What should I do about the 35-year-old "age anxiety disorder" in the workplace?

In the workplace, 35 is the age of anxiety. Looking down, a group of young people are eager to try. Looking up, the ceiling was already there. Look at home, there are old people in the world and young people in the world, and your spouse also has great expectations for you. If you are 35 years old and have not experienced workplace anxiety, please wait until you are 40 years old. If you have experienced workplace anxiety at the age of 30, you may still have it at the age of 35. Workplace anxiety is not lifelong immunity and it is difficult to eradicate. Why is workplace anxiety bound to come?

First, your life needs conflict with your business development. You need long-term stable income growth, and enterprises need to maintain low cost, high efficiency and youthfulness, and finally make money forever. Your salary is the cost of the enterprise, and the cost performance ratio of most people will decline for the enterprise after a certain age. There is a fundamental contradiction between your needs and those of the company.

Second, the more enterprises go up, the fewer opportunities and fewer seats, but everyone wants to be promoted and make a fortune. Universal desire and limited opportunities have brought about the problem of "imbalance between supply and demand".

Third, people are lazy, and naturally like to sit back and relax and enjoy their own success, instead of struggling, especially studying, thinking and making progress. This is in contradiction with the requirements of enterprises. Money will never sleep, money will always be close to the most advanced technology, money will always be close to cost-effective employees, and money will always like young people. Your laziness is in sharp contrast to your greed for money. How to fundamentally overcome workplace anxiety?

You need to understand the first principle of the workplace: development. As long as you are in the workplace, you need to develop, including skills, cognition and influence, and income and rank are the results of development. Many people mistakenly think that the increase in service life in the company is "development", wrong! You may just have a longer service life and an older age, but your professional skills may not necessarily be greatly improved. Once the development of the workplace stagnates or even slows down, you should be careful.

You have to analyze whether it is your own reason or the company's reason. If it is your own reason, please be really vigilant and invest energy and resources to improve yourself. If it is the company's reason, it is necessary to change the platform decisively. At this time, many people are particularly attached to the familiarity with the existing platform and the various treatments and benefits now. This excessive dependence on vested interests prevents him from really seeing the future and taking action. Once there is any change in the company, from department reorganization to leadership change, it will fundamentally affect the previous dream.

First of all, for most people who have the ability to work, they begin to prepare for the crisis of middle age when they are young.

1. Accumulate contacts or have iterative resources.

Step 2 choose to start a business

3. Save money when you are young, and realize the natural growth of wealth by buying a house or managing money.

4. By investing in children, raising children to prevent old age is as practical as modern society.

It's best to realize as soon as possible that the boss won't pay you and the customer won't give you money because he wants to make friends with you too much. Their only purpose is to get benefits from you.

And the value you can use is also the biggest bargaining chip for the rest of your life.

On the other hand, 35 years old is the second half of the workplace, and you can also think of it as a brand-new 20 years old.

At the same time, you should greet the next 10 and 20 years in a brand-new state, instead of simply regretting golden decade, who is 25 to 35 years old, like many people.

I believe you can find the direction and significance of your next life struggle, come on.

Get to the point. Of course, don't be afraid if it is not stable after 35. The best way to deal with anxiety is to do your best. Maybe you don't have time to worry at all. You have to believe that I didn't leave you here. I have my own place. I didn't leave you anywhere. I started my own business. You should believe that hard work always pays off, and you should make enough efforts to convince employers that you have the ability to learn quickly. No matter how time and fate joke with you, no matter how old you are, you are still willing to toss. You can laugh at my age, but we can't laugh at our dreams. We feel sorry for ourselves because we are no longer young. In fact, all setbacks are for a better future.

First look at two hot news in the last two days:

Such news can easily make people in the workplace feel anxious. The first news is that work pressure makes people anxious, and the second news is that young people's constant pursuit makes people anxious.

With the growth of age, workplace anxiety becomes more common. The main causes of anxiety are age, promotion to the ceiling, ability panic, salary pressure and so on.

35 is an awkward age. On the one hand, the 35-year-old is in the golden age of his career, whether it is work experience or work level; On the other hand, the 35-year-old people in the workplace are in a stressful life stage, with the old and the young, and the life pressure is huge.

1, improve the ability to keep pace with the times. According to the survey data of Pulse Data Research Institute, as many as 45% people in the workplace are worried about being eliminated by the times, so they must maintain a lifelong learning and continuous learning ability in the workplace. If they can't eat the bitterness of study, they will eventually eat the bitterness of life. If you don't want to be eliminated by society, you must constantly improve your working ability and become an irreplaceable person in the workplace.

2. Relax and combine work and rest. Mild anxiety will make people unable to concentrate on their work, while severe anxiety will lead to serious mental health problems, and what is more serious will make people go to extremes, so we should attach great importance to workplace anxiety. We should always maintain a positive and optimistic attitude, correctly handle the relationship between work and life, pay attention to the combination of work and rest, learn the skills of communicating with others, and vent our pressure in an appropriate way.

3. Balance the relationship between career and family. The pressure of the workplace makes it impossible for most people to balance their careers and families. They want to devote themselves to their work and feel ashamed of their families. This ambivalence distracts people's energy. Family is a warm harbor, and career is the guarantee of high-quality family life, so we must balance the relationship between career and family.

4. Strengthen exercise and ensure sleep. Health is the capital of revolution. Only when you are in good health can you struggle. Strengthening exercise can make people sleepy after physical fatigue, and make people fall asleep quickly. Good sleep is a good way to overcome anxiety.

Thirty-five years old should belong to the golden age of career, but in actual job hunting, many people over thirty-five find it difficult to find a job. This is a common phenomenon and it is normal at present.

The way to deal with it is to do your job well and strive to improve your business ability.

People who are 35 years old and have worked for about ten years should have grown up in the enterprise. Some people have accumulated their own management experience and become middle managers through study and exercise in these ten years; Some people learn technology, learn business and become people with technical expertise, all of which are employed by the company. There is no crisis at the age of 35 for people whose ability has improved rapidly, but people are fighting for it everywhere.

Some people have been doing repetitive work every day for ten years, but their business skills have not improved, their posts and wages have not improved, and they are still ordinary employees. Others change jobs, although they may do different jobs, but they have not improved in a certain skill. In other words, ten years later, these people have not yet formed their own core competitiveness.

These people are single-minded, low-skilled, physically and mentally worse than before, and have high salary requirements. It's that your output hasn't kept up with your salary increase. According to the principle of giving priority to enterprise development, you can't create more profits for the enterprise. These people bear the brunt of layoffs in enterprises and are naturally replaced by young people.

If you go up, there will be less work. At the same time, the technology of the enterprise will be updated quickly, which requires the employees of the enterprise to be younger. Many enterprises clearly stipulate that the age is under 35, which increases the possibility of dismissal of old employees.

1, do a good job in career development planning.

If you are not yet 35 years old, you should set a clear goal at least when you are 30 years old, make your own career development plan as soon as possible, improve your professional ability, and achieve the phased goals in five years.

This may be your last best chance to grow in your job. Follow this direction to improve your ability to avoid the 35-year-old workplace crisis.

2. Try to do your present job well.

Whether you have a career development goal or not, whether you want to do this job or not, as long as you are in this position, you must do things well.

In the workplace, there are two kinds of gains from work: one is salary return and the other is growth. Before the goal of career planning is clear, do your present job to the extreme, and try your best to get everything you can in this position, so that you can have your own core competitiveness.

Treat your work with a negative attitude and work with the mentality of migrant workers, and you will get nothing.

3. Recognize the status quo, accept the reality and lower the salary expectation.

Face the reality, re-recognize yourself, and the more you create for the enterprise, the higher the salary, otherwise, you won't get a high salary.

4. Learn from "newcomers".

New employees are active in thinking and master new technologies. As "old people" in the workplace, they take the initiative to contact and learn from "new people" in the workplace to make up for their knowledge defects and improve their competitiveness.

5. Keep healthy body and vigorous energy.

6. Develop sideline business.

After the completion of the main business, make full use of your existing professional experience and resources as much as possible, first work part-time in related industries or industries of interest, and then start your own business when conditions are ripe. You can also do new media and other work.

The 35-year-old has reached middle age, giving middle-aged people who are willing to make progress new challenges. Instead of treating middle age as a crisis, we should embrace it actively, do our existing work well and plan how to meet possible challenges.

As a 35+ senior HR, what I hear most recently is the "helplessness" and "cowardice" of middle-aged unemployment. Two former colleagues, who have worked for more than 40 years, have a good working background. They started looking for jobs at the beginning of this year. I knew the other day that they still couldn't find it. One of them has a mortgage and the other just gave birth to a second child. Only they know the hardships of unemployed middle-aged people.

I think there are three good medicines to treat your anxiety:

First, 35 years old, trying to be a professional authority in the industry; Say responsibly: 35 years old, if you are very professional and authoritative in an industry, there is no "35-year-old phenomenon"; On the contrary, if you are still working at the grassroots level at the age of 35, it is even more dangerous. In the process of recruitment, I found that some people over the age of 35 still live brilliantly as long as they have "Jin Gangzuan" in their hands;

Second, earn enough money or accumulate enough assets when you still have the ability to make money. Many professional elites around me, many of whom earn millions a year, are well aware of the cruelty of the workplace and are planning to retire after 40. In addition to making money, they are also trying their best to increase the value of their assets, such as investing in real estate, funds and wealth management. In this way, when there is no work to play, I plan to do some small business according to my hobbies in the future, as long as I don't make some money at a loss; Or be a "rent collector" or a "rent collector" and make a living ..... Only when you have enough wealth, why are you afraid of the "35-year-old phenomenon"?

Third, in addition to the main business, try to do some other industries or sideline businesses and leave yourself a "retreat". The workplace is cruel. Sometimes, even if you have "Jin Gangzuan" in your hand, you can't bear to be rejected by your boss when you are old. It doesn't take much time and energy to do sideline business, otherwise, once you lose your job in middle age, you will lose your mind. What's more, a 43-year-old ZTE employee was forced to jump off a building because he was dismissed, and his only "main business" tree was gone. If he had a "retreat", I don't think he would have jumped.

But most of us are ordinary people. It is not easy to be the second "rich woman", and I can't find a suitable sideline for the time being. So try to be the first. How to be the first one:

First, through my experience and comparison in the workplace, I can find that those who have achieved certain success in their career development, that is, those who have reached the middle level or above at the age of 35, have a common feature, that is, they have been intensively cultivating their fields that they are familiar with and good at for at least 10 years. Many people are unsuccessful, and there are many reasons for his failure: young and uncertain, frequent job hopping; Young without career planning; Without the guidance and guidance of experienced people. No matter for various reasons, whether you are male or female, before or after the age of 35, from now on, plan your career, work hard in a certain major, catch up with your career goals, and recover the time you haven't worked hard yet;

Second, we must have a sense of crisis. "Don't work for money, work for yourself." Some people think that you can do as much work as your boss gives you. To change this mentality, you should know that you can't "mix" in a company all your life, and "mix" will only be eliminated. Your current boss is temporary, but your ability to work will follow you for life. Others can't give you a "job", and your "job" can only be given to yourself;

Third, charge more after work and accumulate more effective contacts, especially high-end contacts. Except for state-owned enterprises and institutions, no company will work for a lifetime. You should spend time in your own industry circle and professional circle to make friends, accumulate effective contacts, and lay a solid foundation for your career. Specifically, you should attend some industry exchange meetings, get together with various small groups in the circle, have dinner and publish more professional articles. This can not only keep the professional knowledge constantly updated, but also enhance the image and social status in the circle. It will be very beneficial to change jobs or start your own business after the age of 35. At least when you need it, there will always be friends or customers who "endorse" you.

Two days ago, I saw a friend circle forwarding a job advertisement of an Internet company. It is estimated that many people will instantly fall to the bottom.

That sentence reads: no matter how young you are, don't be over 35 years old!

People over the age of 35 will definitely exclaim: Why?

Whether this request is too much or not, you have to admit that it is reasonable.

First of all, the growth of age leads to the decline of physical function, and you can't compete with those young people in their twenties. At the same time, there are too many troubles and interferences at this age, and the family is bound to tilt the balance of your work to some extent.

Secondly, innovation and change are the keys to success in this era when change and the unknown become the mainstream. If your so-called experience is just a copy and superposition of previous work stereotypes, then experience is not only worthless, but also the biggest obstacle.

Besides, it is more difficult to change your mind. Cultural identity is the foundation of future career, but the older you get, the more difficult it is to reshape your attitude and values.

Finally, because of the deepening of the so-called qualifications, the older you get, the higher your expectations for salary. No one wants to be nearly 40 years old and still get the same salary as young people who just joined the job. If there is little difference in ability, it is certainly more cost-effective to use young people.

In fact, people facing difficulties after the age of 35 can be seen everywhere in the workplace.

One of the dilemmas is that there are fewer and fewer opportunities. If the professional manager after the age of 35 does not draw an excellent career curve to keep your background, position height and age height consistent, then the connection rate of headhunters will definitely decrease year by year. There is no doubt that it is gradually excluded from the object of enterprise search because of age.

The second dilemma is not knowing where the future direction is. I got together with a former colleague the other day. He is now working in a fortune 500 company. He said that his biggest worry now is what he can do after leaving the current platform, what he can do after he is 35 years old, and whether he wants it.

The third dilemma is that I can't find motivation or fun in my present job. I am neither salty nor light, neither cold nor hot, neither more nor less. I do repeated things every day, but I don't want to do it again and dare not let go, so I have been living a life I don't want to live.

Most people who fall into this predicament belong to those who have not found their own position.

Because the previous work may be stylized, lack of thinking, change and breakthrough, and lack of contact with the outside world, it is difficult to find your own career orientation, that is, your own orientation.

If you can't find the result of positioning, you can't accumulate in one direction, and then form your irreplaceable value.

In other words, if you are 35 years old and haven't found the combination of your interests and advantages, you may be like a person lost in the virgin forest, either going the wrong way or turning around and returning to the original point. This is a very sad thing.

Because the person who finds the direction is getting farther and farther away from you.

Change, the most important thing is courage.

First of all, you should try different jobs more. What I'm talking about here doesn't necessarily mean changing jobs, but it may also mean different job contents in the same position. To put it bluntly, if you have a job, you should work hard and experience yourself more, which will help you find the right direction. Do too much and don't be afraid of losing. This idea is extremely stupid and seems clever, but it is actually expensive.

It is understandable to jump ship earlier in your career. Frequent job-hopping after 35 must be your own reason.

Either endure or get out, doing a job that can't see the future, not only the present, but also the future.

35-year-old workplace anxiety is a common phenomenon. Why does this phenomenon exist? 35 years old, working 10 years or so, has been a pillar in the company. If you don't develop to a certain extent, it means that your ability or opportunity is not enough, and it will be difficult for you to further your career after the age of 35.

Second, most people's income is only a single source of wages. By the time they reach the age of 35, their wages have reached a high point. In the future, if their careers are not greatly improved, their wages may be flat or reduced. But after the age of 35, your family responsibilities and household consumption are rising, so once you lose your job, you need to lower your quality of life.

What is the solution to this anxiety? Turn your salary income from a single source into a multi-channel source, for example, turn your hobby into an income, get some income from investment, develop as far as possible to professional experts, become experts in this field, get income beyond salary, and serve more people, for example, from the media.

For those who are not yet 35 years old, or those who have reached 35 years old, you should consider that the situation you will face when you are 40 to 50 years old is more embarrassing than when you are 35 years old. You must plan ahead and make a strategic plan for your life.

In the workplace, 35 is the age of anxiety. Looking down, a group of young people are eager to try. Looking up, the ceiling was already there. Look at home, there are old people in the world and young people in the world, and your spouse also has great expectations for you. If you are 35 years old and have not suffered from occupational anxiety, please wait until you are 40 years old. If you have experienced workplace anxiety at the age of 30, you may still have it at the age of 35. Workplace anxiety is not lifelong immunity and it is difficult to eradicate. Why is workplace anxiety bound to come?

First, your life needs conflict with your business development. You need long-term stable income growth, and enterprises need to maintain low cost, high efficiency and youthfulness, and finally make money forever. Your salary is the cost of the enterprise, and the cost performance ratio of most people will decline for the enterprise after a certain age. There is a fundamental contradiction between your needs and those of the company.

Second, the more enterprises go up, the fewer opportunities and fewer seats, but everyone wants to be promoted and make a fortune. Universal desire and limited opportunities have brought about the problem of "imbalance between supply and demand".

Third, people are lazy, and naturally like to sit back and relax and enjoy their own success, instead of struggling, especially studying, thinking and making progress. This is in contradiction with the requirements of enterprises. Money will never sleep, money will always be close to the most advanced technology, money will always be close to cost-effective employees, and money will always like young people. Your laziness is in sharp contrast to your greed for money. How to fundamentally overcome workplace anxiety?

You need to understand the first principle of the workplace: development. As long as you are in the workplace, you need to develop, including skills, cognition and influence, and income and rank are the results of development. Many people mistakenly think that the increase in service life in the company is "development", wrong! You may just have a longer service life and an older age, but your professional skills may not necessarily be greatly improved. Once the development of the workplace stagnates or even slows down, you should be careful.

You have to analyze whether it is your own reason or the company's reason. If it is your own reason, please be really vigilant and invest energy and resources to improve yourself. If it is the company's reason, it is necessary to change the platform decisively. At this time, many people are particularly attached to the familiarity with the existing platform and the various treatments and benefits now. This excessive dependence on vested interests prevents him from really seeing the future and taking action. Once there is any change in the company, from department reorganization to leadership change, it will fundamentally affect the previous dream.