Husband immigrates, wife does not immigrate.

No, girls should have their own pursuits. Most of our life should not be love, it is only a small part of our life. Give up love and choose a girl who insists on personal pursuit, and she will certainly get contacts, financial resources, self-sufficiency and a more quality life in the future.

At the age of 20, I was faced with a choice: whether to immigrate to Singapore with my boyfriend who is 9 years older than me, then get married and have children, and live a dull life, squeezing out my last "imagination" in trivial things, or to jump out of this love that will hinder me and pursue self-realization first. Not without hesitation. But fortunately, I finally chose the latter at that time. ?

What is my life like now? I like my job very much, and the friends I know are excellent. We get together from time to time, eat and drink, and talk about ambitious or imaginative things. I live alone in a small duplex. In winter, I can sit on the bay window to bask in the sun and read all kinds of books. More and more, I feel that "the life I earned" is really comfortable, very comfortable.

To unswervingly choose what you like to do, no matter what people around you say about you. If your boyfriend really loves you, he will be willing to understand you and discuss with you, instead of expecting you to be the one who is only committed to the relationship between the two sides. You can have your own choice, and as your boyfriend, I will support you. You will face difficulties in the future. Help them through the difficulties together. Don't be afraid.

If he doesn't like you enough, he just needs a companion like you to solve the loneliness and loneliness of the adult world. He will disintegrate your pursuit with words and actions, and then influence your will with feelings. Think about it, if you immigrate with him, you won't give up all your things and rely on him in a strange place.

At this time, I want to advise you to be more rational and less emotional. Pay more attention to your future, think more about your future, and don't take love as the only destination. Because usually, the more you seek, the less you get. It is better to be yourself first and establish your own order. ?

In fact, if you don't try, you will never understand that you can be so resilient. I prefer to put "them" in good memories instead of today's tenderness disappearing in later years, and my once beautiful partner will become an insignificant past because of my weakness, instead of blindly clinging to boys' loyalty to feelings and making life a sugar-coated adventure. Then turn around and have a richer life of your own.