Urgent! ! ! ! What American family values are embodied in Growing Pains? How to reflect it?

In Growing Pains, we can see that many times parents don't agree with what their children want to do. Parents give their own opinions and suggestions, but they still respect their children's choices. They prefer to comfort their children after they hit a wall, or not directly point out their mistakes, but give heuristic education to let them realize it themselves.

So many people say that American children are equal to their parents, and parents are democratic to their children. And our community education in China is so backward. If you read the whole "Growing Pains", you will understand that even in the United States, this kind of education is very limited in such a family, because father Jason Seaver is a psychologist and mother Maggie Seaver is a newspaper reporter. They know how to guide children's rebellious and restless psychology, and they can accurately grasp their mistakes within the controllable range. The overall education level in the United States is relatively high, but not every parent knows the guided education method, let alone China. Most parents, including mine, only know some simple truths and have no patience to listen to your explanation. Moreover, the traditional word "filial piety" has been the first in China since ancient times. Maintaining parents' authority and emphasizing hierarchical order is called "courtesy".

Traditional family education in China emphasizes character. In Growing Pains, no matter how bad he studies, Mike is determined not to get involved in drugs. Children who make mistakes must be punished, and parents' clear instructions must be strictly implemented. These educational ideas are the same, just because of different national conditions, different problems encountered in life, different ways, but the purpose is the same. When Growing Pains was introduced to China, it was the reform and opening-up period in 1980s and 1990s. The rapid development of China's economy has produced many social problems, people's values have changed greatly, and the way of educating children is a bit of a waste of time. They pursue their studies too much and ignore their conduct. In addition, during this period, social thoughts were turbulent, and parents were more strict with their children.

The embodiment of individualism in American family life: Chang Rong Huanghe Institute of Technology, Zhengzhou, Henan 450006 Dai Xinxin Huanghe Institute of Technology, Zhengzhou, Henan 450006.

Individualism is the core value of the United States, which is different from egoism and a concentrated expression of American traditional values. Its content is the pursuit of personal freedom, equal opportunity and material success. This kind of values gradually matured with the formation, independence and growth of the United States, and influenced all aspects of American social life. As the most dynamic and important part of American social life, family life is a microcosm of American social life. This paper discusses the individualism values embodied in American family life. Keywords American individualistic family classification G 1 12 ID number A1002-210-14-0222-02 I. American individualism values There have been several great immigrants in American history, although their social and historical backgrounds are different. But all people who come to king of thailand have the same purpose and desire-pursuing freedom, equality and wealth, which have gradually developed into American values-personal freedom, equal opportunity and material wealth. The realization of individual freedom is based on self-reliance. Many Americans believe that if they want to remain free, they must stand on their own feet. If they rely too much on the support and management of family, government or any other organization, they will lose some personal freedom and can't do what they want to do completely. Similarly, equal opportunities are closely related to competition. Americans regard life as a competition for success, and everyone has the same chance to enter and win the competition, which has nothing to do with family background, race or religious belief. The sign of this success is material wealth. People who come to the United States have beautiful dreams from beggars to rich people. Of course, the acquisition of material wealth is inseparable from unremitting efforts, so in the United States, people judge their efforts and personal abilities by how much wealth they have. Whether it is personal freedom, equal opportunity or material wealth, it embodies the core values of the United States-individualism. Its main content is "independent motivation, independent choice to achieve self-realization through self-reliance." What is most closely related to him is the concept of equality, freedom and competition. Equality of opportunity and individual freedom are the basic guarantees to realize self-worth, while competition is the fundamental way to realize personal value. Obviously, "individualism" is different from "egoism", which refers to a moral behavior and is a derogatory term. Individualism, as a social philosophy and political philosophy, emphasizes the independence and creativity of individuals, and emphasizes that their free development is not restricted by social, political and religious forces. Second, the embodiment of American individualism values in family life is regarded by Americans as the only way to success. The spirit of individualism with self-belief, self-reliance and self-reliance as its core values has become the basic norm in all aspects of American society and life. The following is a preliminary discussion on the embodiment of individualistic values in family life. According to the survey data of 1. 1990, in the United States, 26 families are nuclear families, 30 families are dink families, only one couple, 8 families without children are single-parent families, 1 1 families are unmarried cohabiting families, and the remaining 25 families are families with only one person. The divorce rate of American families is the highest in the world, almost reaching 50. This is inseparable from the pursuit of personal freedom and happiness by American core values. Personal freedom and happiness are the most important, and personal choices based on this are also accepted or supported by other family members. In many parts of America, divorce is easy. Many States even have the saying of no-fault divorce. Couples can divorce as long as they say they are unhappy together. It is not the fault of either party. Many people think that even if they have children, there is no need to sacrifice their happiness for them. And they think that single-parent families are more suitable for children's lives than families where parents often quarrel. Another 30% of American families choose not to have children, and they prefer the free life of husband and wife. Parents who choose an American spouse will not choose the other half for their children. They want young people to find their husbands or wives. In fact, parents will not be told who their children will marry until they get married. This means that parents have little influence on their children's marriage. Americans believe that young people should find someone who can make them happy. This is another evidence that Americans pursue personal happiness. Over the years, people have judged the success or failure of marriage by the degree of happiness. It is believed that the happiness of husband and wife is the first, and other issues such as economic conditions and having children are obviously not so important. 3. The relationship between parents and children According to Tocqueville's observation, in a hierarchical society, the relationship between family members, especially the relationship between father and children, is unequal. The father is the ruler and manager, and the relationship between children and fathers is very formal. Love for father is often accompanied by fear. In America, the situation is completely different. The father's position as a family ruler is shaken by the concept of equality and democracy, and the feelings between children and fathers are closer. In American families where democracy dominates, children have more autonomy, and parents respect their children's privacy very much. For example, parents can't open their children's letters or rummage through their children's rooms. More equality between parents and children makes parents worry that their authority is declining. In fact, some parents seem to have no idea about the behavior of their teenage children, especially after their children are 16 years old. Under the influence of pursuing the values of freedom and independence, children began to look for jobs far away from home after 18 years old. Even if I go to college, I would rather work and study than rely on my parents to support me. 4. Family education Americans cultivate children's personality from an early age and encourage and inspire children's independence. For example, "in the morning, mother puts her daughter under one year old in the baby's high chair, and then prepares breakfast for the child." "Mom chose two different baby cereals, and the color of the box of each cereal is obviously different. The mother holds a box of cereal in one hand and gathers it in front of the child so that the little girl can choose her favorite color. Children under one year old have begun to learn to express their personal hobbies, at least making their own choices in food. " /kloc-after graduating from high school at the age of 0/8, the child was driven out of the house to make a living. A child around the age of 25 who still lives at home will be considered to have a problem. At the same time, young Americans don't like other family members to control their own lives. They want to make decisions independently, instead of their grandparents or aunts telling them what to do and what not to do. For example, young people want to decide for themselves what job is best for them. In fact, American families strongly encourage young people to make their own career decisions independently. 5. Family ties, honors and titles Americans don't value the family as an economic organization. Only a few families have grandparents working in family farms or family companies. Most families are likely to have fathers and children who do different jobs. For example, a farmer's son is likely to go to another place to do a completely different job after graduating from college. Unlike other cultures, American family members do not need to bring honor to their surnames. The family name and honor are far less important than the hierarchical society in feudal society. Because no matter where you come from, you can get equal opportunities, which is one of the basic contents of American core values. Americans believe that the main purpose of family is to make every family member happier. Therefore, personal needs occupy the first place in family life and family members are equal to each other. Reflected in the title, children can go down to page 254. The collection space of the library improves the information service ability of the library. Based on the principle of "quality first, purchasing on the basis of merit", the library should take electronic publications as an important supplement to traditional documents, gradually expand the collection proportion of electronic documents to meet the needs of the times, establish a unique document guarantee system, form advantages in some fields, and gradually form the collection characteristics of "no one has me, no one has me". Higher vocational libraries can build digital resources from the following three aspects: 2.4. 1 purchasing electronic documents. In addition to purchasing electronic documents, digital resources need high equipment investment, but it can get quick results, quickly enrich the collection and improve the strength of the library, especially suitable for higher vocational college libraries with weak collection foundation, so electronic documents should account for a large proportion in the construction of the whole literature resources. Limited to the current collection situation of higher vocational colleges, we should focus on collecting the full-text database of documents and the electronic documents of reference books once. When collecting digital documents, we should pay attention to the reasonable cooperation with printed documents and layered collection. When using it, we should make use of posters, training courses and other forms to make it widely known and exert the greatest effect. 2.4.2 Self-built database and reorganization of network resources. In the information age, people often don't worry about the lack of information, but fall into the information Wang Yang at a loss. Higher vocational library should digitally process and edit the existing collections to form a unique self-built database, which is one of the efficient and convenient service means for teachers and students under the network environment. In addition, we can also collect useful information from the Internet and form a database to guide readers in the vast ocean of information. 2.4.3 Enjoy resources * * *. With the rapid development of social informatization, resource sharing will surely become the road of library development. First of all, with the rapid development of the information society, the contradiction between the soaring literature price and the relative reduction of library book funds is becoming increasingly prominent. No library can collect all the documents and provide services by itself. Libraries must work together and take the road of joint guarantee and * * * construction * * * enjoyment. Secondly, the popularization of network and the application of library automation integration system also create favorable conditions for the development of information resources. We should seize this opportunity, establish various organizations, share resources, and exchange information with all libraries. 3. Improving the quality of librarians Ranganathan, a famous librarian, believes that the key to the success of a library lies in librarians. The library should establish a reasonable incentive mechanism, create as many opportunities for promotion and growth as possible for librarians, and keep people with their careers and feelings. While recruiting talents, we should improve the professional quality of existing librarians through various trainings, at the same time, do a good job in talent reserve and encourage talents to take more jobs. Under the network environment, a team of professionals with good ideas and skills is the key to the library's good service. Library staff should have the ability to obtain information quickly, process and analyze information efficiently, and deliver knowledge products to users quickly to meet the requirements of the times. But the reality is that many higher vocational colleges are upgraded from secondary vocational schools and adult vocational schools, and the overall quality of library staff is not high. Even the existing professionals lack knowledge aging, especially computer knowledge. Therefore, improving the quality of employees is another problem faced by libraries in higher vocational colleges. The author thinks that the work should be carried out in the following aspects: 3. 1 Using modern management science to arouse the enthusiasm of librarians, managers should strengthen their study of modern management science, change the backward management system in the past, and really arouse the enthusiasm and sense of responsibility of librarians. Only by strengthening the crisis consciousness of all librarians and breaking the employment mechanism of "iron rice bowl" can we implement the post appointment system and give full play to our talents. Formulate an effective incentive system, combine material incentives with spiritual incentives, implement different incentive methods for librarians of different ages, and mobilize the enthusiasm of librarians through correct incentive measures, thus improving service quality. 3.2 Reform the personnel system and introduce suitable talents. With the development of higher vocational colleges, the number of library staff should be increased accordingly. However, due to the influence of the establishment, it is difficult for the library to introduce talents according to the existing personnel system. The author thinks that in order to adapt to the new situation, the school should reform the personnel system, allow the library to recruit the required technicians and pay them according to their posts. At the same time, it is necessary to introduce talents in strict accordance with the qualifications and post requirements of the library and the demand of the library for professional talents, pay attention to the employment and introduction of professionals such as information technology, library science and foreign languages, resolutely put an end to the introduction of "talents" by related households and prevent the phenomenon of forced entry. Only by establishing a perfect access system and strengthening the rational planning, development and use of library human resources can we alleviate the talent crisis of libraries and improve the overall quality of librarians, which is of great significance to the construction of libraries in higher vocational colleges. 3.3 Strengthening the Cultivation of Librarians' Good Professional Ethics Librarians should strengthen their own good professional ethics. Love and dedication, strive to improve the level of moral cultivation, and regard "reader first" and "service first" as the highest realm of library work, which has the noble sentiment of selfless dedication. We should be serious, enthusiastic, considerate, patient and meticulous in serving readers, set an example, educate readers imperceptibly with our professional ethics and spiritual character, and serve and influence readers with our perfect personality charm. 3.4 Strengthening the continuing education of on-the-job personnel To effectively improve the quality of librarians, it is necessary to institutionalize and regularize the continuing education. Take continuing education as an important part of the library, and clearly stipulate the personnel, funds, time, organization and management, learning content, etc. of continuing education. In the process of implementing the continuing education of librarians, we should pay attention to distinguish different levels, because the technical requirements of each post are different, and the content of training and learning should be different. For leaders, the focus of this level of learning is to deepen the knowledge structure and improve the organization and decision-making ability. For business backbones, learning objectives should be set according to specific post characteristics and professional development direction, while for general managers, emphasis should be placed on improving the training of basic knowledge theory and application skills. There are various forms of continuing education, such as training courses, advanced courses, academic lectures, business visits, academic education and so on. According to the actual situation of the unit, young technical backbones with strong business expertise are selected to go out for further study every year or regularly, and high-skilled and high-level professionals are urgently needed. If conditions do not permit, on-the-job training, regular academic lectures, academic seminars and short-term training courses can be held. Encourage everyone to participate in adult education and academic education in their spare time. So that library staff have the opportunity to improve their own quality and work ability, optimize service skills, and adapt to the requirements of modern library system management for personnel quality. 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