What is the biggest gap between just-needed families returning from cities to rural areas?

Zhihu once asked such a question: What is the biggest gap between you and the countryside? My answer is

What is the biggest gap between just-needed families returning from cities to rural areas?

Zhihu once asked such a question: What is the biggest gap between you and the countryside? My answer is this: the biggest gap is the difference in living conditions between my home and the people around me.

1. Comparison of living conditions between one's own home and those around him

Most of the neighbors who didn't study nearby got married, bought houses in prefecture-level cities, gave birth to children and bought cars. My mother used to take care of the children's school and daily life, and my father stayed at home guarding the farmland and occasionally went to the city for a few days. On holidays, the family drove back to their hometown for a period of time.

In my family, my parents worked hard for me to go to college. After graduation, I worked in the provincial capital. I am half dead. My salary is not high and the house price is ridiculously high. I don't want to go back to prefecture-level cities. I managed to save some money and my family paid a down payment. However, the monthly payment makes me unable to fall in love, have no money to buy clothes, have no money to eat and drink, and even save the telephone bill. I can't honor my parents, get married, buy a car and let them have grandchildren.

Sometimes when I go home on holiday, I see the car parked in front of my neighbor's house, my aunt's new clothes, and giggling with my grandson. The whole family is happy. I think I did something wrong.

I studied hard for more than ten years. After graduation, I worked hard and scrimped, just to let my parents and family live a good life early. Contrary to expectations, college students have long been worthless, and the housing prices in the provincial capital are ridiculously high. What's the difference between going back to a prefecture-level city and those neighbors who didn't go to school? How can we reflect the value of studying hard in those years? You have been a good boy in the mouth of other people's parents for so many years. What do others think of you now? All kinds of major events are many years later than others. How can we be willing to return to the starting point of others? In the provincial capital, God knows how miserable I am. There is no quality of life at all, just living.

Our generation of college students who come out of the countryside can't compare with those college graduates in the city or those who don't study in the countryside. Maybe we are a kind of sadness created by the times. We were so desperate at all stages, only to find that everything was in vain.

Second, the living conditions of my family.

I come from the countryside. 17 bought a small house of 89 in a second-tier city, with a down payment of 470,000 yuan and a monthly payment of nearly 6 K. The salary in the city is generally low, and you can get about 6 K. The down payment is half for yourself and half for your family. I have a foreign debt of 40,000+.

The reason for buying a house is simple. I'm afraid it will be more and more unbearable in the future. Besides, when I am old enough to talk about marriage, I want to find a similar daughter-in-law. No house, I'm dreaming.

I can especially feel the heart of my family.

Before buying a house, my 50-year-old mother danced square dance with her neighbors in her hometown village every day. My father likes surfing the Internet and plays chess with his friends when he is free. The two of them are watching an acre of land at home, just waiting for me to find a daughter-in-law to give them a big fat man.

After buying a house, my mother gets up at five every morning. Before dawn, she went to work in the farmland at the base of the Academy of Agricultural Sciences with others. When she got home at night, it was getting dark. When she is tired, she goes home, washes herself and goes to bed after dinner. My father goes to the village to connect wires with the village electrician every day, and will cook for my mother when he comes home at night.

Before buying a house, I saved more than 100 thousand in my card, including food, clothing, use and flowers. Although I am temperate, I never feel bad. After buying a house, I have had three meals of 20 yuan a day and never bought a dress. Even the phone bill can be paid by the company's fixed line. I never use a mobile phone. I planned to travel to China twice a year, only once, but I still took the green leather train. Don't ask me the difference between a high-speed train and a slow ticket. 200 is also money. Last year 1 1 month, it only cost 468.50 yuan to climb Mount Tai.

Now when trying to make money and pay off debts, I sometimes feel very unfilial. My parents were supposed to enjoy their grandchildren, but they are going to work again. A family of three spends every month at work, just for a room. I wonder if it's worth it. But I don't know what I did wrong. Have I been renting a house in this city? Are you really looking for a fool? It doesn't matter if you see someone else buying a house and making money?

Buying the same house before the price increase only requires a down payment of about 200,000 yuan, with a monthly payment of more than 3,000 yuan, but I 17 bought a down payment of nearly 500,000 yuan and a monthly payment of nearly 6,000 yuan. I don't know why this deformity and the phenomenon of people stamping their feet and vomiting blood still exist, and why Lang Lang's works have forced us who just need a home to do so. But I know that houses in the city may change the fate of future generations. Now that we have a house in the city, don't we all come from our parents step by step?

I don't know how many families like me need to get up early and be greedy for the dark, sweating and bleeding in order to fill and balance the rising house prices. But I know that some people have begun to use the money from selling houses to drink red wine in villas to see beautiful women. The newly bought Rolls Royce is parked in the garage, and they are still considering when to immigrate.

To say that we working-class people who return to the countryside from cities, the biggest gap is to compare the living conditions of the surrounding families after deeply understanding the difficulties of our family life. All these deeply stimulate my heart and make me afraid to look back and relax. This may be the meaning of your own efforts.