Is a person’s face important?

Is the face your own or someone else’s?

As the saying goes, "You have to live and die to save face." Face is for others to see. It is what you ask yourself to do to get good evaluation and recognition from people in your interpersonal circle. Should we fight for this face? From a mental health perspective, face is a false reflection of yourself, a reflection of your efforts to cover up your shortcomings in order to make yourself perfect. For example, your family background is not very good, but for the sake of face, you still have to fight for face in some things, spending lavishly to treat your friends as a favor. Originally, you did not have the ability to do this well, but for the sake of face, you still respond to requests. , No matter how hard we try, we have to keep up this face, "We can't afford to lose this person."

Such falsehoods have brought a lot of trouble to my life. If you let yourself be trapped in falsehood, it will be difficult to realize your true value. If you cannot transcend your own falsehood in time, many negative problems will arise, such as family conflicts due to this, etc.

I hope your buddy can get out of the trap of giving face and live a more authentic life.