"Want to See You" How can an introvert like Chen Yunru improve her competitiveness?

Do you still remember Chen Yunru in the TV series "Want to See You" which was very popular two months ago?

Chen Yunru often wears earplugs to listen to music alone. She walks alone and cannot hear the noise in the world. She only listens to her inner voice and dares not speak out loud if she likes someone alone. When Huang Yuxuan entered her body through time and space, she envied Huang Yuxuan in the dark room of her soul. Because of Huang Yuxuan's extroverted personality, her liveliness and cheerfulness easily won the favor of boys, and she also gained the friendship of girls in her class. The personalities of these two characters also affect their different destinies. You can see the sharp contrast from the scrolling barrage of the film and television player. Most people prefer Huang Yuxuan who is running in the rain and smiling and waving, while the introverted Huang Yuxuan Chen Yunru is only appreciated by a very small number of people.

How many people are like Chen Yunru in life? Not confident enough, not free and easy enough, he acts cautiously, doesn’t like large social scenes, and only likes to travel with regular friends...

I will also see a trace of myself in Chen Yunru.

In 2009, during a break in the ideological cultivation class of my freshman year, "I noticed that you don't seem to have many friends." Hui, who was sitting next to me, suddenly asked me, "You always keep to yourself, do you?" Don't you want to play with your friends in the dormitory? "Hui thinks I'm a bit unsociable. That year I joined the school's magazine club. I often ran around the campus alone, busy editing a magazine. Unlike other roommates, I travel together and often do everything together. No wonder, in the eyes of my classmates, I became an "unsociable" weirdo.

In 2013, I just entered the HR industry and worked as an HR specialist in a company in the beauty industry. The day before my probation period was about to end, my superior HRM came to talk to me and asked me why I didn’t like to talk to my colleagues. Exchange topics. I told my manager that I was new to the industry and I was worried about messing up what I was doing. The daily chat content of colleagues will include blind dates, discounts on certain brands of cosmetics, etc. As a newly graduated poor student with limited financial conditions, I had hardly bought the cosmetics they discussed, so naturally I couldn’t say a word. Of course, when I encountered problems at work at that time, I still actively asked my colleagues for advice.

In 2016, "Can you come out of your own world?", my direct superior, Manager Huang, said to me. She said that I found that you rarely communicate with others, and this is not okay. . I quickly responded to my leader's request: "I am often busy checking customer information and data. I am afraid of making mistakes. It is really difficult for me to multitask. Chatting with others will distract me."

Manager Huang said helplessly: "Maybe it will be much better if you change the environment in the future."

Character is not good or bad, but character can affect career development. Introverts are usually cautious in their words and actions, often giving people a "slow-down" feeling, and their development is relatively slow and steady. Extroverts are versatile and active in the middle of the stage. Their performance is easy to be seen quickly and they develop quickly.

If you open the recruitment website and browse the recruitment information, you will find that most of the job requirements are extroverted, lively and cheerful. Only a few positions specifically require candidates to be introverted.

Researchers at consulting firm ghSmart spent 10 years analyzing the personalities of 2,000 CEOs and concluded that most successful CEOs are introverts. For example, Bill Gates, Zuckerberg, Buffett, Zhang Chaoyang...

There are also many outstanding philosophers, writers, and scientific researchers who are introverts. Their introversion and related traits, All create different competitiveness.

Because introverts have strong insights and a high sensitivity to beauty, they can easily discover the logic between things and have strong logical thinking and creativity. Many introverts are talented in writing. People, they eventually became excellent writers. For example, Kafka created many classic novels such as "Metamorphosis" and "The Trial", and Kawabata Yasunari created "The Dancer of Izu" and "Snow Country".

There is another very important reason why some introverts become writers. Introverts enjoy being alone and doing focused work, and writing for many years requires being able to endure loneliness.

Introverts think twice before speaking. When facing a crisis, they consider all aspects before acting. At this time, some people may think that introverts are procrastinators. In fact, introverts have Cautious traits, want to get a perfect solution.

Some outstanding politicians, such as Lincoln and Churchill, are good at speeches. In fact, they are also introverts, because when they face national crises, they are cautious and cautious, which helps them make every decision. . Introverted leaders can also lead companies to break through crises.

Introverts also have many excellent qualities such as being good at listening, insightful, and like to think.

You can start from the following points:

Some introverts have low self-esteem due to family influence or sudden major changes in their lives, fear of making mistakes, and fear of making mistakes. Being the center of attention may cause some introverts to suffer from symptoms of depression.

At this time, we maintain a healthy and good mentality. When we encounter difficulties, we can find good friends to talk to or ask for help, instead of holding it in alone; we can participate in more outdoor sports. I just participate in some outdoor activities and enjoy the open air. While broadening your horizons, you can also accumulate some conversation materials with friends and help the development of interpersonal communication.

Because introverts think too much internally, if their goals are too big, they may increase stress and anxiety, undermine their self-confidence, and miss good opportunities due to hesitation and hesitation. Then, you can break down the goal into small goals, take action immediately, rebuild your confidence, and build good execution ability.

What careers are suitable for introverts? If you let introverts do the sales work of developing customers, it is estimated that most introverts will be a little worried. Introverts can take the MBTI professional personality test to better understand which careers are more suitable for them, and then combine it with their personal interests to find a bright career path. For example, Zhang Chaoyang, CEO of Sohu, is an insight analysis type (INTP).

Introverts who want to get promoted in the workplace should especially know how to seize every opportunity to exercise themselves, such as training organized for new employees, department meetings, and group sharing, where they can collect information from many aspects. , first share opinions from familiar areas to help you overcome the anxiety of speaking in public, and believe that you, as an introvert, also have the potential to be an excellent leader.