There is a funeral in the family and I need to move, what should I do?

Update 1:

Reply to eric_wan04: I am married and no longer live with my father

Update 2:

But during the funeral If there is no funeral during this period, it means you are filial piety

Can I go to the new house to see the decoration or collect the furniture?

Update 3:

In fact, I am very worried about this issue. Troubled

According to traditional customs, it is not allowed

Huayingshang’s house

I cannot go to the new house until I have taken off my filial piety

I still have to take off my filial piety I have to wait 100 days before I can move! Again, red and white conflict! Is moving a house considered a red event? First of all, I don’t buy a house, I just rent it.

The Housing Department handed over the house to me

Only then can I do the decoration.

The moving date can only be set after the decoration is completed. It’s not like I can move anytime I want. Besides, my father is seriously ill

How could I be in the mood to be extravagant?

I just want to move After recovery, I can concentrate on handling my father's affairs. Although he is 73 years old

But seeing him suffering from the disease

I am very sad and helpless! During these days, I feel that I am Spent in the darkness

Don’t know the direction

Don’t know where to go! When I think of my father leaving me soon

I have thousands of reluctances

Tears kept pouring out! Finally, thank you to those who answered my questions

Thank you very much for your opinions!

First of all, please understand the impact of this taboo. This is because I am afraid that if the living people move away, the ancestors will not be able to see their loved ones for the last time when they return to their old residence. Once you understand the reason for the taboo, you won’t stop moving just because you can’t move it. In fact, you can just tell your deceased ancestor where you will move to before his death. If you haven’t returned to the soul yet, you can buy it at a clothing and paper shop. Just write down the address of the new house and melt it together with the paper bindings of the Shaabi ancestors. When you return to your soul, you will know how to take your ancestors to the new house to see your loved ones for the last time. But why don’t you invite relatives and friends to join us for a drink in a high-profile manner? If so, it is a "housewarming celebration". The red and white colors will conflict. But if you only eat by yourself, then moving is a good idea. No problem! 2010-03-29 21:46:26 Supplement: If you marry a girl outside of the family, then there will be no problem. The souls of your ancestors will only return to the place where they lived during their lifetime, so even if you move away, there will be no problem. If the descendants are affected, if they are filial descendants, they should return to their maternal home as much as possible on the night when the deceased's soul returns, so that when the deceased's soul returns, they can be seen together and the descendants can go on the journey with peace of mind. 2010-03-30 00:39:10 Supplement: During the funeral, if there is no funeral, it means that you are filial piety. Can you go to the new house to see the decoration or collect the furniture? It's not good to go to other people's houses. There is no problem in your own. If you are still worried that the odor will affect your new house, you can just carry a big yellow chrysanthemum and a piece of red thread in your bag when you go to the new house to see the decoration or collect the furniture. ! 2010-04-03 11:38:10 Supplement: I can only tell you that times have changed, and some traditional customs will also change with time. In the past, mourning was formally tied for three years, and during this period, it was not allowed to be shaved. Yes, but is it still possible in today’s life? Therefore, the custom of mourning was changed from simple to 100 days, but who is qualified to make this change? I can only tell you that rules are dead and people are alive, so I told you before that you only need to keep a low profile and be simple, and you should not go to other people's houses during the taboo period (even if you are not obedient to bring filial piety, but You don’t know what others think, so you know what to avoid! ) and make flexible changes according to your own situation. Who is qualified to tell you something wrong? Will *** punish you with a social service order? As long as you feel filial piety and understand the reason for this taboo, you won't feel uneasy, and moving will not affect living or dead people, so why bother and be restricted by customs? 2010-04-03 16:04:07 Supplement: Speaking of the custom of not shaving during the period of filial piety, I have seen Uncle Alan Tam when he passed away. Alan Tam did not shave as a filial piety. What if? For those of you who have to go to work, who today can work so hard for three months without having a bulging beard? The ancients just said it when they had beards. Why do most people keep filial piety and do D or not? Does it have any impact? So, people are born, customs are made after death. Customs are set by people to show their filial piety, not by setting rules to restrict themselves. 2010-04-03 16:04:20 Supplement: As for you having relatives It’s understandable that I’m reluctant to leave. I’ve had similar experiences, but I accept the facts with a more positive attitude. I treat them as if they just immigrated to a distant country earlier, and I’m just late. Only one step has passed. Sooner or later, we will meet again. During this period, I will inevitably miss them, so I will write what I want to say in the letter. For example, ask them if they have seen Asia, please tell me. Greet them! Then when you pay homage, burn some celestial beings in front of the grave. You might as well refer to them!

A married woman takes her husband's surname, so there is no problem in moving house. Visiting relatives and having banquets are not allowed.

You can't move during the Qingming Festival. You can't move during the solar terms... When can you move? Looking at a new house. Decoration and buying furniture can't be said? What about red and white? How about a few drinks to celebrate? I agree more with Bai Xing Put filial piety first... there are no taboos... you are not an outsider... you are a family member... I agree with what the netizen above said that you should not be too superstitious and have your hands and feet tied in whatever you do.

2010-04-01 15:02:59 Supplement: Commonly known as laughing at mourning... Xing has no taboos... Dear masters... leave others in your writing...

No problem at all< /p>

Because you are married

Take your husband’s surname

Not your father’s surname. Also

Yes [if before moving]< /p>

It hasn’t happened yet

Why not move early?

If you do, it’s best to move before your father dies of illness

Otherwise it will take a hundred days You can move house before you can move

You are already married

But the married woman will always be your father

Have filial piety

(Wan (Your father passed away)

But during the funeral, if there is no funeral, you are filial piety

You must not go to the new house

Red and white clash

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Will affect the body and fortune

First of all, it has been said since ancient times. Filial piety is the first step in all actions. It is (filial piety). Your father is seriously ill now... Children should keep their father's unfulfilled thoughts in mind .....Try to complete it as much as possible... Moreover, one happiness can ward off three disasters... One white can also ward off three disasters.....If your father dies of illness...you have filial piety...you You can't go to other people's homes... but it won't have any impact on your move... because you are a married woman... Actually, you don't have to be too superstitious... Don't listen to people's scaremongering, which will only affect your mood... .The death of my father is difficult...sad...if my father passes away in the future...I hope he will not be in pain...comfortable...and have a good journey...it is his blessing... I hope he will go to the Western Paradise as soon as possible...to be happy without suffering...to be reborn in a quiet land...