My husband will scold me and my family every day when he comes home. What should I do?

My husband scolds me every day when he comes home and scolds my family every time. What should I do?

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Deal with a man as he deals with you. Accommodation and grievance are not long-term ways. We must find a thorough solution to this problem. If it's really bad, and you curse when you come home for no reason, you can even curse with interest, not only at home, but also when you meet him, regardless of occasion, face and feelings, without three rounds, the result will be very clear, and you will either get divorced or never dare to scold you again. Another possibility is to beat you. If you don't want to leave him, you can try this man's idea and take safety measures in advance. Although The Outline of Birth is good in essence, it is actually accompanied by evil, and sometimes it is too accommodating, which will really encourage some people's arrogance. Then don't give the other party a chance to scold you, or give the other party a chance of domestic violence. Don't give in once.

The example of this topic sounds incredible. In fact, this situation is not uncommon. Everyone has their own way of dealing with it. No one knows which method is effective, positive or negative. In a word, you can't let anyone curse you, even if that person is the closest person to you. During the disaster syndrome, I have been paying attention to negative information, and I already know several similar examples. There is a senior who was almost killed in his sleep because of accommodating, so he wants to share it with you, hoping to bring inspiration to you.

The senior used to be a person who hated getting married. Under the pressure of domestic customs, he hastily chose a boy with ordinary external conditions, prepared to get married, and gave an explanation to his parents and people around him. When she came back from studying abroad, she was not too old. She graduated with a Ph.D. at the age of 26. No one at home and abroad really thinks that 26 is a great leftover woman, nor does she think that she is an extinct teacher. Returning to China is different. Her parents only have one child. Her heart wants her to get married and start a family as soon as possible, and her peers in China also get married as early as possible. Although she is golden phoenix, she still has to worry about the feelings of her parents, family and friends.

The boyfriend she chose was not bad at first. Although it is third-class compared with her, it is not easy to find a person who matches all aspects at once. Not everyone is as lucky as the queen, so she didn't think so much. When the marriage was still uncertain, they had their first quarrel because her boyfriend hated her for not being able to cook, do housework and take care of him. She immediately broke up and was ready to give up her marriage partner.

Because she broke up, their relationship eased, and they didn't break up. After a while, suddenly one day, as you said, she came home and was scolded by her boyfriend, which drove her crazy. Her boyfriend's ferocious appearance frightened her, so she found her boyfriend's leader and wanted to ask what was going on. I don't know whether to find the right person or the wrong person. Her boyfriend's leader said: You really shouldn't be boyfriend and girlfriend. His personal accomplishment is not worthy of you. He is so overbearing at work. He often scolds his colleagues, has been reported many times, and his working ability is ok, so he has been patient with him.

When the seniors came home, they explained the situation to their parents, who didn't know what to do. It doesn't mean that someone scolded her daughter and protected her daughter. Instead, let the daughter reflect on herself, find the reasons herself, and make sure that there is something wrong with her boyfriend. It's not too late to break up again. It is precisely because of her parents' objective persuasion that she decided to have a good talk with her boyfriend, asking him why he called names, and asking herself what she did not do well enough and what she did wrong. Her boyfriend said she was not wrong. As for her inability to cook and do housework and take care of his food, clothing, housing and transportation, he said that she would not live in time, but she could take her time. He admitted that it was all his fault and promised to correct it.

The good times didn't last long. When he came home again, he flew into a rage and swore. When he smashed things, the senior moved faster than him, so he smashed everything that could be smashed at home, because she was fed up and didn't want to continue with him. Two people are going to settle their finances and then break up. As a result, the seniors paid for everything. This man is like a parasite. They have lived together for several years, and they have never made up their minds to get a marriage certificate because of constant problems. The account is settled. Whoever broke it, the senior paid the bill. The boyfriend of the senior seems to really regret it and asks to give him another chance. He said that he would definitely change, and he also asked the senior leaders to intercede for him.

Leadership is really useful, because the leader also made a guarantee in the middle, and his boyfriend became close friends with the leader because of this. Their love relationship continues to develop, and there have been many small fights. Anyway, the senior never let him rub his nose and face, nor let him scold or fight. What's the matter? Have a good communication and talk it over. Her boyfriend also agreed and did communicate several times. What's the problem, he also said very well. It seems that the situation should be on the right track. My boyfriend suddenly lost his job, but he couldn't find a job. For half a year in a row, he went out to look for a job every day, and there was no result.

It doesn't matter if you don't have a job Senior students can support their families by themselves, just comfort their boyfriends not to worry. Her boyfriend listened, but he couldn't stand the pain of not having a job. He wants his seniors to pay him to study abroad. Studying abroad at one's own expense requires not only funds, but also language proficiency. After calculating the cost, the senior thought it was really more expensive than raising a child, so he discussed with his parents whether to agree. My parents totally disagree with this matter. They married their daughters and disciplined them in order to make them have a happy family, not to let them raise men.

The senior didn't tell her boyfriend's parents' attitude, but just gave him money as usual so that he could live a normal life and not live because of unemployment. I don't know if her boyfriend can't wait, or I guess her parents won't agree. After all, going abroad for self-study exam is not a small sum. Ordinary families are so entangled with their children, not to mention just boyfriends and girlfriends, and they haven't got a marriage certificate yet. They are not legally married. Both of them didn't say much, and they were thinking about how to deal with it.

One night, the senior suddenly woke up from his sleep in pain. In sleepiness, he instinctively reached out to touch the painful part, and his hand touched a sharp knife and stuck it in her rib. A tingle woke up completely. In front of him was her boyfriend's twisted face. The knife was inserted by her boyfriend with one hand while she was sleeping. The knife was stuck in the body and blood spilled all over the bed. Two people looked at each other. No one spoke and no one moved. After three hours of stalemate, my boyfriend suddenly pulled out his knife and fell asleep as if possessed.

After observing that he was asleep, the senior quietly crossed his boyfriend's body, quietly walked out of the house, barefoot, wearing pajamas, covered in blood and bandaged, and escaped from the house overnight. She dare not take anything. She was afraid that her boyfriend would suddenly wake up and really kill her, and she was afraid to go back to her parents' house. She is afraid that it will bring disaster to her parents. She went directly to the office first, briefly bandaged it in the office, changed her spare clothes, got ready to ask for leave and left the office. She needs time to think about it and how to deal with it.

If you sue her boyfriend, you will definitely bear criminal responsibility, so it is very likely that her boyfriend's life will be over. If she doesn't sue her boyfriend, her life is really threatened, and she may really die at his hands. Everything was done in her sleep. She didn't know what state of mind he was in, and she didn't want to communicate with him anymore. On the contrary, she must deal with it properly. She was already a little out of her mind because of excessive blood loss. She looked for her best friend in a daze without explaining why. She only said that she wanted to stay at her house for a few days, and then she didn't know whether she was asleep or unconscious. When she woke up again, her boyfriend was looking for her everywhere.

Senior's best friend also received a phone call from her boyfriend. Maybe she thought there was something wrong, so she added the other person to the blacklist directly, hoping to wait until the senior woke up and asked what was going on. My boyfriend came to open the door before the senior woke up. The senior's girlfriend told him that she didn't see the senior, and told him not to come again if he had nothing to do, otherwise there would be a problem with her family. The senior was concealed to live in her best friend's house, and then everyone in the senior's address book was contacted by her boyfriend. Because she didn't bring anything, she was at home, which gave her boyfriend a chance to find out a lot of personal information about her.

After the seniors woke up, they told all the information to their girlfriends. The best friend thinks it inappropriate for anyone to get involved in this matter. Let the seniors think it over before deciding what to do. Before making a decision, the boyfriend of the senior will not be allowed to find the senior. The senior seems to have experienced a purgatory in his heart, so should her boyfriend, because he frantically looked for her and threatened his friends. If he doesn't make a senior, he will find trouble with others. Even, that senior, that is, the guarantor, because he didn't believe the senior asked for leave, thought he hid the senior in the unit and was threatened by his boyfriend.

Because my boyfriend was desperately looking for a senior, no one knew that the senior escaped from home with a bleeding wound, only to hear her boyfriend say that they had quarreled, and the senior left home while he was sleeping in the middle of the night. The leader of the senior is even very moved by her boyfriend's infatuation, thinking that the senior likes to have sex with her boyfriend too much and even disappears in the middle of the night. If you hadn't gone through the formalities of asking for leave, it is estimated that the police would have handled it, thinking that girls love love, female doctoral students love love more, and there are ways to repair their boyfriends, but I don't know that the seniors were still in shock at that time, and they were considering how to deal with the aftermath and how to ensure the safety of their families. At the same time, they were also very entangled.

The senior decided that she should explain the actual situation to her uncle. My uncle met the senior immediately after receiving the information and agreed with the senior's practice. It could really put her family in danger. However, the identity information of seniors and confidential documents at work must be obtained. According to the senior's plan, she and her senior went home, but everything was still not smooth, because her boyfriend threatened to kill the senior family if she dared to break up. Anyway, he doesn't want to live without his senior's life. The senior's uncle said that if he dared to move a finger with the senior, he would chop off his thigh. It sounds like a joke, just like two people talking on purpose. In fact, they are really communicating with each other. The senior only asked the information he wanted to take away, but didn't communicate with his boyfriend.

My boyfriend suddenly knelt in front of his senior uncle and asked for forgiveness again. The senior's uncle didn't know what to do at the moment. The senior ignored her boyfriend's kneeling and just cleaned up all kinds of personal information. After cleaning, he and his uncle will leave together. Her boyfriend couldn't stop the senior from leaving when he saw kneeling, so he called the police on the spot. Seeing this, the subject and all the old irons may not understand. Yes, the seniors were equally surprised. I didn't expect her boyfriend to call the police, and the uncle of the senior was even more confused. The alarm failed because the police heard her boyfriend's reason for calling the police, and did not meet the alarm conditions and did not handle it.

Senior's boyfriend is just like crazy, yelling at 100, saying that the police didn't do anything, even ignoring his affairs, and threatening to sue the local police station. After scolding the police, she turned and jumped up and threatened the senior and his uncle to take them to court. Senior is dealing with confidential documents urgently, ignoring her boyfriend at all. The senior's uncle told him to calm down and asked him what he wanted to sue them for. There must be a reason. Talk to the senior's uncle first. After the senior handled the confidential documents, his uncle finally heard her boyfriend's complaints and demands.

Senior's boyfriend thinks he is a rare good man. He doesn't smoke, drink or play mahjong. He has never been exposed to pornography, gambling and drugs, and he has no other bad hobbies. It is a perfect match for seniors to choose him. As for education, ability and income, it is not his fault that it varies from person to person. He was born in a poor family, so he had no chance to grow up like his elders. In those years when they were in contact, he never had second thoughts, but he was bent on being with his seniors for life. Now that the senior suddenly wants to leave him, it means killing him, or at least giving him half, otherwise everyone can't live.

The uncle of the senior feels that the situation is really bad, so he can only ask a group of people to help him, at least he can't fight on the spot for fear of hurting the senior. The seniors don't let outsiders in. Although the fear of being stabbed is still there, the wound has not healed, and it will bleed under the pull, but she does not want things to develop in a worse direction. The boyfriend of the senior feels that others are not allowed to come in. Probably the seniors still care about their feelings, so they didn't continue to shout. Instead, he asked his seniors to come back after their anger subsided and not to stay outside for too long. The plot suddenly changed, and the senior and her uncle were a little confused. They were worried that there would be other changes, so they left while their boyfriends went to the bathroom.

Some people are really not to be taunted, you can't afford to hide. If you don't hold the idea of crash and burn, you are really no match. When you meet them, you can't get along with them. After the senior left, she began to prepare for the whole family to immigrate. She felt that because of her boyfriend, she couldn't survive in China at all. Even if her boyfriend is sent to prison, attempted murder will certainly not be sentenced to death. One day, he will still come out. After coming out, the seniors will not live a peaceful life. Maybe it wasn't a sudden knife in my dream, so I probably didn't have a chance to wake up. Perhaps, people sometimes really have the theory of fatalism, which seniors have encountered and experienced. There is nowhere to rehabilitate grievances and there is no way to punish them, so they can only admit that they are unlucky.

The story of the senior is very long, and there are many bloody stories that she can't do. People should care about all aspects when they are alive. There are some things they won't do when they don't want to kill each other. You suffered a big loss, and the other party really hurt you and even committed a crime against you. When you don't want to commit suicide, avoidance is also an effective way, at least it won't make things worse and put you in danger. It is difficult to guess how bad and serious the subject's problem is, and you need to weigh and measure it yourself. It is definitely not acceptable for someone to go home and be scolded. Everyone's method may be different, and there is no universal scientific method. You still have to find a way to solve it according to what you know about him.