The interview was asked about marriage and childbirth? 5 tips for easy answers

I had dinner with some friends recently. During the dinner, a friend talked about his job search. She complained that the current interview is like a blind date, and almost every interview someone asks me personal questions. The interviewer's questions are the same. Are you married? Do you have a boyfriend? Are you planning to get married in the near future? Isn't the family in a hurry? Have you considered being 30 years old? I think the interviewer is more anxious about my life than I am. Do you have to get married when you are old?

In fact, this friend is not the only one who has such troubles. Many female friends around me will be asked about personal marriage and childbirth during the interview. In addition to unmarried girls, married female friends actually have similar experiences. For example, do you have children? When are you going to have a baby? Are you going to have a second child? Is it a familiar formula?

Undeniably, the marriage and childbearing problems of these individuals are sometimes embarrassing. Many times we don't know how to deal with it. Answer truthfully, and the opportunity may be gone; Concealing the truth, in case it is discovered, the consequences will be more serious.

Many times, unmarried or married childless is like a short board in an interview, especially for women. But we always go through this special stage. Whether we are 25 or 30, we still want a better job and look forward to a better future. Life is so long, the pursuit is endless. Therefore, how to answer this question well and give yourself more opportunities is particularly important. With this question, I consulted several senior HR friends. I ran around and found that the problem of marriage and childbirth is not a problem. Five little suggestions can make us deal with it easily.

First, straighten your mind and treat it as usual.

All along, we feel that most people who are asked about marriage and childbirth in job interviews are women. In fact, the problem of marriage and childbearing is not exclusive to female friends, and male friends will also encounter it at some stage of their lives. Generally speaking, whether it is a female friend or a male friend, the interviewer will ask them about their personal marriage and childbirth. Since this problem can't be avoided, it's our best choice to put our minds right.

Nowadays, society is becoming more and more open. If we don't feel single or married and childless, what is the problem? Then, the other side will naturally not treat us as aliens. Therefore, it is very important to straighten your mind and accept yourself.

In addition, we should look at this issue with a normal heart. Many of us are confused. The interviewer always asks some personal questions about marriage and childbirth. So, let's solve this mystery.

From the perspective of enterprises, enterprises want to hire employees to create benefits for the company to the greatest extent, which means that enterprises not only pay attention to employees' work ability, work experience, skills and quality, but also pay attention to living conditions that can greatly affect employees' work quality.

For example, the mother of the same child, one has the help of the elderly at home and the other can only rely on herself, so the working conditions of these two employees are different, and they can only rely on their own employees to get off work on time every day. Children need to take time off for parent-teacher meetings, sports meetings, or get sick, and children's affairs rank first. For another example, for the same job that requires frequent business trips, single employees will have greater flexibility and enthusiasm than married employees.

For another example, a person who has a family or is about to have a family will have greater economic pressure. Generally speaking, people with financial pressure will pay more attention to income level. Because it takes a down payment to buy a house just after marriage, it also costs money to have children.

For the interviewer, through marriage and childbirth, you can better understand what the applicant needs. If the enterprise just needs talents in this field, it can see if it can provide what it cares about, so as to better attract talents to join.

At the same time, the interviewer can also judge the values and personality characteristics of the candidates by observing their attitudes towards answering personal questions. For example, in terms of values, whether to pay attention to the realization of personal values or to the balance between life and work. Whether the personality is warm or reserved and careful. We all know that different enterprises, different development cycles and different job responsibilities have different requirements for candidates.

For example, an internet company prefers young and energetic people; A Japanese company may prefer cautious and conservative people; A startup is more interested in finding people who can devote themselves to their work; Mature enterprises tend to favor people with strong sense of balance. Interviewers can better screen out suitable talents by understanding a person's personal situation.

To put it simply, the issue of marriage and childbearing is more about examining the matching degree between candidates and corporate culture, and no one is good or bad. The interviewer asked us personal questions about marriage and childbirth. First of all, he wants to know whether our life and family have any influence on our work and whether it can match the position we are recruiting. Second, I hope to know what I need most at this stage of my life and what I am more likely to be motivated by, so as to prepare for two-way choice. Third, through these answers, as well as the attitude when answering, we can see our own personality characteristics.

I believe that after understanding why the interviewer asks these questions, we can look at this special question you think with a relatively normal attitude.

Second, face it frankly and answer honestly.

Interview is a two-way choice process, which has nothing to do with Excellence, marriage and having children. Enterprises are choosing the most suitable employees, not the perfect employees, and we don't need to pursue a standard answer. We just need to objectively analyze whether the requirements and characteristics of this job match the skills and motives we are good at, and just answer truthfully. You don't have to hide or pretend. If your advantage is strong enough, the problem of marriage and childbirth will not affect the interview result.

Don't be smarter than yourself, because you are worried about yourself and hide information or prevaricate when you answer, so you will be deducted from your impression.

At the same time, I suggest that you don't beat around the bush when answering questions about marriage and childbirth. The interviewer asked if you were married? If you get married, you get married. Not married is not married. Some people like to express it in a roundabout way, such as answering that I have a boyfriend, which will make the interviewer full of curiosity and finally get around to the question.

In addition to answering directly, you should be true and sincere. A friend once said something about his company. It's about their new executive manager, who has good abilities in all aspects, but was dismissed by the company within a month. It turned out that because she was 35 years old and not married, in previous interviews, many interviewers mentioned that she was worried that she was old enough to get married and would have children immediately after marriage. She also thinks this question is a hurdle for her interview. Later, she thought of a trick and directly said in the interview that she was married and had children. Although the interview went smoothly after this, I finally found the ideal offer, but after joining the company, the paper could not hold fire and was soon discovered.

Whether you think that marriage and childbearing are a stumbling block on your job search or not, lying is definitely not demeaning. In the eyes of enterprises, character and conduct rank above ability.

Third, give a clear answer and add explanations.

Of course, when we answer the question of marriage and childbearing, we don't simply say it's over, or we're done without it. The correct way is to give a clear answer and add explanations. For example, if you are married, please indicate when you got married, whether you have children now, if not, how to plan the birth schedule, if so, whether you have plans for a second child and when. If there is no knot, you can also explain whether you have a boyfriend or a girlfriend, if you have a boyfriend or a girlfriend, and if you are single, what causes you to be unmarried? We can sum up our reasons truthfully. Of course, your reasons should not make your image lose points. You can say that you lack a plan to solve the problem of personal marriage and childbirth in your life, and you are too busy to socialize.

Many people worry that giving a positive and detailed answer will put themselves in a more dangerous situation. In fact, don't worry, because a positive and detailed answer has two advantages. One is to make the interviewer feel that you are an honest person, and the other is to make her feel that your life and career planning is fully considered.

Fourth, put yourself in other's shoes and understand each other.

For the interviewer, he should not only think from the perspective of the company's management, but also do everything possible to attract suitable talents for the enterprise and meet the needs of the employer, so his own pressure is not small. If you can stand in the other side's position, speak for the other side, or take the initiative to answer questions for the other side, it will be a good plus.

For example, you can use some intimate or reassuring words to make the transition. For example, "It is normal for the company to fully understand the personal situation of employees during the interview now, and I understand." "The company may be worried about the personality defects of older unmarried people, or want to find a more relaxed job and spend personal time on personal friends, but my situation is really not like this. Don't worry." "To tell you the truth, family members are eagerly looking forward to it." Now put your time on your work and make yourself stronger, and then consider having children in the future. "

Fifth, emphasize advantages and guide topics.

For example, "I have the advantage of copywriting, and I really want to join your company, hoping to have the opportunity to join your company and do my bit", "After chatting with you, I am more and more interested in this position in your company, hoping to have the opportunity to join your company".

In short, we can briefly talk about our core competitiveness. In this way, the interviewer's attention will be drawn back to the matching degree between your experience and ability and the job requirements, and you can easily deal with the problems that make you feel stressed.

There is no denying that the success of the interview has a lot of luck, but we can do well in the details. Marriage and childbirth are only part of the interview. As long as we treat it correctly with a normal mind and achieve the above five points, I believe we can avoid stage fright and stop losing all because of one topic.