Job hunting story: Why I don’t want to rely on connections to find a job

Job search story: Why I don’t want to rely on connections to find a job

China’s social relations are like spider silk in the hole of the silk coil. If used well, it can increase its power and become an enemy. capital. If you don't use it well, you will reap the consequences and become trapped in a cocoon. Of course, the above is only for high-end people. And ordinary people like us. The definition of relationship is favor + money. Regardless of the distance between relatives, as long as you entrust someone with something, you have to give something.

Before middle school, my mother’s eldest sister helped run my kindergarten and elementary school. Although my mother’s “dream of a famous school” was fulfilled, it consumed a lot of money. silver. And it’s not a one-time consumption. Because debts cannot be repaid once or twice. During the holidays, we must continue to send holiday gifts.

After middle school, I was a little sensible and didn’t want my parents to beg for help because of me. So, I would rather go to a middle school that is not that good. Use the saved money to make pocket money, eat, drink and have fun.

After graduating from college, the issues of "finding a relationship" and "finding a job" once again became a major conflict and difficulty in the family. According to my mother's advice, I still hope to spend some money to find a good "stable" job through connections. But as far as I'm concerned, that's not the case at all. In order to verify that "you can live a good life without looking for relationships", in the middle of July, the hottest month in the summer, I went to various job search websites, job fairs, and recruitment companies with a thick resume.

The result is that in one month, I lost 5 pounds, became 2 shades darker, and found my current job.

After working for 4 years, I have been thinking about a question, what is a "stable job"?

Civil servants have employment, public institutions have appointment systems, and state-owned enterprises have contract workers. In this In this impetuous era, no job is "ferromagnetic". The so-called stability is just whether the "heart" can calm down. As long as you are content with the status quo, even a small company with three people can work for ten or twenty years. If you don't like stability, even if you get admitted to a government agency, you still have to resign.

There is no love without reason in the world. Unless they have a biological father or mother who is closely related by blood, other people, regardless of whether they are related or not, have to pay for gifts when looking for others to do things. The key point is that giving money is secondary, the most important thing is to owe favors. Favors are not too important, what is important is that you may not be able to do it for a long time. The money was spent, the favors were owed, and the job was lost. In the end, I was left empty-handed. No matter how much I calculated, I felt panicked about the loss.

Personally, it is better to find a job on your own. Don’t spend money, don’t owe favors, resign if you want, and change jobs if you want. I don’t owe anyone anything, I just live for myself. Just try to feel comfortable. ;