Is it worth it for a rural family to become destitute just to support three college students in school?

Let me tell you a story about my younger brother’s family. My younger brother has a pair of children. The older one is a daughter and the younger one is a child. The younger brother is a pure farmer. Because they have to take care of their children, they do not go out to work. They only do odd jobs in their hometown, mainly working as a contractor for bricklayers, and their income is meager.

However, both children like to study very much. Since entering junior high school, the younger brother has wanted to take his daughter home to help with the work. However, my eldest niece has loved reading since she was a child and refuses to stop reading. I have criticized my brother's ideas many times. When I saw that my daughter had good grades and was very motivated, I stopped thinking about it.

The most difficult period started when my daughter and son were in their third year of high school and their first year in high school. High school fees were relatively high. These two children had never missed a single class. Moreover, their junior high school was in a township middle school. Read. Because there are no high schools in villages and towns, high schools can only go to the county town, which also costs extra food expenses.

At that time, I was seconded to the Education Bureau. I went to the senior high school many times to intercede with my two children to postpone their payment and advanced their fees many times. He also found his brother and his wife to work at home many times to encourage them to persevere.

In that year, my sister-in-law fell ill and went to Nanjing for an operation. The family, which already had no savings, simply made matters worse. They really planned to give up this time. I firmly refused and tried every means possible to help them overcome their difficulties and tried every means to inspire their confidence.

Later, the children were admitted to college one after another. Fortunately, they had student loans, which made their college dreams come true. The daughter also worked part-time, worked as a tutor, and completed graduate school. The boy also graduated from college. These two children have never encountered any problems in employment. Children from rural areas can endure hardships and study solidly. They were signed before they graduated.

I recall that when my niece and nephew were in high school and college, their family was the target of ridicule in the village. Many children in the village went out to work to earn money before graduating from junior high school, but the two of them kept spending money. . People have built buildings, but my younger brother's family only has two side rooms and cannot even build a bungalow.

However, now, the facts are slapping those who had laughed at my younger brother’s family in the face. The nephew and niece are doing research and development work in two famous electrical companies respectively. Those who went out to hang out in junior high school and saved many years of money to build the buildings. This is the yearly salary of the niece and nephew. In other words, if their family wants to build a house, they can build two small Western-style houses in a year.

However, the niece and nephew both said that they would not build a house. They would buy a house in Hangzhou and let their parents go there instead of farming. In terms of financial income alone, the initial poverty was worth it. What's more, the status of the two children is incomparable to those living in the countryside. They have successfully become social elites and separated from the bottom class of society.

The story is over. Is it worth it for a rural family to become impoverished just to support three college students? Everyone should have the answer. Yes, the experience of my brother’s family has already given the answer to this question.

This question is very touching because I am the mother of three college students, a nephew from my husband’s family, and two sons. My nephew was the first to score 624 in the college entrance examination and entered Chongqing University. On the day I got the notice, I shed tears of excitement and cooked a table of dishes. The whole family happily celebrated him.

A year later, the eldest son saw that his brother could pass the exam, why couldn’t I? After a lot of hard work, he scored 684 points in the college entrance examination, which was more than 130 points above the undergraduate level at the time. However, when choosing a school, the Russian language was limited and he was not admitted. Get admitted to the school you want to go to.

Two years later, the younger son saw his two older brothers entering college one after another. He was not willing to fall behind and was admitted to Shandong University of Technology with a score of 580.

Although the children are very competitive and have four years of undergraduate studies, it is really difficult for an ordinary family. Every time the holidays and annual holidays end and school starts, they have to pay one semester's tuition and living expenses. , plus information books and paper, it’s a lot of money. In order to collect the money, I borrowed money here and there, even willing to sell my kidneys and blood. If I say too much else, I will shed tears.

To say whether it is worth it or not, I personally think it is.

Today, with the rapid development of society, the importance of cultural knowledge is even more reflected. Educational qualifications are also a personal sign. No matter where you go, you will not try to climb the ladder. If you have no education or education, you can still make money, but the work intensity is different and the quality of life is also different!

Worth it! My family is a living example. I have two girls and one boy. The eldest girl is a college graduate, and the second girl and son are both college graduates. Now they have graduated, Da Ya is a primary school teacher, Erya is engaged in quantitative design in Wushi, and his son is engaged in structural design of construction engineering in Ushi, and they are all able to support themselves.

Although my wife and I suffered a lot to send our children to school at that time, we were really tired and owed some debt, but I have worked hard to pay it off, and now life is getting better and better. Things are getting better and better, and I feel worthy and happy from the bottom of my heart. I feel honored and proud to have three upbeat and obedient children!

Perfection and excellence should be pursued in life

Xinghan

Life must have its own value.

If a person cannot make his life brilliant,

there is no reason to make it dim;

Life can be ordinary,

But don’t be vulgar or degenerate;

Life is not about how much you grab,

but it is about pursuing perfection and excellence in the process!

——This is the motto of my children and I.

My family’s family motto is:

How does a family prosper? Remember these six words, and everything will be prosperous if the family is harmonious:

1. Harmony: To rectify a person first, rectify yourself first; to govern a country first, govern a family; if the country is peaceful and the people are happy, the family will be harmonious and blessed.

2. Ambition: If a man has no ambition, his family will be unhappy; if a woman is not gentle, she will drive away wealth.

3. Sincerity: Although the descendants may be foolish, they must read the scriptures; although the ancestors are far away, the sacrifices must not be dishonest.

4. Frugality: Those who accumulate extensively will bring harm to their descendants; those who are sensual will ruin their lives.

5. Sameness: A family must be of one mind, so why worry about everything being unhappy; if you make things difficult for me, half of the success of the family will be lost.

6. Diligence: Diligence and thrift are the foundation of one’s life, and farming and studying are the foundation of one’s family. Great blessings are all the same as destiny, and small wealth must be diligent.

Future generations must pass it on from generation to generation and strictly abide by it!

Strive for:

Be honest and calm, abide by the law and be patriotic;

Be low-key and work efficiently;

Be persistent, brave and tenacious;

Be grateful and never forget your original intention!

Honour, disgrace and love are not surprised at all changes,

Let’s help each other and move forward together!

Xinghan · 2018.12.18 at home∨

Is it worth it for a rural family to become impoverished for the sake of marrying three college students?

If it is Liu Yuanyuan, a girl from Peking University, I think everyone will think it is worth it. Even if she cannot enter a top university like Tsinghua University and Peking University, if she can enter a 985211 upper-middle-level university and choose a popular major, she will be able to find a good job after graduation. Work, in fact, many people think it is worthwhile.

I have a relative in a rural area who was originally poor. However, both of his sons were admitted to the Department of Architecture of Harbin Institute of Technology. The tuition and living expenses were not enough. In the end, they had to sell the house and the couple moved. Living in a temporary house on the mountain, life was very shabby during those few years, but the couple gritted their teeth and survived. A few years later. My two sons have graduated. The eldest son works in a private company in Beijing, and the second son works in a state-owned enterprise in Shenyang. Up to now, the eldest son has bought three houses in Beijing, and one house each in Nanjing and Zhuhai. The second son doesn’t know how many houses he has, but he only knows how many houses he has. My father bought a villa in the suburbs of Shenyang. The water, electricity and property fees are 30,000 yuan per year, all of which are borne by his son.

When he goes home during the holidays, his daughter-in-law drives him back, but most of the children who drop out of school early to work in the houses next to him don't even have cars. Therefore, if their children can be admitted to a prestigious school, no matter whether they are urban or rural, poor or rich, most parents will do their best to support it.

However, as the distance between educational resources and economic conditions gradually increases, more rural children can only enter ordinary universities, or even second- and third-tier universities. Such schools not only have difficulty finding jobs, but also often have tuition fees. It is very high. Under such circumstances, a rural family becomes impoverished in order to support three college students. Whether it is worth it is a question that many people are struggling with.

In the past few days, my mother was receiving intravenous drips in the hospital because of dizziness. She met a rural couple. The eldest son was reading three books, and the second son was studying at a naval school. In order to support the two children’s studies, they also used the whole house and land. Sold. After graduation, the eldest son was assigned to work as a worker in Handan Steel. The second son worked in a shipyard after graduation. After giving birth to a second child, he could not make ends meet. He resigned and went to Dalian to run a boat. The old couple helped the second son take care of the child in Dalian for the first half of the year. I went to Handan for half a year to help my eldest son take care of the children. When I got sick and was hospitalized, I had to return to the city because the rural insurance was here and I could spend less money.

Looking at their old and haggard faces, I couldn’t help but say, it’s better not to read this book, and it’s not much worse to just get a job near home. The woman thought for a while and said, No, not all children can study, but it’s not wrong if they do. If the two of them didn’t study, I’m afraid they wouldn’t even be able to find such a job, and their life would definitely not be as good as it is now. We don’t compare with others, we compare with ourselves. That's it.

Nowadays, many media are promoting that it is difficult to produce a noble son from a poor family. What really determines your future is not your diploma, but your origin. A diploma that a child from a poor family earned after ten years of hard work is actually the enemy. But those elite parents have accumulated connections and resources for their children.

I don’t object to this point of view, but I believe that elite parents are still a minority after all, and the majority are ordinary people. After all, it is the children who have to struggle on their own. What determines the future life of these ordinary children is not the connections and connections of their parents. Resources, but the knowledge and courage of parents, have little to do with poverty and wealth in rural and urban areas.

I have a colleague who was among the best in school, but he could only choose between high school and technical school, not both. The principal went to his house several times to mobilize him to apply for high school and college in the future, but His parents believed that he had been working in a factory for a generation and had to have a child to take over. They advocated that he be admitted to a technical school. Thirty years later, there is no need to say more about the difference between going to a technical school and going to university. There are examples like this around me. Not just one, but more girls.

When I was young, I believed what my colleagues’ parents said was true. Now that I am getting older, my own children have also entered college. As expenses increase, I gradually understand the thoughts of those parents. Going to technical school is to increase income, and going to college is It is not surprising that some parents think so. It is a trade-off between increasing income.

In the final analysis, investment in education is actually the payment of money. The return rate is higher and the expectations are higher when admitted to a prestigious university. Parents are willing to pay more, but for those children who are not sure about being admitted to a prestigious university, The rate of return is lower, the expectation value is smaller, and it is even invisible. Whether it is worth it or not, the competition is the parents' pattern and courage. Families with poor economic conditions need more courage and perseverance.

Let me share my views with my own real examples!

I was born in a rural family with two older brothers, and my father died of illness when I was less than one year old. The eldest brother was six years old at the time, and the second brother was less than three years old. In fact, when my father passed away, the family was heavily in debt (to borrow money for his medical treatment), and there were three of us children waiting to be fed. I don’t need to explain how difficult life is to imagine.

In the following decades, my mother used her hands to support this family. She did not remarry for the sake of our three brothers and sisters. She not only wanted to provide for our food, clothing, housing and transportation, but also for us to have a good life. She had to run around and work day and night for our education. She had to do all the farm work by herself, and she also had to find time to go out and do odd jobs to earn tuition for us.

I remember that when we were in school, the situation was like this almost every year: at the beginning of each semester, my mother would take 100 yuan in her pocket to register the three of us. The eldest brother would have 35 yuan, the second brother would have 35 yuan, and I would have 30 yuan. Even if we just write down our names first to confirm the quota, at that time the school stipulated that we had to pay the tuition fee in order to receive new textbooks, so we often had to study for half a semester before we could have our own books (of course, that was not because we had collected all the books. We had to pay the tuition fees, but my mother repeatedly asked the school leaders for grace), and we could barely pay the tuition fees until the final exam of each semester. Relatives and friends who knew about our situation advised her more than once not to send us to school, especially as a girl. What’s the use of reading so many books? Sooner or later, I would have to marry and become someone else’s family. But my mother still insisted on sending us to school. She always told us that knowledge can change the fate of us children from poor families, because she did not want us to live a life of hardship like her.

The higher you get to senior year, the higher the cost. In the second year of my eldest brother’s normal school education, I graduated from elementary school and my second brother was in the second year of junior high school. My family was so poor that we couldn’t find fault (later my mother told me She said, we went to school and she didn’t stir-fry once in a week, and she ate pickles and sweet potatoes every meal, because there was really no oil and salt), so I took the initiative to take a leave of absence from school and leave the opportunity to my brother and the others. Two years later, my eldest brother graduated and started working, and I was sent back to school to finish my studies. Although our family did not send three college students at once, I went to another school before my second brother graduated from college. The pressure should not be underestimated, but my mother never thought about giving up. She could persevere as a woman, let alone a complete family?

Children from poor families need to work harder than children from rich families to succeed. So don’t give up on opportunities that are difficult to seize because of financial difficulties. It’s better to find ways to solve them, right? Today's policies are more complete than before. Loans, work-study programs, part-time jobs during school, studying hard to get scholarships, etc., can all alleviate financial pressure, right? Therefore, never give up easily, let alone struggle or doubt whether it is worth it, because the answer is definitely, "it is worth it".

Look at us today, we are all living a good life. Because we have experienced it, we know how to be grateful. We always remember what our mother has given us, so we are more filial to her, and we have the ability to gain. A better life, so also very happy!

When I saw the title "A rural family became impoverished in order to support three college students in school", I burst into tears because my own family was like this. Not only was it impoverished, but it was also heavily in debt. However, my answer remains the same: worth it, very worth it!

I was born in an authentic peasant family, and deep in the mountains, production and living conditions were very difficult. Our parents gave birth to four of our brothers and sisters, the eldest brother, the second brother, my sister and me. From the time I can remember, my father has inspired us by saying, "Children in rural areas, especially those in mountainous areas, will never get ahead and get out of the mountains if they don't study."

We have never been to kindergarten. From primary school, middle school to university, no matter how hard our parents were, they never allowed us to have the idea of ??not going to school. Now every time we think of the hardships and hardships our parents endured during those years of school. The family lives in embarrassment, and the tears can't stop flowing down.

Because the mountains in my hometown are high and the roads are far away, almost all the crops in the fields are planted with low yields. The farmland is mainly planted with flue-cured tobacco, cereals, and rice. The family raises chickens, ducks, geese, and a few pigs to supplement the family income, but every year After deducting production and living costs, the remaining money was not enough to pay for the tuition of four children. For this reason, the parents were worried.

I will always remember that every school season, when my father went to work in the fields, my mother would take stock of the grains, rice, etc. at home, leaving only a small amount of food, and she would carry the four of us brothers and sisters in our backpacks. I go to the market to sell my grains and rice. The market is far away from my home. I have to walk more than 20 kilometers of mountain roads. Sometimes I have to walk for several hours and carry it to the market, but I still don’t necessarily get a good price. Sometimes I also sell chickens. Ducks, geese or eggs, piece by piece to collect tuition.

In order to save every penny, my parents didn’t buy a new piece of clothing for many years. My father even stopped smoking after years of smoking. The four of us brothers and sisters also changed the clothes of my brother when they were too small for his younger siblings. wear. Sometimes when the money is not enough, my parents go to the rural credit cooperative to get a loan. People in the village laugh at their parents and say that they have seen people borrow money to build new houses and marry wives, but they have never seen people take loans to study, so it is not worth it.

However, our parents have always insisted that we go to school. They said that as long as the children are knowledgeable and educated, they will have their own jobs and will not be like them, facing the loess and back to the sky all their lives. It is worth it!

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All hard work pays off. With the encouragement and support of our parents, the four of us, brother and sister, have been studying very hard. Two graduated from technical secondary schools and two graduated from university. Later, each of us started working and had our own jobs. career and paid off all the loans.

However, God was not kind to us. When we planned to bring our parents to the city to enjoy their old age, our parents left us one after another due to illness. From then on, the regret of "the child wanted to support him but could not be loved by him" will forever become The four of us, brother and sister, have an indelible trauma in our hearts. When their parents left, they kept emphasizing the importance of studying, saying that they had worked hard all their lives, their families were impoverished, and they were heavily in debt, but when they saw that their children had great potential, they had no regrets at all and felt that it was worth it!

I am grateful to my parents, who not only gave birth to us, but also gave us a good education. This is a wealth that cannot be measured by money, and it is also an eternal spiritual heirloom of our family!

I am a college student from a rural area, and I have a younger sister who is also in college. My parents had to leave their hometown to work in Guangzhou in order to support our two brothers and sisters in education. Although my family has not become impoverished because our two children are in college, it has indeed had a great impact on my family's finances.

My dad said something that has impressed me to this day, "Studying is also an investment, with profits and losses. I don't expect both of you to make money, at least protect your capital." If reading is simply regarded as a business, it will definitely make money. Reading is a long-term business, and you won’t see results in a short period of time, but as time goes by, the “profits” will become bigger.

Smart rural people like to calculate how much it costs to send a child to college. In four years, the number ranges from 60,000 to 70,000 to as much as 150,000. Faced with such a huge sum of money, some people start to make small calculations. After graduating from high school and going out to work, the salary is 3,000 yuan a month, 36,000 yuan a year, and 142,000 yuan in four years. Not only can you save RMB 60,000 to RMB 70,000 by not sending your child to college, but your child can also earn over RMB 100,000 in four years. So I came to a conclusion: sending children to college is a loss-making business, so it is better to go out to work early.

This is short-sighted, focusing only on immediate interests without long-term plans. The benefits of going to college cannot be viewed solely in terms of monetary income. People who have gone to college for four years will have more than twice as many ideas and values ??as those who have not gone to college. Reading makes people wiser. The more books you read, the more thoughtful you will be when looking at problems and thinking about things.

The income after studying in college directly depends on what type of university you study, a junior college? Undergraduate degree? 985? The levels of colleges and universities are different, which determines your starting point after graduation. The difference between junior college students and ordinary undergraduate students is not big, about 3,000 to 4,000 yuan a month, and more than 5,000 yuan a month for graduates from 985 colleges and universities.

There are very few people in our village who go to college, and most of them go to junior high school. After graduating from high school, they go to work directly. The most common comment made by the elders in the village about the young people in this group is that they cannot endure hardship. They come back just a few days after going out to work. They have been to Guangdong five or six times throughout the year, but they just can't stay. Many people have reached the age of marriage and don't even have a partner, so they just wander around the village all day long.

Although some people of the same age in the village only took one college entrance examination, went to the Railway Vocational and Technical College, and entered the railway bureau three years later, their monthly salary has now reached 6,000,000 yuan. The other was admitted to Zhejiang University of Technology and joined a listed company after graduation. He bought a house in Hangzhou three years after graduation and got married this year. His wife is a classmate of the university.

Studying is the simplest and most convenient way for a rural child to escape from farming. Studying to change one’s destiny is still applicable today. Moreover, the cost of studying is not that high now. The state and schools have many financial aid policies for poor college students, and tuition fees can be waived at most.

I came here uninvited and would like to talk about the reality I have seen. My father has a comrade in arms. Their family has a good relationship with ours. They have three sons. These three children have good grades since childhood. That’s right, families are farming land in rural areas. Since my eldest son was admitted to Xi'an University of Electronic Science and Technology, a college student has appeared in the family every other year. At that time, my cousin and aunt (the parents of three children) were really struggling in life, and all their clothes were mended. Also, I only eat noodles with salt water. I rarely buy meat to eat during the year, and I am really impoverished. Now everything is fine. All three children are married, have good jobs, and have bought houses in the cities where they work. Since their parents did not want to live in the city, the three sons spent money to build a house for their parents in their hometown and lived a happy life.

A person's life without knowledge is like a dry well without water all the year round. No matter how much money a person without cultural heritage makes, his life will always feel unsatisfactory. "Thalassaemia breeds pine and cypress trees, and poor children study." If students from poor families want to get ahead, studying is a shortcut. A rural family has three college students studying and becomes impoverished. Some people say this is a very unfortunate thing, but I think it is also a blessing for a poor family. If students from disadvantaged backgrounds want to "turn cocoons into butterflies", studying is a very good way out.

In our countryside, there are many farmers with their faces turned to the earth and their backs to the sky, but there are quite a few children of these farmers who get ahead. My neighbor's family was quite poor more than 20 years ago. What made this neighbor even more heartbroken was that her husband almost never came back from abroad and basically never sent money to the family. Her four children were brought up by her pooping and peeing.

Her eldest daughter is not interested in studying and gets a headache when she holds a book. She has been married long ago; she still has her second son, third son and youngest daughter still studying. It is not an exaggeration to describe her as a "widow". In the process of raising her three children to study, this female neighbor worked and borrowed money from everywhere. In her words, "I sell iron, even if I sell my blood, I have to support my children's education. My generation has suffered enough, and I will never We can’t let the next generation continue to suffer!”

In this way, her second son was admitted to a medical school and became an anesthesiologist; her third son was admitted to a normal university and went to graduate school. Became an engineer; her younger daughter also ended up being very successful. It can be said that without the hard work of this female neighbor, these three children would not be where they are today. When she was 47 years old, when her second son received his undergraduate diploma and was about to prepare for the postgraduate entrance examination, she passed away and left forever the three children she had devoted her life to nurturing due to a terminal illness... If this female neighbor could survive Until now, I think she must be the happiest person in our village.

For people in rural areas, parents are illiterate. If their children are as uneducated as their parents, they are likely to "copy" the hard days of their parents' lives and embark on the bitter path that their parents once walked. In the opinion of some parents, sending children to school is a kind of consumption, but I think that sending children to college is actually the best investment. In the process of this kind of "investment", poor families may be financially strapped and their lives may be impoverished, but allowing children to change their destiny through reading, increase their knowledge through reading, broaden their horizons through reading, and broaden their connections through reading will last a lifetime for them. The benefits are endless.

If you let your children study, poverty is only temporary and temporary; if you let your children give up going to college, the "gene" of poverty is likely to be passed down from generation to generation.