How to win the crown of success in adventure?

Many times, the strong become stronger because they dare to "take chestnuts from the fire" and dare to do things that others dare not do.

Lucky people are generally bolder. With a few exceptions, the most timid people are often the most unlucky. Luck makes people have courage, in turn, courage will help you get good luck. Of course, "boldness" and "recklessness" are different, and they are essentially different. If you put all your life savings on an eye-catching adventure, you may lose everything in this adventure, which is reckless. If you accept an exciting new job opportunity, it is brave, even though you are scared to step into an unknown world.

Paul getty is a billionaire and the luckiest person in the oil industry. He took a tortuous road in his early years. At school, he thought he should be a writer, and later decided to engage in diplomatic work. However, after leaving school, he found himself attracted by the rapidly developing oil industry in Oklahoma, where his father made a fortune at that time. The oil industry deviated from his main direction, but he felt that he had to postpone his diplomatic career for a year. He wants to try his luck.

Getty raises money by working around other drillers' rigs, and sometimes borrows some money from his father (his father strictly abides by the principle of prohibiting doting on his son, and he can lend him money, but he only gives him cash and gifts of little value). Young Gertie is brave, but not reckless. If one failure is enough to cause irreparable economic losses, then he has never done such a risky thing. His first few adventures were a complete failure. But in 19 16, he met the first high-yield oil well, which laid a lucky foundation for him-he was only 23 years old at that time.

Is it lucky? Of course. However, Getty's luck is well deserved, and everything he did was right. So how did Gertie know that this well would produce oil? He really doesn't know, although he has collected all the facts he can get. "Opportunities always exist," he said. "You must be willing to accept this element; If you must ask a positive answer, you will tie your hands and feet. "

William Denver said, "Taking risks means living a full life. Once you understand how much happiness and joy it will bring you, you will be willing to start this trip. "

The change of the world and the success of business often belong to those who dare to seize opportunities and take appropriate risks. Some people are smart, too aware of unforeseen factors and risks to take any risks. As a result, they are smarter than themselves and can only "live" forever. In fact, if we can plan from the transformation and preparation of risks, the risks are not terrible.

1990, Wimbledon women's semi-final, 16-year-old Yugoslav female player Seles played against American female player Gina Garrison. As the game went on, it became more and more clear that Seles' biggest opponent was not Garrison, but herself. After the game, Seles said gloomily: "The strength of the two sides in this game is too close, so I always play the safe ball steadily and dare not attack each other easily." Even if Gina serves for the second time, I still dare not smash to win. "

On the other hand, Garrison didn't just play the safe ball. "I am determined to encourage myself to dare to win in danger, and I will never be indecisive or hesitant." Gina Garrison said after the game, "Even if I lose the ball, at least I know I have tried my best." As a result, Garrison took the game first, then won the first game, then won another game, and finally won the whole game.

When faced with a severe situation, people are used to being cautious and saving themselves. And the result? Don't think about how to develop your potential, but pay attention to how to reduce your losses. Just like Seles' experience, the result of such people will end in failure.

In economic life, if you are slow to respond, you will suffer serious material losses. For every company, there are one or several competitors in the market, and they are not sleeping. In this life-and-death competitive environment, only the enterprise development strategy that dares to take risks can bring development to the enterprise, and only the enterprise leaders who dare to take risks can succeed. The perfunctory decision-making mode and the decision-making mode of waiting for the development of the situation are doomed to failure.

Leaders in any field can become top figures precisely because they dare to face risks. D'Amato, an American legend and boxing coach, once bluntly said: "Heroes and cowards have fears, but heroes and cowards have completely different reactions to fear."

If you find yourself always afraid of taking risks, but often avoid them, the following suggestions may help you find and strengthen some courage that everyone has.

(1) Try to practice your ideals and dreams.

The manager of a large American printing company once recalled his conversation with an accountant of his own company. The ideal of an accountant is to be the auditor-general of a company, or to start his own company. Although she didn't even graduate from middle school and was a new immigrant, she was not afraid. But what followed was that the company manager reminded her: "Your accounting ability is good, I admit it, but you should set your goals more realistically according to your education level." The manager's words made her furious, so she resolutely resigned to pursue her dream.

What happened afterwards? She set up an accounting service agency to provide services for small companies and new immigrants. Now, her accounting service in Northern California has grown to five offices, and her career is booming.

In fact, none of us know how big the ability limit of others is, especially when they have passion and ideals and can persevere in the face of difficulties and obstacles, their ability limit is even more unpredictable.

(2) Decompose the ideal into a step-by-step plan

An experienced ski instructor led a group of novices to the steep slope to teach them to ski. Standing on the edge of the top of the slide, looking down from the top, they will inevitably feel the danger of steep slopes and roads, which will lead to fear of difficulties. In order to help these students overcome their fear of difficulties, the coach repeatedly told them not to regard the whole skiing process as from the top of the mountain to the bottom of the mountain, but to break it down and think about how to slide to the first corner and then to the second corner. This diverted their attention from what they can do at present, rather than what they can't do at present. After a few turns, their confidence increased. They can slide smoothly without more encouragement.

This method is also helpful to you. When you start doing something, don't pay attention to the overall affairs you are facing. Learn how to take the first step first and make sure that you can successfully complete this first step. If you go on like this step by step, you can achieve the glorious goal you expect to achieve.

(3) Don't say "no"

Sometimes, when faced with new situations, people tend to recall past failures and spend too much time thinking about the worst.

Carnegie is a successful master. He remembers talking to a young female lawyer. At that time, they were talking about her upcoming court trial. This is her first appearance as a lawyer. Therefore, she felt particularly nervous. Carnegie asked her what impression she wanted to make on the jury, and she replied, "I don't want to be seen as inexperienced, too young or too naive. I don't want them to suspect that this is my first time to defend in court. I don't want to ... "

Female lawyers fall into the trap of "don't", which is a negative goal. "Don't" will make you want to do something, but you will do something again, because your brain will produce some bad images and react to them.

Carnegie told the female lawyer: A study done by Stanford University shows that an image in the brain can stimulate people's nervous system as well as the actual situation. For example, when a golfer tells himself "Don't hit the ball into the water", his mind often sees the scene of "the ball falling into the water", so it is not difficult for you to guess where the ball will fall. So, when you encounter a situation that makes you nervous, focus on what you want to happen.

Carnegie asked the female lawyer again and asked her what she hoped would happen. This time she replied, "I want to be considered skilled and confident."

Carnegie suggested that she imagine the feeling of "full of confidence". In her view, that means walking around the court confidently, using persuasive language in the mouth, keeping close contact with witnesses and jurors, and speaking clearly and loudly so that the whole court can hear clearly. She also imagined a wonderful closing statement and her own victory. After several weeks of positive image assumption and rehearsal, the young female lawyer finally won her first court defense.