How to treat the hottest blind date circle in Zhengzhou: The better the conditions, the harder it is to find.

In this fiery blind date corner near Greentown Square in Zhengzhou City, the proportion of parents who come to marry their children is relatively large, and the proportion of parents who come to marry their children is relatively small. It is understood that both boys and girls have a "strange circle": in general, the better the conditions, the harder it is to find a partner.

As can be seen from the picture, although it was raining lightly that day, many parents came to marry their children.

Light rain can't stop the excitement of the blind date corner.

On March 4th, it rained in Zhengzhou. It also coincides with the weekend. In the blind date corner near Greentown Square, many old people who come to blind date their children are holding umbrellas. They either hold cardboard in their hands, or put the paper that says children get married on the ground to find a partner for their children.

It is understood that most of these old people have not told their children in the past, looking for the other half for their children. Many old people who come to blind date their children carry umbrellas. They either hold cardboard in their hands or put the paper on the ground with the child's marriage book to find the other half for the child.

The better the conditions, the harder it is to find. It is reported that there is a "strange circle" in the angle of blind date for both boys and girls. Generally speaking, the better the conditions, the harder it is to find a partner.

"The local hukou has a car and a house, with an annual salary of several hundred thousand, but no object can be found." In the interview, an old man who asked not to be named held an umbrella in one hand and a cardboard with his son's marriage information in the other, telling reporters that his son is in his thirties this year and his family conditions are good. I was too picky before, but now my son is in his forties, which has become a "big problem" in front of marriage.

Netizen's point of view: @ I am in the east, west, north and south: Fortunately, my mother doesn't know this blind date corner, otherwise she is also a frequent visitor! Is it shameful not to get married without a date in 1989? She always feels ashamed of me!

@ 丫丫丫丫丫: Reliable! I saw this situation in Chengdu last year, but I didn't expect it to happen in Zhengzhou. What is a suitable marriage is indeed a common problem among many young people.

@ jingjingjing: Which one do you think is easier to find, matching in 10,000 people or matching in 100 people?

Xin Wei cat meow: I'll go and have a look.

@ Jingjing Jingjing Jingjing: It's not hard to find, but I don't want to find …

@WuLi Lengyaxin I love you: Last time I went in to find a place to sit, I saw an older man giving her son something, pointing to me and my roommate and saying, don't you think they are here? ... suddenly helpless ...

@COCOBABY Juan: The girl is old. In fact, the better the conditions, the harder it is to find. She has everything, knows what she wants, and is unwilling to give up easily.

I was born to win: the better the conditions, the harder it is to find. It's true.

There is helplessness, confusion, embarrassment and joy in the blind date corner. Here, Chinese blind date reflects the collision between traditional family values and young people's free thoughts to the fullest. Near noon, the light rain is still falling, but all this has not affected the old people's desire to communicate. The blind date corner is crowded, and some old people without umbrellas, whose hair is wet by the rain, are still reluctant to leave there for a long time, looking forward to the early arrival of their children's love. For the strange circle of the blind date angle: the better the conditions, the harder it is to find. what do you think? (10)

Local hukou, car and house, annual salary of several hundred thousand, but can't find the object. An old man holds an umbrella, a blackboard newspaper in one hand and his son's marriage information in the other.

Blind date is hard to find because old people are unwilling to find a marriage agent. Generally, the agency fee is too high and there is no formal qualification. Some old people are easily deceived. The blind date corner activity is organized spontaneously, without the management of sponsors. In this case, the traffic police have no law enforcement power, and the elderly can set their eyes on each other with peace of mind.

20 16 national yearbook data shows that beyond the marriage wall, more than 200 million singles and their families behind them have formed a huge blind date market.

Parents are anxious, but they are not anxious to be single. Many post-80s singles think that getting married is their own business, and there is no need for parents to help them find it. Besides, they are not old in their thirties. Just play for a while. Once they enter the wedding, they will have no freedom. Others say that parents are old-fashioned and backward in thinking. When fate comes, they will naturally get married, so they often refuse some single objects recommended by their parents.

The blind date corner, the aunt and grandmother of the blind date, because of their high vision, also leads to why the better the conditions, the lower the success rate of blind date. These uncles and aunts have long developed a critical skill, asking you one or two questions casually, such as seemingly chatting.

Is there a traffic jam on the way to work?

Is it convenient to park in the community? It can be inferred that you have a car.

Do you live in the city or the suburbs?

The house price of the community will know the company's basic salary and so on.

You can be called an agent.

Some blind date conditions are too harsh.

Friends circle is a blind date in China.

My son is only 33 years old, regardless of girls who don't have Beijing hukou, disabled people with hukou will do.

The article has been filtered. Those who used to have a house looked down upon them, but now those who have a hukou look down upon them. Many people don't like it. Why do you foreigners have so many things? It's good enough to find one from Beijing. What else do you choose?

China blind date like this has a lot to despise. The media summed up a Chinese-style blind date contempt chain.

In Beijing, Beijing-born families, downtown real estate and educational highlands, men, returnees and female undergraduates are considered as the most competitive indicators in the blind date market. Some blind date objects are not only defeated by hard conditions such as real estate hukou, but also eliminated for some unreasonable reasons. People born in 19 1 are discriminated against because there is a folk saying that sheep are incomplete.

There are even some blind date partners who are plotting to divorce after taking advantage. They will choose some single men or women with better conditions and choose to divorce immediately after they get married and take possession of property.

It's not that the better the conditions, the harder it is to find, but that the conditions are not that good at all. I overestimated myself.

It is difficult for people to know themselves, especially in the process of blind date, which is nothing more than two people comparing their own conditions with each other. However, it is difficult for everyone to know themselves correctly. For example, if a girl is ugly, she will feel ordinary; If she looks average, she will feel beautiful. In fact, you will evaluate your appearance, education, family background, work, etc., and generally want to find someone with a score equal to or higher than yourself.

However, the frequent problem is that you have a high self-awareness and are 70 in all aspects, but you overestimate yourself to 90 in your heart. It turned out to be funny. The comprehensive evaluation of blind date is almost 70 points, but you don't like it. Going on a blind date at 90 points is 70 points in people's minds. As a result, you have a crush on others, and others don't like you.

After repeated battles and defeats, you will complain that my conditions are so good that there is no suitable one. To tell the truth, your conditions are not as good as you think.

What logic, the better the conditions, the harder it is to find! Chen Kaige, Zhang Yimou and Xiaogang Feng all chose their marriages again when conditions were good. Although some directors look like crooked-neck trees, they are famous trees with allusions.

Excellent conditions, that's the wrong place. Blind date corner, this corner forgotten by love, is a good place to find a wife to live with and find love. When you are old, you say that your career has been delayed. Who believes that you don't take marriage seriously, and when you get married, you don't regard your wife as an accessory to your career. Young man, what's the fun? My aunts certainly don't want to find a wife to be a mother.

It used to be said that poor conditions are hard to find, but now good conditions are hard to find, and it is hard to find without sneaking around. I do not think this is necessarily the case. Fate hasn't arrived yet. There is an old movie in Hong Kong called Romance on the Bus. How romantic and strange it is to find a wife by bus. Instead of encouraging people with good conditions not to drive private cars, they squeeze buses every day. It is not good to squeeze a plane every day just because of the IQ of the "dating corner", and the flight attendants will sneer.

Anyway, we talk about this and that all the time, just like whether there are ghosts in the world. As long as we believe, there will be no ghosts. But I can't be too subjective. I went to the blind date corner in Zhengzhou that day. I didn't go on a blind date. I have a bad idea to prove the stupidity of this topic.

Just after the Lantern Festival, on the seventeenth day of the first lunar month, it is located in the blind date corner near Greentown Square in Zhengzhou City. Although it was raining lightly that day, many parents came to give their children a happy event. The reporter's investigation found that when these old people came, most of them didn't tell their children and wanted to find the other half for their children. There is helplessness, confusion, embarrassment and joy in the blind date corner. Here, Chinese blind date reflects the collision between traditional family values and young people's free thoughts to the fullest.

Both men and women, when they are old enough to talk about marriage, have not found the right other half. They are not in a hurry, the old man is in a hurry. However, love and marriage are two people's things after all. As parents, it is understandable to worry about their children's marriage life, but it will interfere with their children's life excessively, but blind date alone can't handle it. The values of the two generations are different, and young people emphasize themselves more and more. Asking for marriage without telling your children sometimes backfires. Only by establishing a process of mutual understanding can we get twice the result with half the effort.

We often see such a situation around us. Most boys and girls with ordinary conditions find suitable partners at normal marriage age, while boys and girls with good conditions and good family circumstances remain single for a long time and eventually become older men and women. Most people are ordinary people, with average looks, average conditions and average income. The better the conditions, the fewer people. China's marriage also pays attention to the right match, so he naturally wants to find someone who can match himself, because matching means being similar to himself in all aspects. However, the reality is not so satisfactory. Matching economies don't match, and matching faces don't necessarily match. Go around and waste your time. When you get older, your choices will be narrower ... It seems that excellent boys and girls are really hard to find!

Actually, you choose me, and I choose you. How can there be perfect people in the world? The pursuit of material things is endless, and even the best appearance for a long time will inevitably lead to aesthetic fatigue. Even if people with good conditions are together, marriage life may not be smooth sailing, but it still depends on two people using the Heart Sutra together. In today's society, most marriages are also mixed with material and conditions, and the taste of marriage has changed. Missed a lot of happiness that belongs to you and brought a lot of troubles. It may not be so hard to find yourself as an ordinary person and return to the essence of marriage.

(Editor Dai Chenxi)

I've been thinking about it for many days, and I always see your problems. Let's talk about it in combination with our own ideas.

It's not that boys stop chasing girls, but that as they get older, they have less and less time to fall in love. Before graduation, I think falling in love is to find someone you like and get to know each other. The process from acquaintance to love takes at least three months.

But more than half a year after graduation, it is proved that this idea is more bookish. From my own work, I usually meet fewer girls, and it is impossible for the same person to meet more than three times because of work or other reasons. Secondly, when I just graduated, I had all kinds of illusions about love and wanted to find a woman who was humorous, comfortable to look at and had a good family or family conditions. However, in all kinds of contacts with women, I am relatively indifferent to love. When I met someone better than myself, I didn't dare to chase that excellent one, so I missed it. You can't chase after what you are not satisfied with. Over time, I found that no matter what the other party's conditions are. You can't always make yourself feel comfortable. This is a typical death.

In addition, women who meet each other on blind dates or through various channels can always meet several. So I dare not chase any one rashly, and I don't want to pay like this. Because once you go after one of the women, there won't be anyone else. This makes me very tired. So, I think whether it's blind date or other ways. Ambiguous girls can get a satisfaction when they have sex. After half a year, I found that if I like it, I will pursue it. Once you miss it, it's hard to start over.

For me, whether to pursue it depends on whether I like it or not. Love is really a very tiring process. Strive to improve yourself and wait for opportunities.

Adult men and women are two pyramid structures. One is the right pyramid and the other is the inverted pyramid. The pyramid shows that there are very few high-end adult men and women. The inverted pyramid shows that there are almost no adult men and women at the low end. Most of them are sentient beings. Average income. It looks average. The conditions are average.

Nowadays, marriage in China pays attention to the right match. Appearance matching is a must. Handsome men and beautiful women should also be professionally matched. The so-called provincial allocation. More importantly, the economic conditions are not bad. In the material age, no one wants to suffer material poverty for such an illusory thing as love.

The higher, the smaller the number. The fewer objects you can pair. Job matching. Matching economic conditions. Looks are hard to match. Good looks, poor economic conditions. Or you have a bad career and can't be a couple. High is low. Wasting time. There are many times when the best marriages are lost. I am getting old. Sigh how many handsome men and beautiful women lost opportunities in the past. I'm even more reluctant to give in. Especially some men and women with excellent conditions in all aspects. However, it cannot be ignored that the older you get, the less opportunities you have to choose.

A friend of the author comes from the countryside. Find a good job. But looks average. The selection condition is to marry a permanent residence as much as possible. Hukou is not very important now. But at that time, household registration was a golden rice bowl. As a result, everyone with a resident account is unhappy in one way or another. Tens of millions of rural hukou are unwilling. The result has been wasted until now.

But you choose me, and I choose you. No one is perfect, and the world is cold. The man who has a good job is called Pan An. Women are ashamed of flowers and harvest the moon. It's really hard to get. Therefore, a marriage with good conditions is not necessarily smooth sailing. However, some adult men and women with ordinary conditions enjoyed a happy marriage early.

The pursuit of money is endless. Too much may not bring happiness to marriage. It's important to look outstanding. But it may not be a meal. Handsome men are more likely to be liked by women. I also have more doubts. This lady is very beautiful. Being chased everywhere. Handsome men and beautiful women may be suspicious everywhere. It's good to have an easy job and a high income. But occupation does not mean good or bad character. Therefore, it is difficult to pursue a marriage with everything going well and everything being perfect.

Think of yourself as an ordinary person. There's no need to be above it. What's wrong with enjoying people's lives?

Marriage in China is too snobbish at present. Mixed with too much material life. Leading to a serious deterioration of marriage. Lose too much happiness. Bring trouble to too many people.

I'm going to be a senior three, too. Hard to find!

Event review

1, 2018 On March 4th, it was raining. In a blind date corner near Zhengzhou Greentown Square, many parents come to blind date their children.

Most of these parents come to blind date without telling their children. The parents of the blind date corner are chatting in full swing, hoping to help their children find a good partner.

My opinion

The wind of carrying on the family line in poverty, for the sake of children's lifelong events, parents worked hard and suffered. In fact, it is better for the blind date to come in person, and parents don't have to intervene. Otherwise, caution will backfire, children will rebel and even find someone to marry casually.

The better the conditions, the harder it is to find someone. This must be because of the good conditions and high requirements. Under the same conditions, of course, everyone chooses the one with good conditions. People should have self-knowledge. You set high standards yourself. Who is to blame if you can't find someone?

Spring has arrived, the scenery is infinite, everything is revived, and hormones are everywhere in the air, which greatly increases the probability of successful blind date. However, the most anxious people are not single men and women, but our parents, grandparents. No, this corner park in Zhengzhou Greentown Square is the most famous blind date corner in Zhengzhou, and now it is lively again.

It is understood that most of these old people have not told their children in the past, looking for the other half for their children. Many old people who come on blind dates for their children carry umbrellas. They either hold cardboard in their hands, or put the paper that says children get married on the ground to find a partner for their children. At present, China is facing a new wave of singles, and the number of singles is close to 200 million. At present, the age of graduating from college is 23 or 4 years old. If you pursue further studies, you will work 1-2 years after graduation before you start to consider getting married. At this time, you have reached the age of 28 and unexpectedly entered the ranks of older unmarried young people. This is why boys and girls in rural areas get married around the age of 20, and college students in cities have to worry about getting married around the age of 30.

In modern society, the social function that marriage needs to undertake is greatly weakened, especially for people with good conditions, it will not affect their lives if they enter the marriage hall late, and the pursuit of a higher quality marriage needs the right time, place and people. Being single has become a serious social problem. Parents are often the most anxious when their children are too old to get married. In the traditional concept of China people, getting married and starting a family is like a natural obligation of parents for children. You can feel their feelings from the eager eyes of many parents at the blind date! So single men and women should also share their worries for their parents and work hard. As the saying goes, in the Year of the Dog, it is better to go out for a walk than to be a "single dog". Maybe this spring, you can "get rid of the bill"!