Three Pits that Perfectionists Often Fall into.

If you interview people: "What are your personality characteristics?" Quite a few people may answer: "I am a perfectionist."

"Perfectionism" gives people the impression that they pay attention to personal image, do things seriously, are strict, have responsibility and have leadership style. ...

Many jobs are suitable for people who tend to be "perfectionist". For example, the manufacturing industry needs craftsmanship; For example, financial personnel do not need differences; For example, software engineers need strict logic. ...

In this way, "perfectionism" has become a beautiful and humble boast that people are willing to say.

I once said that I was a "perfectionist", but I didn't make good use of this character strengths, but I suffered greatly. I often fall into the pit of perfectionism.

The first pit: the fault tolerance rate is equal to 0.

"Perfectionism" makes me afraid to do uncertain things, for fear that I can't afford to lose people if I fail. Before the general things begin, I will plan and rehearse various scenes in my mind until the deduction is successful and I am full of confidence.

Although I feel that I am well prepared and able to cope with all kinds of variables, the reality is full of uncertainty, and there are still many cases of brainwave, improvisation and unprepared. This situation may bring me joy and a sense of accomplishment. Perhaps most of an event is like this, but once caught off guard, then "perfectionism" makes me feel that the whole event is hopelessly flawed.

This is not allowed. I will torture myself repeatedly and fall into the first pit.

The second pit: tear it down and start over.

As the saying goes, "it's inseparable." But "perfectionists" cannot bear to be confused. What they don't like, they like to object and feel righteous.

After graduation, I worked in three jobs, the first was in the communication industry, the second was in the construction industry, and the third was in the catering industry. Although the industries are different, they are all related to human resources. My personal brand has been well shaped in the first two jobs, and I am confident that my boss will be the guarantor of my next job. But my third job was only six months, and my career was discredited.

I joined a hotel management team, which is very common in the hotel catering industry. Not the owner of the hotel, but the operator of the hotel. This management team is from Beijing.

My boss is a bully. I turned a payroll from the first page to the fifth page, but I couldn't get it for her. This makes sense. By the tenth edition, she still couldn't make it obsolete. I obviously feel that she is just making trouble for others.

The banquet is very big and there are not enough people. I was also arranged to serve food in the kitchen. When I arrived at the workplace, I was shocked. The chef's attitude is simply outrageous. As soon as he opens his mouth, he is lazy and stupid ... If he is the emperor, he is superior!

The managers are all from Beijing, and I am responsible for local recruitment alone. I even used the relationship to talk about the cooperation between the students majoring in hotel management in Jimei University and the school. I hope this can improve the quality of employees and maintain sufficient and stable personnel.

However, after in-depth work, it was found that the company did not agree to sign a labor contract, did not pay medical and social security, and did not pay overtime pay for long hours. ...

I am very angry and want to drive this unscrupulous management team out of Xiamen. I resigned, hired a lawyer and reported this company to the Labor Inspection Bureau. I won the lawsuit, but it also ruined my professional experience.

Sadly, my six-month experience in the catering industry is too young. Up to now, this industry has no guarantee of labor and long working hours, which is still the norm. It is the saying that enterprises such as "Haidilao" openly recruit employees. They actually reach 65,438+00, 65,438+065,438+0 hours, and it is normal to work 60 hours a week. In my opinion, people are dull and mechanical under this kind of work intensity. But there are still so many people who choose this kind of work and need it. Is it "existence is reasonable?" Did I fall into the "second pit" for nothing!

The third pit: there can be no problems left over.

"Perfectionists" hope that all the problems have answers, and all the problems can find solutions, but they can't solve them by themselves because they don't work hard enough.

Therefore, people around me will say that I am such a person: "Others hit the south wall and don't look back. If you hit the south wall, you have to push it down. "

Two years ago, there was a physical condition at home, and all the top three hospitals in Xiamen could not be cured. I asked the doctor what to do next. The doctor said: "I suspect that your family has a rare disease of XXX, and further diagnosis is needed before the next treatment." However, Xiamen can't diagnose this disease, and few hospitals in China have the equipment and resources to diagnose this disease. To make a definite diagnosis, you have to take the patient to Beijing, and a set of tests will take at least three months. The cost of diagnosis is 70 thousand to 80 thousand If the disease is really diagnosed and there is no comprehensive treatment, conservative treatment may be taken in the end. "

According to my "perfectionism", I definitely want to know why, even I want to find out "why"? But my family said, "Why get to the bottom of it? What if we get to the bottom of it? Isn't it the same as now? Wouldn't it be better not to know? Step by step. Is it so easy to want to die when people's lives should not be doomed? "

My family is recovering well now. I can't imagine what the next problem would be if I went to the north for medical treatment, diagnosis and treatment two years ago. Solve one problem after another, and then there is the next problem.

I'm glad I didn't fall into the third pit.

I don't know what the real perfectionism is. My "perfectionism" is probably false, because it behaves like a fighter in me and can easily become a martyr.