What thinking patterns will harm you?

What thinking patterns will harm you? Here are three points to share with you:

1, learned helplessness

People who always talk about "I can't, I'm not that material" are probably "learned helplessness" patients.

According to Baidu Encyclopedia, "learned helplessness" was put forward by American psychologist seligman when he studied animals in 1967. He did a classic experiment with dogs. At first, the dog was kept in a cage, and whenever the buzzer rang, it would get an uncomfortable electric shock. After many experiments, the buzzer sounded and the cage door opened before electric shock. At this time, the dog didn't run away, but waited.

Learned helplessness's personal performance is that he was pushed around and broke the jar because of his previous failures. It is a hopeless behavior and psychological state formed through learning.

There are many reasons for learned helplessness, the most important one is: the attribution error of failure experience. When a person always attributes the experience of failure to internal and uncontrollable factors, it is easy to have a sense of learned helplessness. For example, if a student fails in many exams, he can easily find the reason that "I didn't study this material". Because this reason seems impeccable, it perfectly explains the reason of failure and makes you give up trying with peace of mind.

In fact, many times, we can't do this and that. When you encounter failure, remember to think about the reasons in multiple dimensions and improve them, instead of simply attributing the reasons to "uncontrollable" factors.

2, entangled in the "sunk cost"

Sunk cost is a concept of economics, which refers to the cost that cannot be changed by any decision now or in the future because the past decision has already taken place. This is an unchangeable fact that has happened. Let's give an example to illustrate what is "entangled sunk cost".

Xiaoming is waiting at the bus stop in the morning. He has been waiting for more than 30 minutes, and he is already late! A taxi passed by, and Xiao Ming repeatedly decided not to take it-because he had been waiting for 30 minutes. If he takes a taxi now, the 30 minutes he waited will be wasted! The result was that the bus was late, but Xiao Ming was still more than 20 minutes late, and was criticized by the leader, and his salary was deducted by the attendance clerk.

In fact, many times, we will accidentally fall into the situation of entangled sunk costs. So be sure to remind yourself: don't let the sunk cost affect the current decision.

3. delusion

If you have an expectation that lingers for a long time and needs to be satisfied by others, this expectation is delusion.

There is a kind of person in the workplace. Only departments have parties. They must raise their glasses and drink until the end. They want to brush the sense of existence in front of the leaders, thinking that they can get promoted and raised when they get acquainted with the leaders. There is nothing wrong with brushing your sense of existence in the workplace, but you just get acquainted with others, just like others give you a promotion and a raise. This is a delusion.

You can have your own expectations. In meeting your expectations, someone helps you. Of course, in the final analysis, this is the icing on the cake. The important thing is to find ways to improve yourself and make yourself confident. Practice your internal skills diligently, and don't be paranoid.

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