How difficult is it to live in another city?

I recently moved to another city for work reasons, which is about 50 minutes' drive from Changsha. I go back to the provincial capital every Friday to feel the thick smog, and then go to the countryside to experience the coolness of the back garden on Sunday night.

When they graduated from college, everyone looked for jobs everywhere. Some students went to other places, while others went back to the county seat. Like most people, I stayed in Fuzhou.

The biggest reason why I didn't leave Fuzhou is because I couldn't bear to leave those classmates. I think it is disloyal not to stay in one place. Everybody's here. Why are you out of town?

Although these students don't really care about my existence, I gradually found that people who should go far will still go far quietly and won't be reluctant to leave because of me.

They will leave because of work, love and marriage. They can be towed away for whatever reason, but they won't stay because of me.

There is really no one who can be with you. Either you are negative or you are negative.

When I decided to come to Changsha, I also asked myself a few tacky questions. What should I do if I live in a strange city and have no relatives or friends? Manager Tang asked me, Zhang Xiaoben, what should I do if I am dumped in Changsha? It's gonna be pathetic.

Bah.

Let's start with a few things that everyone is afraid of.

The first thing is to find a job. When I arrived in a new city, I had no contacts and friends to recommend me. I lost all my resources and had to start all over again.

Wrong. As long as you are not a mediocre career vegetable worm, changing jobs in a city means changing companies to continue, not starting from scratch. So you are the department manager, so you can only start from the Commissioner in another city? Obviously not.

Speaking of which, I am really lucky. Before I came to Changsha, I had received an employment notice from a Fortune 500 company. My position is not high and my salary is average. However, first of all, I solved the first thing that everyone is afraid of when living in a different place, that is, survival.

People who are afraid of not finding a job are not worried about not finding a job, but whether the job they find can meet their expectations to the greatest extent. If it's not much beyond expectations, it's not so dignified, that's all.

After all, everyone feels that it seems that how much they have paid when they arrive in a strange city. How many valuable things did you create for yourself in the original city?

The second thing is loneliness, no friends, and no one to scold the former boss.

Well, there is a solution to this matter. The circle of friends is gradually accumulating. In the original life circle, not everyone can be called a friend. On the contrary, there are many contacts that cannot be refused for human reasons, occupying unnecessary space.

Therefore, in the new life circle, you have the absolute initiative to run your circle of friends, deal with people you like, keep your distance from people you don't appreciate, and give yourself a pure land.

Now is the Internet age. We miss our old friends. We can call, send WeChat and chat videos at any time. Physical distance can no longer stop us from chatting happily with the whole world.

Loneliness comes from the lack of a certain part of your ability, and the sense of helplessness it brings does not come from the number of friends.

The third thing is insecurity. What if something happens?

What should I do if I get sick and no one takes care of me? So I want to practice vest line! Your body is your own, and no one has the obligation to take care of you every day. No matter how good a friend is, he doesn't want to buy you porridge and water every day.

The car broke down on the way and someone rubbed it. What should I do if I meet a fierce male driver? This kind of thing happens everywhere, no matter which city you are in. The best solution is to take photos, call the police and wait for insurance.

Don't think about what is going on. What if no one supports you? What if no one stands up for you? If you are really capable, you don't need others to help you like this. If you are really incompetent, no one will stand up for you. Do not believe you, try again in your original city.

What if the relationship is dumped? Personally, I think, tell me another one.

The fourth thing is that you are too far away from your parents to be filial.

This is a little boy who told me. My parents are here, so I won't travel far. But she hid the last sentence, you must swim well.

This is what Confucius said. In the era of Confucius, measuring the world with feet was at best measuring the world with wooden wheels. It will take years to get out. I left home in my teens and came back in my middle age without an ID card or something. Your mother dare not recognize you.

The transportation is convenient now. It's only a few hours' journey from Changsha to Fuzhou. If I want to live in Beishangguang, the time from south to north is enough for me to fly from Central China to East China.

When I was in Fuzhou, I could not go home twice a year. I can go home three times a year after I come to Changsha. Tell me, where should I live?

Filial piety is a very sensitive thing to say. Anyone who is said to be unfilial will be in a hurry with you. Everyone should have their own life. Some people emigrate to other countries, and their parents live in China. Isn't this a great unfilial act?

The best parents love each other, live actively and create a loving living environment for their children. So I think the most filial duty is to take care of yourself, live a decent life independently, and let parents see what they want to see you.

I don't know where I got my confidence. Anyway, when I left Fuzhou, I didn't feel sad, and I didn't have any special emotions.

What can I not get along with about my confidence? I am so talented! I will be a grass on Malan Mountain. . .

Later, I heard from a friend that Xiao said that she regretted not treating me well for so many years, not letting me feel the warmth of friendship, and leaving Fuzhou without giving up at all. She said she would treat me better in the future, and then gave me two badminton rackets.

Because I sent two, I didn't think much. If it was three, I would understand. Don't forget to clap often when you go out alone.

Everything is far away except home.

Except for the placenta, they are all different places.

Working and living in another city is really no big deal. At least, I enjoyed it.

You are welcome to come.