Essays on Friendship Trilogy

Foreword: When saccharin is placed in boiling water, its sweetness is 300 times that of sucrose. Excessive use will cause harm to the human body. This kind of sugar-coated friendship is frightening. Plain water is bland and tasteless, and it is the most additive-free, top-quality product. It is economical and has no side effects. Plain white water is just like the friendship between gentlemen - rare and valuable; when brewing a cup of tea, the tea leaves are flying in the cup, and gradually the color of the water is changing, and the fragrance is diffused. The long fragrance is like friendship that makes people remember it, but it cannot avoid the sadness after the tea has cooled down. Therefore, friendship requires mutual understanding and sincere care in order to last forever.

Friendship as sweet as cannonballs

I don’t like food that is too sweet. But I never expected to be "bombed" with honey-like friendship and be bruised all over. This is the first time in decades that I have endured heartache!

We met in warm spring. There was a shrewdness and arrogance in her little eyes that was not easy to get close to. But after getting along for a period of time, her kind and straightforward personality narrowed the distance between us, and we became good friends who talked about everything.

At work, she and I do not distinguish between you and me, we trust each other and help each other. Because she also does other things part-time after work. Therefore, when it was her turn to be on duty, she often had to do part-time work. Whenever this happens, I will take the initiative to take on her tedious work and always try my best to complete it for her free of charge. I have never complained or made a mistake. And she repaid me with sincerity. The friendship is deep and enviable, and our hearts are as sweet as sugar. She will always talk to me about the confusions and trivial things in life; she will also share with me the progress of my children's learning and the joys and sorrows of their growth. We haven't seen each other for a day like three autumns apart.

Who knows, the glue-like friendship will bring the pain of disconnection. People often say: The weather in July is like a child's face, it changes at will. Without warning, I was struck by "thunder" and scratched by "lightning". A well-intentioned care turned into a twisted fuse, igniting in midsummer.

A colleague of mine contracted some business in a certain unit and asked me to contact several people to complete it together. I thought of her immediately, and knowing that her lover is also a professional, I recommended them to go together. Unexpectedly, my good intentions were misinterpreted by her: Maybe my colleagues had asked her before if she dared to take on this business, and of course they were referring to themselves rather than transferring it to her. Therefore, she thought that I was the one who instigated my colleagues to refuse to contract with her... For several days, she cursed and cursed in front of me. I thought I had a clear conscience and ignored her. Unexpectedly, my tolerance fueled her arrogance. For the sake of money, she challenged my bottom line again and again. Her colleagues couldn't stand it any longer, so they intervened: "It's impossible to outsource the work I contracted. Let's do it together so that everyone can earn some money." Who knows, after hearing this, she was like an angry lion. He is openly provocative at work, completely ignoring people's strange looks. I walked away silently because I didn't want to be laughed at in public, I didn't want to argue with her, and I didn't want to ruin our friendship over this little thing. What's more, no one is perfect, and who has no faults? I also tried to forgive her bad temper and always thought about every bit of sincerity when I was with her. But it turned out that I was wrong, the broken vase could never be restored to its original appearance! Because she didn't think calmly when things happened, and she listened to other people's instigations, she often cursed in front of me from time to time: "If you have the ability, you have done all my work and made all my money..." I completely despaired of her.

I am not a money-oriented person, but she values ??money more than friendship when it comes to interests. I couldn't accept this sudden blow, I couldn't sort out the pain in my heart, and I couldn't understand whether the true love I had for more than two years was all a disguised illusion. No! I don't believe it! To put it bluntly, I don’t want to face the reality in front of me, let alone tear down the building of friendship with my own hands. In the dead of night, I picked up a pen and wrote the Sanqu "Remembering a Friend":

Zhonglu (Yangchun Song)

I often ask questions about who is who, but I am always being naughty.

Relatives and friends tried to persuade each other but it was difficult to stay. They threw away their hands and shed tears of heartache.

I never expected that getting along sincerely would result in unforgettable pain. Maybe it's because you value it too much that you feel sad. You try your best to tolerate it with pain, but it becomes a ridiculous reason for others to be presumptuous. I couldn't let it go for a long time. Sometimes I ask myself: I don’t like food that is too sweet, so why do I get confused by honey-like friendship and always hold it in my heart? Fortunately, time has healed my pain, and slowly I have understood that living in tolerance can forget sadness, bring a ray of fragrance to others with a smile, infect myself, and influence others. In fact, friendship does not need to be as sweet as honey, it is true if it is plain!

Friendship as pure as white water

Perhaps due to my father’s inheritance, I would not easily try any of the colorful drinks that others see as free gifts. I love clean food as much as ever and so do my friends. What I value is the kind-hearted and sincere character; what I care about is the outspokenness of the bitter medicine; what I yearn for is the tolerance and broad mind of each other; what I insist on is the friendship that cares about each other in the ordinary and cares about each other for a long time.

Yuefen and I are childhood friends. She is an ox and I am a tiger. In the early 1980s, when we were children, we went to school together, made noises together, played together, and became a pair of inseparable friends. However, when we are together, it is often my tiger bullying her cow. Once, I blew up her toy "Yoo-Yo-Bumping", which was the most popular toy at the time. I sneaked away without apologizing or saying I was sorry; in the third grade, I borrowed a classmate's book from her and chewed the cover, but she became the scapegoat...

Time As time goes by, in the fight and slapstick, the friendship deepens day by day. In the blink of an eye, we were admitted to junior high school. After one semester, she suddenly had to go to Yuci City No. 5 Middle School with her father. I remember that on the day before she left, at dawn, she ran to my house to say goodbye. We held hands and talked until we walked to the entrance of the village. She told me Yuci's address and repeatedly emphasized that we should write letters frequently. After speaking, with tears in her eyes, she slowly let go of my hand, got into the car that picked her up, stretched out her head and kept waving to me. The car gradually drove away, and my vision was blurred by tears... After that, we kept exchanging letters, conveying each other's thoughts and respective studies. In the early 1990s, I also went to school in Yuci, wore her clothes, and often visited her Eat at home. We would also go out together on weekends, and she became my best friend in my heart; after marriage, she settled in the suburbs of Yuci City, and I returned to my hometown. We have been separated since then, but we have kept in touch with each other to this day.

In July 2008, I went to Yu alone to visit the early education classes offered by the "Golden Doudou" parent-child park. When I walked on the streets of Yuci, I realized that this place is not what it used to be. Even though I have lived here for 7 years, I still have trouble finding a place. So he called Yuefen.

After receiving my call, Yuefen put down the work at hand, rode a motorcycle and rushed to my side from the suburbs more than 20 miles away under the scorching sun, and took me back to her home. The next morning, she took me through the streets and alleys, asking about the place I was looking for. After a whole morning, I finally got what I wanted. Looking at Yuefen's face covered with sweat, I felt very sorry and suggested that we go to dinner together and I would treat him. After hearing what I said, she said displeasedly: "In such a hot weather, I won't hang out with her even if someone invites me. We are childhood friends and good friends! When you come to my house, of course I treat you... …”

Her true feelings are like the spring water in my hometown, which keeps washing away the impurities in my heart, making me feel selfless; her friendship is like a trickle, which keeps nourishing my heart, making me appreciate pure friendship. Cherish it more. Ordinary friendship is as transparent as pure water, which has become my favorite. The temptation of colorful food eclipsed me. Cherish friendship and keep purity, this is our common wish!

Friendship as cool as green tea

I am not good at reading people and tasting tea, so the tea cup in front of me makes me feel uneasy. I excitedly picked up the cup and took a sip. It was bitter and astringent. This was a true reflection of my heart. At this time, there was even a heart-wrenching pain, which made my heart turn upside down and unable to find peace.

I put down the cup in a panic, as if I saw her lingering figure appearing in the cup: We have known each other for many years, we are neighbors but not close friends, and we came together by chance. In the cold winter, we go out to buy goods together and plan home designs together. Gradually, I discovered that there are many things about her that I admire: she is kind-hearted and has a smart financial mind; she is eloquent and can handle things with ease; she educates her children properly, and her two children are very good. But the only thing that attracted me was her ability to teach her children. Although we are not like-minded, we have become close. We live very close to each other, but I don't have much contact with her. Because I feel that talking about words with literary friends after work makes me happier. And she couldn't bear her temper, so she would call and make appointments every now and then: go out for a walk together; talk about the education of her children...

It turns out that the farthest distance in the world is not the end of the world, but the stranger that is so close. . Time flies and autumn arrives in a blink of an eye. During the harvest season, unexpected things still happen. Out of concern for her, I made an appointment with her to go to a company to inquire about the recruitment situation. Unexpectedly, she knew the manager of the company, so she left her phone number and signed up. I didn't sign up. What's strange is that among the many applicants, she was not selected, but I accidentally became the only one selected.

When I received the call from the manager, the first sentence I said was: "Didn't you say that she should come to work? I have other jobs. Isn't this appropriate?" the manager said : "We got your phone number and found out that you have relevant experience and some computer knowledge... After discussions with several leaders, we feel that you are the most suitable for this job!"

I was speechless. Although I am grateful for the leader's appreciation, I am more apologetic: Am I too selfish? Am I not a friend enough? But I can swear to God that I really didn’t mean to take her job. What's more, I'm not a person who values ??money, but I think friendship is more important than money. Besides, this job is not as high as my previous salary. I thought about it again and again and decided to talk to her.

The next day, I deliberately got up early and looked for her on the road where she often exercised. A familiar figure was jogging not far ahead. I ran faster, shouting her name, but the people in front of me didn't stop. I chased after her and it turned out to be her. When talking to her, I clearly felt that there was no previous enthusiasm in her words. At the time, I felt like I was drinking a cup of overnight tea on a cool morning. I quickly explained what was going on at work, but she was speechless. We walked together leisurely, a little awkward... The sun slowly rose, and the atmosphere of our conversation gradually eased. When we reached the fork in the road where we went home, I said sincerely: "Come and sit here in the morning!" Unexpectedly, she responded euphemistically: "I have to go shopping in the morning." I said nothing more and went home silently. . In the following days, I really hope that she is smart enough to understand my true thoughts. I took the initiative to call her, but she was always prompted to turn off her phone, and even after sending messages, there was no reply.

For a long time, I felt empty in my heart. I didn’t know where I went wrong. One day, when I came out from home and was sending my daughter to the car, I saw her walking home not far away. What surprised me was that when she saw her daughter, she quickly turned around and walked away without speaking. I felt very uncomfortable. If it had been in the past, she would have called her daughter's name from afar and asked questions enthusiastically. Do misunderstandings between adults still need to be reported to children? I can't figure it out, and I don't bother to think about it anymore. Once you see a person clearly, you will take a dim view of him!

Winter goes and spring comes back. She and I have never met each other within a short distance, and there is no news at all. However, I still think of her occasionally in my heart, because we have walked together on the road of life. One afternoon, I received a call from the community notifying me that the invoices would be exchanged uniformly. On my way to the community, I met her returning. I took the initiative to say hello as before, but she glanced at me expressionlessly, her eyes resting on the invoice in her hand, and then turned away...

I was slightly startled, what a human heart. ! It’s really confusing. At this moment, yesterday’s friendship is gone in my heart.

Summer is coming. Looking at the tea leaves dancing in the cups of colleagues, the boiling water gradually changing color, and the fragrance exuding make people want to taste it. But as the color of the tea in the cup changes from strong to light, it slowly cools and settles at the bottom of the cup, and is finally poured into the trash can and discarded. I feel deeply regretful on the side, and the tea is cold when people leave! The tea has a lingering fragrance, but it's not for me. While feeling emotional, I wrote a short poem "The Silent Period": The phone was not short-circuited/It was the power in my heart that was cut off/The date was remembered correctly/It was the hearts that were separated/The number that was retained/It has long since faded out of sight/It is like a stranger Passing by/taking off the beautiful veil/put an end to the previous days.

Postscript: After experiencing the "bombing" of sugar-coated bullets and the sadness after leaving the tea, I gradually healed from the pain in my heart under the nourishment of pure spring water. At this time, I also cherish the ordinary friendship even more. Don’t regret what you throw away, take care of what you have – long live friendship!