35 years old, anxious about work?

Big Hands in the Workplace gives you a unique answer.

35 years old is a hurdle and a watershed, which makes people anxious and confused.

If you don't find a stable job before the age of 35, it will be more difficult for you to find another job after the age of 35. For example, in the examinations of civil servants and institutions, many positions are restricted, and some require people under the age of 35 to register. You can't take the exam if you are over 35.

So do some big companies. If you are 35 years old and have no other corresponding work experience, it is difficult to get the favor of the company unless you graduate from graduate school or doctor's degree.

After the age of 35, if you have a family, then you will reach the age of "providing for the elderly". Car loan, mortgage, children's family education, support for the elderly, household necessities, etc. , will make you worry. If you add problems such as unsatisfactory work in the workplace, family conflicts and children's education, it will be even more worrying.

After the age of 35, if you get along well in the workplace, you will be successful and smooth sailing.

But there are still more people in obscurity, standing still, and promotion is still far away. It is easy to feel anxious to see that my former colleagues, even those who came in later than myself, have been promoted and improved, but they are still the same.

Many people work and live "year after year, day after day" and support their families with meager wages every day. But house prices are rising day by day, prices are rising day by day, and the cost of living is gradually increasing. However, dreams are hard to realize and people are getting older. Looking at yourself like a frog in warm water, but unable to change the status quo, people will be more anxious.

After the age of 35, people in the workplace will always encounter anxiety of one kind or another. We must adjust our mentality, face it calmly, respond positively and overcome it bravely. Don't let anxiety affect our normal judgment and our working state.

Of course, I'm tired of manual labor. I think I'd better choose a sunshine industry or I'll be depressed!

I answered this question correctly with the eyes of a junior born in 1990s. Personally, I advocate that every stage of a person's life has what it should look like, what it is like when he is young, what it is like in middle age and what it is like in old age. He should express himself truthfully and be himself. 35-year-old professionals, your workplace experience, professional skills, management skills, network resources are at the peak, promising. I don't agree with the prevailing midlife crisis theory.

Let's look at a survey data first. Most corporate executives are between 35 and 50 years old. So, 35? Does the workplace crisis really exist? Have you set a limit for yourself? There are still 30-40 years to go. In the first 35 years, you won over 25-year-old young people in experience and professional skills, and over 45-year-old professionals in energy and age. As long as you dare to attack the city and plunder the land, the open road ahead will be open for you. Many times, it's not that there is no road, but that you have drawn a prison for yourself and are afraid to leave.

I give a set of real data around me. In the company where I work, 90% of middle-level managers/professionals are over 35 years old, and they are overwhelmingly superior to young people in terms of experience, skills, management and connections.

In China, being old and poor is not what people want.

Cao Cao's works handed down from generation to generation are well known throughout the ages, old horse, aiming at a thousand miles. The martyrs were full of courage in their later years. At first glance, the momentum is vigorous, and the fine works reveal the author's fear of getting old, but this has not stopped the ambition of a generation of lean Cao Cao to make contributions. Most of the great achievements of mankind were not created before the age of 30.

No matter what era we deal with, we must strive to realize the value of this unique life. A career, three meals and four seasons, have a happy life, a happy mood, a happy life and a peaceful mood.

Keywords: age VS anxiety

Personal opinion: anxiety is not a characteristic and trait that must appear at a certain age.

Anxiety is a psychological feeling. Temporary, sudden and subjective. Suddenness may be caused by an event or a topic. Temporarily, because it's just a feeling at a certain stage.

Whether workplace anxiety depends on the current working status has nothing to do with age.

I'm curious that you ask such a question at such a young age. Anyone can succeed casually, which requires sweat and cost. You are only 35 years old, so there is no need to be so pessimistic, because no matter how anxious you are, it won't help. During the epidemic, consideration is more important than worry. First, you should have a correct outlook on life. In the past, you saw how many people succeeded in starting a business after their fifties and sixties. There are too many inspirational lives. Remember, opportunities will never be given by others, but created by yourself. Opportunities are always reserved for those who are prepared. You might as well try to think about it. You want your life:

First, health, safety, relaxation and calmness.

Second, I have achieved something. I have experienced stormy waves and seen the clouds light and the wind light. These are two extreme choices. People in different periods will make different choices, but at least in the same period, people's choices are single and stable. But I have to say, in your question, I see that you always want to have multiple different choices at the same time. This is very difficult for most people.

The third conclusion: I think your troubles now are mainly because you are too greedy. To sum up, you want to achieve something, but don't want to be too tired. How to understand this greed?

1. If you can't get it in a short time, you want to change your strategy and ask for something else, which is very half-hearted.

2. I always want to eat a fat man in one breath, but the plan is not good. How can I eat a fat man a day?

I just want what I want, but I don't have enough courage and persistence! Having said that, I actually want to tell you that a relaxed life is the life of a circle of friends. No one has completed his goal without making up his mind for so many years.

Come on, young man, there is still a long way to go. Face all the problems in life with a positive attitude. I believe that success is not far from you, and I look forward to your success. 3 reading

Xiaobai's skill

I'm glad to answer your question. Tell me my opinion.

Isn't 35 the golden age of life? It is true that 35 years old should be the golden age of life. But now countless people are full of anxiety at the end of their careers in this golden age. How should we look at this problem? I think it is difficult to keep up with the rapid development of society. This is one of anxiety. Let's first look at the iterative speed of the human industrial revolution.

And this time is still accelerating, and there are many new things in the workplace. What is more intuitive is that I worked online at YQ this time, and I did this for the first time since I entered the workplace. Then the iteration of technology makes people find that many things in the past can be removed. There may be less work. Nail office, WeChat office, storage and display of various documents, and video conference seem to make people feel that the older they get, the smaller their advantages will be. Time and energy are not as good as those of younger people, and the cost of learning is so high.

In the workplace, at the age of 35, you should enter management or be a reserve manager. If you don't enter this level, it is easy to be eliminated. Occupational crisis is especially unfriendly to the elderly, which is the second kind of anxiety. If you are still a basic post, the iteration of knowledge updating you have to face is getting faster and faster, which means that if you can't keep up, you will lose your job and enter a' skill panic'. High-intensity work mode, there is a case in the Internet Tucao community. An employee with Xiaomi label expressed his inner dissatisfaction and anger: the struggle of coordinate Xiaomi and airborne Ali forced us to work overtime crazily, and also hinted that we would pack up and leave. What shall we do? There are no new jobs at present.

This 996 has gradually become the norm. If you can't accept it, you must find a new job. Efficiency is king. Employees with high salaries, families and declining energy may face this layoff.

The 35-year-old age threshold has become a threshold for recruitment and an obstacle to applying. Now many candidates don't want people over the age of 35, so this is the third anxiety.

In particular, those positions in the workplace that require strong physical strength and energy really need to have an age limit. A typical example of the workplace is the software development technicians in high-tech enterprises. After this 35-year-old age, most of them mean to enter the crisis moment in the workplace, because software development technology is developing too fast, which requires you to be energetic, have strong learning and absorption ability, get started quickly and keep up with mainstream technologies. However, at the age of 35, due to family burden and social reasons,

Because a large number of college graduates enter the job market every graduation season, the data of the last three years: from more than 5 million, 7 million to 8 million, the employment of college graduates alone has caused fierce competition in the workplace. When the supply of jobs exceeds the demand, the recruitment requirements of enterprises have raised the threshold.

Finally, let me talk about my personal opinion. Anxiety is inevitable. Just like the threshold of enterprise recruitment for 35 years, it is very subjective. 35 years old is actually the golden age for accumulating life and work experience, especially in special industries with strong professional requirements. There is no age limit for these positions. On the contrary, you don't have so many years of accumulation, and your experience needs to be supplemented. If before the age of 35, you already have the comprehensive quality and comprehensive ability of professional posts, plus your own industry qualifications, it should be your own advantage! 35 years old, come on.

Facing the Sea With Spring Blossoms

Anxiety.

Physical strength is not as good as young people.

The cost performance is getting lower and lower.

Anxious. I am anxious because I was robbed of food. But since I learned numerology and knew the source of my anxiety, I am much better. Especially knowing the ups and downs of your future life is even more calm. Live in the present, the present is not miscellaneous, and the future is not welcome.

Hello, I'm glad to answer this question.

You are right, the workplace is not friendly to most middle-aged people, because the unit needs to replace the old and the new, control the cost of human resources, and need energetic and enterprising young people to take the lead. Therefore, middle-aged people's workplace anxiety is normal and common. Anxiety means a sense of crisis. If there is a sense of crisis, we need to find ways to resolve the crisis. If there is only anxiety but no action, then the anxious thing will become a cruel reality sooner or later.

For people aged 35 and above, first of all, we should have a clear understanding of the life course in our career. Canadian Brian featherstone Howe divides people's career into three stages in his book Vision:

Most people's careers begin when they graduate from college in their twenties. At this stage, they should not only be patient, but also constantly act to sow seeds for future harvest. This is when you are young, when you find your strengths and enthusiasm, and when you establish good work habits. Most importantly, this is the time to store fuel in the workplace. The first stage is very important, explore and make up for its shortcomings.

When you enter the second stage, it is even more difficult to fill the shortcomings. Many of your own personalities and ways of dealing with people have become inertia, which is difficult to adjust. At this time, the better way is to focus on your own longboard and constantly strengthen and improve your strengths and advantages, which means that your value is constantly improving. At the same time, consciously associate with people who can help you and make up for your shortcomings, and achieve others and yourself through mutual support.

After the age of 40, I almost entered the third stage of my career, which may be extremely rich and lasting until the end of my career-retirement. This stage requires some appropriate ways of thinking, anticipation and preparation. The main purpose of the third stage is to train successors, from the role of executors or leaders to the role of consultants or assistants.

About 30 to 40 years old, I am in this second stage. At this stage, it is important to strengthen your own strengths and advantages, and make some transferable skills accumulated in the first stage perfect. These skills include, but are not limited to: persuasion and communication skills, ability to complete tasks, ability to think spontaneously and actively, ability to solve complex problems, ability to help others and seek help, ability to discover and cultivate new people, ability to get along with others (emotional intelligence), and personal resources (current and former bosses, supervisors, classmates, colleagues, customers, partners and like-minded friends). ......

Simply put, it is to enhance your own value and become more valuable. When you are more valuable, the advantages of middle-aged people's maturity, stability and ease of work can have more opportunities to show. At this time, it is not that you are desperately looking for money, but that money comes to you. How else can we improve our value faster? There are two ways:

Do the above two things, make yourself valuable, let money come to you, and the middle-aged people's workplace anxiety will naturally be resolved.

The above is my answer, I hope I can help you.

About the author: Mr. Guo, MBA of Shanghai University of Finance and Economics, professional human resource manager. Record the workplace, share the journey, and catch fireworks.

There is no word "easy" in the adult world. The easiest thing to say is getting fat and losing hair. For a career of 30 to 40 years, 35 years old is just one wave, not even a stormy wave.