What are the reasons why people don't want to have children?

Why are women increasingly reluctant to have children?

1 Girls' education level is getting higher and higher, so the cost of having children is getting higher and higher, and they may lose their jobs. This is one of the views that many people think, which seems reasonable, but it is actually just a superficial article. Society requires women to have children, husbands to have children, in-laws to have children, but enterprises don't want women to have children. This makes the biggest problem inside is that the cost of childbirth is entirely borne by women. Employment discrimination, women giving birth to children are the most likely to lead to unemployment. Once women have children, many will be dismissed, or the cost of babysitting is high, and they will be housewives for several years. But it's even harder to get back to work. And all this has almost no influence on husbands, in-laws, enterprises and society.

The rising divorce rate. This is also a concern of many women. If the national policy is beneficial to divorced mothers, divorce is not a big problem. It used to be that the wife took care of the children. Now it makes no difference whether the wife takes care of the children or not. But the problem is that on the one hand, the divorce rate is rising, on the other hand, the state has no preferential policies for divorced mothers. The former causes more and more women to worry about having children. If we divorce in the future, I might as well not have children. The latter leads women to think that once divorced, my life and that of my children will be greatly affected, and it is difficult for me to bear it alone. Although the state stipulates that once the children are owned by the mother after divorce, the father will have to pay for raising the children, and the men can't all be rich second generation, but everyone knows that the cost of raising children is so high now, and the money is simply a drop in the bucket, and the husband may remarry after divorce, so the economic care for the ex-wife children will be greatly affected.

Single, unmarried, like a dink. These phenomena are not bad things. Singlism is to enjoy being single, both active and passive, so we only talk about the active part. No one has ever asked a woman if she really wants children. Men say that women want children, but this is what men say, and women are representative. It is not easy to have children. It's not easy to take care of children for ten or twenty years. Don't say that a woman's happiness comes from her family. As long as she is alone, she wants the same thing. Think about Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory. Raising children is a lot of fun, but it is more difficult. Having children means losing a lot for being single. What everyone wants is often different. Singles want freedom and the happiness of being single. Active unmarried is similar to active dink. Everything will have gains and losses. The key is what you want and whether the consequences of losing are within your tolerance.

In fact, not many women want to have more children, which has always been the case. Some people say that many children in ancient times were blessed. At that time, everyone should understand the situation of women in that era. What three obedience and four virtues, broken feet and foot binding. A woman who has given birth to several children can't manage it at all. Even now, there are pressures from husbands, in-laws and society. Although women now have the right to make their own decisions, they are still very affected by pressure. Many families divorce because the woman doesn't want to have children, or can't have children. It's stressful. If social pressure, pressure from husbands and in-laws are removed, few women are willing to have more children.

5 the economic cost is too high, and raising children does not prevent old age. This is one of the reasons why women don't say anything about having children. The cost of raising a child is high. At least you can buy a suite in the local area, or a house after appreciation. Not counting the years when women lost their jobs because of having children. Nowadays, social problems are really emerging one after another, and children themselves may not be able to cope with them, let alone expect to raise children to prevent old age.

6 the definition of fertility. For whom? At present, the definition of fertility in China is also for social fertility, but this is simply a blank check. The matriarchal society gave birth to children for the society as well as for itself, while the feudal patriarchal society carried on the family line for men. But the problem comes out. The matriarchal society is born for itself, so women who have children have the right to decide. It's up to the woman to have several children, but it's up to the whole family to take care of them. Everyone, old and young, men and women, go into battle together. Moreover, women's reproductive status is also very high. Women can manage all the affairs of their families and have great rights. In feudal times, the definition of women's childbearing was to carry on the family line for men, and women took care of their children. Think about one for society and one for men. The treatment is different. Not a woman can have several children. Many baby girls are abandoned. Women also had no position in feudal times. At that time, women did not have the right to education, employment, political rights and so on. In feudal times, the only thing that childbirth brought to women was the right to exist. At present, the definition of fertility in China is also for social fertility, but this is simply a blank check. Because in fact, we still have boys. The simplest example is that society tells unmarried mothers that they can't have children without a father, and tells widows that you must have children to carry on the family line for your husband. It's just that now we have the right to choose and have children for ourselves. And the so-called men's reproductive rights. Women don't want to have children, and men can divorce for just reasons. Male reproductive rights are above female reproductive rights. If society really thinks that childbirth is for society, then the cost of childbirth will be borne by society, not by women alone. Giving birth to a child in a patriarchal society is the responsibility and obligation of the mother and the glory of the father. Mothers pay more, but the income is divided equally between men and women.

7 distrust. Distrust of society and distrust of marriage. Social stability can develop, and seeking stability does not mean fairness, but social stability will certainly sacrifice the interests of vulnerable groups, ignore their voices and marginalize them. . The patriarchal society has been like this for thousands of years. Nowadays, with the social transformation, various problems come one after another, and distrust spreads all over the corner, making it increasingly difficult for women to spend a lot of money to give birth safely. Who knows when we will be sacrificed again. Women hold up half the sky just because they need our labor, but they don't improve our status. Work and family burn at both ends I have to do housework, take care of children, take care of my husband and in-laws, and work. It is also an obligation. As soon as the marriage law came out, it was ridiculous to pay so much for nothing. Just as the law is made for those who are beneficial to themselves, the law pursues stability rather than justice. The laws of feudal times knew this very well. Mistresses, domestic violence, marital rape, divorce, and so on, we are always on the lookout for arrows coming at us from all directions, and those who have the courage to have children are either ignorant and fearless or have the courage to give birth in Mu Guiying.

8 disrespect for women. There are too many bright and dark remarks, countless. I haven't smelled the fish restaurant for a long time. It's really a pot of cold water for a girl in love to read a few male online novels. As the saying goes, what is eternal in the world is a woman's fantasy of love. Seeing so many remarks and things that don't respect women, there will be no desire to have children. As Asian women say, we have been moving forward, while men's minds have been living in the past. In Europe and America, some remarks that discriminate against women have disappeared a lot, but they are still popular here. In college, we said we didn't want children. What's the use of a boy saying that women don't have children? In feudal times, a woman would live even if she didn't have the ability to have children, because she was almost like a man. Needless to say now, if you have a job and an income, you can at least support yourself, and it doesn't matter if you have children.

Gender inequality in Asia leads to low fertility rate. In terms of human nature, women with good economic conditions and high academic qualifications are willing to have children, because everyone wants to pass on their own advantages, just as men in feudal times wanted children and boys. All policies are also inclined to men, because men are the basis for maintaining male rule. One of the reasons why women don't want to have children now is that having children is not good for women, because it is a patriarchal society and men and women are not equal. The countries with high fertility rate in developed countries are mostly men and women in relatively equal and four Nordic countries. America is because there are many immigrants, not really many children. Many men say that women who don't get married or have children are imported brides. Are you sure that other countries will remain poor, or are you sure that our country will remain rich? Of course, men don't need to think about these issues now. All China people say that men and women are equal, so if there is a shortage of employment opportunities, do you think it is necessary to sacrifice the interests of women and let them go home and give them to men? Do you think it is more important for boys to be educated than girls to be educated? In the event of any unfavorable situation, most people will sacrifice the interests of women.

10 physical changes caused by childbirth. It's not just getting fat or anything. More and more reports say that women who don't have children are prone to get sick, but the problem is that women who have children are also prone to other diseases. Such as postpartum depression, rheumatism, and a series of fertility diseases. This kind of selective reporting is really annoying. Some men say that Europe and America are equal, and women don't have to be imprisoned. The maternity leave treatment for women in Europe and America is much better than that in China. And do you think it will be used up after giving birth, so women's health need not be considered? Others say that China has Women's Day. Who cares about women's day if women can be given the privilege of men? It's no problem to give men a month's Men's Day. What's more, how many women live for themselves on Women's Day? Think about what your mother does on Women's Day. What do your wives do on Women's Day? It hurts to think about it.

1 1 If you can't give your child a good life, it's better not to be born. This sentence is also said by many people and is worth thinking about. What is the definition of a good life? It is both a material life and a spiritual life. Material life means that you think you can't give your children a good future, while spiritual life means that you think it is possible that this society is bad for children, or that you can't be a qualified and competent parent. This truth has existed since ancient times, but it is different. In the feudal patriarchal era, abandoning and killing a baby girl may be due to economic reasons, or it may be that it is too difficult for a girl to live her own life. Killing her also saves her a lifetime of sin. Is it the same as now Aside from all external factors, in fact, women prefer to have girls, because, like them, daughters are more like mothers. If you want a boy in a patriarchal society to be like his mother, that boy will think it is an insult to him. Boys are more willing to get rid of their mothers and move closer to their fathers. On the one hand, only by being close to your father can you gain more benefits and recognition. On the other hand, the physiology of men and women is really different. Daughter is completely different. She won't deny her mother. She is physically the same and closer. Her daughter is almost a replica of a woman.

With the development of society, women have the opportunity to work. This is very important. In the feudal patriarchal clan system era, women also worked for free, such as doing housework, farm work, taking care of in-laws, taking care of husbands and children. People despise these things and don't pay anything for them. I still do. How much is it to be a nanny for a month, how much is it to be a surrogate mother and how much is it to help the elderly? And men have these for free, also called my wife. As long as a woman thinks that the child is not born by herself, she is a surrogate mother. There is an extremely selfish saying in ancient times that there are three major misfortunes in life: the loss of mother in childhood, the loss of wife in middle age and the loss of children in old age. Men praise women as good wives and mothers, because men need such women to pay for him. A man stole the value of a woman's life from him. Old people lose their children because society is beneficial to men. Only sons can have daughters-in-law and support themselves. In ancient times, men married less than themselves and women married better than themselves. Men say it is good for family stability. In fact, this relationship is very bad for women because the whole is stuck. Men with good conditions have more right to speak and are more beneficial to men. Women are in a weak position in the family. Now this point is disintegrating. Give women a chance and they will become better and better. It is difficult to get married when there are many excellent women, but this is irreversible. Now there are hundreds of millions of poor people in the world who can give men a choice, but not forever. There are not many things that women can do now, because male power is still quite stable, and men are not willing to give women many opportunities, such as the right to go into politics and the rights of some state organs. The imbalance of ethnic groups is an opportunity to promote women's rights. For example, in the first two States of the United States, because the rulers were unwilling to give opportunities to other races, they had no choice but to give opportunities to their own women, so they gave women the opportunity to enter politics. The only thing women can do now is to be independent, and that's what Asian women do. Our country is not far away.