Singapore attaches great importance to cultivating good qualities in children

Singaporeans attach great importance to family moral education and actively work hard to cultivate good qualities in their children.

1. Cultivate a heart of kindness

Among the many characters in the works of Singaporean female writer Kang Peishan, there is a black-haired girl living in a small town. His body shouldered the heavy burden of independently caring for two adoptive parents who were poor and sick. This masterpiece "Black Hair" received great acclaim in Singapore because from this teenage girl, people can see the great power and infinite wisdom that the spirit of charity brings to people.

Ms. Chen Xinyi, who once served as the Director of Education in Singapore, believes that parents should not only love their children with full love, but also teach their children to love others. Children should be educated to love their parents, their elders, their teachers, their classmates, their school, etc. If a child only accepts love from others since childhood and never knows how to treat others with the same love, then he will only become an emotional idiot and devil when he grows up, or he will only accept love from others numbly and will not be able to talk about it at all. Go up and love others. Such a child will only bring misfortune to the family and society in the future, and he himself will eventually be rejected by the family and society.

Ms. Chen also gave her own personal experience, explaining that parents should teach their children how to express emotions through their own words and deeds. For example, one time, her two young sons were playing the "Flying Man" game. They ran excitedly around each room, jumped up and down on the sofa, screamed and cheered loudly, and refused to go to bed until late at night. . Ms. Chen Xinyi did not follow the usual practice of scolding her children and then pulling them one by one to order them to go to bed immediately. Instead, she quietly turned off the TV, turned off the headlights in the room, quietly started to clean up the messy toys, and rushed to the children. He raised his middle finger and said in a low voice: "Dad works very hard and needs to go to bed early tonight. Can we stop playing games temporarily and let Dad have a good sleep so that he will be very motivated to go to work tomorrow?" The two children nodded in understanding, but they were obviously in high spirits and reluctant to part with the game toys around them. So Ms. Chen promised not to put away the toys in a hurry, but to put them in a big box and wait to play with them tomorrow. They also strongly praised them for being considerate and filial to their parents. The children then happily said "good night" to their father and went back to their bedrooms obediently.

Ms. Chen’s advice to parents is: Parents should cultivate their children’s love for their parents and other people, and give their children opportunities to express this emotion. For example, children should know that their parents are very busy at work, and they should not interfere with their parents' rest when playing at home; they should care about their parents' health, respect their elderly grandparents, and do what they can to do for them; and be with their peers During games, you can take photos in harmony, help each other and be friendly; you are willing to do good things for your neighbors and companions, etc.

2. Cultivate children to be disciplined and orderly

There is a Chinese saying: "There is no rule without rules." This is also one of the important principles of moral education in Singaporean families. Parents in Singapore often use small things in daily life or various forms of games to cultivate their children's awareness of norms, so that their children know these norms and consciously act in accordance with these norms.

Mr. Chen Xingang, a famous professor and dean of the School of Business Management at the National University of Singapore, recalled his childhood life and said deeply: My brother and I were very young at that time and were not very sensible. But our parents tried to teach us that there are rules for everything. At home, my mother requires us to know that all kinds of supplies and objects in the home are placed in fixed places, and that they must be returned to their original places every time they are used. She wants us to go to bed and get up on time, eat on time, and do various exercises and homework on time every day. My brother and I were very obedient at that time, not because we were worried that we would be beaten if we disobeyed, but because we were worried that if we were disobedient, our mother would tell the teacher about our performance, and then our classmates would also know about it, which is a shameless thing. ?He also vividly described the situation when his father played chess with him when he was a child. Once, father and son were playing chess, and Chen Xingang, who was extremely competitive, wanted to beat his father. He opened his eyes wide and concentrated on thinking about each move, and the chess pieces in his hands were wet with sweat. After finally coming up with a powerful offensive move, he proudly took a step forward. Unexpectedly, at the moment of making the move, he suddenly realized that he had made a mistake in his calculations. This move was like taking the initiative to send it into the tiger's mouth, so he hurriedly shouted I want to regret my move. At this time, my father, who was usually kind and gentle, became serious. He was not careful about regretting his chess game, even though it was just an informal chess match. The young Xingang was secretly dissatisfied with his father's unreasonableness, and even thought that his father was "petty" for a long time. Many years later, he realized that his father's good intentions were contained in the little song "No Regrets". Any game has rules, and rules are the guarantee for the smooth progress of the game and the achievement of the purpose of the game. For children, the rules of the game are necessary constraints on their behavior. As for playing games with children, fathers urge their children to strictly abide by the rules, precisely to cultivate the child's self-control from an early age, train his discipline, and lay a solid foundation for him to become a law-abiding citizen in the future.

3. Educate children to be civilized and polite

Singaporeans attach great importance to civility and politeness. They believe that a person’s politeness is a mirror that reflects his or her portrait. Promoting civility and politeness will undoubtedly reflect It reflects the friendly relationship between people caring for and respecting each other, and also reflects the level of citizens' own cultural upbringing. In this regard, Singaporeans and Chinese have many similarities.

To train children to be civilized and polite means asking them to learn to be kind, speak and act gracefully and humbly.

Singaporeans attach great importance to polite language. They educate their children to address their parents, teachers and other elders as “you” on any occasion, instead of calling them by their first names; when asking for help from others, they should sincerely say “thank you” and not take it for granted. Ignore it; when you hinder others or cause inconvenience to others, you should take the initiative to say "I'm sorry" or "Sorry for troubling you", but you have to express your apology, let alone say "You deserve it"; when others apologize to you, you should Answer "It doesn't matter" or "It doesn't matter", but you can't ignore others, let alone be unreasonable and make trouble; when you meet your companions or elders on the streets, say "Hello" and don't lower your head and pretend not to notice; when talking to others When parting, you must say "goodbye" and cannot just walk away without saying anything.

Elegant conversation must match Dexiu’s demeanor. Therefore, while parents teach their children to use polite words, they should also tirelessly cultivate their decent and elegant manners; the behavioral norms that need to be known and abided by by their children are: when standing, hold your chest up, abdomen and neck in, keep your shoulders flat and not sway, and keep your legs flat. Do not hold your arms down and your legs do not tremble; when entering other people's (including parents') rooms, you must knock on the door gently first and get permission before entering; do not push the door in casually; when visiting other people, you must notify them in advance and pay attention to the time. Generally do not go during meal and nap times, and try to avoid interfering with other people's normal lives; you are not allowed to visit people in underwear or pajamas in any season, or receive visitors at home; when guests come to visit, you must take the initiative to give up your seat, and offer tea with both hands When receiving guests, sit in an upright posture, do not lean to the left or right, do not cross your feet too much or cross your legs, and do not sway.

When talking to others, do not pick your nose, ears, teeth, scratch itches, take off shoes and socks, or pick your toes; when dining, do not use chopsticks before guests and elders, and do not rummage through the dishes. , tableware should be handled with care to reduce collisions, and no chewing sounds should be made when eating; in public and special occasions, cover your mouth and nose with a handkerchief when coughing, sneezing, or spitting, and do not direct it at others, etc.

It is worth noting that when it comes to cultivating children's civilized speech and behavior, parents must set a good and educated example for their children. At least we can give our children correct examples in the above aspects.

In addition, Singaporean parenting also includes educating children to be diligent and frugal, to do what they can from an early age, to educate children to tell the truth and not to tell lies, etc. There is such a short story in Singapore's early childhood moral education textbooks: Xiao Lixin loved drawing very much and asked her mother many times to buy her a box of colored pens, but her mother did not take it to heart and never bought her. In order to get the long-awaited colored pens, Li Xin began to lie to her mother: "Our kindergarten teacher said that everyone should bring a box of colored pens to the kindergarten tomorrow to draw." Her mother did not dare to disobey the teacher's request and hurriedly bought a box of colored pens. Li Xin finally achieved her goal by lying. Lying situations like this happen to many children. In fact, as long as parents pay proper attention, they can completely avoid it. Many Singaporean parents have also realized that they should try their best to meet the reasonable requirements of their children. If you cannot be satisfied for a while, you must explain the reason to your child. If a child's wishes and requests are ignored indiscriminately or rejected blindly, it is easy for the child to lie or do bad things behind the parents' back.

When Einstein mourned the famous scientist Marie Curie, he said: When such a noble figure as Madame Curie ends her life, we should not be satisfied with the impact her work has had on mankind. contribution made. The significance of first-class figures to the era and historical process may be greater in terms of moral quality than in terms of pure intellectual achievements. ?It can be seen that the outstanding achievements achieved by geniuses are closely related to their noble qualities. As a parent, if you want your children to become talented people who make a difference, you must pay attention to cultivating their good moral character. It is worth learning that Singaporeans not only pay attention to family moral education, but also attach great importance to social ethics education. People green the land and consciously and proactively care for the surrounding environment. In Singapore, there is an average of one tree for every four people. Singaporeans love the land where they live and multiply, and they use their practical actions to decorate this beautiful "Garden Country".