Why do you study well, but you don't behave well after graduation?

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1. A heavy topic: How does the gap between people widen?

I often see that many college students, even graduate students or doctors, can't stand the pressure to jump off a building or commit suicide, which makes me think deeply. With the same blue sky, the same land, the same policies and the same conditions, why do some people earn 10,000 yuan or even hundreds of thousands of yuan a month, while others linger on the food and clothing line for a long time? This is half a catty. How did the gap widen?

What is even more puzzling is that some people are obviously not as good as ordinary people, but they still get along well. They have heard the story of Zhang Haidi, but they still live a strong life and make immortal achievements. I have met Zhou Zhou, a genius conductor, a patient with severe congenital stupidity. His IQ is not as good as that of many people, but he has made respectable achievements in music. And some people are still poor when they have relatively good conditions the day after tomorrow. They have seen many beggars with sound limbs, but they live a begging life; I heard that many people with high academic qualifications obviously have smart brains, but they want to jump on the Beijing 1 line.

What determines the differences and contrasts between people? Why do some people get along well while others don't?

The experiences of two or three of my best classmates made me reflect on the reasons for the gap between people.

I went home during the Spring Festival this year and had the honor to attend the junior high school students' party. There were only seven or eight people at the party. When we get together, it is quite exciting to think that we haven't seen each other for so many years. It is also very happy for everyone to talk about the thoughts of parting for many years and recall the unforgettable past years. There is an essential link in the party, that is, everyone will introduce their recent situation and experiences along the way sentence by sentence. I just know that junior high school students who are born in poverty like me, although there are many mixed down and out people, also have a lot of mixed scenery. Tell me about the experiences of the three best students:

Student A is the best student in our junior high school. I was admitted to a famous university in Beijing in the college entrance examination, but I was forced to drop out of school in my junior year because I failed too many courses. If you think he is a tragedy, you are wrong. Another reason for dropping out of A University is that he found a job with an annual salary of 300,000 in a famous IT foreign company. The annual salary of 300 thousand was a huge sum eight years ago. How did he do it? It turns out that classmate A is studying computer. When he was a freshman, he came into contact with linux technology and became very interested, so he decided to study linux. At that time, there were not as many materials and videos about linux as now, so he had to hold a large book about linux and study it by himself. In the next two years, he spent all his thoughts on the research of linux, even studying with a flashlight at night. By the end of his junior year, because he spent too much energy studying linux and didn't give gifts to his teachers, he failed too many courses and had no choice but to drop out of school, but what he got was that a famous IT company hired him with an annual salary of 300,000. Now the annual salary of this classmate, you can imagine it yourself.

Classmate B is close to me, because I was a classmate in high school. Classmate B is a very special person. When we learn to escape from the farm, he wants to finish studying culture and return to the countryside. At that time, in high school, he boasted to me that "agriculture, industry, trade, production, supply and marketing are integrated into one train", and he wanted to be a modern farmer. We all wanted to go to other provinces for the college entrance examination, but he applied for the animal husbandry major of Jiangxi Agricultural University. It suddenly dawned on me that he was not bragging, but taking the first step for his dream. When we graduated, we were working in the city, but he went home to raise pigs. At that time, he was despised by many hometown people, saying that he studied for nothing. When I returned to my hometown, I saw him wearing a blue coat and carrying a basket in the field. His face was as black as charcoal. After so many years, after ups and downs, his pig farm has become the largest meat supply base in the county, and it also supplies several surrounding counties and even provincial capitals. Now the scale of its farms can be imagined.

Classmate c is one with poor grades in junior high school, and he can only be admitted to vocational high school. When I was in senior three, I heard that he dropped out of school and went to Hefei, Anhui Province to be a soldier. Because we rural people are honest, we never cheat or play tricks in the army, so we work hard and work hard, so we join the party in the army with honor. However, due to its low culture, the military leaders are unable to do so even if they have the intention to train them. After several years of military service, I retired to work in Dongguan. Because considering that he has no education, he can't live without skills in the future, so he firmly holds a purpose, that is, he must find a job where he can learn technology! It's hard to find a job in Dongguan, because I don't have a degree, I don't want to be a security guard, and I want to learn technology. At a job fair, he saw a paper mill recruiting people. Although not many people applied, the location was too remote. He went to the Internet cafe to learn about the technical jobs of the paper mill, thinking that he could learn them as technology, so he applied for the job as a production worker the next day. In the factory, he started as a pulper. This job is not only heavy physical labor, but also the environment is quite bad. Within a month, he and a high school student were the only new recruits to do this. After half a year, high school students can't stand it, and he is the only one left among the newcomers. This caught the boss's attention. Knowing his experience as a soldier and his desire to be a technician, he asked the master in the workshop to take him as a paper cutter. Starting from this technical type of work, he has worked as a boiler worker, electrician, instrument worker and chemical engineer in the factory, and mastered a set of techniques such as paper machine operation and troubleshooting in the factory. Up to now, he has become the company's vice president in charge of production and the boss's right-hand man. This is also a blessing. With the development of Dongguan city, the remote location of the factory has now become a busy place. The geographical benefit of the paper mill is good, and his natural treatment is also quite rich. His annual salary has reached hundreds of thousands, and he is already a veteran in the paper industry!

On the way home, I kept thinking, why can they get along well? Is it a relationship? Network? Background? Thinking? Courage? Luck will come? Standing on the right line with the right people? Even an official or a rich father? None of the above factors seems to be! The desire for success keeps me thinking. My three classmates are struggling in different regions, with different levels of intelligence and different industries. We all depend on ourselves, but why can we achieve success far beyond our peers? After thinking for a long time, I finally found that their success lies in that they have a goal that suits them and can stick to it for a long time. Success is not achieved by the intelligence of peers, just as the theory of success says. The best shortcut to success is always to set a goal that suits you and stick to it seriously.

1, there is no doubt that persistence is indispensable on the road to success.

To do things well, what we lack is not planning or ideas, but insisting on doing a thing very deeply. Many years ago, when I was studying PHP in a training school, I heard the teacher say that "the difference between people is not IQ, but persistence." Now there is a popular law called "10,000-hour law", which says that no matter what you do, as long as you keep studying and accumulate 10,000 hours, anyone can change from ordinary to extraordinary. Many famous successful people, whether Bill Gates, Ted Woods who plays golf, Warren Buffett, the stock god, or even a great man in China, Xu Zhenchao, a Qingdao port hoisting master with only junior high school education, has become a master among the masters because of his long-term investment.

Persistence and perseverance belong to our potential. As long as we have the desire to succeed, we will certainly stimulate this potential. My three well-mixed classmates, although there are differences in academic qualifications, all have a big heart of persistence. No matter students who study linux (for more than two years, go all out, even if they have to study under the covers before going to bed, even if they fail in other subjects), students who raise pigs (who have been working hard since high school, no matter how ironic the villagers are), or students who work in Dongguan paper mill (who insist on finding technical jobs themselves, no matter how hard or tired), they have achieved success envied by other students at a young age.

Of course, persistence lies not only in the length of time, but also in long-term seriousness. Think about many people around us working long hours in their posts, far more than 10 thousand hours. Why are they still poor? That's because there are two ways to do things, one is to do things seriously and the other is to deal with things. If you do things with a coping attitude, then no matter how long you persist, you will only persist in dealing with it! So if you fail temporarily now, don't complain that you don't have a chance, meet a noble person or meet your own talent. Instead, ask yourself whether you have worked hard enough and whether you have worked hard for 10 thousand hours. You shouldn't complain if you don't work hard enough.

What is more important than persistence is to find a goal that suits you.

What is more important than persistence is to find a goal that suits you! In detail, there are actually two meanings here. First, the goal should be suitable for yourself; Second, the goal is not greed, just one.

1) The goal should suit yourself, suit your personality and give full play to your advantages, which is the foundation of self-confidence.

There is no doubt that you must persist in order to succeed, but in the words of the bodhi old zu, you will also mention giving up, for example, "there are herbs in the sea, why do you have a crush on a flower?" In modern articles such as Chicken Soup for the Soul, there are also words like "The road ahead is dead, hope is just around the corner" and "Obsession is stubbornness". Should we persist or give up in the face of setbacks and difficulties?

I am from the countryside. I am eager for success. I am tenacious and diligent in my blood. I am not stupid, but I am far less successful than my classmates. I remember when I just graduated from college, I was forced to enter the sales ranks for professional reasons. At that time, I thought I was suitable to take the road of sales, because I majored in economic management and was interested in marketing. But when I arrived at the sales position, I found that it was not the case at all. I have done shopping guide, telemarketing and business. Because of introversion, inarticulate and unsociable. Although I have been recognized by my boss because of my studious attitude, I am also suffering. I will suffer for the payment task at the end of the month, for how to socialize on the wine table, and even for smoking and drinking. No matter how hard I tried, sales never increased, which led to my lack of confidence in my work in this line. But because of the phrase "the general is not a dead soldier", I persisted in the sales position for three years, doing things I didn't like, and persistence was simply suffering. Finally, one day, I read a report that Roger Anderson, a famous American human resources consultant, made an amazing discovery: "98% of successful people are successful because their careers fit their own personalities." On the contrary, losers always want to succeed in areas where their personality is not suitable. " I immediately felt that I was a loser in the eyes of this American expert, trying to succeed in my unsuitable field. After spending a few days thinking about my personality, I finally gave up my three-year sales target and went to a good training institution to study PHP. Now I am on the road of technology, and my life is bright. Technical posts are suitable for their introverted personality, only to find that doing things that suit their learning personality will not make them feel bitter. On the other hand, the students in Grade Three are engaged in jobs that are in line with his personality. Therefore, our persistent goal is to try our best to do things that conform to our own personality!

There is an old saying in China, "A good horse can take risks, but it is not as good as a field; A strong car can carry loads, and crossing the river is not as good as a boat; Myopia is difficult, but farsightedness is difficult. This tells us that we must pay attention to foster strengths and avoid weaknesses. Everyone has his own strengths, even people with low IQ have their own talents (think about the boat mentioned above if you don't believe me). When setting goals, you must pay attention to your own strengths, otherwise you will become less and less confident! Looking back at my three well-mixed classmates, their goals are completely in line with their specialties, that is, they are good at research, good at breeding and can bear hardships. Their goals coincide with their expertise. If they do what they are good at, they won't feel tired, but they will become more confident. In the end, when their peers are still struggling for survival, they have already succeeded ahead of schedule. Therefore, people's goals should also pay attention to their own strengths.

Back to the question at the beginning of this section: When we encounter setbacks and hardships, should we give up or persist? In fact, it mainly depends on whether the fruit goal itself conforms to your own personality, whether you can give play to your own advantages, in other words, whether you can make yourself more confident! If we are less and less confident on the way to the goal, it means that the goal is not in line with our own personality and can't play our own specialty. Then persistence is simply suffering. I suggest that you choose to give up like me and rethink your future. If our goals are in line with our own personality and can give full play to our own advantages, then if we encounter hardships, the difficulties are only temporary for us. We must stick to it like my three classmates who get along well, and we will certainly achieve greater success than ordinary people.

Therefore, persistence is very important, but it is more important to choose a goal that suits you! If you want to stimulate your persistence potential, you need to choose a goal that suits you. This goal needs to suit our personality and give full play to our strengths, which will make us more and more confident on the way to this goal.

2) Don't be greedy for perfection, try to be as accurate as possible, learn mode A, and have the best goal.

Laser gains strength by focusing, and easily cuts hard diamonds and steel plates; The energy of the sun is hundreds of thousands of times that of laser, but because of its dispersion, it can only become warm sunshine, which enlightens us to focus on the target. I remember the experience of learning php in Chanz Podcast a few years ago. I asked the teacher, do you still want to learn java after learning PHP? Teacher Han Shunping, a famous lecturer in both java and PHP, warned me that if PHP was not proficient, I would learn java, and I would be greedy for perfection. Chances are, you will learn differently. Therefore, following the advice of teacher Han, I have been focusing on the PHP field for several years, and my income is good!

At this moment, I suddenly remembered a book I read when I was doing sales, which was about the difference in management between American enterprises and Japanese enterprises. The mainstream management concept of American enterprises is called A (American) model, and the most striking feature of A model is concentration, narrowness and depth, while the mainstream management concept of Japanese enterprises is called J (Japan) model, which is broad and simple. China household electrical appliance enterprises generally adopt J-mode development, and finally fall into the industry trough, with Haier as the most representative. Haier started as a refrigerator and gradually entered dozens of fields such as black electricity, IT and mobile communication under the guidance of the concept of "meeting customers' needs". Judging from the operating data released by Haier, Haier's profit margin is basically around 1%. No wonder Zhang Ruimin, chairman of Haier, lamented that "Haier's profit is as thin as a blade". Correspondingly, Gree, a typical A-mode enterprise in household appliances enterprises, has developed from a small enterprise into the largest air-conditioning enterprise in China and the most profitable enterprise among household appliances enterprises in China in more than ten years. It can be seen that enterprises and brands want to be competitive, only by focusing, and so do people?

Let's go back to my three good classmates. The reason why they can succeed is that their goals are suitable for their own personality and specialties, and there is another reason, that is, their goals are focused. A student's goal is linux, which has not been extended to a lot of IT technologies such as databases and languages. Student b's goal is to raise livestock and pigs, but it has not been extended to the popular special tourism such as farmhouse music; C's goal is to be able to engage in technical work in a paper mill. There are no plans to study other types of factory equipment in the past, present and future. If there is one experience that can be summed up in goal setting, it is that they set their own goals without exception, and they are under great pressure to stick to them.

Therefore, the goal should not be perfect, but be as specific and precise as possible, preferably a goal.

4. What is the shortcut to success?

There is no shortcut to success, because any success requires long-term efforts, diligence and persistence. However, compared with many people who have just muddled through their lives for decades, there is a shortcut to success, that is, stick to a goal that suits them and work hard for more than 10 thousand hours. Believe me, if we really do this, even if we can't become masters, at least we will become experienced experts in this industry, people who are useful to society and people who have no worries about food and clothing.

If we don't study well, please reflect on ourselves. Is it because we haven't found the right target yet? Is it because the goal is not suitable for your own personality and you can't play your own good at it, so persistence has become a torment in our eyes? If that's the case, please slow down now, dig your own personality and specialties with your heart, find your own goal again, and then keep your eye on this goal and keep working hard for at least 10 thousand hours. When you look up at the road again, you will find that you have been ahead of many people unconsciously!

Persistence is very important, goals are more important, and it doesn't matter to poor children. Please remember our strategy of "mixing well": a suitable goal+10 thousand hours of unremitting efforts!