Introduction of tiger mother characters

Tiger mother, whose real name is AmyLynnChua, is female, born in 1962, and her ancestral home is in Fujian. His father received a doctorate from Massachusetts Institute of Technology and worked at the University of California. When Chua Mei-er was young, she immigrated to the United States with her parents and obtained a Bachelor of Arts degree and a Doctor of Law degree from Harvard University. She is now a tenured professor at Yale Law School.

Chinese name: Chua Meier

Mbth: AmyLynnChua

Alias: Tiger Mother

Nationality: USA

Birthplace: Illinois

Date of birth: 1962

Occupation: teacher

Graduate School: Harvard University

Major achievements: tenured professor at Yale Law School.

Masterpiece: Battle Hymn of Tiger Mother

Character events

Chua Mei-er made ten commandments for her two daughters, claiming that she "used all kinds of high-handed means such as cursing, threatening, bribing and indulging to ask her children to work hard along the path chosen by their parents". A 7-year-old girl was forced to practice from dinner until evening because she couldn't play a piano piece well, and she was not allowed to drink water or go to the toilet. This way of educating children can be seen in some parents in China.

However, this harsh education method was written by Chua Meier, a Chinese professor at Yale University, in one of her parenting classics. The publication of the book "Battle of Tiger Mother" has triggered a great discussion on the educational methods of the East and the West all over the world.

Ten Taboo Family Rules

● Stay out for the night

● Attend a playmate party.

Show off the piano at school.

Complaining that you can't play at school.

● Often watch TV or play computer games.

Choose your favorite extracurricular activities.

● The academic performance of any subject is lower than "A"

● Sports and literature are top-notch, and other subjects are average.

● Play other instruments instead of the piano or violin.

● I didn't practice piano or violin on a certain day.

Educational achievements

China's "Tiger Mother" education has now won a great victory!

In Chua Mei-er's book "Battle Hymn of Tiger Mother", Sophia (Chinese name Cai Sihui), the eldest daughter who is called garbage, no TV and no playmates, is about to become an Ivy League student.

Chua Meier said in her blog that Chua Sihui, who is 17 years old, has been accepted by Harvard and Yale and decided to go to Harvard University.

"I can't take credit," she said in an email to the Boston Herald. I don't think my upbringing has anything to do with her admission. I think this is 100% the result of Sophia's own efforts. "

Dialogue with reporters

(A) only humorously express the parenting process

Reporter: Some people think that Chinese mothers are more educated than American mothers?

Cai: Actually, some media reports are taken out of context. I have been clarifying recently that I disciplined two children with Chinese education and recorded this experience, that's all. Some words used in it seem harsh, but they actually want to express this parenting process humorously.

(2) "Do you have a better education method?"

Reporter: How do you educate your daughter severely?

Cai: I won't allow them to get below A in any subject. My eldest daughter Sophia won the second place in a multiplication oral exam in the fifth grade. Next, I asked her to do 20 papers every night, each with a quick calculation problem of 100, and I held a stopwatch to time. After a week of intensive training, Sophia won the first place every time. Lulu, the youngest daughter, didn't do extra points in an exam. I told her that children with good family education should get extra points. It is these real scores that distinguish Excellence from mediocrity.

Reporter: Does your husband agree with you to do this? Cai: My husband told me not to be too strict. I signed an agreement with him not to interfere with my Chinese education for my children. I asked him, do you have a better education method? No, please cooperate with me.

Reporter: What is the effect of this kind of education?

Cai: Both daughters got A's in all subjects. Sophia learned the alphabet in 18 months, read Little Women at the age of 3, and began to play the piano. /kloc-When she was 0/4 years old, she played the piano in Carnegie Hall.

Lulu practiced the violin and became the principal violinist of Yale Youth Orchestra at the age of 12. As an adult, Lulu changed to play tennis, and the referee commented that she was "a little girl who never gave up without making 1 10% efforts".

(3) Let her do what she really likes when she grows up.

Reporter: Some people don't understand that you don't let your daughter attend the party.

Cai: I don't attend playmate parties, because time is precious, which will delay the practice time. Once, Sophia kept begging her to go to her best friend's birthday party, but I relented and agreed. But when she got home the next morning, she was in no mood to practice the piano. Only after questioning did she know that she had been listening to a classmate talk about her mysterious sexual attempt all night. I regret letting my children attend such a bad party. I don't think it is necessary for children to make mistakes before studying.

Reporter: Will you back down?

Cai: It depends. Once we traveled to Russia. In a cafe, I asked Lulu to taste a caviar, but she didn't agree. In the face of my insistence, she frantically called me horrible. She grabbed the cups and smashed them on the floor, vowing that if I didn't leave her alone, she would smash all the cups.

I finally understand that when she grows up, I should give her some choices. There will be many such things in the future. For example, I agree with Lulu to resign as the chief violinist and play her favorite tennis. (d) I want to break the curse that three generations of Asians are not rich.

Reporter: What makes you so strict with your daughter?

Cai: In the United States, Asian immigrants have the curse of "three generations are not rich": one generation of immigrants finally realized the "American dream", saved every penny they earned and devoted great energy to their children's education. The second generation of immigrants is relatively excellent because of the huge investment of their parents, but the education of their children is not too strict. The life of the third generation immigrants is very comfortable. A group of friends with B+ scores believe that individual rights are protected by the Constitution, and they will go downhill if they are unwilling to work hard.

I am a second-generation immigrant and want to break the "curse" of three generations of Asians who are not rich.

Reporter: Everyone is worried that strict education will take away children's happy childhood.

Cai: We will also study in bed and cook creative Chinese food together. Husband will lead the family to travel by bike, teach children to swim, play poker and read literature.

Reporter: In retrospect, is there anything you don't like?

Cai: I believe my children will understand me eventually.

Reporter: Do you have any opinions for reference?

Cai: Personally, I think that western education places too much emphasis on creativity, while China education places too much emphasis on discipline and hard work. In fact, the two educational methods should achieve an ideal balance, and children will grow up as we expect.

How to treat

Consciousness imposition

Generally speaking, each generation is always better than the previous generation at the same age. His knowledge and knowledge are better than those of his parents when they were young, so don't think that his parents' status means that he is better than him all his life. In fact, his children have a lot to learn. Children are better at using foreign languages, computers and mobile phones than you, and accept new things faster than you.

There is no obvious difference in educational methods between the east and the west, so we can learn from each other. Chua Meier said that educational thought is too absolute and one-sided. However, this book is a very enlightening case of family education. There is no distinction between Chinese and western family education. Regardless of tiger mother and cat mother, respecting children and growing up with them is the core of family education.

Educational choice

"Tiger Mother" has a problem with the educational choice of two children. She copied her first daughter's educational methods to her second daughter. The eldest daughter is clever and listens to her mother, but the second daughter is rebellious, so she chose her own way. Family education is a supplement to school education. For example, teachers can't praise all students, but parents can praise every child. Amy Chua only pays attention to the cultivation of skills. I think family education is more important to cultivate children's personality and morality.

Educational method

Chua Meier didn't consider that children's growth is a comprehensive growth process. Today's "captivity" is for the ultimate "stocking". Today's support is for letting go in the future. Letting children live independently and happily is the ultimate goal of parents' education. Finally, Chua Meier also said that her daughter was educated according to China's method before 18 years old, and adopted the western method after 18 years old. I think this is a big change in her concept, and it is also her reflection after suffering a painful lesson as a mother.

China thinks.

The ideas in the book also touched China's mother and educators, and inspired China people to reflect and discuss a series of conceptual issues such as educational spirit and goals.

In China, a country where tiger mothers should live together, most mothers disapprove of Chua Mei-er's practice.

Compared with Chua Meier, a Chinese-Philippine mixed-race woman who has lived in the United States for a long time, Zhao Hua, who once worked in a media company in China and now moved to the United States, can be regarded as a real Chinese mother. She wrote many articles about parenting.

When talking about how to educate his son, Zhao Hua said without hesitation that "I won't be like Chua Meier", with special emphasis on not putting too much pressure on children. I hope they can have their own hobbies and develop their own specialties. I won't make decisions for them.

Wei Liang specializes in basic education research. She is the vice president of the Capital Institute of Basic Education of Beijing Normal University. She believes that the "tiger mother" education method is a special case, which also exists in a few families in China, but it "cannot explain the whole education problem in China".

But the tiger mother's education method has also caused many Chinese mothers to think. Cui Lu is a teacher and mother of a famous school in China. In her class, there are children from China and foreign countries. However, she found that children in China are more dependent than foreign children.

"This is related to China's national conditions, cultural background and different value orientations." Cui Lu believes that "most China families are a child, and children are regarded as' pets' and' coaxed' by babies." To some extent, this has formed an educational model with China characteristics.

The parenting style of "Battle Hymn of Tiger Mother" was brought into the market by some western media-2065438+200365438+810. In October, The Wall Street Journal published a book review entitled "Why Chinese mothers are better" to discuss "Battle Hymn of Tiger Mother". In this regard, education experts believe that Chinese and western education methods are better or worse, "benevolent people have different opinions, and wise people have different opinions."

Zhang Yiwu, deputy director of Peking University Cultural Resources Research Center, believes that the Tiger Mother case is only an extreme and dramatic case. Not all parents in China are as exaggerated as Tiger Mother, and Tiger Mother can't fully represent the educational model of China people.

Zhang Yiwu said that China and the United States learn from each other's educational model, and there is a phenomenon of "besieged city". China's parents and teachers learn from American education's respect for individuality. At the same time, American educational circles have been reflecting on the inefficiency of their own education. Both countries often have fantasies and romantic imaginations about each other's educational views.

Huang Quanyu, a Ph.D. student in the United States and a professor at Miami University, summed up some differences in basic education between China and the United States in his book Cultivating Smart Children-Gifted Education in the United States.

China pays attention to the "amount of knowledge" mastered by students, and cultivates children's learning behavior and ability to absorb knowledge. The "boy's job" of basic education in China is to learn more, practice more, remember more and take more exams;

The United States attaches importance to students' critical thinking, independent thinking, creativity, ability to find and solve problems, and practical ability to apply what they have learned. The "childlike innocence" of American basic education is to see more, ask more, think more and do more;

After class, Teacher China asked, "Are there any questions?" Students have no problem, that's the best situation. When American teachers attend classes, there is nothing wrong with students, that is, there is something wrong with teachers' teaching.

Lu Jun, executive director of Beijing Century Breakthrough English International English Education Group, said that the most fundamental feature of basic education in China is to judge heroes by exams. Children in China have to do too much homework, take too many exams and recite too many articles at school. "Children have little free time to satisfy their hobbies."

Many teachers who are engaged in teaching know that the basic education in our country has seriously deviated from the actual social life in some aspects. "12 years of precious time, some schools probably only cultivated students' ability to take exams, while people's practical ability and creativity in solving problems were seriously ignored. "

If we compare the basic education methods between the East and the West and say that the East is better than the West, then "why did the United States, which accounts for less than 5% of the world's population, win more than 70% of the Nobel Prize? Why is there not a truly world-class university in China, which accounts for about 1/4 of the world's population and ranks first in the world in the scale of higher education? " This is an "embarrassing" question in the hearts of many educators in China?

Of course, educators in China have not underestimated themselves. Some primary and secondary schools with advanced educational concepts and teaching models have become the first choice for teachers and students in foreign schools.

Liu Pengzhi is very famous on the educational front in China. She is the principal of the most famous school in China-the High School Attached to the National People's Congress. She said: "The High School Attached to the National People's Congress has formed sister schools with 35 well-known schools on five continents."

Like the middle school attached to the National People's Congress, Beijing No.11 Middle School has established friendly relations with many foreign schools. Walking on the campuses of these two schools, you can always meet foreign teachers with blond hair and blue eyes, as well as foreign students wearing school uniforms with the names of these two schools. From this window, we can see the epitome of the internationalization of education in China.

Wu Fengqin, vice president of the 11th Affiliated High School of Beijing Normal University, said that many foreign teachers came to the Chinese school and expressed their appreciation for the strong learning atmosphere, good teaching and students' enthusiasm for learning.

"Whether it is China or the United States, whether it is the East or the West, only by facing the world and the future, actively absorbing all the outstanding achievements of human civilization, learning from the world's advanced school-running concepts, teaching methods and management experience, and combining their respective national conditions, can education in all countries flourish."

Zheng Fangxian, president of the middle school affiliated to Fudan University, said that education is not a simple matter. There are 1000 children and 1000 educational methods.

No matter "tiger mother", or earlier "Harvard girl" and "Yale boy", these are all cases. Their success is based on many unsuccessful cases. What we see are all successful cases, but we can't see that unsuccessful children are raised in this way, at least in the eyes of the secular. Therefore, the so-called "tiger mother" and other methods of teaching children do not have the significance of guidance and promotion. Education is the most personalized content, and only education implemented according to children's characteristics is the most suitable education.

In the process of children's growth, parents should give their children more professional training and exercise on the basis of their own choices. What parents need to do is to wait for their children to make their own decisions and help them make choices and judgments with professional eyes, instead of forcing their children to become talents or planning their children to become talents.