Escape from town

I read how to plan a town carnival by Bin Amway. I thought the title of the film was very big, but it turned out to be a simple story of a "girl" losing her virginity. Douban score is not high (5.6). In fact, the characters are very cute, and the story is a natural, conventional and absurd light comedy.

The heroine Kathy is a columnist. She has a bad relationship with her mother and is out of place in the small town where she grew up. She experienced a failed first love here and made some deeds that were regarded as a laughing stock. When she grew up, she resolutely left the town. In a big city, she wrote a little yellow book with zero sexual experience. When she could not write a new book and was about to face high debts, she received the news of her mother's death. I came back to town not to attend my mother's funeral, but to "covet" the legacy of a woman who has never had a good face for her.

The perspective of the whole movie is very "small town youth". In fact, there are similarities at home and abroad. Everyone in the town knows each other, feeds each other and maintains a seemingly peaceful neighborhood. Everyone unconsciously abides by some established rules, and even "making love" must follow textbooks. Stimulated by Kathy, a group of conservative young people in the town planned to hold a "sex carnival party", and a series of jokes happened. In the process, the secret that Kathy is a virgin was discovered by everyone. ...

Brooklyn, another small town movie last year, was even more melodramatic. This film is about Irish immigrants to the United States in the 1950s. Alice, an Irish girl, is one of them. She used to work in a bakery, where the proprietress was very mean. Because she couldn't see the future, she decided to leave her mother and sister. And when my sister died, her mother's collapsed state called her back. The beautiful and peaceful life in the town, a good job, and the pursuit of Gao Fushuai were soothing her tired heart after returning from the big city and her heart that was about to be bought. Suddenly, she was awakened by the ugly bakery owner:

Stay or leave? Zuo, do you want to come back? This is the dilemma of young people in every town.

The guide to sex carnival in small towns doesn't really teach you how to hold a carnival, and even there are few dew points. The director's restraint is in line with the inner turmoil and can't get rid of the atmosphere of the old city. What the film wants to solve is actually everyone's spiritual dilemma. Whether it's Kathy who left or the young people who stayed, whether it's in a big city full of possibilities or a small town that suppresses hypocrisy, there are many spiritual barriers between people-this is the root of our unhappiness.

I once discussed with my good friend Bin whether to stay in a small town or a foreign country. Our hometown is not so bad that almost all middle school peers choose to go back to their hometown after graduation. From an economic point of view, "working alone in a big city" seems chic, but it is not wise. Bin worked in his hometown for a while after graduation, and now I am locked at home. After many quarrels, struggles, entanglements and wanderings, the feeling of worrying is still lingering: "I may not be happy in a big city, but staying in a small town will only make me even more unhappy. 」

Is it because of the family background, or can't tolerate the unreasonable order in the town? Is it that small towns can't give you the yearning for an ideal life, or do you just want to be yourself and don't want to follow the crowd, but it is easier to find the same kind in big cities? Remind you at all times for any reason:

Leave this town.

However, if you escape to a big city in the world of flowers and flowers, will you be free?

Kathy got a call from the editor: Your mother died, but the manuscript should be handed in as soon as possible (smiling face). In Ode to Joy, the girl fan said that "people in the city are very practical". Neighborhood relations like Ode to Joy can hardly be seen in big cities. Everyone fears for himself, and time is precious. Everything is running in the most efficient way, and the personal "small situation" is like a small bubble in the raging sea.

Eilis seems to be in a better situation, with the support of the church and a boyfriend who loves her. But on Christmas Day, when I heard the villagers singing Irish folk songs, I was still in tears and couldn't help asking: Why didn't they go back to Ireland? In Brooklyn, a divorced girl who works at the bottom and lives in the basement said, "I plan to live in a dormitory all my life and rob other people's toilets." The sad news of my sister's death seems to be the last straw to shake her. Brooklyn is too far from Ireland for her to attend the funeral. What's all this for?

Cai Chongda's Pi, I like the article Genius Exhibition best. Both he and his young playmate Wen Zhan have the ambition to leave the town for a big city, which has finally come true. However, Wen Zhan is discriminated against outside, and he can't work well when he returns to his hometown, and he can never settle down.

Compared with the above two films, Cai's argument is sadder and more real. There is a word in English called exile, "exile, exile", which is very suitable for describing people who have left their homes. In this is new york, e b white describes three kinds of people in new york: locals, commuters and immigrants. The last kind of person, "perhaps just to escape from reality rather than face it", came to new york and "ignited its passion".

For the sake of this safe haven, we should break off past ties, give up family resources, rely on ourselves, re-learn the language, habits and culture of a city, integrate into various circles, and endure what we like and dislike. These may all be for a little freedom and a little time to be yourself.

However, in China, "being yourself" is not so easy. Shanghai's housing prices have risen again, and Beijing's smog has come again; The so-called collapsed human society, as a result, you find that you still have to find someone to do things, the group is still a fellow villager; The atomization is quite thorough. "I" can live for a whole month without talking to people outside the needs of work.

At that time, the distant parents were already old, urging you to do important things in life. Listening to them say "who is married again" and "who has grandchildren again", you can only hang up the phone helplessly and impatiently.

You can escape from the town, but can you escape from the shackles of family and the eyes of others? Isn't it a bigger cage to escape to a big city? If freedom does not exist, where can you find a safe place?

Kathy went back to town and made up with her first love (though somewhat puzzling). At the same time, she also broke her heart. I wonder if the rift between her and her mother will gradually ease with her mother's death and the writing of new works. Will she stay in town or will she leave? The director gave an open ending, and I feel that after I passed it myself, it's actually the same everywhere.

The ending in Brooklyn is too good to be true. But people who are exhausted in big cities urgently need this tube of chicken soup.

There is a girl's heart hidden under the rebellious appearance, and gentle and obedient people will do things without hesitation, so the last thing in life is to draw conclusions and speak prematurely, especially to themselves.

Maybe everyone has a small town in his heart, and he often wants to tie you up with ease and illusory "happiness". To get rid of it, it takes great courage, extraordinary strength and lifelong persistence.