How can we successfully leave society?

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2004/10/111:50 Sina Education

1 think big and start small.

It is not easy for a person to realize his career ideal. He should not only master the necessary knowledge and technology, but also accumulate certain economic conditions. Of course, this is not only a matter for one person, but also a problem involving the whole family, that is, the family's investment in children's education. Of course, some children work as adults to earn money to complete their studies. On the one hand, we should strive for our professional ideals; On the one hand, we must deal with the problems of survival and development in the process of struggle.

A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. No matter how lofty the ideal is, it is also accumulated from daily work and study. This requires us to plan our academic career from a big perspective and start from a small one. After analyzing the basic situation of society and oneself, determine your career goals. At the same time, this big goal should be broken down into several small goals according to time stages, and with the passage of time, one by one, one by one, will eventually achieve their grand goals. And the realization of these small goals depends on our efforts every day or even every moment.

For those who want to earn money by working to complete their studies, they must have lofty ideals without losing their enthusiasm for practical struggle. This is a great test of your life. In this process, we not only accumulated social experience and achieved economic independence, but also had great significance for the perfection of our personality. From this, we learned the qualities of being strong, confident and indomitable. This will be an extremely valuable spiritual pillar for us to successfully complete the road of life.

So, what kind of jobs and positions are suitable for short-term or odd-job jobs to earn money in society now? Through investigation, there are generally the following situations:

1, urban construction industry. Doing odd jobs on construction sites is an important way for some rural youth to achieve self-reliance. But everyone should give up according to their own actual situation, if they are weak.

2. Family education. Being a tutor should be a good choice for the poor students who are admitted to the university. Not only can you improve your knowledge, but you can also make a lot of money.

3. Temporary promotion. When some enterprises engage in public relations or promotional activities, they often hire some students as temporary promoters.

4, the computer takes the apprentice. In order to reduce costs, some computer companies recruit some students in schools for a long time, or help customers install computers, or introduce products, or participate in network engineering construction. While teaching technology, it will also give it a certain amount of labor remuneration.

5. Doing business on campus. As mentioned above, students of a school in Chengdu sell phone cards on campus, which not only solves their own food problem, but also digs the first bucket of gold in life.

6. Shop assistant. Some shops are open 24 hours a day, or people are busiest when they are on vacation. At this time, we should hire some people in the business to cope with the tense period. This kind of post is generally better paid.

Of course, this kind of work is far more than that. As long as you are a conscientious person, you will find your own way of development in today's developing market economy.

2 Emergency plan

We have discussed a series of ways to achieve career goals. However, in the process of planning and implementation, our own situation and social environment are not as fixed as set in the plan, but unpredictable at any time. In order to ensure the realization of our long-term goals, we must revise our short-term goals and plans accordingly, otherwise our strategic goals will be difficult to achieve. Many people regard planning as an unchangeable thing in concept and implement it for the sake of implementation, thus clinging to the shortcomings in practice and missing all kinds of opportunities in progress. A basic premise of good academic planning is to be able to make corresponding coping strategies for favorable and unfavorable changes. Many people only make action plans for unfavorable changes, which is one-sided. For personal development, minimizing threats and making full use of opportunities can enhance their own development advantages.

There is a fable about fishermen, which is very enlightening. Fishermen always swear before fishing. Once, he heard that the price of cuttlefish was the highest in the market, so he vowed to catch cuttlefish to make a lot of money, but all he caught were crabs, and he felt that this was not the object he wanted to catch. In the end, he had to return empty-handed. After landing, he realized that the price of crabs was actually higher than that of cuttlefish, so when he went out to sea for the second time, he vowed to catch crabs, but all he caught were cuttlefish, and the result was in vain. Returning empty-handed, he seemed to realize his mistake and vowed to catch crabs and cuttlefish together in the future, but he caught all the horsehorn fish for the third time ... Before he went to sea for the fourth time, he died of hunger and cold.

Every time fishermen set up their own work plans, they are based on the summary of their immediate practical experience. It should be said that his work plan is correct. The problem is that he doesn't know how to practice after determining the plan, and he can't find new problems, sum up new experiences and seize new opportunities in time outside the established work plan. Not only that, he has not handled the dialectical relationship between immediate work and long-term goals, blindly denying immediate work and easily giving up the fruits of his struggle. As a result of frequent changes in plans, the direction of progress is naturally completely lost, and failure also follows.

Therefore, it is necessary to revise and practice the new scheme. However, this revision and practice is not a simple negation, but a sublation and a leap-forward progress. In practice, due to the constant changes in the situation, even if the same efforts are made, the results of practice will not be exactly the same, and sometimes even the opposite. However, this does not mean that the original plan is incorrect or backward, and we should be careful in defining and adjusting the plan, and we should not adjust it mechanically. In short, planning should also keep pace with the times and be innovative.

Young people who have just left the campus always want to be in one step at work, which is a beautiful wish. But if you try like that fisherman, you will accomplish nothing. Only by constantly revising your specific plan can you have the motivation to move forward forever and the courage to climb up. Being good at correcting the ongoing planning will keep your career positive all the time.

3 Secrets of achieving career goals

(1) The Dragon King and Bobby the Dragon King

After careful planning and hard work, I finally have the premise of settling down. The next step is to realize my career ideal and find the other half who appreciates your market. It should be said that your major choice is correct. You can worry about not finding a foothold, but the reality is constantly changing. You should have the courage and wisdom to compete with others.

Although the success of a career depends largely on people's internal quality, its external factors also have great influence, including physical appearance, family environment, social relations, economic situation and so on. Especially in modern society, the competition between people is unprecedentedly fierce. It can be said that the competition between them is all-round competition. However, it should be noted that the success we are discussing here is not the ultimate achievement of your career, but that you have successfully realized your career ideal in society or achieved economic independence. It can also be called the first success in life. Through the analysis of previous successful cases, we can see that not all the factors that determine the market competitiveness of your first success in life are playing a role. Often only one or two factors play a decisive role, so that you can be affirmed in the market and achieve your first success in life. Wang Hai became famous because he was the first consumer to crack down on counterfeit goods. In today's market economy, fame is profit. If properly managed, it will even bring endless economic benefits. This is why fame comes before profit in the word fame and fortune. Speaking of Wang Hai's comprehensive quality, it is not necessarily much higher than many of us. Han Han's success is also because an article is the best in the world, and other aspects are the same as yours. A few years ago, there was a saying that "one move first, eat all over the sky". He said, "The winner took the whole society." These words truly reveal the secret of the success of our society. If the enterprise is like this, isn't life like this? Therefore, in the law of achieving the first success in life, it is by no means the Koninkin law determined by the worst factors, nor is it suitable for the principle of comprehensive strength. It is not a contest of personal comprehensive strength, but the strongest factor of your market competitiveness. We should give full play to our ability to be recognized by the market in terms of market competitiveness. The so-called strengths and weaknesses. This law is the magic weapon to win the military struggle. As Mao Zedong said in directing the war, Bobby should be compared with the Dragon King, not the beggar and the Dragon King! This means that everyone should compare their own advantages with others, not their own disadvantages with others' advantages. Mr Cai Zhizhong, a cartoonist, once advised teenagers to choose their own brushes as soon as possible. Because you only need a good brush to make a living, you don't need seven or eight ones that are not good enough, this one must be the best. Everyone finds it difficult. In fact, everyone can be a top person. The secret is to choose what you are good at to learn. For example, studying women, there are 3 billion women in the world, but I have only studied a handful of their hair in Liu Haier, and I will definitely become a master at this point. It's like weak water, 3 thousand. I only drink one float. Therefore, when we make our own development plan, we should consider various factors, find out our own advantages, and use great energy to carry forward. Then work out a life plan suitable for their all-round development.

On the basis of fully understanding yourself, fully understand the society, especially the small society around you and the social environment closely related to you. Then decide your vision and action plan. I should say that I was born to be useful. As long as we plan properly and fully mobilize and make use of various elements of our own talent competitiveness, we will certainly lay a solid foundation for settling down in society in the future. Fourteen-year-olds basically have external conditions, such as figure, appearance, family environment, social relations, economic base and opportunities. So in general, on the one hand, we should study hard, develop in an all-round way and improve our internal market competitiveness; On the other hand, we should deeply consider external factors, analyze their advantages and disadvantages, and use them correctly to enhance our overall market competitiveness. However, it should be noted that in a certain period of time, we should go all out to improve the most favorable aspects of our market competitiveness. It can make you gain market recognition and social recognition in a very short time, so as to stand on your own feet economically and achieve your first success in life.

The author has two middle school classmates, and different understanding leads to different life paths.

When students are studying in middle schools, they often fail in exams because of poor literacy classes. But one of his hobbies is painting. He often practices after school. Graduated from high school, not admitted to college, unemployed at home. In the 1990s, universities all over the country set up self-funded students. So he attended the advanced study of Beijing Academy of Fine Arts. After graduation, I applied to an advertising company in Beijing to engage in advertising design.

Classmate No.2 Middle School studied very well and was admitted to a geological college in the late 1980s. This once became the pride of their village. After graduating from college, he volunteered to work in the frontier, but later he couldn't stand the hardships there and returned to his hometown. Engage in stock trading and become a professional stockholder. But the stock market is always not ideal. He often complains about the cruelty of reality.

It should be said that one of my classmates should be more realistic, recognize their own development direction and work hard for it, while another classmate, after graduating from college, is dissatisfied with his major and has not found a suitable development direction, so his life achievements are relatively poor.

The success of Hou Honglan, a famous dancer in China, is not only due to talent. She switched from China to ballet, which involved great difficulties. Her heel doesn't open, and the conditions needed for ballet are not the best, so she tries her best to correct it, and she is exhausted every time. At that time, when she was growing up, in order to control her weight, she practiced long-distance running and ran full head and sweat. In order to improve her personal quality, she practices the piano hard and likes to write online.

Hou Honglan won the women's gold medal in the "Peach and Plum Cup" ballet competition with 1994, the women's gold medal in the 4th Luxemburg International Ballet Competition with 1997, and Hong Lan Style with 1997 made her the first ballet dancer in China to hold a solo performance. Teacher Hou said frankly: "Opportunities will not favor an unprepared person. She has saved 15 years for this day since she was 6 years old! "

Just imagine, if Hou Honglan didn't work hard to improve after discovering her own specialty, would she have achieved today? Obviously impossible. Di Yun, who won the gold medal in Chopin International Piano Competition, is also famous for her hard work in this major. Please see the following interview with him:

Di Yun's long interview: Playing the piano is not romantic at all.

There must be life to interpret the charm of ideas, and there must be some kind of voice to resist poverty and stagnation.

I am not a youth idol.

□: It is said that you look like Japanese movie star Kimura Takuya, and some people say that you are a youth idol. Do you mind?

I have expressed this question many times. I don't feel like people call me that. It's just a one-sided view of me. I think I am who I am. I like the name Di Yun. Playing the piano is not romantic. However, I think everyone likes my performance, and it's not a bad thing to have more people.

□: I heard that your appearance in public will attract many young girls to scream.

I think playing the piano is a serious matter, because I play classical music, not pop music. Today, not many people like classical music. Moreover, the place where I study piano is also a very professional school, which is quite professional and unlikely to attract girls.

I'm not a genius. I work hard.

□: As the youngest winner of Chopin Piano Competition in 70 years, and the first pianist to win this grand prize in 15 years, people from all walks of life have called you "piano prodigy" and "the world's first musical genius". Have these titles brought you a lot of pressure over the past year or so?

These names were given by the media. I don't care what people call me at all. For me, the most important thing is how to continue studying. Genius is also acquired through hard work. Without hard pursuit, there will be no achievement. Frankly speaking, I feel very lucky. I have participated in many important competitions in recent years. These opportunities gave me exercise, and I entered the Chopin piano competition. The opportunity to show yourself is very important to a person, and many talents are buried. I am a lucky dog.

□: When you said that you wouldn't take part in any world piano competition again, some media said that you were afraid of failure, and some people gave you two prescriptions, saying that you won the prize in the sky because you learned the piano smoothly and the media caused you great pressure. It is suggested that society should pay more attention to human nature and less material desires. Second, the piano performance peak of masterpieces such as Liszt and Mozart is still far away. I hope you're not blind.

Winning the first place in Chopin competition doesn't mean I'm the best. It's only temporary. It's a beginning, a starting point. What I need to do is how to maintain and improve. As for not participating in the competition, it is completely normal. At first, everyone didn't want to take part in the competition, but they had to take part because the competition was a place to provide opportunities. Many performers have embarked on the road of professional musicians through competitions. Who will take part in the competition again after winning the grand prize?

Both prescriptions are the author's own feelings, which I have never felt before. Apart from practicing the piano and giving some interviews, I have never participated in any public activities and have no idea about the external environment. Maybe the author imagined that I was attending public activities everywhere, and photos were all over the media, so he thought I lived like that. I think media reports are always one-sided and it is impossible to describe a person completely. Only teachers and relatives around me can really understand my life.

The goal is to become a master.

□: Do you think this award is just a summary and a beginning for you? When you were young, you wrote in your diary that you wanted to be a piano master. Do you think you are moving from prodigy to master step by step?

-:"Music master" is only an expression of artistic achievements, and it doesn't mean anything. I've been trying to make progress. If my music can be liked by everyone, I will be recognized naturally. This is success. It doesn't matter what you call me.

□: You said playing the piano is a painful thing, accompanied by happiness. It will be painful when you can't surpass yourself, but you will be happy when you are recognized by the audience. Do you think your continuous progress is the pursuit of audience recognition or self-recognition?

-:This is a contradiction. I think my first pursuit is self-identity. I learn it because I like playing the piano. If I play just to please the audience, it doesn't make much sense. A performer certainly plays what he likes, so everyone will be different.

Of course, there will be a coincidence in this situation, and we agree with the audience. For example, this Chopin competition may be the case. The audience likes me, and so do the judges, so I won this award.

I only choose teachers, not schools.

□: Why did you choose to study in Germany?

-:It is entirely out of the teacher's consideration, and it is the choice of the teacher rather than the school. I think teachers are the most important. I once attended the master class of my present teacher. I think he is more suitable for me, so I decided to learn from him. Wherever he is, I will go, just as I went from Sichuan to Shenzhen Art School to study with Teacher Dan Zhao Yi. I have never considered the reputation of the school. I won the first prize in Sichuan Conservatory of Music. If I want to be famous for my school, I can also take the Central Conservatory of Music and Shanghai Conservatory of Music. But learning from Dan is the most important thing, which is a kind of happiness for me.

□: Talk about your study and life in Germany.

It's similar to what I learned when I was in Shenzhen. Play the piano for at least six or seven hours every day, and sometimes go to some other classes in the afternoon, such as English, music theory and so on. In the evening, I will watch TV, watch music videos, listen to CDs and surf the Internet occasionally.

□: What impact do you think this research has had on you?

-:I feel that my life experience is rich, my vision has been broadened to some extent, and I have more stage experience. But the progress in performance will not be so fast, and the progress in music is hard to say. Artistic aesthetics is personal, and I feel more profound. Maybe the audience likes my original performance full of youthful vitality. With the growth of age and rich knowledge, I will have a new understanding of my works, but it does not rule out that everyone likes my previous performances better.

Fu Cong has a problem with me.

□: Some people say that you won the Chopin Prize because of your understanding of music. The so-called kung fu is outside the piano.

-:This is someone else's opinion. I think it is because I am naturally sensitive to music and close to Chopin's temperament. This kind of thing is natural, which is different from the feeling I get through learning. There is really nothing to mention outside the piano, just watching the news and flipping through magazines. I prefer car magazines.

□: Your point of view is quite different from that of Mr. Fu Cong, a pianist.

He seems to have some opinions about me. We haven't met. Maybe he doesn't know me. Of course, I am also interested in learning other knowledge, but the current situation requires me to learn more songs, and I may not have time to learn more things for the time being. I want to do everything in stages. I have accumulated some tracks. Studying the repertoire requires a lot of humanistic knowledge. What do you learn without track?

□: You, Chen Sa and Mandy were named as the three new talents in the music industry. What do you think is the state of the three of you?

Chen Sa is my senior, and I often listen to her play. Her music feels good and delicate. Before I studied with Teacher Dan, she was already an excellent performer, and I also learned a lot from her.

I have never heard of Mandy's performance. He has entered his career, and it is said that he will perform 100 performances a year. This figure is amazing, but he developed earlier, and an agent arranged his performance. But everyone has a different opinion. I feel that I can't bear such a heavy performance task. After playing for seven times in a row, I finally lost my freshness and desire to express myself.

impression

Since June 5438+1October 2000, the world has really changed for Di Yun. But young, he was not carried away by fame and fortune, and continued to work hard to start his student status at Hanover Conservatory of Music in Germany. In fact, immediately after winning the prize, he announced that he would never participate in the piano competition again, which is a bit like the singer's announcement that he would quit the music world and won no more prizes after climbing the peak. Di Yun deliberately portrayed himself as a 100% classical musician, so he particularly resisted the words "pop" and "entertainment". Whether he usually listens to pop music or not, he always answers yes. "I never play pop songs or listen to pop music."

On his bookshelf, there are scores of Chopin, Mozart, Beethoven and Mach, which are the most popular songs in Di Yun's eyes.

He proved himself to be the most perfect and poetic pianist who mastered Chopin's playing style. He has extraordinary musical talent, and his performance embodies the most elegant voice and perfect technology. -Jan Bobis, Special Commentator of Chopin Competition

Bing Xin once said that people are only amazed at the beautiful flowers, but her original buds are soaked with blood and tears of struggle. Every successful person has never shed hard sweat on the road of struggle. People who think that they can succeed as long as they have hobbies and talents are naive.

In addition, among all the factors that determine its market competitiveness, their nature is the same, and some of them are relatively stable, which will affect your market competitiveness for a long time and fundamentally determine your ultimate achievement in life. This mainly refers to your internal quality, and other changes are great, mainly external conditions, such as life opportunities, which may be a year or two, a month or two, or a day or two. Social relations will also change greatly with the change of your living environment. You have acquaintances in your hometown, and you lose this condition when you go abroad to develop. The so-called Huainan orange, Huaibei orange. When you are young, you are physically strong or young. After this time, you lose this condition. Therefore, we should always pay attention to the changes in the external environment, fully explore external factors under the premise of our existing capabilities, and strive to make ourselves soar in the market competition.

While grasping the external conditions, we should constantly improve our internal quality. The improvement of morality, knowledge and wisdom will benefit you for life. Compared with the ever-changing external factors, your internal quality is relatively stable, which is the fundamental factor that determines your ultimate achievement in life. Therefore, as the saying goes, it is never too old to learn. In addition, due to the increasingly detailed social division of labor. The knowledge or technology people use to settle down is constantly developing and updating. My life is limited, but so is my knowledge. A person's time and energy are limited. In this era of knowledge and information explosion, one must carefully consider the choice of professional knowledge, carefully analyze oneself from the society, and carefully choose a major.

(2) correctly understand their own market competitive advantages.

Viewpoint: Enterprises win the market with their own fist products, and talents get jobs with their own key factors, which is the market competitive advantage in job hunting.

Usually, when filling out a resume, we will encounter situations where we need to fill in our hobbies or specialties. Many people fill in according to their usual feelings. For example, if I like singing, I will fill in singing, and if I like football, I will fill in football. It should be said that this is generally no problem.

As I said before, when striving for the first success in life, we should give full play to our strengths and avoid weaknesses. But for this major, specific analysis is needed. For example, some people say that he likes writing, but can you write articles that make yourself famous and recognized by the society? Do you have potential in this field? This is worth discussing. Many people mistake hobbies for specialties. You like playing chess. Can you be as famous as Xie Jun? You like computer games. Can your wisdom in playing games bring you wealth? Another example is that I was born in a family in Gao Qian, so I can easily achieve my first success in life in reality, and I will never violate the laws of social morality. But being born in Gao Qian is not my strong suit. However, this is indeed our advantage in the market competition in the real society! For another example, being beautiful is not a specialty, but she does have the advantage of market competition. It can be seen that there is a difference between the professional and the competitive advantage in the market that we usually understand. Strictly speaking, our major should be a competitive advantage that can be recognized by the market. Not a major in the general sense.

This advantage of market competition can be recognized by the market. The market here should be broad, not only representing the economic field, but also referring to the interest exchange relationship between all individuals in society and their job providers. In this context, the advantages of people's market competitiveness are internal quality and external conditions. In today's society, family conditions, physical appearance, social relations, opportunities, luck and so on may all be your competitive advantages. For example, a beautiful girl can achieve her first success without hard work. Of course, the governor's children have broader development prospects than those in rural areas. This is the real inequality in our society. When you don't have these external conditions, you must rely on your own internal qualities to strive for success.

However, we should see that under the favorable conditions of market competition, external conditions are always changing, while our internal quality can play a role for a long time. Therefore, if we want to use the external advantages correctly, we must strive to improve the internal quality. You can rely on external conditions to succeed twice, but the road of life is long, and the ultimate achievement of your career depends on your internal quality. Otherwise, we should strengthen our study and reform ourselves.