What's the difference between China children and American children?

If you want to ask what is the biggest difference between China children and American children, I believe different people will have different answers. Just like comparing pork and beef, people with different tastes will definitely have different opinions. There is no absolute thing and there is no absolute comparison. This article belongs to the discussion of attracting jade by throwing bricks. ★ China children are diligent, while American children can play. According to the author's life experience in the United States for more than ten years, in my eyes, the biggest difference between Chinese and American children is that China children study harder than American children, and American children play better than China children. On this issue, I specially visited several international students from China in key American schools. Unsurprisingly, the children almost replied without thinking: "China children are more diligent than American children." Indeed, in the eyes of children, China children are always busier than American children of the same age. A large number of homework and various cultural and sports activities almost occupy China children's spare time. When our daughter was six years old, we bought a house for the first time and lived next door to the American people for the first time. Every day after school, in our community, American children of the same age run and jump outdoors, and their daughters learn Chinese, practice piano and make up arithmetic indoors. Whenever American children come to see my daughter, my little daughter always says helplessly, I'm sorry, I have to do my homework, and then I have to practice the piano. I stood beside my children and saw the disappointment and dissatisfaction of American children. To tell the truth, I have no taste in my heart. Maybe you will ask, why do China children in the United States have to be so diligent? I have lived in three states in the United States and met many China families. Daughter's helplessness can be seen in many families in China. Believe it or not, even the best China children in American schools can't go home without homework. Maybe you will ask, China children are already very good, why do you have to overweight them after class? When I lived in the Central American city of St. Louis, I met a doctor's mother from Guangzhou. Her views on parenting should be very representative. She said that with so much extra-curricular time in American elementary schools, I am worried when I see children hanging around at home. If you don't give them some homework, you always feel that your child's future is delayed. This is the Chinese mother who wants her son to become a dragon, and this is the Chinese mother's view on parenting. This is also a big reason why children in China are more diligent than those in the United States. Like Guangzhou's mother, I can't see my children doing nothing after school. No matter how the children are at school, they should continue to refuel and get better and better. How can you be the best without studying hard? ★ China children don't like talking, while American children are good at talking. As a mother of three children, I observed the growth process of myself and other children in China during my ten-year immigrant life, and found that there is another noticeable difference between China children and American children, that is, the oral language expression ability of the public. Take us adults for example. China people living in the United States often say that the American in our unit has no real skills, but he has a good mouth when talking about their American colleagues. With this mouth, he coaxed the boss around. People who can talk are welcome. This world is so unfair. Such complaints can be heard in American universities, hospitals and companies. The so-called good mouth here is what I said above. As early as when my children were in kindergarten, I saw the difference between American and China children in this respect. Every day when I pick up my children, I can always hear American children and teachers talking about the East and the West. For example, the dog at home, the car on the road and the lake in the park, American children always have nothing to say. But what about the China children in the class? Most children in China are listeners, or hide behind their mothers and look around quietly. Are our children in China born unable to express themselves? Definitely not. For example, a little girl like Nailin can not only express it, but also express it at the Olympic Games. Does American children's overconfidence suppress China children's desire for expression? This is worth discussing and thinking deeply. Most China children in kindergartens come from dual-income families. In most cases, Chinese mothers will rush to work as soon as they throw their children into the nursery. In contrast, American children who especially love to talk to teachers, in addition to language talent, full-time mothers certainly give them more intangible encouragement. For example, there is a boy named Tommy in my son's class. Every day, his mother always talks with the teacher at school for a while. After a long time, Tommy became more and more talkative in the nursery and finally became as talkative as his mother. As we all know, there are many more women in the United States than in China. The mother is at home full-time, and the direct beneficiary is the child. Many American stay-at-home mothers usually send their children to half-day nurseries in order to let them get in touch with the group as soon as possible. Compared with Chinese mothers who work full-time, these American stay-at-home mothers will have much more time. They will not only chat leisurely with the teacher when they pick up the children, but also go to the nursery to help as volunteers. According to the simple truth, children's self-confidence will be greatly increased with the help of their mothers in the nursery. A confident child must love to talk. The more you talk, the more confident you become. The more confident you are, the more talkative you are. ★ China children get good grades, and American children can communicate. In primary and secondary schools in the United States, there are parent-teacher conferences (PTA) organized by parents voluntarily. These parents' meetings are mainly responsible for the coordination and management of various activities within the school. I found that most adults who are active in parent-teacher conferences are Americans. Although a small number of China people participated in it, the role played by China people is only the tip of the iceberg. American children not only learn the management ability of their parents, but also learn how to communicate with others. I remember that when I received primary and secondary education in China, I had little chance to express myself in class except memorizing texts. In American elementary schools, children have the opportunity to read reports from the third grade. It is conceivable that when a child stands timidly in front of the podium for the first time, shyness is inevitable. But such language ability training is very valuable for children's future growth. For China students, as long as they study hard, they have a great chance to get good grades. In a recent interview with Dr. Sun Fengyi, the only Chinese primary school principal in Maryland, USA, President Sun, who is well versed in American primary and secondary education, also reminded China children to strengthen the training of oral expression skills. She stressed that in our China culture, adults often teach children to think twice and not to interrupt or disturb others. She said that if we let children adhere to such ancient teaching, China children will definitely feel frustrated when communicating with teachers and classmates in the future. Of course, how to use skills and how to integrate yourself into each other's conversation is a great knowledge. Take my own children as an example, let me think about this problem again. All three children in my family do well in their homework, but their public language skills need to be strengthened. Sometimes I feel that even adults, not to mention children, will feel nervous and even shy when speaking in public. In order to make up for your child's deficiency in this respect, I will try my best to spare time to volunteer for the primary school students at home. Every time I go to school to help, my six-year-old son always proudly tells his classmates, look, that's my mother. Then, the son will talk to his classmates about other chores. As for the middle school students in my family, I encourage her to take part in the school speech contest class, which can exercise the children's expression ability in public. This kind of training class is usually once a week, and there will be a whole day of pronunciation training on weekends. Although adults and children have invested a lot of time and energy, I think it is still worthwhile. The reason is just as President Sun said just now. Dale, a famous American orator. Carnegie mentioned in the preface of his world-famous book Breakthrough in Language that only 65,438+05% of a person's professional success depends on his own intelligence and skills, while the other 85% depends on his ability to communicate, speak and convince others. This shows how important "talking" is to a person's growth. If we can combine the diligence of China children with the "talking" of American children, what should the children be like? Needless to say, such a child will be great! Such a child, as long as a hand, maybe is invincible.