What happened to this society? Why are the rich and the poor so anxious?

Admittedly, both the rich and the poor are anxious.

* * * Equally anxious is education. Everyone wants to go to a good school, but there are few good schools. The rich can spend more money on it, but the poor can't afford it. The children of the rich go to a good school, but there is no guarantee that they will learn well, so they are still as anxious as the poor.

Rich people have anxiety about security when they have money, and poor people have anxiety about security when they have no money. This kind of anxiety is the same, but there are specific differences, that is, anxiety about insecurity because of more money and anxiety about living a hard life with less money.

So the rich want to emigrate, but because of COVID-19, it is not safe for immigrants, so they are still very anxious.

Both the rich and the poor are anxious, although the specific anxiety content is different.

Aren't those who are caught between the rich and the poor anxious? Also anxious, anxious for not being able to squeeze into the rich circle, anxious for being reduced to the poor circle, so everyone is anxious.

High housing prices, high medical expenses, high tuition fees and a lot of anxiety. Many problems have not been solved for a long time, and even the dawn of hope cannot be seen, so they are constantly anxious.

Everyone has no sense of security and uncertainty about the future, so both the poor and the rich are anxious, and everyone is in danger, whether it is money, work or feelings, which is really not easy to understand (despite the good efforts).

Anxiety comes from anxiety and uncertainty about the future, not knowing what will happen tomorrow and what will happen. Will the poor be poorer tomorrow, will the rich become poorer, will the poor resist if there is an accident, and will the rich become poor because of the accident? In short, if you don't have enough confidence and confidence in the future, you will have anxiety, especially if most people don't have a stable job, they won't have a stable income and are not optimistic about the future.

The biggest reason why the rich are anxious is that they are afraid of losing their money. I'm afraid my business can't go on, so I can only choose to close down. It is said that it is easy to start a business, but difficult to keep it. What's more, all walks of life are facing great survival challenges when the epidemic is raging around the world. Thousands of private enterprises closed down due to the break of capital chain. In particular, some of the world's top 500 large joint ventures are inextricably linked with other countries because they cannot be immune to it. In the end, either the manpower can't keep up, or there is a problem with sales, so we choose to carry employees in large quantities. For example, the leading bosses in the automobile industry, BMW and Volkswagen. Some airlines suffered heavy losses and could only declare bankruptcy directly. Warren Buffett also suffered huge capital losses in American aviation stocks. There is also the real estate industry, which is the industry most affected by the epidemic in China this year. Countless small and medium-sized real estate owners have closed down. As long as there is a boss of a company or enterprise, it will face the problem of serious imbalance between supply and demand of products under and after the epidemic. Among those who get rich overnight by real estate, there are also many anxious people. There are many houses in their hands that cannot be realized. On the surface, they are worth a lot, but if they are not really rich in cash, how can they be called rich? They will never sell the house at the price of onions, as Ma Yun said, will they? They also face national property tax, rental tax on house rental and so on. When they can't decide what will happen to those houses in their hands? How can they not be anxious? Children of the rich are more worried about education. They are worried that their children will be worthless and become the black sheep. For those highly educated parents who graduated from famous universities such as Tsinghua and Peking University, their anxiety is that their children are not as good as themselves, and they cannot enter famous universities, high-paying state-owned enterprises, science and technology fields, civil servants and officials. I always compare my children with other children. The more I compare, the more anxious and angry I am. I hope I can help my children go to school. The desire for success leads to excessive anxiety and physical and mental exhaustion. These are all anxiety factors of the rich in China under the epidemic situation. "Being rich for three generations" is like a mountain for them, living in fear and anxiety all day long.

The biggest reason for the anxiety of the poor is that under the epidemic, the total income of the whole family has dropped sharply, and family members have been laid off and changed jobs, facing monthly mortgage, car loan, children's education expenses and family living expenses. This kind of anxiety and pressure will only be more serious than that of the rich. After all, if they can't get a mortgage, the bank has the right to repossess the house. At that time, the family will eventually have nowhere to live, and this kind of anxiety will only happen.

Conclusion: In today's society, both the rich and the poor have all kinds of anxiety. This is the product of the development of the times, with the improvement of living standards, wide coverage of national education, rising per capita educational level, increased knowledge and complicated brain thinking structure. People have high demands on themselves. Coupled with the reform and opening up and the invasion of western culture, it has contributed to the materialistic society and impetuous people. Without the COVID-19 epidemic as a catalyst, their anxiety would not be so obvious and intense. Although there is anxiety in the crowd, it will not erupt in this form of approximate blowout. Only in a relatively gentle way, while producing and digesting, can the basic balance of internal friction be realized. As a personal point of view, everything needs to be based on scientific research to draw a conclusion.

I hope anxious you can find the pure land of your soul in today's society. Take your time, calm and quiet.

I am seventy-three years old. I live in the most ordinary residential building. My pension is less than 3000 yuan. In terms of economic and housing conditions, there are too many people who are better than me. Compared with the sixties, I am satisfied with the present society, and I am not anxious at all. I am an ordinary citizen at the bottom, and it is my greatest satisfaction to eat and wear warm clothes.

The weather is unpredictable, people are doomed, and the sun and the moon are uncertain. Sick and sick, joys and sorrows, natural disasters and man-made disasters. To live is to live between life and death. Sometimes it's just a matter of thought. Rich or poor, it is inevitable. Life is contradictory, life is a dream and life is a play. It's not easy to live to old age. Life is so troublesome, I run around for free, just want to sleep, and the nightmare comes again. The sky is empty. Come and go are empty. Life is empty and death is empty. Come empty-handed, go empty-handed. I have no money in my hand. Put your shoes aside today, and you may not be able to wear them tomorrow. Life is like a bee picking flowers. It collected hundreds of flowers and turned them into honey, but there was nothing in it. There are 65438+ 100000 buildings in the shield, which is only eight feet wide when sleeping. There are 10000 pieces of clothes. After death. You can't wear them one by one. A hundred years later, there was just a loud noise and gongs and drums, and I didn't know where my hometown was. The vast land has changed many owners from generation to generation. One day is impermanent, and everything is closed.

Nowadays, the colorful life in this society stimulates people's desire to enjoy life. Rich people don't feel rich, and people without money yearn for it. That everyone is not satisfied. High housing prices and expensive medical care make it difficult for a college student to support him. The poor want to cry without tears, and the rich feel sad that their money bags have shrunk a lot. When people find it difficult to make money, anxiety naturally arises.

What is anxiety?

Anxiety refers to the intense, excessive and persistent anxiety and fear in daily situations, which can reach its peak in a few minutes.

This symptom can interfere with daily activities and is difficult to control.

Common anxiety disorders include generalized anxiety disorder, panic disorder, social phobia, specific phobia and separation anxiety.

Some people say that during the period of social transformation, the market economy has developed at a high speed, and now it is an era of anxiety for everyone.

In 2009, the famous British medical journal The Lancet published a research report, pointing out that about10.7 billion people in China suffer from mental illness, among which anxiety and depression account for a large proportion.

Indeed, we live in an era named after "anxiety". Examination, work, career development, family ... and in the information society, the pressure of information overload makes everyone's life feel anxious.

Since people always encounter things that make us anxious in life, what should we do?

First, actually, anxiety should not be our enemy.

In order to control and solve anxiety, we must first realize that anxiety should not be our enemy, but our partner in life, who is always around us and plagues our lives.

You know, anxiety is a form of human physiological and psychological induction, which has a long history, and this emotion is very important for our ancestors' underdeveloped medicine at that time.

Due to the lack of food and other things at that time, people at that time had to choose to leave the rainforest and enter the open wilderness to travel long distances to find food and edible root plants, such as wild fruits, all kinds of wild fruits, potatoes and sweet potatoes.

So, where did our ancestors have anxiety? Is it brought by nature or caused by itself?

When they feel the white danger coming from large wild animals around them, people's hearts will immediately send out signals of fear and early warning, prompting them to take safe actions to protect themselves from death threats.

This tension of "life or death" produced by self's body and mind is what we often say that everyone can't avoid today.

Second, because this negative emotion is of great significance to ancestors for a long time, there is no special way to change it, and there is almost no place for medicine, so it has been preserved in human genes.

It can be said that the terrible demon of human beings has existed for a long time and has been with human beings ever since. Without anxiety, no one would be alive today.

With the rapid development of science and technology and civilization, people's living environment and lifestyle have undergone earth-shaking changes. Although our living environment is much safer than that of our ancestors, anxiety is not necessarily a negative influence.

Imagine, if there is no anxiety, we will not drive safely and will not drive carefully; Without anxiety, we won't work hard and make great efforts.

It can be seen that moderate anxiety is not only harmless to our life, but even a healthy mood.

Third, when we can correctly understand anxiety, we won't be afraid of it.

Many times, we are painfully faced with endless competitive pressures such as study, work, interpersonal communication and family relations. When facing difficulties, we often feel anxious and helpless.

With the rapid development of society, fast-paced lifestyle and high consumption of living space, what should we do when we are anxious and lose our temper?

I also have this sad reminder time of anxiety, anxiety and helplessness for more than ten years.

At that time, because I had children and my wife was old and suffering from postpartum depression, I gave up my job to take care of their mother and son.

As a result, when I was at home for a while, I often had conflicts because of housework, cooking, laundry and looking after my son. After quarreling all day, sometimes chickens fly and dogs jump.

In addition, they don't go to work, the economic pressure is increasing, all kinds of contradictions and relatives and friends don't understand, staying away from us is not helpful, and life, work and interpersonal relationships are very chaotic. ...

I can say that I didn't eat, drink or sleep well, insomnia and dreaminess, severe malnutrition, serious overdraft, panic, anxiety and helplessness, which can be described as pain.

One year, two years, three years, and ten years.

Only recently has self-regulation been improved.

The following are some methods that a doctor friend of mine taught me to dispel the fog of anxiety and share with you:

First of all, we should adjust ourselves and avoid indulging our emotions.

You know, letting yourself know your violent character, crying, making trouble and complaining are not the right ways to achieve your goal.

Secondly, we should avoid using violence to deal with ourselves.

Therefore, we should actively and patiently control our emotions, put down our so-called noble authority at an appropriate time, and communicate with ourselves on an equal footing.

The characteristic of deep breathing training method is that it takes effect quickly. When you are nervous and anxious, you can take a few deep breaths to relieve stress and relax.

Please restore your normal breathing rate.

When inhaling, a large amount of oxygen enters our body and activates all the functions of the body; Exhale will expel carbon dioxide, of course, including the accumulated turbid gas in the body. With each exhalation, it leaves our bodies.

In fact, in the transition from planned economy to market economy, people's living habits, working methods, living environment, consumption and financial management methods all lack adaptation period.

We should avoid often accusing ourselves of bad temper.

We should let our healthy mind grow. If we often mislabel ourselves, we are prone to psychological problems.

We should avoid blaming others.

Anxiety is a normal reaction when people face pressure. We should treat it with a normal heart, let nature take its course, accept ourselves, accept reality, do not complain, and seek ways to overcome ourselves in trouble and pain.

We should avoid being led into a vicious circle by ourselves and learn to divert our attention. When we are in a mood, we should divert our attention and start doing something to make ourselves less anxious.

In the period of social transformation, people's marriage, family, children, parents and elders live and grow in different times, and there are cracks in the transformation of ideas, which need to be healed.

We should avoid being self-righteous and jumping to conclusions without listening to our own voices. Ask friends and family around you to see what's wrong with your anxiety.

We should avoid impatience and pay more attention to the needs behind anxiety. In response, emotional anxiety is also vented and released. Ninth, we should avoid making ourselves feel that others are better than ourselves.

Try to find the source of power.

If necessary, you can go to the hospital psychology department to prescribe anti-anxiety drugs, or find a professional psychological counselor for psychological counseling.

Believe that you can overcome anxiety.

Please believe that no matter whether the rich or the poor encounter inner anxiety, please suggest that their anxiety is not terrible. As long as you can adjust according to the above methods, anxiety will escape you as quickly as a rabbit.

Although the international situation is surging, all kinds of competition are in a white-hot state, and the pace of human science and technology, communication and civilization is blocked by western powers, which intensifies people's desire and anxiety for a better life and scientific and technological progress. With China's unremitting efforts as a big country, it will eventually change this dilemma, lead the rapid development of the world economy, and reduce people's anxiety and anxiety.

This is why' the reason is simple' mental outlook is the pillar of life' and' pursuing money and enjoying more, looking back, what is the most important spiritual strength? '