Daughter-in-law immigrates for children who are not related by blood.

In fact, many families do not value boys over girls. The woman gives birth to a daughter to the man, and her parents-in-law will regard her as a treasure, because their blood will still flow on the child after all. However, it is easy for them to dislike their daughter-in-law, no matter how virtuous her daughter-in-law is, because she is not related to them by blood, but a married stranger.

Don't think that if you stand in the light, the shadow doesn't exist.

Some families either prefer sons to daughters or like to treat you as an outsider.

Then someone will definitely say that it is terrible not to get married in this situation. I want to say that the person you accompany to your old age will always be that person, not his family. If the person you marry can protect you and treat you as one of our own, that is a good marriage.

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It is said that marrying a person is not only for him, but also for his family.

If he loves you enough, he will give you enough respect in front of his parents, so that his parents will respect you.

This statement was very popular on the internet before, but it was not wrong, except that there were many situations that it didn't say.

For example, even if your husband dotes on you in front of your parents and your son is around, your parents-in-law will be very kind and loving to you.

But even their sons can't guarantee their parents' true thoughts in private.

I believe that most families in this world are beautiful, but some are really bad.

Zhang Ying married a husband who loved her very much, knowing that the family behind her husband was not very good, but she married without hesitation.

Zhang Ying and her husband have been in love for three years. From the beginning, Zhang Ying's parents were not optimistic about this relationship. When it comes to marriage, Zhang Ying's parents are still persuading Zhang Ying that his parents are rural, bourgeois and out of tune, and they like to haggle over every ounce if they have no money. Even if he likes you again, it won't change his family background. What are you going to marry?

Zhang Yingying said, "Not all the people who come out of the countryside belong to the bourgeoisie, and they all haggle over every ounce. Many people who have come out of the countryside have kept a simple heart. I am convinced that the man I am going to marry is like this. He is practical, independent, responsible and willing to take on the future of his family and wife. What is there to worry about when I marry him? "

In the face of her daughter's firm position, parents can't say anything but sigh and can only wish.

But the truth is, Zhang Ying's parents have reason to worry.

Zhang Ying's husband is very nice, but his parents are a little too clever. In the eyes of his parents, even if his daughter-in-law is married, it is not his surname after all, so he doesn't like Zhang Ying very much.

At ordinary times, because my son dotes on his daughter-in-law, it doesn't embarrass Zhang Ying much, but the signs of differential treatment are too obvious.

Sometimes, Zhang Ying and her husband visit her parents-in-law. Rural people often keep some local ducks at home, so their parents-in-law stew the local ducks into a bowl of soup, and only give them to their sons for fear that Zhang Ying will take advantage.

Isn't that strange? A whole chicken, arguably more than a bowl of soup, but every time Zhang Ying can't see her share. Fortunately, her husband loves her and always gives her these things to eat. Only Zhang Ying's heart was buried.

Just a bowl of soup. Who can't afford it? Sadly for Zhang Ying, she always seems to be regarded as an outsider by her in-laws.

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If Zhang Ying is the kind of person who treats her in-laws like air, maybe she won't have so many troubles.

But there are always good people in the world who are single-minded and kind to others, but they are still regarded as air by others.

So they are confused, they are troubled and their hearts are blocked.

This is the case in Zhang Ying. Every time she faces her in-laws, she tries her best to do her best, visiting at home, not forgetting to give gifts, and keeping her hands busy, and always doing housework. She just doesn't understand why her in-laws don't like her.

She can always perceive the faint gap between herself and her in-laws, which seems to disappear gradually with pregnancy.

When Zhang Ying was pregnant, she had a B-ultrasound, and the fetus was a girl. At first, she was worried that her in-laws would dislike her when they knew, but she didn't expect her in-laws to care about her uncharacteristically.

Especially her mother-in-law, came to the city directly from her rural hometown to take care of her, which moved Zhang Ying to tears, wondering if it was just that her mother-in-law didn't express her concern at ordinary times and misunderstood her.

When the due date arrives, my mother-in-law is more nervous than Zhang Ying and stays in the hospital all day.

Fortunately, Zhang Ying's delivery went smoothly. It only took more than three hours to give birth, and it was a girl.

My mother-in-law has no intention of discriminating against girls at all. She held the child happily, hugging and coaxing. Zhang Ying was glad to see it in her eyes.

Unexpectedly, this is the starting point of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law behind her.

Because at that moment, my mother-in-law said, "My daughter-in-law and granddaughter are so lovely that I can't bear to go back and want to stay and take care of her." Immersed in emotion, Zhang Ying agreed without thinking.

Life after that is Zhang Ying's nightmare.

Mother-in-law really likes her granddaughter, so that even Zhang Ying, as a mother, doesn't like to hug her.

Children cry easily. Sometimes when Zhang Ying starts to cry, her mother-in-law gets angry on the spot: "It's still the child's mother! Can you hold the baby? When you touch a baby, it will cry. What can you do besides milking? "

Zhang Ying never thought her mother-in-law would say that about herself. This kind of words is not a party, and I don't know how wronged it is.

In addition, Zhang Ying's method of raising children is quite different from that of her mother-in-law, which may be another point of Zhang Ying's collapse.

It's normal that Zhang Ying often changes diapers for children, but in the eyes of her mother-in-law, children are not comfortable with that kind of thing at all, and they still have to use the pieces of cloth they used as children.

Zhang Ying repeatedly stressed that those things were unsanitary, and her mother-in-law retorted: Do you have me to take care of the baby? Can I still hurt my granddaughter?

Once, my mother-in-law was feeding her child rice paste. Zhang Ying said, "Children can't eat that much, they will stick to it." The mother-in-law said, "Do you know how fast you eat?"

Zhang Ying couldn't help it and said something very heavy: "Mom, can I take my baby?"

This sentence seems to touch the sensitive nerves of her mother-in-law, who immediately cursed: "What treasure are you? She is my granddaughter, taking her father's surname. What does it have to do with you? " I'm telling you, son, she doesn't have your last name, and you will always be an outsider in our family. Do you really think you are my daughter? All day long, so affectionate. I tell you, I don't know you! "

When he said these words, there were a lot of local swear words, and Zhang Ying probably understood some of them and cried with anger.

She knew that her mother-in-law hated herself as always.

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Some mothers-in-law, she doesn't care if you have boys or girls, and it doesn't matter if you don't have her. Because she won't like you.

There is no other reason, just because you were not born to her.

She will love the child you gave birth to, just because the child has her son's blood.

Zhang Ying suddenly felt that his parents were right and his in-laws were really difficult to get along with.

It was her husband who saved Zhang Ying.

He saw it when his mother scolded Zhang Ying.

Instead of standing beside his mother, he said something like this: "mom, don't go too far!" I respect you very much because you are an elder and you are my mother. I appreciate you bringing me up, but that doesn't mean you can bully my wife like this.

Mom, if you really don't like her, go back to your hometown. Out of sight, out of mind, right? Don't embarrass yourself, lest I get bored when I see you. "

How can Zhang Ying's mother-in-law expect her son to protect her daughter-in-law? Her face was impatient. She didn't go back to her hometown, but since then, she has been really much better to Zhang Ying.

People are very strange creatures. Sometimes people who don't like them are born and can't be changed.

If your in-laws just don't like you, but you still insist on marrying your husband, I hope he can protect you just because of one thing-your husband really loves you.

Choosing a man you like, his three views and sense of responsibility are really important. Just because you are his wife, he won't indulge you everywhere regardless of principles and deliberately mistreat his parents and relatives; He will not wronged his wife for his relatives. Such a man is worth marrying.

A person with a bright future must take responsibility. Because he is responsible, he is afraid that you will be wronged, so he will give you more tolerance and understanding.

This is the significance of pursuing three views in love.