[Reader's contribution] My accompanying mother life

Author: Du recently watched a 20 17 TV series "Accompany Mom" and watched 46 episodes, which made him feel sad. The content tells the story of a group of mainland mothers accompanying their children to study in Vancouver. It is very true and appropriate to talk not only about mothers, but also about children and families.

? I have been in LA for 28 years from Taiwan Province Province, and I have three children ranging in age from 25 to 1 1. All the children were born and raised in Los Angeles. They go to school and work. Unlike the accompanying mother who suddenly entered a different culture, the environment and children experienced together, but in a foreign land 10, the story was also wonderful. ? Looking back on my companionship experience, different children weave different ups and downs. Big brother and second brother are four years apart, so they should be brought up together. The boss is a girl with a hard personality and keeps everything in her heart. The conflict with her is my most unforgettable thing. As a professional woman at that time, I was very anxious in the face of my boss with poor academic performance. Of course, I queued up again and again for after-school counseling. I thought I could help her, but it backfired. My communication with her went from bad to worse, which was more painful than poor academic performance. Fortunately, at that time, my daughter had studied art with friends for many years, and friends became a bridge for us to communicate. My daughter finally studied plane in college? Design, who embarked on his favorite design path, is now applying what he has learned to the work of the company. ? My second child has been a warm man since he was a child, and he may have seen the contradiction between my boss and me in recent years, so he is more intimate. Different from my sister in study, he will let me know his difficulties and help me quite well. In the past few years after I went to college and lived outside, I watched him gradually change from a little boy to a big boy, and the process of taking care of his older brother and sister in the community made him mature a lot. Now I sometimes see him asking his father about his work, and my husband will tell his son what he needs to do when he gets married. I think the next few years will also be his groping journey of gradually transforming into a man. ? Taking care of children, even if they are all in the same environment, because of the different time points, mothers should be prepared to deal with them. This is my profound experience of taking care of the third child. The third child is a girl, older than her brother and sister 10 years old. She has the tough temper of the boss and the personality of the second child. Husband often says that he should take care of his grandchildren. Like reading with my mother, I also have a "mother think tank" for everyone to share and discuss. However, compared with the era when the eldest brother and the second child were raised, the mother think tank at that time was almost the same age as herself, and it was easy to reach an agreement. Now my mother's think tank is very different from mine in age, and there is actually a generation gap between me and them. To tell the truth, at first I thought I was experienced and brought up my third child in the old way. In exchange, my third child told me why I can't be like other mothers. Instinctively, ginger is still old and spicy. Of course, my teaching can't be wrong. In fact, I finally proved that I was a heavy smoker, and my third child became a victim. Fortunately, the third child has an advantage. She is very good at communicating with me. I gradually made friends with her classmates' mothers, and it really helped me a lot to understand the ideas of modern mothers. ? In fact, when mothers fall, they will learn and grow with their children. Every mother has her own happiness and difficulties, but the most important thing is that a mother must be kind to herself and take good care of herself before she can take good care of her children. Don't be sad anymore. I hope the children can appreciate their mother's sacrifice and further understand and cooperate with their mother. Only when we are good to ourselves can children cherish learning and be responsible for their own lives. Mothers, come on! ? Author's brief introduction │ Du Shufen, a native of Changhua, Taiwan Province, fell in love with her younger brother from Hongkong in college. After working for four years, she traveled all over the world for love and wove our dreams together in Los Angeles. It has been almost 30 years since then. I have a husband with great personality. My three children are office workers, college students and primary school students. In the past 20 years, I have been a professional woman, and sometimes I will become a full-time mother. Whether working or taking care of children, it is my pursuit to enjoy the present, and I also like to share the bits and pieces of our lives. "This article is the author's view on cooperative innovation, not his position."