Psychologist---What Li Xue brought me

From Li Xue, I learned two things: First, be happy and satisfied with your children.

Satisfy what you can, and explain honestly what you can’t. Don’t be awkward with small requests, and tell your children with facts, “You are welcome.”

This also solves the problem. One of my own doubts is why I feel so bad about myself now that I have good conditions. Reluctant to eat and wear. This is what my inner parents ask of me, not my current life situation.

Of course I understand my parents. They experienced the three-year famine in 1958 and many people starved to death, but their consciousness and requirements for me are not my actual living situation now, so, Get rid of the influence of your inner parents on yourself and enrich your children!

The second point: live the life you want directly and don’t depend on others for your happiness.

I used to have delusions about my husband every day. He would like me if I did this, and he would love me if I did this. The fact is that I live in worry about gains and losses every day, and comfort myself with "life can't be perfect" every day.

These awakenings came from reading Li Xue’s books and starting to think about how I should live.

I am very happy in Canada with my children, and I don’t feel strange at all.

I will go out of my family to find friends!

It was the first time I set foot on a strange land. I didn’t understand the language and didn’t know anyone. I actually searched for nearby Chinese restaurants through Baidu. , and then called each one to ask if they could help? As a result, two restaurants agreed to help me. I only went to the first one, and she helped me find a suitable house that night, and we have been dating to this day. When we go to her restaurant, she always packs us delicious food. Sometimes they will deliver a lot of delicious food to our room. Second-rate.

When I returned to China for a long time last time, they helped me find a free garage to park my car, and started the car on time to keep it charged.

My child also has a Chinese friend. We went to church together this Sunday and played with many children. After the church activities, many children went skating together.

On Saturday, I was invited to have a dinner with a Chinese immigrant family, including Lantern Festival. I've been there three times last year, including for Thanksgiving turkey.

This time I came to Canada from China and helped four compatriots in the Chinese WeChat group bring what they needed. I met two new Chinese people, and they both passed on their knowledge and experience to I.

Why is it easy for me to interact with strangers?

Because my parents never said "no" to me when I was a child, I feel that people all over the world welcome me, and I never cause trouble to others and try my best to help others. help.

Only when you tie yourself to your husband and don’t get a response will you feel lonely!

Li Xue is just being herself and going directly to what she wants. Life has brought me back to a state of fullness in my heart!

In Snow Residence, my child said: "Mom, I'll follow you. Just say a few words to strangers and you'll get to know each other and become friends." "I thought to myself: "Young man, I haven't taught you about my inner defensive psychology yet! That's the way to go - don't take advantage of others!" I help my friends happily and don't take advantage of others. I am honest. He makes friends openly and has a certain defensive mentality, so he never suffers in society and can always get a lot of help.

So I think: A child’s ability to deal with people is far more important than grades!

Of course grades are important, reading is important, self-study is important, and sports are also important.

How could a person who has a clear logical understanding of what abilities will be important in the future and is willing to put them into practice have poor grades!

In the final analysis, if you live a happy life every day, how can your children be unhappy?

For animals like humans, if they are not happy once they come to this world, what’s the point of living?