International students are afraid to return home.

It is said that there is such a phenomenon in the circle of international students, that is, "fear of returning to China." But certainly not everyone has it, but most people have met it. Let's talk about the fear of international students returning to China.

Interpretation of pirated entries: fear of returning to China refers to some international students or immigrants who have lived and studied abroad for a period of time and have resistance and anxiety about returning to China. Perhaps the longer you stay abroad, the stronger this emotion will become.

Fear of returning to China will have the following emotions:

1. I want to escape the "sympathy" of my parents and relatives.

Everyone is already familiar with this. From the moment your family knew you were going back to China, all kinds of care and condolences came. The first thing must be to ask you to help me purchase human flesh. Even if the relationship is good, the relationship will usually find you. At this time, many people will be unable to refuse, so some people will choose to "sneak back to China", not to make public, not to make friends ... They have been cautious since they never returned to China.

When you really return to China, go home and face it:

Everything is wrong anyway! But mom, I studied hard in Australia just to go home and have a good rest.

In order to escape the "care" of your parents, you must also do the following:

Besides, the question that is most easily refuted by international students is: Have you talked about friends abroad? Are you ready to emigrate?

Whenever you encounter this kind of problem, it is simply "sending a proposition" …

What else is there? Your English must be very good. Why don't you speak some English?

Do you want to talk about crosstalk or KTV, and order songs? What are you doing? Can't you speak Chinese well (covering your face)?

In the long run, such things happen more often, and international students will feel contradictory in their hearts, so it is a bit annoying to think that they will be chased by relatives when they return to China.

2. I feel alienated from my friends in China and can't keep up with the pace of life in China.

The longer you live abroad, the less familiar you are with China. This situation is most easily reflected in immigrants and babies who return home only once a year or even once every two years. Because I have lived in another environment for a long time, all I care about, hear and know is the news and news in this environment, and I must have "derailed" with China. For example, I haven't returned to China for a year, and I feel that everything in China is very strange. New streets, new shopping malls, yellow cars and security checks when crossing the subway are really out of step.

Even when you meet friends, you will be a little vague about what everyone is saying. Fortunately, good friends are friends. Even if I haven't seen you for a long time, I can get familiar with it immediately after chatting for a while ~

Three views, values and living habits have all changed.

Another point is that some of your living habits and concepts abroad will be different from those at home. Take the simplest living habits as an example. If you stay in Australia for a long time, you will definitely like to sit anywhere and go up and down by the escalator on the left at any time … but you will not get used to it at home. Even if you sometimes explain to your friends, people will say that you deliberately show off or pretend to be B.

Or some ideas you have developed abroad, such as very open-minded ideas, will be described as nonsense by your elders at home ... or you can't adapt to the domestic workplace environment after graduation. In this way, some students feel that they have been unable to integrate into the domestic living environment, resulting in some anxiety.

Returning to China is very troublesome and expensive.

The last point is that many students report that the cost of returning to China is really high (don't look at local tyrants). Apart from gifts for relatives and friends, air tickets are definitely not a small expense, and it is also an expense to "drink and drink" with friends after returning home. And if you are a student who rents a house abroad, you still have to pay the rent abroad during your return. If you don't pay the rent and check out, it will be very troublesome to find a place to release your luggage, and it will be another trouble to find a house to move …

To sum up, these things piled together will make people feel very weak and unwilling to return to China. But I think this phenomenon actually depends on everyone's mentality! Living in different environments, values and living habits will inevitably be different, so don't be too anxious. Life is flexible, as long as you improvise in different environments, you can live a wonderful life wherever you go. When facing the concern of relatives, be casual, relax and learn to refuse. Anyway, people just ask, after all, is it our own business? Think more about the delicious food we can eat after returning home, meet friends, spend time with our parents, grandparents, and nothing else ~ ~