true view (the most common advantages are related to education, experience, technology, looks, family life harmony, attitude, personality, initiative and so on. ).

(2) Under each advantage, write down the names of three people who have achieved great success; But in these respects, they are not as good as you.

When you finish this exercise, you will find that you have surpassed many successful people in at least one respect.

You will come to the conclusion that you are much greater than you think. To this end, let your thoughts keep up with the real you, and don't look down on yourself!

3 regard yourself as a very important person in the world; Realize your importance. You know, when you think you are an important person in the world, it doesn't mean arrogance.

You shouldn't take the phrase "value yourself" as self-worship. It is a kind of self-obsession that focuses on oneself and excludes others. As long as you follow the possible development direction, do your work patiently, let yourself grow and accept your growth, because you are important. Then you should go out and see the world, share your achievements with others and make the world warm. Such training every day will make you pay more attention to your true side; Where there is demand, there is creativity at your fingertips.

What do you get when you keep trying and working hard every day to rekindle your sincere enthusiasm, strengthen your self-confidence, and then accept yourself and get closer to yourself? What you get: value yourself.