Why do some graduate students and doctoral students work with tutors after graduation? Quot Don't share life and death &; quot？

Some tutors are simply not worthy of respect. It's cruel to squeeze students! I have met two such examples, one is personal experience and the other is a classmate.

Let's start with my classmate Lao A. Old A is my graduate student. Stay in school to study for a doctorate after graduation. He is an excellent classmate. But it is precisely because of his Excellence that the tutor arranged for him to do projects, squeezing him day and night, and never mentioning writing papers!

Moreover, the tutor's literacy is relatively poor, and his reputation in school is not good. He often scolds students, just like Huang Shiren!

Old A knew that there was no future to follow such a mentor, so he came up with the idea of graduating ahead of schedule and secretly wrote a paper after completing the project. Attention, this is "secret"!

When Old A told his tutor that he wanted to graduate early, the tutor flew into a rage, scolded him and tore up the paper directly! And obviously, even if you take part in the defense, you will not pass. Not only that, this tutor is really a wonderful work. It's the first time I've heard that the professor who invited the judges directly said that his students would not be allowed to do such a thing!

Old A had no choice but to find someone to intercede through various relationships and find the school leaders through relatives in his hometown. Under the pressure of school leaders, the tutor barely passed him.

Now the old A is developing well, with an annual salary of 1 10,000, but when it comes to tutors, he is still filled with indignation!

Besides my personal experience, my wife and I got married when I was in graduate school, because marriage requires a certificate from my tutor and the school, and my lover's tutor is very reluctant!

Because my lover is working and studying, we plan to have children at school! However, when the birth certificate was issued, her tutor refused to give it, and her attitude was very tough. My wife begged him many times but failed.

It can be said that during my wife's graduate school, I helped my tutor to do several projects, which didn't make him earn less money, and we applied for having children only after graduation, not during school, but the teacher was unreasonable!

I'm a clown, and I'm angry about it, but I didn't turn against my lover for fear of affecting his graduation!

One day, I couldn't bear it anymore and called his tutor. He was still dead, so I began to scold him for only half an hour. And I told him that if I didn't get the certificate tomorrow, I would go to the office and make him feel bad!

Unexpectedly, this trick didn't really work. He is a little timid and keeps saying that I have no culture. Let me apologize to him!

I said, my wife will get the license tomorrow, and she is not as good-looking as him!

As a result, the next day, it proved to be particularly smooth. Her tutor didn't come forward and asked another teacher to give it to my lover directly!

Until graduation, her tutor dared not pity her!

Sometimes, it's not that we are unreasonable or uneducated. But some teachers have gone too far, acting as teachers to do some shoddy things and treating students as tools to make money for free, without gratitude! How can such a teacher communicate!

I have a roommate who has a good relationship with me. After graduating from graduate school, he immediately blacked out all the contact information with his tutor and quit all the WeChat and QQ groups with his tutor. According to him, I don't want to have any contact with his mentor in my life.

Many people don't understand my roommate's behavior. They think he is ungrateful and a baiwenhang. As soon as he graduated, he forgot his guidance and taught his teacher. He didn't know how to repay his kindness, but he avoided it. He even hacked his contact information, which must be psychologically reasonable.

However, only I understand and understand what my roommate did, and I think he did the right thing. My roommate is a graduate student admitted to another school. When she first came, she was in high spirits, thinking about studying hard here, studying hard, continuing to study for a doctorate after graduate school and making a career.

I didn't know that unexpected things would happen. My roommate was almost ruined by his mentor. Other students are doing projects and experiments with their tutor, but my roommate is going to work in the company run by his tutor. Holidays rest is not enough. The key is free labor, no salary.

The tutor commented on the topic and gave the paper to the roommate. The first author must be his tutor, otherwise the publishing fee will not be reimbursed. If there is something that makes the tutor dissatisfied, he is often threatened by the tutor to graduate.

If I don't help his tutor publish the number of papers he assigned each semester, my roommate will not be allowed to graduate. It can be said that my roommate is tightly controlled by the tutor, without any temper or complaint, and can only endure it silently.

And when he works in his own company, his mentor will often inspect his post. When he sees a little rest, he will be scolded by his tutor and scold my roommate badly.

What is even more unbearable is that his tutor doesn't have his own secretary in the company, so sending and receiving documents, printing materials and writing speeches all fall on my roommate, a free labor force, which is euphemistically called exercising my roommate.

Sometimes I often call my roommate at one or two in the middle of the night to ask him to prepare the speech he needs tomorrow, but in order to graduate smoothly, my roommate can only work overtime all night, and sometimes my tutor will scold him if he is not satisfied with his writing. It's really scary.

My roommate also thought about giving up graduate school and dropping out of school to go home, but he was unwilling. He felt sorry for not saying it. He is very sorry for his parents who raised him with great pains. To this end, for a while, my roommate who didn't want to be squeezed by my tutor almost did something stupid. Fortunately, everyone found it early and enlightened him.

Finally, I finally graduated smoothly, and my tutor asked him to go to work in his company directly after graduation. My roommate readily promised, and specially invited my tutor to have a meal. Thanks to my tutor's cultivation, I found a job directly after graduation, which made many students in the world envious and graduated smoothly.

Sure enough, after graduation, my roommate deleted all the contact information with my tutor. According to him, he has broken contact with his mentor for the rest of his life, and he has had enough of this kind of oppression. When I saw my tutor, I had the urge to rush up and beat him.

Fortunately, the ending was good and my roommate graduated smoothly. However, he had a shadow in his heart and did not continue his doctoral studies. Instead, I participated in the introduction of talents in a region and went to work in a public institution. On the whole, this is a good thing!

So, why do graduate students and doctoral students die of old age after graduation? The reason is that it is squeezed too badly by the tutor, and it is completely free labor.

Once the tutor needs it, he can come and go at once, and you can't complain at all. If he is not satisfied there, he will threaten you with graduation. Do you think if you meet such a mentor, you will still associate with him after graduation? I think it's too late to hide. It's strange to get in touch.

Let me talk about it.

After reading a lot of people's words, many of them didn't get to the point.

I am a graduate student in 2009. I have been in graduate school for three years. There are only dozens of graduate students in a college. My classmates have known about the relationship between tutors and students for three years, and I still have a say in this topic.

I'm a graduate student in social science, majoring in liberal arts. The relationship between tutors and students in postgraduate stage is not so close, but it is closer than that of undergraduates, but different tutors in different majors are different.

When I first started graduate school, most of them were open classes, that is, dozens of people from a college went to a big classroom together. This is a big class.

Small class is your tutor's specialized course. Going to the teacher's office, there were several people sitting on the sofa, and the teacher began to speak. In fact, small classes are quite interesting. The tutor will talk about something that is not in the textbook. If you have different opinions, you can argue with your tutor.

Back to the topic, let's talk about the teacher-student relationship with several examples of different students:

1, classmate a transferred. He doesn't like that major, and neither does his tutor. He doesn't see his tutor several times a year, and he is basically in a state of herding sheep, so he writes papers, sends emails and communicates with his tutor about the papers. At other times, there is nothing to do.

So this is the last mixed diploma, and he doesn't want to continue studying that major, so he doesn't have much contact with his tutor at school, so he naturally has no contact after graduation.

2. Classmate B was admitted according to his grades. He is a popular major, and his tutor has many students. He doesn't take exams after graduation, and his graduation work is also very purposeful, just to study for a master's degree, not for academic further study in a certain subject.

This is the most common. Students should learn what they need to learn, survive, be taught by tutors, be sociable, be close to their teachers, and greet them on holidays after graduation, and gradually fade away. Introverted and unsociable, he has a general relationship with his tutor at school, and his communication is limited to academics, a bit like an undergraduate. After graduation, they have nothing to do with each other.

3, classmate C, from the beginning, a big cow from the college came, and his grades were ok, and his tutor was willing to accept it. Moreover, he went to Kaobo for further study, which is basically equivalent to his tutor assistant.

This is different, and it is also a minority. Ordinary students don't even see their tutors several times a year. This kind of direct disciple can not only see his tutor every day, but also go to his tutor's house for dinner. The tutor will take him to attend academic conferences in other places.

This is very rare among graduate students in our college. He has the closest relationship with his mentor. After we graduated, he went on to study for a doctorate. After graduation, he went to a good university in the provincial capital to teach. Naturally, he has been in contact with his mentor since then, and the relationship is very deep.

4. classmate d is also a typical example. He is plain and unsociable. In his words, contact him if you are doing well. If he is not easy to mix, what will you contact? The tutor may still think that you are embarrassing him. After graduation, it is also very mediocre, and it has nothing to do with the tutor. It's not that his tutor is not nice to him, but that his life after graduation has no intersection with his tutor.

5, classmate E belongs to that kind of capable, well-connected and versatile, not only has a close relationship with the tutor, but also has a good relationship with the leadership of the college. He is also the monitor of this graduate student and was already a bureaucrat when he was in graduate school. After graduation, I went to a government office, and now I'm a small bureaucrat. He naturally keeps in touch with his mentor and has a good relationship.

Generally speaking, the teacher-student relationship I contacted in the graduate stage is basically the above. Because of the liberal arts, there is almost no particularly bad relationship between the tutor and the students. At most, I am just herding sheep. Unless the students behave badly, there will be no tutor to make things difficult for you not to graduate. Liberal arts is also rare.

The burning candle will answer your question: Why do some graduate students and doctoral students "die of old age" with their tutors after graduation?

Graduate students and tutors accept each other through two-way choice after entering school, becoming the closest teachers and students, and may also be scientific research collaborators during their school days. This relationship can be regarded as one of the closest relationships in the world besides parents. It stands to reason that students should keep in touch with their tutors after graduation. But the fact is that many graduate students and doctoral students are "out of touch" with teachers and tutors for many years after graduation. Why? Wax-burning torch believes that from the perspective of students, there may be objective reasons or subjective reasons.

(Seminar on Two-way Choice between Postgraduates and Tutors)

Objective reasons Subjective reasons To sum up, some graduate students and doctoral students have been out of touch with teachers and tutors for many years after graduation, which has both subjective and objective reasons. The essence is that once graduate students and doctoral students graduate, the needs of tutors and graduate students are no longer the same, the goals are different, there are fewer and fewer topics to communicate with, and gradually they no longer communicate with each other.

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It is the most unforgettable youth time for a graduate student to work with a tutor for 3 years, even 10 years. Therefore, most students will have a special friendship with their teachers. Many students keep in touch with their teachers through QQ and WeChat, and even cooperate with their tutors to do something after graduation. After all, teachers and students will know more about the root causes.

However, it is true that some students never contact their teachers after graduation, and such people often do not contact other students, and there is no news after graduation. This kind of students generally have several situations:

First, I have a poor relationship with my tutor during my graduate studies. This situation is still very common. Zhen Jing recruited a 985 postdoctoral fellow many years ago. His doctoral supervisor is a high-level talent. Originally, his academic future was very good, so it was no problem to stay in school. But during the postdoctoral period, because of some academic differences, he fell out with his tutor and left the school directly after leaving the station and went to our school. Now I have worked for so many years, and I have been appraised as a professor, but I still haven't made up with my tutor, and he has no further academic ideas.

Second, the job is unsatisfactory, and the job has little to do with the original major. Speaking of which, I really think of a tutor who disliked his poor work after graduation and satirized the students at the dinner table. Although most tutors don't do this, if a student takes a different road from other students after graduation and doesn't need to ask the teacher for help, then he may not contact the teacher again, even with his classmates.

Generally speaking, because of the tutor and the students themselves, students and teachers are not in contact. In fact, this situation is normal. Even students who have a good life and are grateful to their tutors during their graduate studies may not always contact them. After all, everyone is busy with their own business. Like Zhen Jing himself, I sent a short message to my tutor during the Spring Festival. 10 years ago, I said I would visit my tutor (the tutor is in another city now), but the result hasn't come yet.

Mentor is also a resource, and mentor is also a memory. If possible, you can also keep in touch with your tutor.

The appearance of this situation makes Sven, a university tutor with thousands of years of cultural heritage, especially the fine tradition of respecting teachers and attaching importance to teaching, sweep the floor, which is sad. The tutor changed his personal identity to the boss, unlike the tutor. Unlike students, students are regarded as unpaid working people.

What does it mean that graduate students and doctoral students don't communicate with their tutors after graduation? It shows that these students were exploited and squeezed by their tutors when they were graduate students, using their little knowledge and power. In recent years, the media has been reporting students who are in a dilemma by their tutors, and a few people are fighting at the expense of their own lives. Henan graduate students of Huazhong University of Science and Technology left a long suicide note and committed suicide by jumping off a building. Also, when the graduate students of East China University of Science and Technology were working for the private enterprise run by the tutor, the boiler exploded and died, and so on. How many tutors behave irregularly, which leads to the phenomenon that teachers and students are strangers?

Market economy embodies the exchange of interests. If you don't admit this, how can you explain this problem? Looking around, all the cadres who were reported by the regular media, interviewed by CPC Central Commission for Discipline Inspection, investigated and handed over to the judicial organs became criminal suspects and criminals through the exchange of interests. Behind which tiger flies are caught, the fact of interest exchange can be seen more or less.

Social existence determines social consciousness. Students don't associate with tutors, after all, they are still a minority. With the development of society and the passage of time, will this phenomenon gradually decrease? It remains to be seen.

In order to develop the economy, the state allows some people to get rich first, and getting rich first drives them to get rich later, thus realizing the concept of common prosperity for all people. Classics are good classics, but the problem is that a few crooked monks give them crooked ideas. A few university professors have also used crooked brains, instead of taking teaching and educating people seriously, they regard students as tools driven by individuals and migrant workers who do not pay labor remuneration.

After three or four years, the students finally achieved personal success and left the place where they had studied and studied. What they didn't expect was to wake up from a nightmare, and that place became a sad place that individuals never wanted to remember.

Now the relationship between students and tutors seems to be the relationship between migrant workers and bosses. The private company run by the tutor is the experimental base for students. Letting students go to work is euphemistically called letting students do experiments.

There are too many such things. People who haven't gone to graduate school may not be very clear. Everyone who has been to graduate school knows that graduate students and doctors are not called mentors, but are called bosses. Why are they bosses? Because the mentor and the boss are essentially the same.

As we all know, the purpose of being a boss is to grab the surplus value of employees' labor and get more wealth on their own. The same is true of tutors, except that tutors rob students of their academic achievements and research funds. Many tutors, to tell the truth, are of little significance to students' learning guidance, but students must put the tutor's name first in their scientific research achievements and papers, or they will not want to get along with them in the future.

In addition, tutors always try their best to prevent students from graduating, postpone them if they can, and finally drag them to death, just to completely drain their academic performance. Look, many graduate students are in a bad mental state now. Some people go to extremes.

First of all, explain the topic in the question: graduate students actually include master students and doctoral students. Generally speaking, graduate students (master students) and doctoral students (doctoral students) are colloquial expressions. When answering questions, still follow the questioner's statement. Hereby explain.

The answer to the question is as follows:

I think the reason why some graduate students and doctoral students "don't communicate with their tutors after graduation" is that the relationship between teachers and students is not handled well, as follows:

For graduate students and doctoral students: First, some graduate students have an incorrect understanding of graduate school, turning graduate school into a mixed diploma, thinking that they are working for tutors and calling them "bosses"; Second, you don't work hard in the theoretical study stage and don't do a good job in scientific research in the thesis stage. Once criticized by the tutor or delayed graduation, it will bear a grudge; Third, some graduate students do not attach importance to personal cultivation and lack the ability to communicate with their tutors. Therefore, after graduation, these graduate students have no contact with their tutors, lack normal communication, and "die of old age."

For tutors: First, some tutors can't perform their duties correctly, and Lide Shu Ren's work is not in place; Second, the relationship with students has become rigid and likes to reprimand students. They usually lack concern for students and regard students as "labor force" to complete scientific research tasks; Third, students only pay attention to how much scientific research work they have done and how many scientific research papers they have published, and they don't ask enough questions about their ideological and living conditions, which leads to students' heartfelt dislike of their tutors, but they dare not offend them at school. So they don't want to contact their tutors after graduation.

In order to avoid this situation, we should advocate the establishment of a correct relationship between teachers and students: students should seriously study theory, do a good job in scientific research, and ask for advice with an open mind; Tutors carefully guide, care for students, and strictly teach by example. When I was in graduate school, my tutor was very concerned, strict and loving, which benefited me a lot.

My best friend didn't contact his doctoral tutor after graduation, because his tutor always squeezed him during his study and always made things difficult for him when he graduated.

This tutor is very strict with his students at ordinary times, almost to the point of abnormal condition. For example, a friend has something to do outside, and he asks his friend to go to the office.

The friend said, teacher, I have something to do. Can it be a little later?

His teacher replied: don't come now, don't come later.

In the third year, my friend's paper was finished and a short paper was sent, but the tutor refused to apply for defense. He wants to keep him and work for him.

The last senior had mental problems, and her college intervened in the investigation. The tutor began to get nervous and quickly let the oppressed graduate.

This kind of mentor, don't contact for life.

Will graduate students and doctoral students "die of old age" with their tutors after graduation? This statement is very one-sided and extremely irresponsible. I am currently a graduate student, and I usually have a good relationship with my tutor. I often help my tutor to do something. When I'm finished, he will take me to a good meal, and he usually cares about my life.

Don't graduate students and tutors "die of old age" exist? Not at that time, this phenomenon also existed around me. The tutor of the research group in the laboratory next door is strict with their students and often orders them to work "privately", just like decorating a house requires coolies and asking students for help. According to the students of their research group, their former brothers and sisters directly blacked out the contact information of their tutors after graduation. After all, the phenomenon that graduate students and tutors are "old and dead" is a minority, and most of the time the relationship is not bad.

Why do you "die of old age"? The relationship between graduate students and tutors is wonderful, unlike when I was an undergraduate, I didn't see the head teacher several times a year. When I was a graduate student, it was different. I see my tutor almost every week. We meet almost every day when we are busy. Tutors mainly assign work to students and guide them how to do it.

What is the relationship between graduate students and tutors? In school, we usually call the tutor "the boss", because the tutor usually gives a certain amount of labor remuneration, so a relationship similar to "employment" is formed. In the postgraduate career, you basically have to obey the boss's command, but some bosses may be too demanding, or students themselves are unwilling to cooperate with the boss, which will form a vicious circle between students and bosses, which is called bad teacher-student relationship.

At present, I have come into contact with three situations: 1. During the postgraduate period, the boss asked too much and had too many unreasonable tasks; 2. Students don't want to cooperate with their boss, and they don't want to do scientific research at ordinary times, so they can't meet the boss's requirements, thus forming a bad teacher-student relationship; 3. The boss made it difficult for the students to graduate, and the graduate students needed the tutor's signature to participate in the defense, so the boss disagreed, so there was deliberate difficulties.

How to maintain the relationship between teachers and students? The relationship between graduate students and tutors is a hot topic in recent years. It is often reported that the bad relationship between graduate students and tutors leads to the hard feelings of graduate students. How to maintain the relationship between graduate students and tutors?

After all, graduate students are students. At school, you need to obey the arrangement of your tutor, and you need to respect your tutor. You can communicate when the tutor really asks too much, and you must not act impulsively, because getting along with the tutor will accompany your whole graduate career. I have two suggestions to maintain the relationship between teachers and students: 1. Usually, there are more exchanges with tutors, and most of the exchanges between students and tutors are based on scientific research, and the exchanges in life are relatively few and not good; 2. Try your best to complete the task assigned by the tutor. In my team, there is a classmate who often fails to complete the task of tutor, and the relationship with tutor is very stiff at present.

Conclusion: The relationship between graduate students and tutors can be maintained through practical actions, and can't rely solely on the tutor's unilateral guidance. Therefore, the relationship between teachers and students is actually not good.