Weiqing's Guide to Happy Handling of Marriage Matters Flexibly

Many people think it is not easy to be a woman. This difficulty is not only reflected in social competition with men, taking care of each other's children, running the household, etc., but more importantly, these factors are not presented to women purely, simply, and objectively. Many times they are mixed and interfere with each other. As subjective factors continue to change, this is a difficulty for contemporary Chinese women. Difficulties often make people confused, unable to distinguish right from wrong, unable to explain why, and even without reference for answers.

In modern society, a woman, no matter how good she is, is absolutely pathetic if she is too principled and unsmiling, let alone participate in competition between men. They may even end up losing all their marriages and love.

Since then, looking at the endless marriage stories around us, our society seems to have put forward a minimum requirement for modern women, that is, to assess the situation, vary from person to person, innovate and be open-minded. In the increasingly severe and fierce battle to defend modern marriage, they must change their concepts in a timely manner, update their self-awareness, and use more flexible thinking and handling styles to solve many potential problems that may affect marital happiness.

So what flexibility should women in marriage deal with?

Flexibility: Flexibility in family and career.

Among all the women who feel unhappy, a considerable number of them have not managed the relationship between family and career well. They may not have really come out of the traditional concept of men being superior to women, but they always unconsciously show that they pay more attention to family, focus on one thing at the expense of the other, completely lose their careers, and ultimately lose their self-confidence and sense of belonging to their own self-worth. Even basic economic support has been lost. It is difficult for such a woman to be happy.

Of course there is another side. In real life, there are also many women who neglect their families and focus on their careers. Long-term self-reliance and hard work have unconsciously caused them to lose their most basic flexibility, and they are even accustomed to using rational thinking to judge and deal with various problems they encounter. However, in the end, they won their careers, lost their love and family, and could not be happy.

Elasticity: the elasticity of family affection and love.

Many women always complain when they get married: "Marriage comes, love goes, and only a little lifeless family affection can keep two people living together." The fundamental reason for their complaints is There is no real understanding and handling of the elasticity between family affection and love. They mistakenly believe that family affection and love can only be one of a married man and a woman, and that only after love can there be family affection. Of course there is another type of woman who pursues the ideal of perfection. They have never correctly faced the cooling and indifference that marriage brings to love. They always try their best to toss and turn, explore, cry or laugh, and never stop pursuing perfect love. In the end, not only did they fail to keep their love, but they also lost the affection they should have had between husband and wife, so they separated. Obviously, both of the above are undesirable. In fact, the feelings between people are quite complicated. No love is pure. If it is, it won't last long. The reason why a considerable part of the love in marriage is transformed into family affection is because it follows a kind of human emotional cognitive law, which ultimately enables the marriage of men and women to flourish in the balance of this movement. Therefore, family affection and love are the two legs of marriage. The left leg of love may be more slender and beautiful, and the right leg of family affection may be stronger and stronger. However, if a marriage wants to be happy and smooth, it must have two legs running in parallel, so that it can be elegant and fast.

Flexibility: traditional and open flexibility.

Marriage should not be absolutely traditional and open. As long as it is approved by the other party, needed by the marriage, and positive for the family, we can try to change ourselves and make the necessary efforts to cater to it. As long as you master your flexibility, there will be no problem of hurting your self-esteem.

Resilience: The resilience of children and husbands.

Children and husband are often everything in a woman's marriage, but more and more women are unable to handle the two loves they love most in life. They can't help but rank their own importance in their consciousness, and a considerable number of them will choose children. This is the power of motherhood. However, it is precisely this maternal brilliance that often harms their marriages. The reason is simple, because they care about one thing and not the other. Since they had children, she has had fewer opportunities to talk to her husband. Sometimes it is so serious that she is even unwilling to contribute to the minimum life of a couple, which eventually leads to the breakdown of the marriage. Of course, there is another situation.

Some women often like to do some intimate actions with men in front of their children, and even turn a deaf ear when their children try to ridicule them, making their children feel left out and unloved. In severe cases, some children may take revenge and rebel against their families. This result can be imagined. If the children are like this, the family will not be happy no matter what.

Elasticity: Soft and proud elasticity.

There is nothing wrong with being gentle and proud. They are even a kind of charm and virtue of women, but they cannot be transcended. If it crosses, men will not be able to bear it in a long-term marriage.

As a modern Chinese woman, it is extremely difficult to deal with marriage and family, but the biggest difficulty lies in managing the balance and flexibility in all aspects. Being an intellectual and flexible woman requires too much wisdom in life and requires us to constantly learn and explore in our work and life. Maybe this flexibility can bring a whole new sense of happiness to your married life.