While being a good mother, be yourself.

Women's sense of security ultimately depends on themselves, and any external factors that can be relied on are uncontrollable.

I need an identity, not only as a wife or mother but also as myself.

A 32-year-old stay-at-home mother holds two hearts in her arms, one for her children and family, and the other for herself.

I haven't been to work for nearly three years after maternity leave. In the first half of maternity leave, colleagues kept asking questions from time to time, which barely counted as indirect work. After the maternity leave, I resigned to take care of my baby and bid farewell to my previous job completely. All kinds of trivial matters with the baby are only occasionally free to read professional related articles. In recent years, in order to reduce the idea of going to work, I seldom go to recruitment websites, because once I see a good opportunity, or have a good opportunity to come to me, I can only add regret.

Wait, wait, finally wait until Yanyan is almost three years old, and begin to show him the kindergarten with joy. Because Yan Yan was born in January, he can only join this class. On the one hand, there are few opportunities to choose, on the other hand, I am introverted and worried that I will not adapt. Therefore, Yan Yan's father suggested that he join this class after half a year.

One second I was expecting that I would soon be working from nine to five, and the next I had to return to the reality of being a full-time mother. My mood is no different from riding a roller coaster.

Dad may have seen my loss, and then said, you still have to get ready for him to go to school, but you still can't go to work, traffic problems, who will take care of the child when he suddenly has a holiday, who will take care of the child when he suddenly falls ill, and the child's winter and summer vacations. ..............................................................................

I thought about it, too.

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What if I can't work full-time? Part-time HR This major is basically impossible. Open a Taobao shop? There are no good resources for the time being. Do trusteeship? There is no suitable venue in Shenzhen, let alone good conditions. The only jobs that may be suitable are waiters, shop assistants and the like, or the kind that shifts in the morning and evening.

I've thought a lot about taking care of my baby and working, including going back to my hometown in the past two years, and I've learned a lot, but when it comes to how my ability can be transformed into money, it's still a problem.

So I can only go back to the original point and think, what can I do? what can I do? I can't work nine to five. I worked in the media before I had a baby, and I turned off the fire after I got pregnant. It's hard to pick it up now.

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I still need dreams. My world should not be just family and children.

Those lost days are gone forever, and those who have never met will eventually be forgotten with the passage of time. Development is the normal state of this world, and your world and mine will always show what it should look like.

When people reach middle age, it is enough to have a family and a child. That thing called a dream should not say goodbye with the passage of time.

I couldn't sleep in the middle of the night before, and I would get up and turn on the light to write. Now, in order to let the child sleep well, even if there are many things, I can only lie quietly beside him, and those fleeting words will not be goodbye after all.

Finally, when the children grow up and look back, many people have gone further and further, and even fewer people are talking to you. What I face most every day is children. Since he was born, all my centers have been around him. Fortunately, he has grown into a pleasing appearance now.

Since he was born, I have been thinking about writing a book for him and giving it to him as an adult gift. Only this year will I have time to start writing slowly. As for my second book, I had an idea many years ago, and even the cover of the book was designed by myself. Unfortunately, it ran aground because of various things.

Now that I think about it, maybe it can be used as an incentive again.