Don't think that everyone owes you just because you have suffered a lot.

People are born to suffer more or less, but everyone has different degrees of pain and feelings about it. Some people have a victim mentality because they have suffered a little, and think that they are always worse than others.

I always like to talk about my own suffering. I always feel that others are better off than myself, and I am the most bitter. Because I have suffered a lot, I feel that everyone owes me, and even I will have jealousy and hatred.

Don't pretend to be a victim, feel miserable, feel that others owe you, and feel that you are always suffering from life. In fact, it is not easy for everyone. There are many people worse off than you.

Some people have poor psychological endurance. Because they have suffered some injuries and hardships, they are easy to complain, not only about the people who have hurt themselves, but also about the world and life. They always feel that they are victims, and whether they are related by blood or not, they all feel that others owe them.

After encountering some setbacks and failures, they always feel: Why am I always injured? But I never find reasons for myself, and I never actively face and solve problems.

Some people blame others for their sufferings because they are in a bad situation, think that others have harmed themselves, and even involve people who have owed themselves. They think that it is the fault of others that has caused such an ending, and then they feel resentful and even want revenge.

If you eat too much or are bullied too much, you feel that you are the biggest victim, and everyone has to pay for his pain. This is a distorted psychology, which may in turn hurt others.

Especially those who have never been treated well will feel that the world is cruel. cool thin is a human being, and all his experiences are caused by others. Once a person's psychology is out of balance, he will hate more and more and become more and more extreme.

A person whose heart is not strong enough, the more grievances and pains he suffers, the more immersed he will be in these pains, and the more he feels that he will be more painful in the future. Some people will get used to pain and injustice, and some people will be psychologically unbalanced to retaliate or hurt others after being fed up.

Because a person is owed too much, the more eager he is to make up for it. No matter what happens to him, or he is hurt by others, his heart is always restless. Those psychological vacancies that are not treated well will always be filled.

People with victim thinking feel that the vacancy in their hearts can never be filled. Those injuries and pains that they can't face, buried deep in their hearts, are not treated well and are not understood, and will break out one day.

No one wants to suffer and get hurt all the time, and some people feel wronged and can't swallow it, so they really want to be understood by others, or hope that someone can fill their inner wounds.

Just like a person who has suffered a lot in his feelings, it is easy to think that he has met an inappropriate person and will never meet someone who is really good to him in the future. In the face of feelings, he will easily mention his past experiences to others, and even magnify his injuries, and then feel that he has always been a victim.

On the one hand, I hope that my injuries can be made up in my later feelings, on the other hand, I don't trust anyone and think that anyone will hurt myself. Although I meet people who cherish themselves, I will push them further and further because of strong insecurity.

Whether emotionally or in life, the injury you have suffered does not represent your future situation, nor does it mean that you are a victim. Don't ignore the happiness and happiness that happen to you.

Some people always want to find someone to complain about because they have suffered a lot, and they will take it for granted that they can constantly ask others for it and hurt others.

Especially those who are related to their own experiences, others may be unintentional or well-intentioned, but their thoughts have changed and they feel that their situation is all thanks to these people, and it will be better without their own ending.

This reminds me of the abandoned pine nuts. Because of the extreme lack of love, my thoughts are gradually distorted. She thinks that she can't get her father's love because of her sick sister, and that a series of unsatisfactory things at school are caused by her dishonest students. In fact, most of her ideas are wrong, and most of her experiences are related to her own thoughts and behaviors, but she doesn't know it, even because.

Matsuko has always regarded herself as a victim, but in her life, she has always been a victim, and her life is subtly influenced by her thoughts.

If no one has hurt you at all, then no matter how painful you are, it is no reason for you to accuse and hurt others in turn.

Some roads in life are your own choice, and some situations are inevitable. No matter how difficult the chosen road is, we must have the courage to face and bear it. Don't blame others for things that have nothing to do with others, find your own reasons and solve your own problems.

Some sufferings are unavoidable and can't be changed, but you can change your thinking and mentality. You don't complain no matter how hard you live or how hard you eat.

Some people always feel that they are always suffering, always wronged, always hurt, and feel that they are the worst. This idea is too narrow, because you have never really seen the world, and there are many people who are worse than you.

There is always a victim mentality, a person with a small vision and pattern, and a person with weak psychological endurance. After suffering a little, he can't stand it, and he thinks it's caused by others, but he never thinks carefully and never sees his own problems.

People who never find reasons for things themselves are hard to grow up. They always blame their misfortunes on external factors, and will get deeper and deeper, leaving themselves in sorrow and misfortune all the time.

Your experience, your experience, no matter how bad, feels unfair, don't resent it, don't always think about revenge and hurting others. It doesn't mean anything to yourself.

When you gradually strengthen yourself, you will find that your previous resentment is not mature enough. Only by standing higher can we see farther.

You don't need to be grateful for what you have suffered, you should grow from your own experience. Don't always dwell on the past, always remember those injuries and hatred. Instead, we should learn to transfer suffering, use the power of suffering to change our situation and make ourselves live better.

Zhang Youyi, the original match of Xu Zhimo, is a man who has suffered, but will not be reviled by suffering.

Xu Zhimo and Zhang Youyi are arranged marriages, and there is no affection between them. Xu Zhimo hates Zhang Youyi very much. 192 1 year, Xu Zhimo, who was studying in Britain, fell in love with Lin deeply and insisted on divorcing Zhang Youyi. They had been married for seven years and had a son, while Zhang Youyi was pregnant with their second child. But for the sake of divorce, Xu Zhimo ruthlessly asked her to have an abortion. The baby was born in Berlin. 1922 In March, Xu Zhimo suddenly appeared in Berlin, forcing his wife who had just given birth to a child for seven days to sign a divorce. Zhang Youyi, who is dead, agreed.

After the divorce, Zhang Youyi entered Pestalozzi College to study early childhood education. After returning home, Zhang Youyi moved from Beijing to Shanghai, where he started his own business. She first worked as a German teacher at Soochow University, and later became the vice president of Shanghai Women's Commercial Bank. With the basic skills of helping my father-in-law manage money in his early years and his extensive contacts, the Shanghai Women's Commercial Savings Bank, which was on the verge of bankruptcy, was brought back to life. Zhang Youyi is also good at buying stocks and has made a lot of money in the stormy stock market.

In addition to his success in the financial industry, Zhang Youyi also founded the first fashion company in Shanghai-Shang Yun Fashion Company. She introduced the most popular western clothing styles to Shang Yun and improved them. At that time, ladies and gentlemen in Shanghai were proud of wearing clothes made in Shang Yun, and Shang Yun Fashion Company was almost synonymous with the highest end and the most fashionable at that time. Later, she immigrated to Hong Kong and 1954 married Dr. Su.

Zhang Youyi never got a trace of love in her first marriage, so she was rejected by her husband and forced to have an abortion and divorce. She faced many difficulties alone. After getting rid of the painful marriage, she didn't give up and complain about anyone, but became a self-reliant woman through her own efforts.

What you have suffered is not the reason for you to give up your life. People should be more frustrated and more brave. No matter how much you complain, it won't help The more painful you are, the more you must learn to be strong.

If you suffer a lot, if no one in the world loves you, then love yourself, face the suffering by yourself, don't resent it, don't immerse yourself in it, but turn it into strength, help yourself move forward and create your own life value.

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About the author: A girl born and raised in the south, she writes articles with simple words, and talks with you about feelings and growth.