Women, travel lightly? Only then can you turn into a chrysalis and become a butterfly.

Author?swan

A few years ago, the sentence "Women should be kinder to themselves" first came from a businessman, awakening a large number of sleeping ancient women, and also setting a foundation for girls in the new era. Effort vane. In their words, it is called "living for yourself." Their behavior is also consistent, they are willing to spend enough time and energy, but they want any good things to be beyond recognition, turn into pupae and become butterflies, as if they are reborn.

Women do work hard. My cousin, who is about the same age as me, is one of the more aggressive ones.

After the birth of her second child and no longer working, the hot mom’s life is prosperous. I buy things on behalf of others, have my lips plumped up to look sexy, and only read vantage magazines, such as "Shanghai", even though I have no English knowledge. It’s hard to keep running for more than three days even though I talk about life in a cafe every day. After many twists and turns, he joined the "Red Man Society", which sounds like a cult, specializing in immortality. It is said that the price of this organization is also ridiculous, and ordinary people cannot get close to it. The celebrities in her circle of friends are equally as dazzling when they go to the show. I tried to block her several times because I was really jealous. But I couldn’t help but look at it again and again, and reluctantly liked it.

I often think of what she likes to say to me on my way to and from get off work, in the afternoon after finishing a meal and in the quiet of the night, "Only by constantly injecting new things into life can we achieve success." "Win the years in the race against time", and then my heart begins to race, fictionalizing my own wonderful life like sleepwalking. It's just that a country girl who was born and raised in the country insists on imitating the accent of a city person. I feel like she is trying to hide something.

Last week, she went horse riding with her friend and broke her leg. I saw her writing on WeChat: I can finally take a break.

Finally, she admitted that she was tired.

A colorful life is like a wallet full of colorful cards, but without daily necessities, how can we become more and more tired?

I want to tell the reason through my own story.

I am a middle-aged woman who is semi-out of touch with the times. My friends call me Auntie from the Ancient Tombs in honor. I still don’t understand Meituan, I haven’t grabbed red envelopes, and I don’t have Alipay. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with this. But a year ago, I reluctantly opened WeChat.

When I was still studying how to block an advertising QQ friend, people around me were already in the WeChat circle of friends and were very happy. A loyal friend said that he could not ignore the situation and must help me install a WeChat account. I refused decisively. From then on, that friend stopped caring about my life and death, and I deeply regretted it.

Later, an old man in my family who was nearly 70 years old also started to circle friends, which gave me a big blow. The handsome coach warmly invited me to join the WeChat group. The moment I rejected him, he had a look of constipation on his face and of course he thought you were just showing off. It was rare to meet old friends a few times a year, but they knew each other's current situation very well. However, I was "trapped" outside this close relationship, rarely remembered by others, and felt extremely lost.

In the end, I finally joined the WeChat Party. I didn’t really mean it, but I didn’t want to be labeled as a different person, which finally eliminated all the troubles caused by being misunderstood and not suitable for interpersonal relationships. As a result, I spent a lot of time dealing with shoulder and neck injuries.

Just like Lin Xi said that sick investors borrow money to speculate in stocks. One of the things I didn't expect was that I was worried that people would make fun of me if I didn't buy stocks. Afraid of not having the same topic, not having the identity of a fellow person, and falling behind the trend. Make a small amount of money at the expense of big emotional ups and downs.

Why do you feel more and more busy and tired? Reluctant and afraid to fall behind the trend, I do many things I don’t like and don’t need.

Nowadays, plastic surgery has become popular under the sun. It would be wonderful to have the opportunity to salvage a sinking appearance. Even if you keep scorning those unlucky people who spend a lot of RMB to buy a bunch of bad noses and bad lawsuits. The most important thing in life is not to let yourself down. If you don’t work hard, you won’t be willing to give in. It sounds so inspiring!

However, when my husband wakes up late at night, he is always frightened and disappointed that he slept in someone else's bed. Over time, it is not good for himself or others and is not good for his health.

"Real beauty comes from within" reminds women to start cultivating their temperament and cultivate something called feelings that makes them look charming. You must also package yourself as a VIP or go to the Half Marathon to show off your style. In fact, after bargaining for an annual fee at a fitness club and posting a few high-profile pictures on WeChat Moments, that’s the end of it.

I have a writing friend who is really versatile and hard-working. He is proficient in photography, design, piano, flower arrangement... he is proficient in everything. He does not stop even when he is sick during the holidays. Unfortunately, he has suffered from gastric ulcer for more than two years. Recently, in order to learn English, I only sleep 3 or 4 hours a day, and I am so thin that I am skin-to-bone.

Even if you have many skills and have cultivated all your abilities, will you still have a chance to improve your life even if you have to lose a lot of money to lose your health?

A while ago, I heard that a very young friend imitated Faye Wong, who lived in a temple halfway up the mountain and practiced meditation. I only do four things every day: plant vegetables, meditate, eat fast, and sleep. Listening to it makes people fascinated. But if it were me, leaving my toddler Milk Baby at home, my heart would not be able to rest for a moment.

Lin Huiyin said it well, true peace is not to stay away from the hustle and bustle, but to build a fence and plant chrysanthemums in your heart.

For tranquility and calmness, as the least expensive pastime, wouldn’t reading be the best? Or, if you take your parents to the wild to relax in your free time, and read a short story with your children before going to bed, will you feel more at ease?

Women are generally noble, and they think they admire nobility beyond the ordinary. But when they encounter luxury goods, they become their slaves. They despise themselves for not living up to expectations, and cruelly take out two months of food rations to trade. Reason is easily defeated by vanity.

Kindness, elegance, rationality, wisdom, hard work... are all big names. No matter which one you pair with them seriously, they are enough to make people shine. It's a pity that we don't know that loving and worshiping ourselves as luxury goods is indeed a pleasing thing in life.

What is even more pitiful is that children are compared with their bodies, skin, and luxury goods. Even behind their backs, they look down on each other and lock their children into academic prisons at all costs to masturbate. A piano learning certificate earns enough likes and gives you an upper hand in your circle of friends. Being in the top ten simply inspires and illuminates your life. If you say you feel gratified, it is better to say that you are showing off proudly. In fact, you know in your heart that this process is extremely tiring and makes you physically and mentally exhausted. However, you don’t dare to come out, or even me.

It’s really not worth the gain!

Calm down and think about it. If you only care about catering to trends but don’t know the price of getting anything, what qualifications do you have to start a new life and pursue a more exciting life?

Living in a radical era, we are impetuous and confused, and are used to positioning ourselves by comparing ourselves with others. We have no choice but to try our best to affirm ourselves by surpassing others, and do not bother to calm down and listen to the voice of our hearts.

So, in order to cater to the trend and have a certain identity, we all do a lot of glamorous superficial things without distinction. The more choices there are, the more overwhelmed people become. Some things themselves are accessories or even burdens of life. Apart from wasting time, energy and material resources, and earning some temporary and fragmentary superficial glory, it is difficult to give life a real meaning. It’s like a woman trying her best to put on colorful brand names on her body in order to dress herself up, but without paying attention, it turns into a big miscellaneous brand, like a hodgepodge filled with all kinds of rare things. It’s obvious that each piece is gourmet, but it’s all chaotic and dull. Tasteless.

"Only by constantly injecting new things into life can we win the race against time." I appreciate this sentence again. The principle is not that you have to accept and learn when faced with too many choices and too many things you want. "Most all-rounders only have the foundation, conditions and time to continuously explore new fields after they excel in a certain aspect." Just like an ancient towering tree, its immortal vitality lies in: with that tree The vigorous and rough tree trunks flourish with the ever-changing new green on the branches.

I like the true story I read in this book.

There was a middle-aged woman from a rural area in northern China. She had only finished primary school and could not express herself well in Chinese. But just like this, a Chinese rural woman who can only say "hello" and "goodbye" in English is also applying for a green card because her daughter is in the United States. The reason for her application was "technical expertise." The immigration officer asked her what she knew? She replied that she could cut paper. She took out a pair of scissors from her bag and fluttered lightly on a piece of colorful bright paper. In less than three minutes, a group of lifelike patterns of various animals were cut out. The immigration officer was dumbfounded as if he were watching a magic trick. He raised his thumbs and praised it repeatedly. Immediately afterwards, the woman took out a copy of "Farmers Daily" from her bag and showed the immigration officer her work published on it. While reading, the American immigration officer nodded repeatedly and said "OK". She's just OK. The people next to her who applied for a large amount of money but were rejected were simply envious and jealous.

“You may not know management, study finance, know computers, or even English, but you must be able to do the same. Just do your best to push it to the limit, and you will always be OK. ”

Isn’t it very inspiring?

We are eager to become the goddess of the new era. We are greedy for anything that seems to make ourselves and our lives better. We must restrain our laziness and have the courage to practice them one by one. At the beginning, the start of a new life brought huge surprises and excitement, which doubled our confidence. The busy and fulfilling life experience was simply wonderful. But slowly, most people feel that they are increasingly unable to calm down and learn something for a long time. We are always used to making excuses for ourselves, such as being too tired from work, not having enough time, or being tempted by new things. The end result is that there is no result. Just like the story that adults always used to teach us when we were young, the story of a kitten fishing while busy among dragonflies and butterflies.

Women, are you wasting your time and energy in busy work, but it doesn’t mean much? Throw the pile of old sesame seeds and rotten soybeans you are doing, or are planning to do, onto the sieve based on your own needs and carefully sift, leaving only the things that are truly useful to you. Persevere with all your heart and do your best. It does it to the extreme.

Some things are unnecessary and have no face at all. I will also gradually fade out of the circle of friends, quit time-wasting hobbies, and work hard to do one thing, something that can take myself to a higher level. Maybe my life will really turn into a butterfly because of this.

I believe in the power of persistence and hard work. I believe that only by walking lightly and persevering from beginning to end can life turn into a butterfly.