My boyfriend is going to study and immigrate to Canada. Go out for eight years. Said I was afraid of delay and told me not to wait for him. What should I do?

I am also an international student. Let's first state our living conditions from the perspective of international students.

First, more than 80% of international students will live with others. Many of them have true love, but many of them can't stand that kind of loneliness. Many times when I am in a foreign land, I can't tell my family about many things, because I am afraid they are worried and because I really can't help. If no one is around to talk, it's really hard. Children (especially girls) who came and went later were simply looking for ATM machines. Anyone who has been abroad knows how realistic this is in China. After all this, there is no guarantee that your boyfriend can stand loneliness.

Second: distance does not produce beauty. I have a friend whose girlfriend was at home when she went abroad. He basically kept in touch with two phones every day for five years! I don't know how many calling cards there are. I admired him at first. Unfortunately, in the end, the space gap was not overcome, and the two broke up. . . I also had personal experience afterwards. Although I like each other very much, I feel untouchable when I need each other, which is really disgusting. . . Finally broke up. There are countless examples of this.

Third: the girl can't afford to keep it for ~ eight years. He is a turtle, and no one will mind if he is older. But what about you? . . Twenty-five years later, a girl is getting worse every year. By 2089, no one wanted it ~ after 30 years old, she could only find a second marriage. What if he changes his mind? No one dares to make a guarantee for the future. . . So is your boyfriend.

Fourth, people who have studied abroad have different lifestyles and ways of doing things from ordinary people in China. Your behavior and even your values will be different then. Will your love be like what you thought at that time?

As the saying goes, "don't divide, but really think." When I still have feelings, it is really painful to have to be separated because of this kind of thing. But in my experience, it will be more painful to keep you. There is a song that sings very well. " There is a kind of love called letting go. " I listened for a long time. . . I hope it helps you, and I wish you happiness ~