A Dream of Red Mansions: Is Jia Lian responsible for being unfaithful to his wife Wang Xifeng?

Jia Lian and Wang Xifeng, one is the son of Jia She, a "first-class general", living together, charming and handsome; One is Wang Ziteng's niece, who is controlled by nine provinces. She was born in a "noble family", was born a fairy, and was physically * * *. "flesh and blood" and "family interests" contributed to the combination of two people. On the surface, they should be a very suitable couple, but in fact, they have different personalities, interests and stupid wisdom. "There are at least 10,000 minds." Xifeng is high-spirited, capable, daring to say and do things, smart and delicate, and she has brought all the men to her knees, which shows her excellent administrative ability.

Jia Lian, on the other hand, is an empty-minded, ambitious, strong and lustful * * *, and is a "layman" by nature.

Nevertheless, Jia Lian and Wang Xifeng were happy at the beginning of their marriage, and they were in love. As long as they don't see each other every day like Sanqiu, their sex life is very harmonious, and they even use their lunch break to "entertain". Just then, I heard a burst of laughter over there, but it was Jia Lian's voice As soon as the door rang, Pinger came out with a big copper basin and told Xi-feng to scoop water in. It is said that after Jia Lian sent Daiyu to Yangzhou, Xifeng was really annoyed. Every night, she just smiles and falls asleep at random. (Back to the 13th Dream of Red Mansions)

Wang Xifeng should be said to be a very dedicated strong woman. Although she has no education, she is handy and versatile in managing affairs, which reflects her quick thinking and deep scheming, and has won the trust and preference of Mrs. Wang. With the increase of Wang Xifeng's power and status in Jiafu, Jia Lian's influence in Jiafu "regressed".

In particular, Wang Xifeng monopolized the power, and even Jia Lian couldn't say a word on such a trivial matter as planting flowers and trees, which made Jia Lian feel uncomfortable. Most importantly, since Wang Xifeng took the leadership position, her mind has been focused on dealing with messy affairs and interpersonal relationships, but she is too lazy to care about her husband and her husband's sex life. Jia Lian said, "So be it. Only last night, I just wanted to change my appearance, and you twisted your hands and feet. " Xi-feng laughed, spat at Jia Lian and bowed her head to eat. Jia Lian has nothing to do all day, full of warmth and lust. This made search look down on him, and even in sexual intercourse, he was only perfunctory, and did not pay attention to the change of * * * and sexual movements, which exposed Jia Lian's dissatisfaction with Xi's stereotyped * * * way and even wanted to change the way of sexual intercourse. This is a normal requirement, but Xi 'an did not promise him.

Although Wang Xifeng became the heroine of Jia's family, excessive fatigue consumed too much physical strength and spirit, which made her and Jia Lian's sexual life from wild at first to cold later, and she became less and less "sexually interested". Later, she actually found an excuse to avoid alienating Jia Lian. Wang Xifeng's indifference to Jia Lian and her indifference to sexual life are becoming more and more serious. Qiaojie has a fever and is covered with acne. Wang Xifeng used this as an excuse to "order Pinger to pack some clothes and separate from Jia Lian." That Jia Lian, who left Feng alone, wanted to find a job. After sleeping alone for two nights, it was very difficult, so I temporarily chose young and handsome pages to make a fire. ..... Now Jia Lian is cooking outside, ... So many girls have been interested in Jia Lian, but they just hate having no time. I heard that Jia Lian moved to the study outside, so I have to provoke him twice if I have nothing to do. Jia Lian was so hungry that he should have consulted with his confidants and secretly made an appointment to promise more gold and silk. ..... Who knows this daughter-in-law has a natural curiosity, once a man gets close to his body, he feels his bones and muscles collapse, making him look like lying on a cotton bed, and he is even more lascivious and ostentatious. So far, are there any men who cherish their lives? That Jia Lian can't even become him himself. (No.21Back to a Dream of Red Mansions) The sexual satisfaction that Jia Lian could not get from his wife got a hearty vent in this derailment.

Jia Lian cheated, and under the cover of Pinger, she was not noticed by Wang Xifeng. In order to "thank Pinger", Jia Lian saw that he was charming and emotional, so he wanted to have sex with him and Pinger took him away. In desperation, Jia Lian bent down and said bitterly, "Death is a little narrow * * *! There must be a fire, and he ran away again. " Pinger laughed outside the window: "I waved my hand, who told you to be hot?" Don't think you can benefit from it once, let him know that you don't like me. "(the 21st time of A Dream of Red Mansions)

Jia Lian was in a hurry and scolded. Why did he bend over? There can only be one explanation here: Jia Lian got up when he saw Pinger, and his lower body was "stiff". It is inconvenient and unsightly to stand up straight, so he has to bend down and scold.

I don't want to do it myself, and I don't want Jia Lian and his justified Pinger to do it. This is undoubtedly a great torture for the excited Jia Lian. Jia Lian became more and more courageous, and took advantage of Wang Xifeng's birthday to have a relationship with Bao. What they said in bed, of course, was to please the needs of his wife's bedroom, but there must be some factors that Jia Lian complained about Xi-feng. When you listen inside, you just listen to jokes inside. The woman smiled and said, "It would be nice if your wife died sooner or later." Jia Lian said, "What if he dies and marries another one?" The woman said, "I'm afraid it would be better if you helped Pinger straighten up when he died." Jia Lian said, "Now he won't even let me touch it. Pinger is also full of twists and turns, dare not say. I should be a hag star in my life. " Wang Xifeng caught her in bed, and Jia Lian became so angry that he even tried to kill her with a knife. This is a major turning point in the relationship between Jia Lian and Wang Xifeng. Before that, Feng always seemed to think that Jia Lian's infidelity did not pose a threat to their marriage and family. But if Jia Lian and Bao Er Fu were in bed, it completely subverted his consistent concept and made her realize that there was still a rift between her and Jia Lian, and Jia Lian no longer loved her so much.

During this period, whether it was Wang Xifeng's "meeting five ghosts" or her later "falling in love", Jia Lian and her husband and wife's sexual life were completely abnormal. At the stage of emotional cracks, the importance of sex in love will rise greatly, and when they secretly marry Second Sister You, it seems that they are on the verge of emotional collapse.

Jia She gave Jia Lian the maid Qiu Tong as a concubine, "a fire stick" and "how many days can I tear it there"; Jia Lian secretly married Second Sister You. "On the fifth watch the next day, I got into the sedan chair and brought my second sister." Jia Lian had a fight with him that night, and he loved him in every way. "。 I don't need to elaborate. "Although the two men were rewarded and married, Feng hated them in her eyes and heart, but because of the prestige of feudal ethics, she was irrefutable and had to kill people with a knife and secretly get rid of them one by one.

I remember a sentence in a famous foreign book: "A woman who obeys a man should know how to hold a man's testicles as a man holds a woman's testicles." Although this sentence is rude, it expounds the straightforward truth. The harmony of sexual life will directly affect the feelings between men and women. In feudal society, it is normal for men to have three wives and four concubines. Jia Lian's father Jia forgave many wives and concubines, and his uncle Jia Zheng also had one wife and two concubines. Before the death of Jia Zhu, "how many families", Jia Lian only had one wife and one concubine, which is already very good. However, his wife is a hard-hearted person, and he doesn't have sex with concubines many times a year. No wonder Jia Lian cheated on her and went out to find another woman to "vent her anger".

Jia Lian's infidelity is only a physical infidelity, aiming at meeting physiological needs. Every time he spends money or gives gifts, it is essentially the same as whoring. No wonder Wang Xifeng went to the grandmother to tell Jia Lian. Grandma smiled disapprovingly: "What's so important! Children are young and greedy cats, so they can't live there. The whole world has played like this since childhood. " In the eyes of the old man, is this still a matter? The book explains that before the boy grows up, he will put two maids at home, ready to "serve" at any time. Jia Lian used to have several maids in the room, but under the threat of Wang Xifeng, they all walked away and died, leaving only Pinger, who wouldn't let her move. Jia Lian is also from a family background, * * * is very strong, and he has accepted the best old saying of men since he was a child. He never thought of marrying such an aggressive and jealous woman, but because of family interests, he could not and dared not divorce her rashly, so he had to go outside to find physical and mental comfort. This is not surprising.