Suggestions on immigrating to Korea

Before I married my Korean husband, the situation was very similar to yours. I am in China and he is in Korea. We only meet once a year, and we usually only communicate through the internet. I got married after knowing each other for a few years, and now I've been married for almost a year and a half. I can tell you objectively that I feel bad and don't like it here.

1, my husband went to a boys' school from elementary school to high school, but he said that after he went to college, it was a mixed school, and men always went to hotels with women before joining the army, which was regarded as a rite of passage for men before joining the army. My husband is a shy, quiet and good-natured person. I didn't know that he had had more than one woman before me until I got married. Koreans are good at hiding it.

I was born in Shanghai and received an open education. I didn't know what conservatism was until I came to Korea. My husband's family is not a very conservative family. After all, I was not forced to wear a skirt, nor was I required to wear hanbok during the Chinese New Year holiday. But in words and actions, it can be said that women are regarded as employers. Many Koreans' so-called rules are only aimed at their daughter-in-law, but in the eyes of their mother-in-law, no matter what they do, there are two kinds of Korean mother-in-law. One is to tell you her dissatisfaction and her demands in person, which is better. The other is to smile to your face, but there are many things behind it that make you feel terrible. Koreans are also very good at lying, disloyalty and duplicity. I am very frank, so I suffered a lot in Korea. Anyone who knows me knows that I have been in Korea almost every day since I came to study in Korea in 2006.

Koreans are hooligans, but they don't consider themselves hooligans. It can be said that they have all reached a certain level, which is summed up from my married life after I got married.

Koreans are very selfish and overbearing about the sense of nationality. They will tell you with the spirit of ants gnawing at bones that before you set foot on Korean soil, you will give up everything, live like a Korean, including food, eat something you can't even see except spicy, and so on. ....

5. Personal suggestion: I came here with regret. It can be said that I am in Lacrimosa, but I will never feel it without suffering. Before I came here, I also discussed with foreign students in Korea through the Internet. Everyone told me not to come, but I still felt that my husband was different from other Koreans, so I came according to my own wishes. When I was wronged and bullied in Korea, I even told my friends and parents. .........

Maybe you don't understand everyone's persuasion now. I suggest you take advantage of his two years in the army to study or live in Korea for a period of time, feel the' culture' of Korea, and then make a conclusion, and never mention' regret' in the future.